FabSwingers.com forum: How to get wife back into swinging

By *etteringcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

Posting personal information about her seems a good start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

Have you talked to her about it?

If she doesn't want sex with you she probably won't want to swing either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Talk to her, find out exactly how she feels and take it from there.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

R hasn't let the menopause stop her swinging, she doesn't have the intense hormonal lust for sex she did but she still enjoys fucking other men and group play. You could tell your lady that swinging can still be fun after the menopause, still very pleasurable but not in the same way. Good luck!

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By *etteringcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

Cheers all

Have to have a chat i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We actually met on here and got married very happily we were just talking and said to me would , you like to swing again I said yes to her shock .Told her I'd love to see her with another man so we did it slowly Ada social 1st n went back to our house and before we knew it she was being kissed and fondled she was loving it wanking two cocks next thing sucking both in turn and been locked she had a gin break then round 2 the lad went home. Then I fucked her for a 3rd time well enjoyed it as so did she .xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Menopause can be a difficult period in a woman's life for so many reasons, especially when it reduces their sex drive. My advise is to read up on the subject and try to understand what she is going through. Empathy can elevate the feelings of rejection and also bond you as a couple. There are lots of remedies that can help, some work for some and not for others. It's often a case of trial and see what works. My misses tried everything and then decided on HRT patches which have worked well for her. Hope all goes well.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Cheers all

Have to have a chat i think"

Best idea, maybe take a break and hide profile while you work things out. X

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By *ohn Wilson96Man
over a year ago

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Rub baking soda (bicarb) on her boobs, it seems to fix everything else.

My GF is going through it and talking at length about it helped me understand (it's different with every lady). It needn't be the end, just a chance to do things differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I seem to be more hornier now going through the menopause, than I've ever been.

Maybe suggest to your wife alternative remedies and supplements, to help her through the change.

They can make a difference.

All the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her and talk to the GP too they can help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers all

Have to have a chat i think"

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers all

Have to have a chat i think

Good luck.

And don’t treat her like a problem to be ‘solved’. Give her time and space to really express how she feels and what she wants. It may well not be what you want. Be prepared for that.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

Has she told you she doesn't want to swing anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Menopause can be a difficult time as so many things are happening, hormonal changes.

Just be patient, you might have to face the fact you might never get back into it if its not what both parties want.

For myself my sex drive has never been higher since menopause I'm like a bloody rabbit, but still the ups and downs, bad days, body changes etc do affect my mojo at times.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Talk to her and talk to the GP too they can help "

Sexual health clinic might be more effective than the GP ... my GP is crap for SH matters!!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Nothing worse than feeling pressurised into sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers all

Have to have a chat i think

Good luck.

And don’t treat her like a problem to be ‘solved’. Give her time and space to really express how she feels and what she wants. It may well not be what you want. Be prepared for that."

So much this!

Research, read and do all you can to understand, not because you want her to swing again, but because you want her to be happy and healthy. If swinging comes back into the equation then so be it.

Some women sail through the menopause, others feel as though they are totally losing their mind and sense of who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

You don’t, simple as that. If she wants to get back into it she Wil, if not then that’s her choice.

I went through the same thing and left the lifestyle for 3 years, only came back when I was good and ready .

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By *etteringcpl OP Couple
over a year ago

peterborough

Thanks all for the advice

Hope we can get back to normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rub baking soda (bicarb) on her boobs, it seems to fix everything else.

My GF is going through it and talking at length about it helped me understand (it's different with every lady). It needn't be the end, just a chance to do things differently "

I suppose that's one way to get a heaving bosom

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By *andm300Man
over a year ago

guildford

See if she wants to get into tantric stuff. It’s a great natural way of stimulating desire and reconnecting her sexually. Go the full way into it. It may be difficult and take a while and you may need to create a lot of alone time for her to explore herself so she can self care and reconnect with her sexual nature before she brings you back in. You could also see if she’s up for seeing a specialist for a yoni massage. Make it all about her until her fire is relighted and well Established. This may take over a hour each session and months of practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s clear that the only way to approach this is at both your pace and both must be in agreement. It’s nice you understand that a chat is needed in this case.

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I’ve been going through the change since I was 37, I turn 43 this weekend. It’s absolutely horrendous!

My sex drive is through the roof and I mean seriously high. But then my body is changing at the same time. The menopause is basically puberty in reverse, except throw in the hot flushes and acceptance that you can no longer have kids. Then of course you have to bear in mind there is no fixed time frame. My mum took 15 years to complete it.

I’ve tried hrt didn’t work for me. Then was put on the injection - great! Even harder to lose weight now than ever! But..... I’m on tablets to help with my hot flushes and they are amazing, make things so much pleasant.

Your other half is going through a difficult time, I recommend lots of tlc and talking. She’ll really appreciate talking about it and knowing you care.

Hope everything works out ok OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

Very common problem for women after the menopause actually. I'm constantly being messaged by men in their 50s and 60s whose wives literally lost interest after menopause. Don't forget, menopause is the female equivalent of castration.

HRT can help, but has other risks. The main thing is, it might bother YOU, but does a lack of libido bother HER. If it doesn't and she doesn't want sex generally and has no interest in gaining back her libido, then you will find it very difficult to get her to engage. You need to make her understand sensitively that while she may not feel like sex, you need that intimacy with her both for emotional bonding and physical reasons. If you have swinged in the past, and she doesn't want to join, then she may be open to you discretely having sex outside the relationship. However, if this happens, make sure it is purely sexual, and you don't ignore the emotional bonding with your wife. She might not want to fuck, but a good cuddle and letting her know you love her will go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Menopause can be a difficult period in a woman's life for so many reasons, especially when it reduces their sex drive. My advise is to read up on the subject and try to understand what she is going through. Empathy can elevate the feelings of rejection and also bond you as a couple. There are lots of remedies that can help, some work for some and not for others. It's often a case of trial and see what works. My misses tried everything and then decided on HRT patches which have worked well for her. Hope all goes well.

Great to see someone who took time out to understand what it's like and support. Great advice.

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By *appy but hornyMan
over a year ago

wakefield

"We have met some nice cpls and single guys and hadsome great time which we both enjoyed

Since menapaus mrs has lost her mojo and interest generally in sex

How do i get it back with out feeling pressurised

Completely understand your dilemma, my wife lost her sex drive for another reason which was an operation that went wrong

She is fine, but no sex drive, I have her blessing to play with who ever I wish

It's not ideal, but I accept it, still completely in love with her but making do in other ways

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