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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

Had it once where I politely said not for me and then got abuse sent, luckily doesnt happen too often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what the block button is for!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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And when guys complain that women are rude for not replying, this is a good reason why alot don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive gone from the most amazing sexy woman on here to a big fat beached whale in seconds used to upset me but now i see it as thier problem not mine.....im still getting plenty "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand this, what good does it do them. Would they do that in person, I doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't respond if I'm not interested and you still get abuse asking why you deleted their message then I just block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message much these days .However if I get a refusal I simply say thank you for thier polite reply. We can't all like the same things .

Believe it or not I've actually had meets from this response as they can see I'm a non pushy single male that's always polite and respectful. Fab is like a box of chocolates we don't like them all .. Unless like a few of my friends that are just greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive gone from the most amazing sexy woman on here to a big fat beached whale in seconds used to upset me but now i see it as thier problem not mine.....im still getting plenty "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection. "

Not just men, we’ve had it from couples and single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bullet dodged...imagine how they might be if you turned them down in person or refused to do something sexually that they requested?

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By *oupleforfun31Couple
over a year ago

Bradford

We never reply if we're not interested. Never had a negative follow-up message after a delete.

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yep, get it regularly. One that sticks out was a guy that called me a fat, ugly, midget, it really made me giggle how childish it was, It's not my fault I am vertically challenged at under 5ft lol

It used to upset me when I first joined but now I just sigh and block.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested. "

Same!!!! I tried to reply to as many messages as possible before so not to be rude. I could have written this!

I also hate receiving ???? When I haven’t replied. Does my head in. I also get the stalkers who watch when I’m online and say “thought you were too busy but you’re online?” That’s creepy.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"bullet dodged...imagine how they might be if you turned them down in person or refused to do something sexually that they requested?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

Ah f*ck off

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By *rystaldenisonWoman
over a year ago

salisbury

Yup , I normally get all sorts of names

I mean you would think I am not allowed to fuck only those who I am attracted too lol ??

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I don’t normally reply because of this but if the bloke has a nice profile and has sent a nice message I just say not meeting at the moment I always get a nice thank you back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block. I do not engage with them nomore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time!

Sometimes I toy with them and then block, but they always end up on my block list

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

The worst I've heard is some cases where a guy sends a bigger girl a you're gorgeous, sexy, I'd love to meet type message and on receiving a thanks but no thanks the girl turns into a fat ugly cow.

What's that all about ?!!

Ffs guys grow up and take rejection like an adult not a spoilt 6 year old who can't have what he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time!

Sometimes I toy with them and then block, but they always end up on my block list "

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Don't know why people have to be that way no is no move on and don't take personal everyone to there own opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I reply after being turned down, it's always a polite "ok then, hope you find what you're looking for, have fun" or words to that effect.

Might after all see them at a social or in a club.

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By *usty_MinxWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

When I delete some guys messages they take it upon themselves to barrage my inbox with a million dullard questions. I think I’ve blocked 50% of men in my area by this point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

We regularly get this. It even turns abusive and we get accused of not being a couple because we're only interested in ladies for Hubby. Regular cuckolding is accepted, reverse is apparently a fake profile.

Even had someone write a status saying we were just a male pic collector because we wouldn't send sex photos to a guy.

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By *avenTinaCouple
over a year ago

Southport


"Yep, get it regularly. One that sticks out was a guy that called me a fat, ugly, midget, it really made me giggle how childish it was, It's not my fault I am vertically challenged at under 5ft lol

It used to upset me when I first joined but now I just sigh and block. "

More of a pocket Venus than a midget

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested. "

Indeed.

I get it? I've been turned down and had it hurt, too.

But, you know, I'm an adult, one would hope, being here. So I dealt with my feelings by myself and sent a polite thanks back. One of the joys of the Internet. You can hide your reaction and, if you so choose, be a better person when things go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

Yep I got called a nasty piece of work because i told a guy i didn't want to meet up with him, then the next favourite is, when you dont reply to their message quickly enough the abuse then rolls in ,I often question is it all worth it but there is the odd rare find that is on here

Just block, delete and dont take it personally xx

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"If I reply after being turned down, it's always a polite "ok then, hope you find what you're looking for, have fun" or words to that effect.

Might after all see them at a social or in a club."

Exactly the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested. "

Exactly. It seems to be the norm

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We seem to get more abuse for not replying, last time it was a couple complaining we had been online and not replied to the first message in such an unbelievable and self entitled way. I then replied as I was slightly irritated saying we would definitely not be interested in people that act like that lol. We then got a lot of abuse, after blocking this profile they then used two other different profiles to continue harassing us.

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By *eviationMan
over a year ago

Brynamman

I actually hate myself fo saying this

"We're not all like this"

There said it pmsl

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Commented on frequently and influences many just not to communicate no further interest, then block. No reply always means no interest on Fab, so don't feel obligated to send a no thanks.

And always report any inappropriate behavior of any type, within Fab. It helps to make the site better for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been turn down many times but there’s no need to be rude to anyone

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

Same!!!! I tried to reply to as many messages as possible before so not to be rude. I could have written this!

I also hate receiving ???? When I haven’t replied. Does my head in. I also get the stalkers who watch when I’m online and say “thought you were too busy but you’re online?” That’s creepy. "

This, I say I'm busy to reply to messages or not meeting. Then why are you online ? Arranging a meet? Or what really gets my goat is when I'm lectured about it being a meeting site and if I'm not meeting why am I on the site.

It's like they think we have some sort of arrangements between us because I said 'Thanks' one time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

Same!!!! I tried to reply to as many messages as possible before so not to be rude. I could have written this!

I also hate receiving ???? When I haven’t replied. Does my head in. I also get the stalkers who watch when I’m online and say “thought you were too busy but you’re online?” That’s creepy.

This, I say I'm busy to reply to messages or not meeting. Then why are you online ? Arranging a meet? Or what really gets my goat is when I'm lectured about it being a meeting site and if I'm not meeting why am I on the site.

It's like they think we have some sort of arrangements between us because I said 'Thanks' one time "

Ugh. I'm not obliged to be looking to fill my gaping chasm () with hot rod because I happen to be online.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I cannot understand why people get like this..I always respond with a thanks for replying and wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

How often does this happen.? Is it the majority?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

How often does this happen.? Is it the majority?"

When I declined with a message, I'd say it was somewhere between 45 and 55%.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

How often does this happen.? Is it the majority?"

Probably 1 in 10, but I don't get as many messages as the women, around 10-15 if I put up a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time I seem to get I've heard alot but if it makes their man hood feel better let them carry just shows they wasn't man enough for me anyways as real men can handle being turned down only boys insult you after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

I've been told I would of been the most unattractive person yhey woukd fucked anyways so which I found funny cause he was no tom hardy himself so

The worst I've heard is some cases where a guy sends a bigger girl a you're gorgeous, sexy, I'd love to meet type message and on receiving a thanks but no thanks the girl turns into a fat ugly cow.

What's that all about ?!!

Ffs guys grow up and take rejection like an adult not a spoilt 6 year old who can't have what he wants."

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I think everyone will receive a not so nice reply after turning someone down, we've received a few

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

Same!!!! I tried to reply to as many messages as possible before so not to be rude. I could have written this!

I also hate receiving ???? When I haven’t replied. Does my head in. I also get the stalkers who watch when I’m online and say “thought you were too busy but you’re online?” That’s creepy. "

Some behaviour is alarming isn’t it? Many many weirdos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi man, I understand.

Nothing as queer as folk. Just block and forget.

X

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

Indeed.

I get it? I've been turned down and had it hurt, too.

Exactly, we’ve all fancied someone who doesn’t fancy us, it’s part of life. I gave no idea why folk get so bent out of shape about it.

But, you know, I'm an adult, one would hope, being here. So I dealt with my feelings by myself and sent a polite thanks back. One of the joys of the Internet. You can hide your reaction and, if you so choose, be a better person when things go wrong. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

It used to happen a lot and I had always tried to be polite with my refusal. I now politely refuse and block. If I dont want to meet them now, I am not going to want to meet in a few months time, so blocking is a simple solution. I realise that to some this may be heartless, but I had enough of being told I was up my own a**e.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In the spring of 3 minutes I've gone from being the most amazing creature to walk the earth to a fat slag who's up my own arse

I feel grateful that I'd dodged the bullet with them but at the same time it's so unneeded and I can't understand how on an adult site people can't behave as such?

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Wev just been rejected just now and I sent a nice message back no point being an arse about it, you can't be everyone's cup of tea

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

No guys are usually polite and thank me for the reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assholes everywhere. Not just on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rejected a couple for being too young for us. The abuse was hilarious.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Assholes everywhere. Not just on fab."

You rejected us and we was very polite about it wasnt we lol still straight ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so funny when they are abusive and then block you for bring nice and. Polite saying no thank you .. I personally have never blocked I just delete and ignore win some lose some

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

All the time. Get called all the racist names under the sun. Makes me laugh though as they’re the ones that messaged me. How foolish of them to want to meet a black beep of they feel that way about black people lol fucking imbeciles haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assholes everywhere. Not just on fab.

You rejected us and we was very polite about it wasnt we lol still straight ????"

Yes you were. That's why we're still friends

Straight til I get bored with men I suppose... Is that a better answer? Lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"All the time. Get called all the racist names under the sun. Makes me laugh though as they’re the ones that messaged me. How foolish of them to want to meet a black beep of they feel that way about black people lol fucking imbeciles haha"

I don't get racism, but I am told I'm fat, ugly, desperate and disease ridden. Funny, five minutes ago I hung the moon?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford


"All the time. Get called all the racist names under the sun. Makes me laugh though as they’re the ones that messaged me. How foolish of them to want to meet a black beep of they feel that way about black people lol fucking imbeciles haha

I don't get racism, but I am told I'm fat, ugly, desperate and disease ridden. Funny, five minutes ago I hung the moon? "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This reminds me of one asshole a few months ago. I had more pictures displayed - naked, in bikini, with clothes on. He messaged me admiring my pics, wanting to meet and saying what he would do with my body.. I asked for his face picture, he wasn't my type so I politely declined his offer to meet. Then I got something's like "Well I like slim girls anyway, you need to get yourself in the gym.."

Priceless

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Assholes everywhere. Not just on fab.

You rejected us and we was very polite about it wasnt we lol still straight ????

Yes you were. That's why we're still friends

Straight til I get bored with men I suppose... Is that a better answer? Lol"

It'll do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant win sometimes. Say no they dont like it. Ignore they don't like it either

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested. "

This is true for us also. Although at least when they respond like that it reaffirms you made the right decision!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"This reminds me of one asshole a few months ago. I had more pictures displayed - naked, in bikini, with clothes on. He messaged me admiring my pics, wanting to meet and saying what he would do with my body.. I asked for his face picture, he wasn't my type so I politely declined his offer to meet. Then I got something's like "Well I like slim girls anyway, you need to get yourself in the gym.."

Priceless "

Gawd, it happens all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then they wonder why you don’t wanna meet them lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection. "

Yes I agree. They appear to immediately return to the playground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, but thankfully most are polite x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

Every time you get a reply that is something like

Abusive reply

Says why not reply

Says you met X reply

Etc

Block them and delete the message.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

It’s happened lots lately to me and then they ask why?? I don’t have to justify myself to anyone. It’s so frustrating.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Nobody should have to justify their reasons for any body, a no is a No, would these ppl do the same in a club because that could end pretty badly for some.

Rejection isn't nice but on a site like this it's to be expected. Just move on

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By *lloverkisserMan
over a year ago

preston

Probably the only thing on here that has thus far shocked me after I turned down a couple.

It was politely pointed out to me that I must be up my own arse because couples and females have all " the power" on sites like this and I should be grateful for an invite.

I was grateful but was also 300 miles away at the time.

As for up my arse I prefer someone's else's please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be such a shock for me tohave some one say they want to meet me that i would get that carried away i would decline them because of the power trip i would be on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get turned down on here or a dating site, I just tend to send another message saying thanks for replying and hope you find what you're looking for. No point in being a dick about it. But I get it if someone writes a nasty reply to your initial message.

I've had it happen on POF before. I had a picture of my dogs on there at the time. After I sent a message to a lass she replied with something along the lines of ''Your dogs are ugly. I guess it's true what they say about dogs looking like their owners.'' I just sent her a message back saying ''I may ugly, but tomorrow I could get plastic surgery, but you'll always be a cunt.'' She didn't like that.

But these days I just don't bother because those kind of people want you to bite back. It vindicates them so to speak. So now I either agree with them or just put LOL because they don't like it once they realise you don't give a shit.

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By *oxtonMan
over a year ago

Some where in West Yorkshire

If my messages get deleted without a reply I just laugh it off and no point in being arsey about it or abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that blocking everyone from messaging me resolves this issue nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until today I had not had any abuse but got called an ignorant c**t for ignoring their message. But their main pic of a close up gaping arsehole is hardly inviting

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Until today I had not had any abuse but got called an ignorant c**t for ignoring their message. But their main pic of a close up gaping arsehole is hardly inviting "

Ha ha ha. Nice.

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Yes we get abuse regularly, not ones for blocking just use notes.

Really find it amusing when they forget and try again after they have really gone off on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens at least once a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah constantly.. im usually this sex goddess then when i reply no thanks im a fat cow.. usually just block and report but after a while it starts to get to you, one of the reasons iv stopped meeting at the minute

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Only happened once I can think of, I would think it would happen more to single profiles, some see it as a dating site, which is fine but they feel hurt by the rejection, still no excuse so I would just block them as shows a grumpy streak in their nature and who wants that lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I wouldn’t know about a barrage of abuse. If a lady sends a disparaging email because I haven’t replied then I just simply block. Problem solved

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

Stop moaning on here

Block them don't wait for the abuse or insult after u decline

Just say no but no thank u then block

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Stop moaning on here

Block them don't wait for the abuse or insult after u decline

Just say no but no thank u then block "

That’s what the buttons there for!

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I’ve sent messages to people and asked to block if they aren’t intrested

That way I won’t send them a message again in a few months time

I wouldn’t ever abuse anyone

That’s childish and those people should head off to other sites where it’s a swipe left or right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sent a message from a guy and I replied with a no thank you message. He then replied, "What message? I do have standards." So I sent him a screen shot of our message thread and blocked him.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I was sent a message from a guy and I replied with a no thank you message. He then replied, "What message? I do have standards." So I sent him a screen shot of our message thread and blocked him. "

Haha. Yup. Happens so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block as soon as I have refused for this very reason, and have also taken to blocking when I delete messages of no interest after being called "a rude bitch with no class"

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

The worst I've heard is some cases where a guy sends a bigger girl a you're gorgeous, sexy, I'd love to meet type message and on receiving a thanks but no thanks the girl turns into a fat ugly cow.

What's that all about ?!!

Ffs guys grow up and take rejection like an adult not a spoilt 6 year old who can't have what he wants."

The Male ego is a sensitive thing. Dent it at your peril.

You can only wonder at the amount of rage that builds up in some men after a "thank you, but no" message. Some of them must be seething. How do they make themselves feel better? Hurl abuse then block. Pathetic and cowardly really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last night's scenario.

Male: hello guys .

Us:hello.

Male:fancy meeting up.

Us:No sorry we are not looking for single males at the moment.

Male:then why bother messaging me ,Fucking timewasters..

Then he blocked us .

We were like wow WTF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

Far too many times.

So I stopped responding & started deleting.

That still brings abuse ha!

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Last night's scenario.

Male: hello guys .

Us:hello.

Male:fancy meeting up.

Us:No sorry we are not looking for single males at the moment.

Male:then why bother messaging me ,Fucking timewasters..

Then he blocked us .

We were like wow WTF."

Obviously he was at the back of the queue when brains were being handed out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stop moaning on here

Block them don't wait for the abuse or insult after u decline

Just say no but no thank u then block "

I wasn't moaning. I posted a question. Which is exactly what the forum is for.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Stop moaning on here

Block them don't wait for the abuse or insult after u decline

Just say no but no thank u then block

I wasn't moaning. I posted a question. Which is exactly what the forum is for. "

It's good to commiserate sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

If I receive a rude response after a rebuff it simply confirms that my instinct was correct. Now I mainly block cos I’ll be damned if I’ll explain to anyone

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth


"I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection. "

Us men get it too. Some women don't handle rejection well either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop moaning on here

Block them don't wait for the abuse or insult after u decline

Just say no but no thank u then block "
.

Why be abusive in the first place.

No need for it and not the recipient fault!

Just sayin’

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Definitely no need for this. I think it’s even nice just to get a polite refusal and I just respond thank saying thank you for letting me know simple as this

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By *illing2016Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It's way to easy to be an obnoxious asshole on the internet. If someone is not interested then so be it.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Always hilarious - one guy today replied with oh dear another woman who's batting way above her weight. Which was amusing as two messages earlier he was initiating contact to say I was wordlie

Spoilt babies who were never taught how to deal with the word no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always hilarious - one guy today replied with oh dear another woman who's batting way above her weight. Which was amusing as two messages earlier he was initiating contact to say I was wordlie

Spoilt babies who were never taught how to deal with the word no. "

I’ve had similar before always makes me laugh.

“You’re a fat bitch get off your high horse” was the most recent one.

So I put “This poor high horse having to carry all my fat!” And blocked him.

The abuse makes me laugh, I sometimes respond (if I can) with something stupid, I know I should ignore & just block, but I can’t help it ha!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Always hilarious - one guy today replied with oh dear another woman who's batting way above her weight. Which was amusing as two messages earlier he was initiating contact to say I was wordlie

Spoilt babies who were never taught how to deal with the word no.

I’ve had similar before always makes me laugh.

“You’re a fat bitch get off your high horse” was the most recent one.

So I put “This poor high horse having to carry all my fat!” And blocked him.

The abuse makes me laugh, I sometimes respond (if I can) with something stupid, I know I should ignore & just block, but I can’t help it ha! "

In fact looking back it was 'above her station' - so I really don't know my place at all do I

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Always hilarious - one guy today replied with oh dear another woman who's batting way above her weight. Which was amusing as two messages earlier he was initiating contact to say I was wordlie

Spoilt babies who were never taught how to deal with the word no.

I’ve had similar before always makes me laugh.

“You’re a fat bitch get off your high horse” was the most recent one.

So I put “This poor high horse having to carry all my fat!” And blocked him.

The abuse makes me laugh, I sometimes respond (if I can) with something stupid, I know I should ignore & just block, but I can’t help it ha! "

And absolutely - me too, I find it hilarious. One guy said to me he bet that my 'cunt lips were as saggy as my tits' and that all people from my area were inbred. Which is amusing as I'm not originally from there. Must. Try. Harder. With your insults...Nothing so classy as someone who can't take no with grace.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If you aren't interested, don't bother sending a reply. That cuts out a lot of hassle. It's not rude, you wouldn't reply to every unasked for spam email or flyer that comes through your door would you? And to the senders, read profiles before sending a message in the first place then you won't get ignored or declined in the first place will you?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah. "

So instead of saying sorry, you're not what I'm looking for - enjoy the site, should I be specific and say - sorry, the fact that every single one of your pics shows mostly one of your conquests with perhaps an inch of your cock and you're far too short puts me off you?

You realise this is meant to be about mutual enjoyment, not a part time job?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah. "

Do guys really want to know why they're being rejected? Being vague saves feelings...

But no one's owed a reason. They're just not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always hilarious - one guy today replied with oh dear another woman who's batting way above her weight. Which was amusing as two messages earlier he was initiating contact to say I was wordlie

Spoilt babies who were never taught how to deal with the word no.

I’ve had similar before always makes me laugh.

“You’re a fat bitch get off your high horse” was the most recent one.

So I put “This poor high horse having to carry all my fat!” And blocked him.

The abuse makes me laugh, I sometimes respond (if I can) with something stupid, I know I should ignore & just block, but I can’t help it ha!

And absolutely - me too, I find it hilarious. One guy said to me he bet that my 'cunt lips were as saggy as my tits' and that all people from my area were inbred. Which is amusing as I'm not originally from there. Must. Try. Harder. With your insults...Nothing so classy as someone who can't take no with grace. "

Oh god!

They try to get so creative with their insults, I think that’s what makes it funnier!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've yet to have a creative insult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah. "

Why can’t we be generic? If someone is of no interest to me I don’t think I need to go into detail.

Will it make you feel better to be told why?

“No thank you, I’m not attracted to you”

“No thank you, you’re too old”

“No thank you, your 35 cock pictures repulsed me”

“No thank you, your pictures put me off”

Do you honestly think giving a reason or putting more than “No thank you” would help? The abuse would be even worse.

Most decent men are able to take a “No thank you” or even a deleted message and go on with their lives.

A written explanation as to why I don’t want to meet someone, signed, sealed and dated will only get more abuse.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah.

So instead of saying sorry, you're not what I'm looking for - enjoy the site, should I be specific and say - sorry, the fact that every single one of your pics shows mostly one of your conquests with perhaps an inch of your cock and you're far too short puts me off you?

You realise this is meant to be about mutual enjoyment, not a part time job? "

If that the reason then yes.

and I totally agree about Mutual enjoyment and not a job interview because most guys on here don't even bother applying to some ladies because their barely get passed the interview. x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah.

So instead of saying sorry, you're not what I'm looking for - enjoy the site, should I be specific and say - sorry, the fact that every single one of your pics shows mostly one of your conquests with perhaps an inch of your cock and you're far too short puts me off you?

You realise this is meant to be about mutual enjoyment, not a part time job?

If that the reason then yes.

and I totally agree about Mutual enjoyment and not a job interview because most guys on here don't even bother applying to some ladies because their barely get passed the interview. x "

I think you've misunderstood my point.

The effort that is so important to many at the start of the conversation, and I make the same effort if initiating the contact. is intended to show why you're compatible and to demonstrate that you're able to make an effort.

If I am not interested, the fact that I'm replying should be enough. It doesn't need rudeness of course but nor does it require reasons. Just a polite no thank you. Because there's no need to demonstrate compatibility or the ability to make an effort. It's a non-starter.

If I were to make the effort to write back with specific, tailored reasons to each man who wasn't for me, I would have no time to talk to the people I am interested in or to use the forums - and after all, I'm here for my enjoyment not to provide a learning experience to everyone who doesn't appeal. Replying to my mail would be the part time job part - because it would become unmanageable.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah.

So instead of saying sorry, you're not what I'm looking for - enjoy the site, should I be specific and say - sorry, the fact that every single one of your pics shows mostly one of your conquests with perhaps an inch of your cock and you're far too short puts me off you?

You realise this is meant to be about mutual enjoyment, not a part time job?

If that the reason then yes.

and I totally agree about Mutual enjoyment and not a job interview because most guys on here don't even bother applying to some ladies because their barely get passed the interview. x "

What would guys rather?

Things as they are now? Or women getting utterly fed up with having to satisfy men that no really means no and we have valid reasons which can't be argued around... which would result in at least a sizeable minority of us leaving?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve actually been okay with abuse but that’s because we don’t actually reject outright but ignore or block.

I know it generally considered good etiquette to respond but find our approach more simple for us.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We’ve actually been okay with abuse but that’s because we don’t actually reject outright but ignore or block.

I know it generally considered good etiquette to respond but find our approach more simple for us."

Many do. The level of abuse I got plummeted when I stopped saying no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve actually been okay with abuse but that’s because we don’t actually reject outright but ignore or block.

I know it generally considered good etiquette to respond but find our approach more simple for us.

Many do. The level of abuse I got plummeted when I stopped saying no thank you. "

I’m pleased that the abuse has reduced and shows that being responsive on messages is not always the best for us but it won’t always help the sender!

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

It's nice to be nice.

So when I get ignored, get the odd message back saying "No thanks" etc, then I normally say "ok, not a problem, enjoy your day/weekend etc" and I sometimes throw in the odd "Can you block me please" just so no late night coffee messages get sent again

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested.

Same!!!! I tried to reply to as many messages as possible before so not to be rude. I could have written this!

I also hate receiving ???? When I haven’t replied. Does my head in. I also get the stalkers who watch when I’m online and say “thought you were too busy but you’re online?” That’s creepy.

This, I say I'm busy to reply to messages or not meeting. Then why are you online ? Arranging a meet? Or what really gets my goat is when I'm lectured about it being a meeting site and if I'm not meeting why am I on the site.

It's like they think we have some sort of arrangements between us because I said 'Thanks' one time "

This.. Trating ppl like a free hooker on standby really annoys me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally just say I’m sorry I don’t think we’d be compatible and wish them well. But occasionally I just delete and block as in the past I’ve had abuse.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

As a couple we have only had this once or twice. We have had people that don't listen and keep spamming you asking for your Kik to send videos when you say you don't want any and stuff like that, but someone being a knob? Not so often for us. X

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We’ve actually been okay with abuse but that’s because we don’t actually reject outright but ignore or block.

I know it generally considered good etiquette to respond but find our approach more simple for us.

Many do. The level of abuse I got plummeted when I stopped saying no thank you. "

I'm finding the same thing, strangely enough. I still get the odd one that has a go because I haven't responded though.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

That's sad to hear. I prefer a "no thank you".

I always reply and thank them for letting me know, move on and leave them alone.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

Happens all the time. Just block and forget, we do. Although if they are local, and particularly nasty, we do tend to tell a few people we know nearby.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Out of interest are all these rude people couples profiles, male profiles or female profiles or everyone as we don't seem to have issues with couples really x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Out of interest are all these rude people couples profiles, male profiles or female profiles or everyone as we don't seem to have issues with couples really x"

Everyone does it to me.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"Out of interest are all these rude people couples profiles, male profiles or female profiles or everyone as we don't seem to have issues with couples really x

Everyone does it to me. "

Oh. We must be getting lucky then... But then again we don't really send that many opening messages really or even winks or anything.... We haven't ever been rude to anyone though we just understand that everyone isn't for everyone and for every couple or female we don't like I'm sure there's 10 that don't like us or will see all the pictures and think we must be lunatics... I think our verifications say we are not but yeah.... I suppose you never know who people are until you meet....

I dunno. Maybe it's just people's expectations or the fact they believe some people don't have options. Us as a couple always have each other so we can and are picky... We look for a social connection generally and go from there and if your profile text or initial messages don't sound good then we probably won't be meeting. Is poor grammar or a message demanding pictures on first message off putting without you attaching yours first? We think so because if your gonna ask for ours then to us you should send yours first if your asking us straight out...

I wouldn't worry yourselfs too much with people who give you rude replys. There obviously shittier people than you would want to meet anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest are all these rude people couples profiles, male profiles or female profiles or everyone as we don't seem to have issues with couples really x"

Couples and guys for us. It's clear on our profile what we like/want, but if we have to say no because they haven't read it we get all sorts of nastiness. Sometimes the couples are worse than the guys.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nope, I've been on here two years, generally get a couple of hundred messages a week and have probably had maybe 5 rude messages in all that time when I've said no thanks...

I very rarely block either.

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By *ral DMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Yes i get this, i dont understand people. Politeness is the key to success.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?

Happens all the time. Just block and forget, we do. Although if they are local, and particularly nasty, we do tend to tell a few people we know nearby. "

Yes, they seem to forget people talk, don't they lol?!

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By *xeter101Man
over a year ago

paignton

If someone has the courtesy of messaging you to say no thank you rather than ignoring you why the need for giving abuse because your childish behaviour and not getting your own way is not an excuse its just fucking pathetic a simple "no problems thank you have a great day" is what I would message back and leave it as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, get it regularly. One that sticks out was a guy that called me a fat, ugly, midget, it really made me giggle how childish it was, It's not my fault I am vertically challenged at under 5ft lol

It used to upset me when I first joined but now I just sigh and block. "

So you're short, so what. You are mighty fine in my eyes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it’s happened to all of us on here at some point. We have had it too. Sadly it seems a sign of the times today. Thank goodness for the block button.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Never rude after a refusal.. Be an achievement to receive a refusal...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive gone from the most amazing sexy woman on here to a big fat beached whale in seconds used to upset me but now i see it as thier problem not mine.....im still getting plenty "

Well you do live near the coast

I think your very sexy even though I know you won't meet me.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Just this morning I’ve had an angry little boy berating me for deleting his message. All the ladies on here are up their own arses apparently!

As if we can all read and reply every message, that’d be a full time job!

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've yet to have a creative insult "

Insults aimed directly at Bonnie could only have come from a neanderthal mind. Petty, pathetic and shows their true character.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Most men see a "No Thank you" and add their own reason at the end, No thank you, you ain't good enough, No thank you, you're too ugly for me, No Thank you are generally way down my standards. Everyone has their own anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem. When you turn a poor single guy down try not to be so generic in your response as we men get complained about our own generic message eg "Hello" "Hi" blah blah.

So instead of saying sorry, you're not what I'm looking for - enjoy the site, should I be specific and say - sorry, the fact that every single one of your pics shows mostly one of your conquests with perhaps an inch of your cock and you're far too short puts me off you?

You realise this is meant to be about mutual enjoyment, not a part time job?

If that the reason then yes.

and I totally agree about Mutual enjoyment and not a job interview because most guys on here don't even bother applying to some ladies because their barely get passed the interview. x

I think you've misunderstood my point.

The effort that is so important to many at the start of the conversation, and I make the same effort if initiating the contact. is intended to show why you're compatible and to demonstrate that you're able to make an effort.

If I am not interested, the fact that I'm replying should be enough. It doesn't need rudeness of course but nor does it require reasons. Just a polite no thank you. Because there's no need to demonstrate compatibility or the ability to make an effort. It's a non-starter.

If I were to make the effort to write back with specific, tailored reasons to each man who wasn't for me, I would have no time to talk to the people I am interested in or to use the forums - and after all, I'm here for my enjoyment not to provide a learning experience to everyone who doesn't appeal. Replying to my mail would be the part time job part - because it would become unmanageable. "

Have some well thought out cut and paste messages saved in Word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly even being polite and a no thanks some guys just throw the dummy out of the pram their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone be rude... beggars belief.. just politely say have fun and wish them luck

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Just out of interest, do people not report profiles that are rude to them after turning them down? If not, then no wonder people do it. If it became known that being rude to people like that would result in profile being suspended and after repeat offences, banned, people might behave a bit better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of interest, do people not report profiles that are rude to them after turning them down? If not, then no wonder people do it. If it became known that being rude to people like that would result in profile being suspended and after repeat offences, banned, people might behave a bit better! "

Pretty sure people report them I know I do

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I've just been rejected and I just simply said that I totally understand.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Just out of interest, do people not report profiles that are rude to them after turning them down? If not, then no wonder people do it. If it became known that being rude to people like that would result in profile being suspended and after repeat offences, banned, people might behave a bit better!

Pretty sure people report them I know I do"

I hope everyone does. After all the number one rule of every swingers club, and in fact, life in general, is 'no means no'. If people ignore that rule in a club they'll be out on their ear, seems to me people should be held to the same standards of behaviour in here.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

No one likes being told explicitly "I don't think you're attractive", which is what, however you dress it up, a "no thanks" message is. Some people will deal with that by lashing out.

It's much better to just not respond to people who don't interest you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember sending a message off to one girl and got a reply back..."face pic". No please or anything. I know she may have got lots of messages but politeness goes both ways.lol.

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By *oupleforfun31Couple
over a year ago

Bradford

We never reply anyone we're not interested in and we've never received a rude message.

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By *azpiz1Man
over a year ago

Camberley

I always reply politely, thanking then for taking the time to respond.

It's the adult thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i always get told not no but i keep trying i have had rude messages from ladies i am polite to them i don't know whats wrong or is it this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I remember sending a message off to one girl and got a reply back..."face pic". No please or anything. I know she may have got lots of messages but politeness goes both ways.lol."

We always try to be polite, just as we would in the real world face to face. But I do get that it’s frustrating sometimes to be repeatedly messaged from people who clearly haven’t read what u seek etc. For example we state a few things in our profile that we like/don’t like in an initial message. Yet I would say 90% of messages received you can blatantly tell they haven’t even read our profile.

Now imagine you are a single woman who receives far more messages than they could probably ever respond to. I can see how irritating it would be and why sometimes they may lack politeness in their reply

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Makes you wonder how they deal with rejection in the real world....

Should their attentions be rejected in a night club or a pub... Do they throw a hissy fit..

Basically a show of inmaturity giving abuse for being rejected..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine they don’t approach anyone in the real world. The bravery of not being face to face with them

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection. "

...or tell them to fuck off...

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

It's pretty pathetic isn't it. We get this at least once a week I reckon. Instant report and block from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think we’ve ever had anyone be rude to us after we’ve said “not for us” maybe as we generally appeal to the more mature audience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just politely decline and block instantly or just block without a polite decline.

It rather depends on the person messaging me.

If I find they have just looked at my pics and clearly failed to read my profile but where polite it's the first.

If they ask weird stuff and or ask for a private meet despite my profile I just block.

My blocked list grows every day and it's huge already.

I also ignore friends request and leave them there forever and ever so they can't ask again and winks I look at but ignore and leave them there.

The way I see it....

If I've met you in a club and there was a connection we're good if I chat to you on here we are chatting a bit that's as far as it goes.

Those that have gone to clubs just to meet me kinda put me off... It's kinda stalkerish ... I didn't invite them and I never led them on. I'm very clear not only on my profile but also on pm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don’t answer if I’m not interested. I’m not being rude but being female I get a lot of messages and I’m not going to spend too much time answering. So I don’t x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Probably similar to going to a pub with a late licence that you're desperate to get into but the bouncers say no and all of a sudden it's a sh.t club that you didn't want to go to anyway

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I just politely decline and block instantly or just block without a polite decline.

It rather depends on the person messaging me.

If I find they have just looked at my pics and clearly failed to read my profile but where polite it's the first.

If they ask weird stuff and or ask for a private meet despite my profile I just block.

My blocked list grows every day and it's huge already.

I also ignore friends request and leave them there forever and ever so they can't ask again and winks I look at but ignore and leave them there.

The way I see it....

If I've met you in a club and there was a connection we're good if I chat to you on here we are chatting a bit that's as far as it goes.

Those that have gone to clubs just to meet me kinda put me off... It's kinda stalkerish ... I didn't invite them and I never led them on. I'm very clear not only on my profile but also on pm.

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totally agreed

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

one guy, I had to involve the police

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By *otwife2002Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We get this every other day I'm afraid xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"
It's rotten and unacceptable but in this life in this country their are a lot of ignorant people and these are the ones who react as you've said

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We used to, we now polity decline and then block them as we have no need no contact each other again and saves receiving abuse from people.

We also do the same if we aren’t people’s type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this all the time

Just block. ..some men don't like rejection. "

Women and couples do this a lot too

Also they can message you, you message back and find you are blocked

Very babyish

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By *utlermanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I prefer a response, to no response. But any kind of rudeness just gets deleted. It comes down to how secure you are and remembering it's a social site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I would reply no thank you, then I would get abuse or why? Whats wrong with me?

Worst one for me was off a guy who messaged me saying"let me come fuck your pussy" I deleted the message and he replied "your a fu*king fat dog anyway who would want to shag you" he blocked me and wrote a status saying I was a fake profile. I got a message off a lady saying hes wrote the status and i should report him.

Now if I get a message and they aren't for me I block instantly saves on multiple unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first joined I would reply no thank you, then I would get abuse or why? Whats wrong with me?

Worst one for me was off a guy who messaged me saying"let me come fuck your pussy" I deleted the message and he replied "your a fu*king fat dog anyway who would want to shag you" he blocked me and wrote a status saying I was a fake profile. I got a message off a lady saying hes wrote the status and i should report him.

Now if I get a message and they aren't for me I block instantly saves on multiple unwanted messages. "

We have had this a couple of times .

We had a strange one the other day this couple started chatting to us asking for a meet then asking could if they could go on our friends we said no sorry as there is no real attraction.

Their answer good because the feeling is mutual lol.

So we asked them why did they bother messaging their answer was f**k off and we where blocked .

Very strange people.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

I don't get why people get abusive after being turned down. It just shows how childish they are and how you are lucky not to have met them.

Do those idiots think you will say "Well I said no but now you have got angry and abusive when can we meet please?" lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else get people turn completely obnoxiously rude after you politely decline their offer? Honestly I really don't understand it? I'm not ubrupt or rude in my response. It's a simple "no thank you" then all of a sudden it's a barrage of abuse and the need to block!?"

All. The. TIME!!!

It’s usually a shitty message and then a block so you can’t tell them what you actually think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had abusive messages when I've politely declined someone's proposal,I've also had some lovely replies when I've said thanks but no thanks.I just ignore and block the rude people,they're not even worth the effort of reacting to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regularly, which is why I rarely respond at all now if I’m not interested.

When I first joined I tried replying to everyone but soon realised it’s more trouble than it’s worth. They either turn nasty, want you to explain why or try to convince you that you are interested. "

plus it helps the guy out too. By not replying, if the guy forgets he's already messaged you, he'll get a warning you didn't reply if he tries again

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Some people are rude, some aren't.

Concentrate your energy on the ones who aren't.

The end

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