FabSwingers.com forum: feeling guilty over hot wife fantasy!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been with my partner for a very long time and we are completely open with each other.

We have a fantasy, hot wife situation pretty much. My partner gets ridiculously turned on at the thought and I do too. We have spoke about it now for about around a year and decided that it is something we definitely want to happen in real life. So far I've only really webcam played for men until they cum and it drives us both crazy and the sex we have afterwards is incredible.

But I feel like such a hypocrite sometimes because if this situation was ever the other way around I'd be so hurt if he ever touched another woman.

I've spoke about this with him and he says it's not the same because that isn't what either of us want and it's crossing a line as we have never agreed on that. I agree with that, but do you think it's a bad idea to pursue this fantasy if I feel so strongly about him being with a woman?

I don't even understand if I'm making sense! But do you think it's OK to get so involved with another man if I am not happy to ever be involved with another woman? Is it normal to feel guilt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to understand that he loves you, especially how naughty, desired and sexy you are. The sex you have together will always be the best but the fact you are unbelievably naughty, sexy, desired and horny is something you both love to share xx

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

My girl has the fantasy of other men she is very keen on the idea. But like you is horrified at the thought of me with other women and for that reason she won't put it in reality but I've said it's fine she has other men and we both find the thought really sexy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

this kind of thing is very much about what you're comfortable with as a couple. Its got nothing to do with hypocrisy and everything to do with how you agree to play between yourselves.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The first thing to remember is there are no rules other than the rules that you as a couple decide on, and that includes any boundaries you agree.

There is nothing to say that just because you play with another guy, that he automatically has to play with another woman - a lot of couples that play separately as well as together make the mistake of thinking it has to be a case of quid pro quo - it doesn't, if you've both agreed it doesn't, which it sounds like you have.

The *only* thing that matters is what you *both* agree

As a suggestion, rather than going all out Hotwife scenario of you playing on your own the first time - have you thought about an MMF threesome, where either your partner is involved, or is at least present and gets to watch? It might help you get over your guilt that he is a part of it in some way, and you can then progress from there when you are comfortable to do so.

The important thing is communication between you and being open and honest, and it sounds like you're doing that already - so just keep on doing so, and taking only the steps that you are 100% comfortable to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You both want you to meet other men. That makes it ok.

Any other scenarios are completely separate to that and unless you both agree to them they're not an option and that's completely ok. You make your own rules so as long as you are both completely honest then no one will get hurt or upset.

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By *kbull2000Man
over a year ago

Carluke

Perfectly normal feelings. He's not seeking other women . For him the thrill is having you pleasured by another.

Just be honest with each other and talk it through. Share your feelings and don't forget to consider after the event.

It's important that you both choose the third party unless he wishes to be cuckolded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aw thank you for all the replies. I think it's my anxiety playing up and making me overthink everything. It's definitely about what works for us and I guess it's a new lifestyle to adjust to so it is a bit scary at first and your mind does go through everything, well mine does anyway.

My partner would 100% be involved with what happens. Is hot wife where the woman goes solo? I never know what it's called! It seems there are so many terms for what we want to do. I thought it was cuckold at first but then saw that's about humiliation but we aren't into that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a hotwife and your fantasy is normal. He enjoys the idea of other guys finding you desirable but the hot sex you have afterwards makes him being the stag rather than a cuckold.

So go for it if that is what you both want

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Aw thank you for all the replies. I think it's my anxiety playing up and making me overthink everything. It's definitely about what works for us and I guess it's a new lifestyle to adjust to so it is a bit scary at first and your mind does go through everything, well mine does anyway.

The label doesn't really matter - Hotwife can mean different things to different people - it's how you, as a couple, define it that is key - the fact you are both talking about this, and taking your time etc is a good thing - just be careful once you are ready to take your time and pick the right person for you both - meet them socially first so you can both get a feel for them, be prepared to say no, or ask for another social if you want, anyone worth meeting will understand nerves and anxieties over the step you are taking and be prepared to wait until you are ready.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Try to understand that he loves you, especially how naughty, desired and sexy you are. The sex you have together will always be the best but the fact you are unbelievably naughty, sexy, desired and horny is something you both love to share xx"
just what we think

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By *rcher69Man
over a year ago

nr Milton Keynes

And Anne, you are very much the naughty, sexy and desired hotwife, gorgeous pics. xx

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By *ifeTimeCouple
over a year ago

Grays

There’s some really great advice here. I’m the same in that I have no desire whatsoever to have sex with other women but my wife playing with other guys? Wow.

We had concerns that when we took the step it would have consequences of some description on our relationship. To this point there hasn’t been a single issue between us with regard to anything eve done together or indeed, one time, when wife played solo. Great sex in the lead up to a meet. Amazing sex for Mrs during her meet and then the sex after? Another wow. If you are happy and strong in your relationship and communicate well then that’s 98% of the battle won.

I have to say that we don’t meet as much as we would like (life) but even between meets the whispers and detail we talk about from meets just takes our sex to another level. It has been and continues to be a fantastic little boost to what has always been a great sex life for us.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a couples profile and singles profiles..

Dont feel guilty it's what you both want not one sided and it's what turns you both on that's the key..

As long as you love what you do and its mutual then enjoy it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a husband of a wife who likes a bloody good mmf threesome, I’d say go for it. If he is going to be so turned on at the thought then give it a try - stop if either of you get upset.

Maybe don’t “get involved” but instead just have a fuck buddy. That keeps the emotions in check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as a husband of a wife who likes a bloody good mmf threesome, I’d say go for it. If he is going to be so turned on at the thought then give it a try - stop if either of you get upset.

Maybe don’t “get involved” but instead just have a fuck buddy. That keeps the emotions in check."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to know there are others with this same kinky desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't have it any other way we love what turns us both on x

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Try a meet with a single guy, where the rules are that he can touch or use his tongue, treat him as the warm up guy, for your main event, then you won't have as much to feel guilty about, but still have the excitement you crave, kind of get to dip your toes in the water to see if you both like it as much as you expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to know there are others with this same kinky desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try feeling awkward about someone's daughter haha

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By *wifterMan
over a year ago

lancaster

Hello Bunny. I have met quite a few couples where the guy enjoys his wife playing with others. Often it seems t be because he is proud of her and wants to see her enjoy herself. I am a respectful and friendly guy living in the north west and would happy to meet with you to discuss or try a little flirting to see how it suited you both. No expectations and if you decided either of you felt uncomfortable then a second meeting doesn't happen. Simon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no right or wrong, as long as your both on the same page do whatever makes you both happy.

Don't feel that you have to conform to a fab norm or whatever you think you should be doing.

You be you!

Hes obviously happy as hell!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt guilty initially. I'm cheating on my man and enjoying it! (I squirted for the first time on my first meet which made the guilt worse).

But after seeing S wasn't fazed, I have finally just learnt to enjoy it. It's definitely improved our sex life!

T x

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By *aybail-238Couple
over a year ago

hartlepool

We are exactly the same, we are only really interest in men, as I love having two me sharing me and he likes to join in and seeing me pleasure and be pleasured by other men. Like you said it is hard to explain especially to other people who don’t understand. We would say give it a try and if it doesn’t work out just don’t do it again

enjoy xx

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Try feeling awkward about someone's daughter haha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started the same but in time she herself has opened up to the possibilities. If it doesn't happen im still all for her having fantasies fulfilled. She is enough for me and me for her but it's still really sexy thoughts to bring in other people

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