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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am fine with touching licking/sucking Whilst in a 3sum.I have been wanked/held while husband has put me in there wife, also while in 69 have licked the other guy and am fine with close contact dp/dv. But I still consider myself 100% straight, some people have said this is being bi and should put this on profile. What are other peoples views?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel you are bi then yes if you feel ya straight then ya are

Nowt ya have said there makes ya bi in my opinion dont let others label ya till ya sure yourself xx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Im sure the label police will come along and tell you exactly what you are

in the meantime just enjoy exploring and having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said that couple above

I hate labels

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you feel you are bi then yes if you feel ya straight then ya are

Nowt ya have said there makes ya bi in my opinion dont let others label ya till ya sure yourself xx "

I didnt think it did either. Did you not make it too most fabbed then I did try and help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im sure the label police will come along and tell you exactly what you are

in the meantime just enjoy exploring and having fun "

I will do, plus will ignore the label police lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you feel you are bi then yes if you feel ya straight then ya are

Nowt ya have said there makes ya bi in my opinion dont let others label ya till ya sure yourself xx

I didnt think it did either. Did you not make it too most fabbed then I did try and help "

I made it to number two but am still in the running today as well so ya never know lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah soapy just looked damn that fit woman sucking 2 cocks lol x

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am fine with touching licking/sucking Whilst in a 3sum.I have been wanked/held while husband has put me in there wife, also while in 69 have licked the other guy and am fine with close contact dp/dv. But I still consider myself 100% straight, some people have said this is being bi and should put this on profile. What are other peoples views?"

a man after my own heart! Sod the label - the only reason I have curious on mine is that there's a lot of distrust amongst similarly thinking couples looking for guys for mmf fun. seems there's too many 'straight' guys making claims they don't stick to just to get into a girls knickers. At the end of the day if you're happy with a little extra fun it's ultimately your decision as to what, or if you choose to term yourself - all that really matters is that you're enjoying yourself!

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

"

and if you're tri then either you're giving it a whirl or in for a swim a run and a long bike ride

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

and if you're tri then either you're giving it a whirl or in for a swim a run and a long bike ride

Wolf"

done the triathlon a few times never again though its murder lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

and if you're tri then either you're giving it a whirl or in for a swim a run and a long bike ride

Wolf

done the triathlon a few times never again though its murder lol"

don't mind the touching and oral, but my piles!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my partner and i are both bi and we state this and yes it causes problems sometimes because we do get turnrd down but this is what we are but what makes us angry is we get single guys or couples who put str8 on the profile and tell us they are bi and say we say were str8 because people will turn us away .Weboth think this is wrong and will not see anyone that says they are bi but has put str8 on the profile .If your bi or curiouse dont be ashamed be proud and balls to people who turn you down xx

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

and if you're tri then either you're giving it a whirl or in for a swim a run and a long bike ride

Wolf

done the triathlon a few times never again though its murder lol"

I've given many things a tri

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol i bet

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i campaigned in the 80' and 90's for the b to be added to lgbt...at the time gay people tended to say we were just indecisive, or worse

So i take quite a hard line on bi, all sexuality is a spectrum, bi for me means you could have had a life parter of either gender, sexuality is about what happens in the head, not what you do with your gentitals.

Not minding/ enjoying same sex contact in a sexually charged environment doesn't mean anything except you were having a good time and have no particular hang ups about who makes you feel nice.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

"

Eh!

We've met numerous guys who are bi, don't assume all bi / gay guys are into anal, some are not, me included!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

Eh!

We've met numerous guys who are bi, don't assume all bi / gay guys are into anal, some are not, me included!"

Ditto! How many 'straight couples' profiles list anal? Why assume it's just a bi thing? I've certainly no interest in it, either giving or taking - and tbh i've found even with straight couples it's something thats 'mood dependant' - and let's face it - size dependant! I certainly wouldn't want me up my bum! lol

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

In our opinion there's only 2 pigeon holes; "Yes please" & "No thank you".

And you seem to fit nicely into our "Yes Please" hole

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In our opinion there's only 2 pigeon holes; "Yes please" & "No thank you".

And you seem to fit nicely into our "Yes Please" hole "

Why thank you very much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i campaigned in the 80' and 90's for the b to be added to lgbt...at the time gay people tended to say we were just indecisive, or worse

So i take quite a hard line on bi, all sexuality is a spectrum, bi for me means you could have had a life parter of either gender, sexuality is about what happens in the head, not what you do with your gentitals.

Not minding/ enjoying same sex contact in a sexually charged environment doesn't mean anything except you were having a good time and have no particular hang ups about who makes you feel nice."

Can't agree highly enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual."

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey

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By *herryBabyWoman
over a year ago

Enfiield

You don't need to have a label. You like what you like and I bet it depends on your mood too so not always every time. So just enjoy yourself. If you see yourself as straight then you are straight. It isn't anyone else's business just as long as you and the people you play with are happy. Keep having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey"

And you are welcome to your monochrome world. As far as the law stands, and we agree, ANY male on male sexual act is homosexual/bisexual, dependant on the subjects dealings with women. It may make a guy feel much more "butch" to claim he is "straight" but enjoys giving another guy a blowjob, but that is NOT straight.

And for the record, everyone uses labels, if they didn't there would be anarchy.

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By *4FantasyCouple
over a year ago

Spalding


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey

And you are welcome to your monochrome world. As far as the law stands, and we agree, ANY male on male sexual act is homosexual/bisexual, dependant on the subjects dealings with women. It may make a guy feel much more "butch" to claim he is "straight" but enjoys giving another guy a blowjob, but that is NOT straight.

And for the record, everyone uses labels, if they didn't there would be anarchy."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey

And you are welcome to your monochrome world. As far as the law stands, and we agree, ANY male on male sexual act is homosexual/bisexual, dependant on the subjects dealings with women. It may make a guy feel much more "butch" to claim he is "straight" but enjoys giving another guy a blowjob, but that is NOT straight.

And for the record, everyone uses labels, if they didn't there would be anarchy."

I totally disagree with this. I would never meet a man on his own, like I said only in the intimate 3sum would it happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

"

bloody 'ell

i wish i'd known this

could have saved me years of heartache and countless heart to hearts with mrs bus

excuse me for a minute

i'm off to change my profile back to straight

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey

And you are welcome to your monochrome world. As far as the law stands, and we agree, ANY male on male sexual act is homosexual/bisexual, dependant on the subjects dealings with women. It may make a guy feel much more "butch" to claim he is "straight" but enjoys giving another guy a blowjob, but that is NOT straight.

And for the record, everyone uses labels, if they didn't there would be anarchy."

They dont need the label imposed by others...and i am intruiged by which particular law defines bisexuality...even the nhs prefers the term men who have sex with men...

My world isnt monochome, its a wonderful rainbow

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Defined in the statute books........ taking another man's pens in your mouth is a homosexual act. If you also play with women, it means you are bi. You can "feel " what you like, by definition you are bisexual.

so putting your penis in another mans mouth isnt bi

what about mutual masturbation, frottage, watching gay porn or wanking over the idea of being forcedinto sex with another man

Or the straight men who arrange 3 somes cos it means they will come into contact with another mans cock...it must be nice in your black and white world,but mine has far more shades of grey

And you are welcome to your monochrome world. As far as the law stands, and we agree, ANY male on male sexual act is homosexual/bisexual, dependant on the subjects dealings with women. It may make a guy feel much more "butch" to claim he is "straight" but enjoys giving another guy a blowjob, but that is NOT straight.

And for the record, everyone uses labels, if they didn't there would be anarchy.

I totally disagree with this. I would never meet a man on his own, like I said only in the intimate 3sum would it happen "

Dont worry about it, i think someone who

believes their label applies to anyone isnt going to understand sexual exploration.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Whilst those that sneer over it and judge we'll enjoy should the opportunity arise and all are happy to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst those that sneer over it and judge we'll enjoy should the opportunity arise and all are happy to do so.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

For the record we consider ourselves completely 'straight' the fun of swinging allows us to enjoy fun with few boundaries we enjoy bi fun with those that we click with and find sexy enough for us to want to play with them, not just anyone, anyone that we feels right for us. Pretty much anything goes as long as it's safe Certain things we prefer to keep for ourselves, other things we are not into period. Then of course there's accepting others boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For the record we consider ourselves completely 'straight' the fun of swinging allows us to enjoy fun with few boundaries we enjoy bi fun with those that we click with and find sexy enough for us to want to play with them, not just anyone, anyone that we feels right for us. Pretty much anything goes as long as it's safe Certain things we prefer to keep for ourselves, other things we are not into period. Then of course there's accepting others boundaries."

Perfect in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK.....I enter your house. I completely trash the place, smear excrement all over the walls, and remove everything worth taking.

You can't label me a criminal, because I don't see myself that way. I see myself as an underprivileged casualty of a broken society who is entitled to share in the good fortune of others.

Hey! you're right. It's great this. I can do what I want, safe in the knowledge that if I "feel" justified, it's fine, as no one else can label me!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Fair comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to me Mark 77 you are very comfortable with your sexuality, it seems to me, amazingly, not everyone on the site is the same!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems to me Mark 77 you are very comfortable with your sexuality, it seems to me, amazingly, not everyone on the site is the same!"

Yes I am and thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey... good question, I hate labels as well... I always just try to say, i'm not heterosexual, I'm not homosexual, I'm not bisexual, I'm just SEXUAL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I enjoy some male contact while I'm with the girlfriend, but this only extends to receiving/giving a wanking and sucking. I am in not in the slightest bit attracted to men, and I get instantly turned off If I'm being wanked/sucked and they try and touch me anywhere else on my body. I think It's a case of loving my own cock so much that I need a spare lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the argument does need to be followed through though. Both heterosexuals and homosexuals are (to a degree) protected by the law in that they cannot be discriminated against purely on the grounds of sexuality.

I'm less certain that the same privilege is extended to bisexuals, at least not in practice. There is still a deep suspicion of bisexuals in a lot of western societies and in many ways, the legal and to a lesser extent, the social position of people who enjoy sex with both genders is much the same as that of homosexuals about 15-20 years ago.

Currently, it is very unlikely that someone would proudly come out as being bisexual. Even less likely that all of their friends and relatives would be proud and celebratory about such an event. Bisexuality is still marginalised and generally "frowned upon" by polite society as it is seen by the media and many people (and professions) as hedonistic, indecisive, cynical, opportunistic and ultimately not to be tolerated or at least sanctioned.

It might be the 21st Century but it's the sexual Dark Ages in many ways for UK society.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"the argument does need to be followed through though. Both heterosexuals and homosexuals are (to a degree) protected by the law in that they cannot be discriminated against purely on the grounds of sexuality.

I'm less certain that the same privilege is extended to bisexuals, at least not in practice. There is still a deep suspicion of bisexuals in a lot of western societies and in many ways, the legal and to a lesser extent, the social position of people who enjoy sex with both genders is much the same as that of homosexuals about 15-20 years ago.

Currently, it is very unlikely that someone would proudly come out as being bisexual. Even less likely that all of their friends and relatives would be proud and celebratory about such an event. Bisexuality is still marginalised and generally "frowned upon" by polite society as it is seen by the media and many people (and professions) as hedonistic, indecisive, cynical, opportunistic and ultimately not to be tolerated or at least sanctioned.

It might be the 21st Century but it's the sexual Dark Ages in many ways for UK society."

i agree, and it was in my view very hypocritical of the gay community to take the same view...some still do sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"the argument does need to be followed through though. Both heterosexuals and homosexuals are (to a degree) protected by the law in that they cannot be discriminated against purely on the grounds of sexuality.

I'm less certain that the same privilege is extended to bisexuals, at least not in practice. There is still a deep suspicion of bisexuals in a lot of western societies and in many ways, the legal and to a lesser extent, the social position of people who enjoy sex with both genders is much the same as that of homosexuals about 15-20 years ago.

Currently, it is very unlikely that someone would proudly come out as being bisexual. Even less likely that all of their friends and relatives would be proud and celebratory about such an event. Bisexuality is still marginalised and generally "frowned upon" by polite society as it is seen by the media and many people (and professions) as hedonistic, indecisive, cynical, opportunistic and ultimately not to be tolerated or at least sanctioned.

It might be the 21st Century but it's the sexual Dark Ages in many ways for UK society.

i agree, and it was in my view very hypocritical of the gay community to take the same view...some still do sadly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

Eh!

We've met numerous guys who are bi, don't assume all bi / gay guys are into anal, some are not, me included!

Ditto! How many 'straight couples' profiles list anal? Why assume it's just a bi thing? I've certainly no interest in it, either giving or taking - and tbh i've found even with straight couples it's something thats 'mood dependant' - and let's face it - size dependant! I certainly wouldn't want me up my bum! lol "

but you state 'Anal' as one of your interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do - and have had a few anal experiences with women. But I'd have thought my profile name alone would have been enough to indicate my 'bi' interests - reinforced by the clear wording in my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To try and simplify things, in my mind - if you are bi - you take as well as give anal to another bloke.

Eh!

We've met numerous guys who are bi, don't assume all bi / gay guys are into anal, some are not, me included!

Ditto! How many 'straight couples' profiles list anal? Why assume it's just a bi thing? I've certainly no interest in it, either giving or taking - and tbh i've found even with straight couples it's something thats 'mood dependant' - and let's face it - size dependant! I certainly wouldn't want me up my bum! lol "

Here here! Couldn't agree more. Not all Bi males or females are into anal.

Even in the gay community there are both passive and active males...not all gay males like receiving anal!!

Also, we are both still fussy about who we play with...not into to anyone thanks :L

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By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

Having watched this topic since it was started I was eager to see people's response, having had the fantasy an want to play with another man in a touching sense then that in my mind makes me bi-curious. If how ever I enjoyed it then it makes me in my mind bi-sexual.

People saying there straight because they don't meet with same sex for fun doesn't mean they are straight it says they are picky over who/when/ where they choose to indulge in bisexual activity, but at the end of it they will alway be bi. If this isn't the case then please explain to me how someone is defined as bisexual? As I can see it if you enjoy playing with the same sex then you can only be bi, or at the very least bi-curious.

I do stand how ever to be corrected in that thought of mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i campaigned in the 80' and 90's for the b to be added to lgbt...at the time gay people tended to say we were just indecisive, or worse

So i take quite a hard line on bi, all sexuality is a spectrum, bi for me means you could have had a life parter of either gender, sexuality is about what happens in the head, not what you do with your gentitals.

Not minding/ enjoying same sex contact in a sexually charged environment doesn't mean anything except you were having a good time and have no particular hang ups about who makes you feel nice."

I'm kind of with this opinion...to me being bisexual would mean you could have a relationship with someone of either sex. I like the idea of sexuality being a spectrum, but I guess for the 'labels' on this site I would class someone who enjoys playing with both sexes, but would only have a heterosexual relationship as being bi-curious.

I'm sure plenty of people won't agree, but I think being listed as strictly straight if you do enjoy some same sex action isn't really being true to yourself? Unless I'm completely misunderstanding what bi-curious means!!

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