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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do any other gals ( or boys) really struggle with these websites? To put things bluntly I can pull on a night out or real life and came here looking for something different. For example, very well hung or 2 bisexual boys. I make it exceedingly obvious and I just get bombarded with messages saying "I'm not what you're looking for but..." Or "I'm 10inches.." and said guy precedes to send fake or massively exagerated pictures. If I put my pictures on I'm getting 200+ messages so it seems lose lose. Anyone with advice or similar experiences ?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Speed read, delete quickly, be a bitch, block button is your friend, keep expectations low.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Without knowing what was on your profile before its hard to say.

However, as a woman and a young one, I suspect you were inundated by crap...

I would suggest that you block everyone, and search for yourself. The other option, if you want, is clubs. Clubs are generally a really safe place for ladies to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" keep expectations low. "

Preach it!

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yep, same here. As above, delete and block seems to be the way forward x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Without knowing what was on your profile before its hard to say.

However, as a woman and a young one, I suspect you were inundated by crap...

I would suggest that you block everyone, and search for yourself. The other option, if you want, is clubs. Clubs are generally a really safe place for ladies to meet."

Is it common for girls to go solo at clubs? And oh I'm cringing internally so badly but how would I know if a guys like hung or bi at a club? Are people naked or is it quite a social experience in general ? I mean I'm guessing you can make of it what you want but any advice greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, same here. As above, delete and block seems to be the way forward x"

Girl1234 are you related to Grace Chatto??

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

In a nutshell OP... as a woman looking for guys, you need to be thick skinned and ruthless or actively look yourself.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"In a nutshell OP... as a woman looking for guys, you need to be thick skinned and ruthless or actively look yourself."

Or both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Yep, same here. As above, delete and block seems to be the way forward x

Girl1234 are you related to Grace Chatto??"

No, but thanks.

I get a lot of “are you in clean bandit?” I must have one of those faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Familiar advice.

Block everyone and search for yourself.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Without knowing what was on your profile before its hard to say.

However, as a woman and a young one, I suspect you were inundated by crap...

I would suggest that you block everyone, and search for yourself. The other option, if you want, is clubs. Clubs are generally a really safe place for ladies to meet.

Is it common for girls to go solo at clubs? And oh I'm cringing internally so badly but how would I know if a guys like hung or bi at a club? Are people naked or is it quite a social experience in general ? I mean I'm guessing you can make of it what you want but any advice greatly appreciated "

Have sent you a PM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there a way of just blocking everyone or is it a case of manually doing so?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Use your filters OP,

That will stop a lot of the mail

You can block all males too and search yourself.

Miss

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Go to a club. Chat to lots of people and take it from there. Maybe go to a greedy girls or a bi night .

Have fun.

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By *oJo69ukCouple
over a year ago

LONDON

Ehhh do you realise how rare 8.5 inch+ cocks are in the population?

0.01%, that's one tenth of one percent of the population.

They are out there, but needle in a haystack comes to mind.

I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for, but it may take some patience.

Good luck!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range"

I get at least a handful of messages a day saying "I know you're not looking for x, but..." block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range

I get at least a handful of messages a day saying "I know you're not looking for x, but..." block. "

Does blocking people give you a sense of satisfaction and power?? Be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any other gals ( or boys) really struggle with these websites? To put things bluntly I can pull on a night out or real life and came here looking for something different. For example, very well hung or 2 bisexual boys. I make it exceedingly obvious and I just get bombarded with messages saying "I'm not what you're looking for but..." Or "I'm 10inches.." and said guy precedes to send fake or massively exagerated pictures. If I put my pictures on I'm getting 200+ messages so it seems lose lose. Anyone with advice or similar experiences ?"

Block all single men , get searching and send the first messages yourself, let me know how you get on

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range

I get at least a handful of messages a day saying "I know you're not looking for x, but..." block.

Does blocking people give you a sense of satisfaction and power?? Be honest "

No.

If you think you can get around my boundaries, you're not a safe person, and I'll do what I can to eject you from my life. It's defensive. I'm glad you don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range

I get at least a handful of messages a day saying "I know you're not looking for x, but..." block.

Does blocking people give you a sense of satisfaction and power?? Be honest

No.

If you think you can get around my boundaries, you're not a safe person, and I'll do what I can to eject you from my life. It's defensive. I'm glad you don't understand. "

I see, you really should lighten up a bit, you take yourself and this site far to seriously

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Is it common for girls to go solo at clubs? And oh I'm cringing internally so badly but how would I know if a guys like hung or bi at a club? Are people naked or is it quite a social experience in general ?"

I only have experience with one club (not far from you), but from what I understand it's not an unusual one. Full nudity in the social areas is rare. If you want to see what equipment a man is carrying, spend some time in the hot tub, or visit the public play rooms and see them in action.

To find out if they're bi, it's probably best to ask. I rarely see any bi male action there, and it's not like they carry bi ID tags.

There are quite a few single women who go to clubs. It's a much safer environment than many of the options.

The club I go to is very social. It's quite possible to spend the whole night in the bar or hot tub, not play at all, and go home satisfied. Of course, the option is always there should someone catch your eye.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As the male half of a couple who still don't know if they want to dabble or not, it's quite obvious the site is full of guys who will chance their arms on hoping females will say yes to anything even if it's out of their preference range

I get at least a handful of messages a day saying "I know you're not looking for x, but..." block.

Does blocking people give you a sense of satisfaction and power?? Be honest

No.

If you think you can get around my boundaries, you're not a safe person, and I'll do what I can to eject you from my life. It's defensive. I'm glad you don't understand.

I see, you really should lighten up a bit, you take yourself and this site far to seriously "

There are dangerous people out there and I don't want to become a statistic. I'm so dreadfully sorry that I look out for my safety

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