FabSwingers.com forum: Can I be more dominant?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

I am generally quite submissive in the bedroom, but would like to surprise my 'special friend' with a night of me actually being in charge.

I would feel silly putting him in a collar and leading him round the house while being demeaning,and I know that he wouldnt like that,,we have tried some of my toys on him, and he loved it,,,and it makes me extremely horny so I got a strapon, but not sure how to go about using it without hurting him?

We already dabble with a bit of pain, and spanking, leather and pvc, and blindfolds and I love flashing and playing in the car, so I am a bit of an exhibitionist.

I guess the question is, has anyone got any idea's to help me be more assertive with him without feeling silly,

Thanks in anticipation, xx

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i think you have lots of good ideas, the question is where does the feeling of silliness come from.

i know i could never be Dominant, it would feel unnatural and forced, and so i would feel silly, and uncomfortable. Although i have wondered what it would be like to dominate someone on the orders of my Master, and quite enjoy flogging other people.

If you are like me then perhaps focus on the pleasure your friend will get from your actions to get over the feelings of self conciousness and nerves.

Good luck and have fun

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blindfold him, jump to the pub and leave Olav the 6'7 bearded swede to give him a special massage