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By *ecadent Vice OP   Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Hey everyone, I'm relatively new to this site and to the scene in general. Still getting my feet wet and reaching out to people.

Apart from trying to stand out as a dick among dicks, any advice for conversations?

I know we're all here for the same thing but do you prefer having someone to talk to about normal stuff and find out who you are or do you actually like the quick fix dirty talk that seems to run rampant.

Thanks for your time and input, hope you all have a great day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the fact my profiles hidden atm it actually says on mine "if you wouldn't say it to me if you met me out then don't say it at all!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, we are not all here for the 'same thing'. Some people are here just to perv the pics and maybe go on cams, some are just for the forums, some are looking for cyber sex only, some want a FB/FWB etc. Generalising is not going to get you far.

With messages- best to relate to something on the profile, it shows you have read it. And have a think about what you put in your message- even though this is considered to be a sex site, not everyone wants a fully-blown conversation about what you want to do to each other, in great detail. You wouldn't approach someone in a pub, or even in a swingers club, and go for the big guns straight away, would you?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Yes, where did this whole ' we are all here for the same thing' start, I too have found people are on here for many different things. Just talk like you would to anyone op, maybe stick out a bit by mentioning why a person's profile attracted your attention in the first place, but don't be a kiss arse.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Best advice I can give is to be yourself. Off you like the quick fix, dirty chaat go with that. If you prefer more normal chat then that is the way to go.

Doing this will mean that you connect with people who are compatible with you. Faking it to get a response will become apparent in the end and just makes you look desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, we are not all here for the 'same thing'. Some people are here just to perv the pics and maybe go on cams, some are just for the forums, some are looking for cyber sex only, some want a FB/FWB etc. Generalising is not going to get you far.

With messages- best to relate to something on the profile, it shows you have read it. And have a think about what you put in your message- even though this is considered to be a sex site, not everyone wants a fully-blown conversation about what you want to do to each other, in great detail. You wouldn't approach someone in a pub, or even in a swingers club, and go for the big guns straight away, would you? "

perfect response

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By *ecadent Vice OP   Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Hey thank you all, that is some great advice

As I said I'm still getting used to this website and what to expect.

But all your advice makes sense and I will be taking that on board on my fab adventure.

Thanks again

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Hey everyone, I'm relatively new to this site and to the scene in general. Still getting my feet wet and reaching out to people.

Apart from trying to stand out as a dick among dicks, any advice for conversations?

I know we're all here for the same thing but do you prefer having someone to talk to about normal stuff and find out who you are or do you actually like the quick fix dirty talk that seems to run rampant.

Thanks for your time and input, hope you all have a great day. "

Well you do stand out but not sure how many that look will appeal to. Lots of luck to you though, party on Ginger Garth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found chatting about anything but sex until it is brought up, helps. I joke about being a man, who cleans his house etc. Ask open questions. Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be you instead of trying to squish yourself into a fab shaped box

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Don’t start messaging with ‘Hi, how you doing ?’ or something just as generic and boring, it’ll most likely be deleted very quickly.

Read profiles understand what they’re looking for and try to keep fairly close to your area, unless you’re willing to travel great distances.

Be imaginative and unique, hopefully this will ensure you stand out from the rest.

Enjoy Op it’s not a bad site, plenty of decent people

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