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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Read other similar threads that have been posted all the reasons are stated there OP

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work. "

Imagine having 300 messages in your inbox and having to reply to every one of them? It would become a full time job. So its not being ignorant or disrespectful its just not practical to reply to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work.

Imagine having 300 messages in your inbox and having to reply to every one of them? It would become a full time job. So its not being ignorant or disrespectful its just not practical to reply to everyone "

I really do understand that and I happily move on from no responses. It's when when they do take the time but are then still rude with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read other similar threads that have been posted all the reasons are stated there OP

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I have and will again this was mainly to let of a bit of steam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work.

Imagine having 300 messages in your inbox and having to reply to every one of them? It would become a full time job. So its not being ignorant or disrespectful its just not practical to reply to everyone "

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By *oreFunForAllCouple
over a year ago

Dumstable


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work. "

Do you reply to every bit of email marketing you receive to say no thanks?

If a message is decent, one of us may reply.

The rest of the time it’s pointless drivel that I/we delete and block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work.

Do you reply to every bit of email marketing you receive to say no thanks?

If a message is decent, one of us may reply.

The rest of the time it’s pointless drivel that I/we delete and block."

No I dont reply to all the junk mail I receive and I dont expect replys on fab as I read the faqs when I started. Gow ever if someone does take the time to respond purely for the purpose of being rude and bringing someone down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A rude reply is often because the original message was seen as sleazy or because the sender doesn’t fit what they asked for. Usually a full read of the profile and seeing if you fit the requirements helps a lot. Fed up of receiving messages from guys “trying their luck”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get rude replies when I politely decline offers so I resulted in just deleting messages. If they still don't get the hint, then I block.

Imagine being a female on fab, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A rude reply is often because the original message was seen as sleazy or because the sender doesn’t fit what they asked for. Usually a full read of the profile and seeing if you fit the requirements helps a lot. Fed up of receiving messages from guys “trying their luck”. "

Thank you I appreciate your thoughts I do read profiles and always try to make a good conversation I dont always succeed though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I politely reject someone I receive rude responses sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get rude replies when I politely decline offers so I resulted in just deleting messages. If they still don't get the hint, then I block.

Imagine being a female on fab, OP."

I do and completely under stand how it is for you ladys that's why I wont send rude replys and I block if I dont get a response or its rude I just let it get to me and I shouldn't of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blokes can make this site so hard. I literally had to block someone a minute ago for not reading our profile before sending a sleazy message.

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I use to be in a couple profile with a sexy female friend and I understand what these girls and couples are going through. We couldnt keep up so we started just deleting them. We felt bad as our mindset is, " Do onto to others as you want onto yourself".

But I did become to much.

We as guys have to understand the dynamics here. Somehow, we have to catch that girl/couples eye and it is on us guys to make that happen..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I use to be in a couple profile with a sexy female friend and I understand what these girls and couples are going through. We couldnt keep up so we started just deleting them. We felt bad as our mindset is, " Do onto to others as you want onto yourself".

But I did become to much.

We as guys have to understand the dynamics here. Somehow, we have to catch that girl/couples eye and it is on us guys to make that happen.."

I see what your saying and I do try I really do I will continue to try. As I have stated I really dont mind no responses I understand that means they are not intrested. My point really was just when someone goes out of their was to be rude when a bo response would of down I think its hurt full and I no men do it to so this was me having a rant as i was feeling very small. I am off for some sleep have a fab day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 hours ago you were going to work and now you're off to sleep? I want your job, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time when politely declining, the person then tried to start up conversation again by saying thank you for replying etc etc and it gets annoying because you're wasting time on someone you're not interested in!!

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I use to be in a couple profile with a sexy female friend and I understand what these girls and couples are going through. We couldnt keep up so we started just deleting them. We felt bad as our mindset is, " Do onto to others as you want onto yourself".

But I did become to much.

We as guys have to understand the dynamics here. Somehow, we have to catch that girl/couples eye and it is on us guys to make that happen..

I see what your saying and I do try I really do I will continue to try. As I have stated I really dont mind no responses I understand that means they are not intrested. My point really was just when someone goes out of their was to be rude when a bo response would of down I think its hurt full and I no men do it to so this was me having a rant as i was feeling very small. I am off for some sleep have a fab day. "

Catch their eye somehow, with something funny or read profiles and find a connection. That has worked wonders for me. All you need is a foot in that door and off you go. Keep positive..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice "no thanks" would be lovely, but if the m:f ratio were the other way around, I doubt us men would have that courtesy.

Not to mention the time it would take to reply to every message, tedious wouldn't come close to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2 hours ago you were going to work and now you're off to sleep? I want your job, OP "

Just start the busy part of my morning as it goes very quite for a time. Haven't managed to get my head down yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of the time when politely declining, the person then tried to start up conversation again by saying thank you for replying etc etc and it gets annoying because you're wasting time on someone you're not interested in!! "

That's very true why I reply and bloke bo wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really dont want to come across as a moaner but I no I will. now like most blokes I dont get many replys and I am happy when I receive if it's a no thanks I tend to bloke and move on after a thanks for your time kind of message. What I am asking for I guess is a bit of kindness in return. Not just a no or f off which i have had some times. Now I've got that of my hairy chest I'd better get to work.

Imagine having 300 messages in your inbox and having to reply to every one of them? It would become a full time job. So its not being ignorant or disrespectful its just not practical to reply to everyone

I really do understand that and I happily move on from no responses. It's when when they do take the time but are then still rude with it. "

Ive taken the time to reply a nice no thanks and been called not so nice names.. some guys cant take rejection so for this i hardly reply any more its just not worth the grief

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