FabSwingers.com forum: Help being stalked lol

By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

Hi all ....met a lady on here a while ago saw her on cam ect chatted on phone then she started calling 24/7 told her didnt want to meet as she was getting to serious calls kept coming blocked her number blocked her on here ..she keeps starting new profiles and messaging us ...what do we do ????? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block and report to admin. You didn't do anything, unfortunately your always going to get the crazy people on a site like this x

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

yeh thats what i have been doing on her previous profiles she just starts a new profile (new message from her this morn)xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeh thats what i have been doing on her previous profiles she just starts a new profile (new message from her this morn)xx"
report to fab site ... you cant have this .

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

just reported her again explaining whats been happening xxx problem is ive found myself not messaging anyone that sounds remotely like her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was us. we would meet her... in a public place and call her out on her crazy behaviour and say if she doesnt stop your going to get the police involved.. that usually deters people...

Don't let crazy weirdos ruin your fun!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

I think the threat of the police would be enough.

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

already said id reprt her to the police and her phone company (she told me who she was with) for harrasment thought she got the message until i signed in on here this morning and shes back

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Go through with it I as the male of the couple would have no reservations going to the station if it embarrassed the missus.

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

think it may be the only way to go now

thanks for the advise peeps xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"think it may be the only way to go now

thanks for the advise peeps xxx

Just be aware the police might try to fob you off.. dont let them... it is harassment and that is illegal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

alpha female.... just as dangerous as the male variety

silly question - have you heard her talk.... definitely a female is it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could always create a new profile for yourselves and change specific info on it to throw her off your scent,keep a note of your friends and verifications and re mail said cpls to re add you,,drastic i know but it might help

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

yes spoken to her on the phone seen her on cam it was when she started calling at 1-2 in the morning that alarm bells started ringing ...have also done the changing of the profile this is our second one which weve had about 5 weeks but shes found us this morning .....its all a bit mental lol xxx

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"Hi all ....met a lady on here a while ago saw her on cam ect chatted on phone then she started calling 24/7 told her didnt want to meet as she was getting to serious calls kept coming blocked her number blocked her on here ..she keeps starting new profiles and messaging us ...what do we do ????? xxx"

Would suggest blocking newbies:

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

And reporting any that do slip through, to Admin. Don't respond to anything.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest theres not a great deal you can do, i had the same problem with a guy who just kept adding me whenever i blocked him, so i set my settings to stop single guys mailing me and he joined on a couples profile, admin can ban people but theres nothing to stop them re opening another account, all you can do is keep blocking them

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By *ig jugsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

meet her and ask her what her issue is with you....does she ask you the same question over and over?....then maybe answering her is all she needs?...i only say this as i had a stalker for months,and once i actually listened and explained to them ,they went away

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

"meet her and ask her what her issue is with you....does she ask you the same question over and over?....then maybe answering her is all she needs?...i only say this as i had a stalker for months,and once i actually listened and explained to them ,they went away"

no hun she'll text me to say that she thought we had clicked and we were the couple she wanted to meet these sort of messages went on for ages then it was ill delete your number if you dont reply then came the sorry texts then telling me about her other meets ..we have asked her to stop .ignored her ..threatened her with police ect nothing works xx

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

thing is got on really well with her to start with then she went all bunny boiler on us calling in the early hours ect

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By *ig jugsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

shes obviously smitten by you...and very lonely and clutching at straws....maybe meet her face to face in public? if she doesnt leave alone then block newbies on here...or the police will go and have a word with her if u have all the evidence...they wont press charges but warn her to leave you alone..thats what they did with me and my stalker..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

admin can ban people but theres nothing to stop them re opening another account, all you can do is keep blocking them

If they can put in a ban on people who have used the same IP validating eachother then surely they can ban someones IP from the site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she fit? I'll take her off your hands lol :D

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

"Is she fit? I'll take her off your hands lol :D"

haha she's ok so your welcome to her

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

"shes obviously smitten by you...and very lonely and clutching at straws....maybe meet her face to face in public? if she doesnt leave alone then block newbies on here...or the police will go and have a word with her if u have all the evidence...they wont press charges but warn her to leave you alone..thats what they did with me and my stalker.."

i must admit felt sorry for her at one point but then decided she got a screw loose she just doesnt get the message x

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

Well, she will have read this thread by now.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

whats her profile name?

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

whats her profile name?

lmao when she pops up with her new profile again ill let you know

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

My feeling is don't engage with her at all. Admin should be able to protect you, if not, just ignore her until she finds another target. You can't win these.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Admins should be able to report the IP address to the originating provider who may do something, as in warn the bill payer.

Rare to get to that level.

Most people have an IP address that changes when they reboot their router. The professional stalkers will use every proxy known to mankind too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like a bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

send me her details!! I seem to have the nack of scaring women off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you could always create a new profile for yourselves and change specific info on it to throw her off your scent,keep a note of your friends and verifications and re mail said cpls to re add you,,drastic i know but it might help"

all i can think is block her current profile and then completely change yours... change the profile name and the text and then put all your face pics in your private/friends only gallery for a few weeks till she goes away?

if she's enough of a stalker she'll recognise your pics and possibly verifications you have too...just need to disguise yourself till she loses interest. not ideal i know, but could be worth a try x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

send me her details!! I seem to have the nack of scaring women off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all fairness we can see why she is so smitten with you, your absolutely gorgeous

but you should definitely meet her in a public place, find out what her problem is and who knows maybe after she's met you in person she might calm down a bit

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile is too good to be true, then generally it is not true.

clues:

1) been on here a short time.

2) lots of face pics

3) long friend list

4) hidden verifications

5) forum posts to get attention.

anyone seen any profiles like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a profile is too good to be true, then generally it is not true.

clues:

1) been on here a short time.

2) lots of face pics

3) long friend list

4) hidden verifications

5) forum posts to get attention.

anyone seen any profiles like that

Oh yes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's not 40 and from York is she?

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

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By *exywiltscpl OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

well she has gone all quiet again now so lets hope she has got the message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well she has gone all quiet again now so lets hope she has got the message x"

probably saw this and finally got the message! x

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