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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages! "

To no avail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s about honesty and understanding but first of all knowing yourself and what you can handle and what you seek,

The rest is the fun part in just exploring and finding the right person for you.

I’ve neen fortunate to find some very lovely people who I call friends first...everything else is a bonus!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Not had much luck with them, they o ly wanted the benefits when it suited them with the exception of one who is now in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been looking for a while aswell , but not had any luck

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By *appysunflowerWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yep had a couple in the past but no longer

Still looking but nothing as yet. Ones you think maybe then just disappear

I'm thinking of becoming a nun much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s possible but they are hard to find. And you have to remorselessly police your boundaries, which can be tiring. And when it goes tits up because they acted like a dick or got jealous of your other meets, everyone assumes you were trying to make it exclusive or pursue them to the altar, which is irritating.

That said, regular sex with a likeminded acquaintance can be a wonderful thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done nothing but fwbs for 25 years and love it! Harder on fab because it depends on 2 people being on the same page but if you're both honest from the start it seems to work out ok ... It's easier if you go for the friend side first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No luck here I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had a friend with benefits, and we were exclusive, wouldn’t that be a boyfriend? Or girlfriend?

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"If I had a friend with benefits, and we were exclusive, wouldn’t that be a boyfriend? Or girlfriend?"

No because you’re not making ‘life’ decisions together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done nothing but fwbs for 25 years and love it! Harder on fab because it depends on 2 people being on the same page but if you're both honest from the start it seems to work out ok ... It's easier if you go for the friend side first "

Couldn’t have put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

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It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

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By *attywailerMan
over a year ago

Lithuania, Klaipeda

Same here, still looking for one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shaz has had 1 or 2 fwb's in the past, one for over 3 years but nothing recent, not sure if Shaz just getting more fussy, men getting more fussy or times are just changing.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've done nothing but fwbs for 25 years and love it! Harder on fab because it depends on 2 people being on the same page but if you're both honest from the start it seems to work out ok ... It's easier if you go for the friend side first "

This is exactly it ! I want friends first.....men are struggling with the concept!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done nothing but fwbs for 25 years and love it! Harder on fab because it depends on 2 people being on the same page but if you're both honest from the start it seems to work out ok ... It's easier if you go for the friend side first

This is exactly it ! I want friends first.....men are struggling with the concept!!!! "

It’s exactly what we each want too.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I would say a good fwb is hard to find, especially a long term one. And an exclusive one even harder on here (for obvious reasons). Experiance tells me how well you can expect to be treated and how long it last depends to what extent the nature of your freindship is base on freindship over sex. When the main motivation for making freinds is for a mutral sexual arrangement people tend to keep their options open and(often secretly) not adverse to moving on to newer pastures. They also tend to be actively seeking new mates while with you as a fwb. This is often why people like a no strings arrangement (of course nothing wrong with that if honest). But you can quickly find your fwb losing interest and/or time for you. You soon find out the benifits aspect being way more important than the freinds aspect to them. I would always say in general don't expect to much in terms of loyalty and freindship in a fwb situation, it tends to be a fickle arrangement. Loyalty and an on going commitment to prioritise you is very hard to find outside of the confines of a committed form of relationship. Arguably more so with such an endly open market of other potential mates offered on here (and other sites). You'll never really know what the other person intent towards you and them is thorough their words, only really through their long term action.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've had a couple, takes ages to find them but it's worth it. Never exclusive though, that's tipping over into bf/gf territory and I'm not interested in that.

Currently looking

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

I'd live to be one. In fact i'd love to be two.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I think most of us are looking for that special friend with benefits, , I'm here and waiting to be found ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd live to be one. In fact i'd love to be two. "

I'd love to have (at least) two, but it's proving impossible to find even one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages! "

They happen unexpectedly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found ours through what was supposed to be a one of meet, but quickly found we got on great clothes on and off.

We now do vanilla dates as much as we do play dates, all our kids play together and we're taking holidays together.

No, we're not exclusive to each other but we do include each other as much as is practical to do so, but distance is a big factor so we try and see each other at least once a month.

It's worked out great, and we really couldn't imagine life without them even if they wanted to go completely vanilla.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull


"I'd live to be one. In fact i'd love to be two.

I'd love to have (at least) two, but it's proving impossible to find even one! "

I know that problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say a good fwb is hard to find, especially a long term one. And an exclusive one even harder on here (for obvious reasons). Experiance tells me how well you can expect to be treated and how long it last depends to what extent the nature of your freindship is base on freindship over sex. When the main motivation for making freinds is for a mutral sexual arrangement people tend to keep their options open and(often secretly) not adverse to moving on to newer pastures. They also tend to be actively seeking new mates while with you as a fwb. This is often why people like a no strings arrangement (of course nothing wrong with that if honest). But you can quickly find your fwb losing interest and/or time for you. You soon find out the benifits aspect being way more important than the freinds aspect to them. I would always say in general don't expect to much in terms of loyalty and freindship in a fwb situation, it tends to be a fickle arrangement. Loyalty and an on going commitment to prioritise you is very hard to find outside of the confines of a committed form of relationship. Arguably more so with such an endly open market of other potential mates offered on here (and other sites). You'll never really know what the other person intent towards you and them is thorough their words, only really through their long term action."

I actually disagree with parts of this ... the secret is the friend bit - forget sex that's an addition which is why it doesn't seem to work on here because what most people want is a fb they are friends with. As with all friendships honesty and trust is paramount ... you wouldn't go to a wedding with someone you didn't trust? Also there is no exclusivity with a fwb anymore than a friend has other friends! It's just 2 adults who are both single at the same time enjoying everyday things like any other friendship... the benefit is in the fact that when it happens you can have awesome sex but like any friendship things are neither here nor there nor set in stone!

I've had one fwb for 14 years, another for 8.5 years and even off here have managed 2 years with 1 and a year with another! But we're friends firstly and we do friend things as with any other friendship but with an added (but never expected) bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We found ours through what was supposed to be a one of meet, but quickly found we got on great clothes on and off.

We now do vanilla dates as much as we do play dates, all our kids play together and we're taking holidays together.

No, we're not exclusive to each other but we do include each other as much as is practical to do so, but distance is a big factor so we try and see each other at least once a month.

It's worked out great, and we really couldn't imagine life without them even if they wanted to go completely vanilla. "

This is absolutely perfect!! Brilliant!

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

It’s possible. It’s amazing. It can be simple and fun. It is possible to find someone who you have consistently great sex, a good laugh, good conversation, nothing too serious and no pressure....

All I can say is being honest straight up, not playing games and just putting it out there and asking for what you want might just work! In the uk you certainly have the advantages of many likeminded and open minded people on Fab.

As for exclusivity... that’s for you both to decide - I have experienced that and maybe when trust is built and you feel more relaxed in your circumstances you can open things up...

good luck x x x

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

Not of any substance, I’ve got some great friends from here, but total friend zoned, with no play just socials now and I’ve meet quite a few people more than once.

I think fwb is a balancing act of friendship and emotional trust, not found that with anyone yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had 2 FWB over 5 years on fab. Parted company now but would love the experience again. Sadly hasn't happened yet

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

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Might be a small point but you maybe making things harder by not stating your location?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I would say a good fwb is hard to find, especially a long term one. And an exclusive one even harder on here (for obvious reasons). Experiance tells me how well you can expect to be treated and how long it last depends to what extent the nature of your freindship is base on freindship over sex. When the main motivation for making freinds is for a mutral sexual arrangement people tend to keep their options open and(often secretly) not adverse to moving on to newer pastures. They also tend to be actively seeking new mates while with you as a fwb. This is often why people like a no strings arrangement (of course nothing wrong with that if honest). But you can quickly find your fwb losing interest and/or time for you. You soon find out the benifits aspect being way more important than the freinds aspect to them. I would always say in general don't expect to much in terms of loyalty and freindship in a fwb situation, it tends to be a fickle arrangement. Loyalty and an on going commitment to prioritise you is very hard to find outside of the confines of a committed form of relationship. Arguably more so with such an endly open market of other potential mates offered on here (and other sites). You'll never really know what the other person intent towards you and them is thorough their words, only really through their long term action.

I actually disagree with parts of this ... the secret is the friend bit - forget sex that's an addition which is why it doesn't seem to work on here because what most people want is a fb they are friends with. As with all friendships honesty and trust is paramount ... you wouldn't go to a wedding with someone you didn't trust? Also there is no exclusivity with a fwb anymore than a friend has other friends! It's just 2 adults who are both single at the same time enjoying everyday things like any other friendship... the benefit is in the fact that when it happens you can have awesome sex but like any friendship things are neither here nor there nor set in stone!

I've had one fwb for 14 years, another for 8.5 years and even off here have managed 2 years with 1 and a year with another! But we're friends firstly and we do friend things as with any other friendship but with an added (but never expected) bonus! "

I'm not sure we are in disagreement per se. If anything you add content of the flip side of what I was talking about and what happens when both parties are more about freinds than benifits. My point was that often people or at least one party (sometimes dishonestly) is in more for the sex than the freindship. I argue a good FWB is hard to find, but I don't say it's impossible. Its great to hear you've hard some great long term ones and maybe that's partly credit to your ability find and pick good ones.

All you stated above is possible. I've had good lady freinds who later became fwb as circumstances and desire allowed. If anything the sex was an extention of our freindship and bond. But circumstances change, they are in committed monogomus relationships now. But really nothing has changed, they are still close friends and the love and bond is still there, it's just we don't have sex anymore. Which is fine because our freindship was never about sex, it was just something that we shared together when the circumstances gave us the freedom to.

All I am saying is that experiance tell me good fwb are hard to find especially when people seek driven by the benifits side over the freinds side. And also people can be a bit fickle and/or dishonest about their true intent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still hopeful I will find one - although sometimes it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Over the (too) many years I’ve spent on fab I have been fortunate enough to find a couple of ladies where the arrangement has been more than just a casual hook up.

It seems feelings and emotions get in the way and that’s what seems to bring things to an end, which is always disappointing.

Still looking for the right lady or hot wife coupe though.

HG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

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Would be perfect for me at the moment. No time for a relationship, someone with their own life just wanting to meet up occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're still looking too. We know they're somewhere out there it's just finding them

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been looking for ages as well. No luck so far x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously I'm not sure "looking" is the answer... friendships come about and evolve. You can't find a friend

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

Might be a small point but you maybe making things harder by not stating your location? "

Remedied that now thanks.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I have a few...

We are not exclusive to just us.

They meet other people as do I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd live to be one. In fact i'd love to be two.

I'd love to have (at least) two, but it's proving impossible to find even one! "

If only you were nearer

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’ve given up ....

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By *ilky barkedMan
over a year ago

london


"I’ve given up .... "

Never give up;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my fwb as a, probable, one off meet, we spoke about what we wanted and needed,spent almost 12 hours talking and fucking and have seen eachother almost every day for the past 2 and a half years and cohabited for almost a year. It works well for us, most other people don't really understand how we are not a "proper" couple but we are as close as we want to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep... We all want one it seems. But it can be elusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve given up ....

Never give up;) "

There comes a point where giving is the best thing you can do, for the sake of your own wellbeing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard to find a woman on (FAB) full stop for sex.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I've been looking for ages for just one guy to meet regularly but most I come across are mostly married or with a gf

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive got quite a few gentlemen friends. Ive known most since before fab. How did it happen? Just guys that i met and ended up getting on really well with. We became comfortable with each other and they still come back. Are we exclusive? No not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

They happen unexpectedly x"

Absolutely, especially if neither of you is actually looking for that...

It's probably easier to meet someone in a club rather than on fab, you get chance to see if you click and if there is the right sexual chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my fwb as a, probable, one off meet, we spoke about what we wanted and needed,spent almost 12 hours talking and fucking and have seen eachother almost every day for the past 2 and a half years and cohabited for almost a year. It works well for us, most other people don't really understand how we are not a "proper" couple but we are as close as we want to be. "

Aahh... We are not exclusive btw and we play as a couple with others aswell as separately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still looking!! Apply within xx

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

still looking.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

I'm open to the idea now single in leeds this weekwk and Nottingham

please mail me to start the conversation

Personality as important as looks

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope."

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope."

Sounds like an interesting arrangement.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"still looking."

Mail.me see if we get on

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb. "

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......"

I know, it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......"

Tbh there is a huge difference between a proper fwb and a fab fwb and most people on here seem to think a fwb is, in all reality, a fb who you get on with, chat and have a coffee!

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I'm super lucky to have met a FWB through this site. We play, hang out, game etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking too. Had one 12months ago but she turned sensible lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......

Tbh there is a huge difference between a proper fwb and a fab fwb and most people on here seem to think a fwb is, in all reality, a fb who you get on with, chat and have a coffee! "

Maybe people who are after a fwb are just having to take what they can get?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......

Tbh there is a huge difference between a proper fwb and a fab fwb and most people on here seem to think a fwb is, in all reality, a fb who you get on with, chat and have a coffee!

Maybe people who are after a fwb are just having to take what they can get?"

Or not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met by best friend on here.

We hooked up for what was supposed to be a casual night of fun but got on really well. Since then we have enjoyed lots of fun but also became good friends. We have been there for each other through the ups and downs and enjoyed normal vanilla mates dates.

We were never exclusive and it was mentioned lots about each of us meeting others, but we never did.

These days we live too far away to meet regularly and are now platonic friends.

So it may make me picky, but that is what i hope for from fab these days..

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By *ust chilled out meMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

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They can be very elusive I've found anyway

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By *ecks74Woman
over a year ago

wrexham

Mine Fwb was one of the first guys I met on here. We hit it off from day one and for a few months we both met other people; however for the last year or so we have been pretty much exclusive and have met as a couple since then. We are both married and at times it’s been hard not to overstep the boundaries into something more. We both know it’s wrong and can’t carry on forever but it’s also hard just to walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

Been looking since joined,but live in hope

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Ive got quite a few gentlemen friends. Ive known most since before fab. How did it happen? Just guys that i met and ended up getting on really well with. We became comfortable with each other and they still come back. Are we exclusive? No not at all"

This...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still looking.

Ideally someone in Crewe/ Stoke/Derby/Walsall areas.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Would love to have an FWB... Any one willing to give me a try?? M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It’s pretty tricky. We want one each for occasional fun but they are so hard to come by. We live in hope.

Then that's a fuck buddy or a hook up, not a fwb.

Lots of men on here are confused with ‘fb’ and ‘fwb’, they think it’s the same......

Tbh there is a huge difference between a proper fwb and a fab fwb and most people on here seem to think a fwb is, in all reality, a fb who you get on with, chat and have a coffee! "

I think there are no rules, and what we require from these arrangements varies with our life situation. Someone in a secure long term relationship will want something different to a singleton who feels they can’t sustain an LTR, for whatever reason. But it can be tricky to maintain a non-committed relationship if you’re a committed type of person.

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Looking too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

"

I'm seriously considering giving up trying to find one..

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

I'm seriously considering giving up trying to find one.. "

I’m considering that too....

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Join the 'given up club' - did used to have a FB rather than a FWB, nothing friendly about it, just she used me when she wanted fucking and vice versa, nothing exclusive just someone there for a hard cold fuck when it was needed !

The FWB is a bit more complicated I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up looking.

Investing my trust in another on here never seems to go well, and the definition of friends seems remarkably flexible to some.

Without the friendship, the benefits are a little limited....

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I found it pretty easy. My first fk on here turned into a very regular and long term thing.

I think you both have to be able to be spontaneous to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like finding a needle in a haystack..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for a hot lady for meals out, cinema.. The sex is an added bonus.. Seems I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I'll keep looking

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I’m finding the guys who I could potentially have a FWB relationship live miles away.. I’m good to drive, but no more than an hours drive from Swindon!

I’ve now currently just do the clubs, and meet mostly couples, it’s hard sometimes as I feel like I’m the spare wheel, and I’m just improving their sex life?!

Be great to find a partner in crime, who would also be a friend, go to clubs, meets and even travel to swinging destinations...

I live in hope xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impossible . I think the unicorn is easier to find .

It seems that it is easier to find a fck and goes than a regular fck buddy or a fwb.

Hope you find OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been looking for a fwb since I arrived on here not even had a chat due to the amount of fellas ha

But am staying hopeful fingers and toes crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like finding a needle in a haystack.. "

A needle is a doddle to find in comparison with a fwb

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

We are out there looking to ,

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

They happen unexpectedly x

Absolutely, especially if neither of you is actually looking for that...

It's probably easier to meet someone in a club rather than on fab, you get chance to see if you click and if there is the right sexual chemistry

"

I agree and really love the ‘unexpected ‘. However, at my age and location, clubs are no longer an option. Like to think I’m still fit and not bad looking but the days of eye contact, a smile, some chat etc, are mostly gone. The idea of meeting someone in a supermarket as bandied about on dating sites is an unrealistic fantasy.

As I’m just out of an intense 15 month relationship that ended badly, I’m not looking to go straight back in but do miss / want / crave the company of attractive intelligent women. Looking for more than the occasional fuck but not ready for full time - I like sleeping alone! Most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its proving more and more difficult but I live in hope to find someone on the same page as me..definitely not the jealous type and someone that wants an adventure..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its finding exactly what you want I expect ..for me i need to find mentally stimulating as well as physically not always easy to find both together lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

They happen unexpectedly x

Absolutely, especially if neither of you is actually looking for that...

It's probably easier to meet someone in a club rather than on fab, you get chance to see if you click and if there is the right sexual chemistry

I agree and really love the ‘unexpected ‘. However, at my age and location, clubs are no longer an option. Like to think I’m still fit and not bad looking but the days of eye contact, a smile, some chat etc, are mostly gone. The idea of meeting someone in a supermarket as bandied about on dating sites is an unrealistic fantasy.

As I’m just out of an intense 15 month relationship that ended badly, I’m not looking to go straight back in but do miss / want / crave the company of attractive intelligent women. Looking for more than the occasional fuck but not ready for full time - I like sleeping alone! Most of the time.

"

That’s rather sad to read Seb. I know clubs down south differ from up here, but Sundays in Quest seem to be dominated by a group of randy couples in their late fifties and sixties all having a whale of a time. They take over the orgy room! Come to Leeds. I’ll convince you there are opportunities yet..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been wanting this myself searching still goin on any1 interested

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

"

Not hard at all.

But it wasn't something I set out to find, or was looking for either.

Just happened.. Several times

Exclusive? Absolutely not!

But there is respect & honesty. If any of us are arranging something else then the other is always aware.

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By *arkhorse66Man
over a year ago

bristol

I have been fortunate enough to enjoy fwb over most of my time on Fab. One or two ended cos feelings were getting too strong and I found not being exclusive helps keep that in balance.

In each case the friendship almost built first with chatting (and flirting) for a while before meeting. Whilst the initial meets were focused on pleasure the friendships grew and we spent time together doing other things in addition to playing.

Spent Easter Sunday at the beach with my fwb and had a great day.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It would be nice to have a fwb but I've come to the conclusion if your actively looking it will make it harder to find, just enjoy yourself making friends and such and the elusive fwb will turn up at some point when you least expect it

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

Well, I met someone on Fab, we had a few socials then "met' properly.

Found we got on really well as friends too, so now have a couples profile.

I'd say thats a FWB.

Didn't go looking for one. Just found each other.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

They happen unexpectedly x

Absolutely, especially if neither of you is actually looking for that...

It's probably easier to meet someone in a club rather than on fab, you get chance to see if you click and if there is the right sexual chemistry

I agree and really love the ‘unexpected ‘. However, at my age and location, clubs are no longer an option. Like to think I’m still fit and not bad looking but the days of eye contact, a smile, some chat etc, are mostly gone. The idea of meeting someone in a supermarket as bandied about on dating sites is an unrealistic fantasy.

As I’m just out of an intense 15 month relationship that ended badly, I’m not looking to go straight back in but do miss / want / crave the company of attractive intelligent women. Looking for more than the occasional fuck but not ready for full time - I like sleeping alone! Most of the time.

That’s rather sad to read Seb. I know clubs down south differ from up here, but Sundays in Quest seem to be dominated by a group of randy couples in their late fifties and sixties all having a whale of a time. They take over the orgy room! Come to Leeds. I’ll convince you there are opportunities yet.."

Thanks. I’ve tried and enjoyed a few clubs. I met some lovely people had some fantastic conversations and even a little play. Was conscious of being a single guy though. I’d considered Quest as I lived in York most of last year. My son has recently moved there for work. I’ll take you up on that offer if I may? In fact, I need to be in Manchester this coming Sunday to watch Chelsea so could do Saturday at Quest?

Tried to PM but I’m too old.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We thought we'd found one after 4 years and she left the site lol gutted so the search continues

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably."

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally It’s all about meeting someone local enough that you see each other enough to be even classed as FWB or FB. It’s luck of the draw, a local women after the same thing as you is essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

"

It's like trying to plait fog whilst herding cats

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit. "

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples. "

With respect- what’s it got to do with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples.

With respect- what’s it got to do with you?"

It’s an open forum so people can comment as the see fit, within the site rules.

MissJ doesn’t vary her age requirements either thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ideally It’s all about meeting someone local enough that you see each other enough to be even classed as FWB or FB. It’s luck of the draw, a local women after the same thing as you is essential."

Not necessarily. Our fwb's live 2.5 hours away and we make it work easily enough.

As long as both make the effort it can be done over distance.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples.

With respect- what’s it got to do with you?

It’s an open forum so people can comment as the see fit, within the site rules.

MissJ doesn’t vary her age requirements either thanks."

Thankyou.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples.

With respect- what’s it got to do with you?"

With respect, why are you disrespecting peoples preferences?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Seems we are all finding it really difficult. We make it even more complex in that we are quite attracted by the idea of going off to our respective fuck buddies on the same day every week/month and then coming back with big grins on our faces. So we’ve made the difficult impossible probably.

What an exciting way to live and enjoy all that life offers. Tried to pm but I’m over your age limit.

Are you actually reading profiles and preferences re age before you try to pm?! A lot of the time these aren't actually wanted by people who post comments on the forum. You have age preferences yourself perhaps you need to respect other peoples.

With respect- what’s it got to do with you?

With respect, why are you disrespecting peoples preferences? "

I haven’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The big question on fab!!! I’ve been looking for ages!

They happen unexpectedly x

Absolutely, especially if neither of you is actually looking for that...

It's probably easier to meet someone in a club rather than on fab, you get chance to see if you click and if there is the right sexual chemistry

I agree and really love the ‘unexpected ‘. However, at my age and location, clubs are no longer an option. Like to think I’m still fit and not bad looking but the days of eye contact, a smile, some chat etc, are mostly gone. The idea of meeting someone in a supermarket as bandied about on dating sites is an unrealistic fantasy.

As I’m just out of an intense 15 month relationship that ended badly, I’m not looking to go straight back in but do miss / want / crave the company of attractive intelligent women. Looking for more than the occasional fuck but not ready for full time - I like sleeping alone! Most of the time.

That’s rather sad to read Seb. I know clubs down south differ from up here, but Sundays in Quest seem to be dominated by a group of randy couples in their late fifties and sixties all having a whale of a time. They take over the orgy room! Come to Leeds. I’ll convince you there are opportunities yet..

Thanks. I’ve tried and enjoyed a few clubs. I met some lovely people had some fantastic conversations and even a little play. Was conscious of being a single guy though. I’d considered Quest as I lived in York most of last year. My son has recently moved there for work. I’ll take you up on that offer if I may? In fact, I need to be in Manchester this coming Sunday to watch Chelsea so could do Saturday at Quest?

Tried to PM but I’m too old. "

It’s not that you’re ‘too old’. It’s because you’re a man, lol. I’ll message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps if two people want to make it work they will find their own way of doing so....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Perhaps if two people want to make it work they will find their own way of doing so...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of mine have been fwb for past 5 yrs on here. Think it's ones approach to fab and if you come across as a regular meeter or a one off which draws the same type towards oneself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

"

It worked in the past and then became a bit complicated because he wasn't honest and you have to be honest just like in any other arrangement.

I have found fwb recently, we both are looking for the same kind of experiences together but still want our own experiences so aren't exclusive to eachother. We are still finding our feet together and learning about what works and what doesn't. Everything is perfect in as far as we are both in relationships and playing with permission so have the same circumstances, he is local so no traveling a distance and he is eager for new experiences and happy to let me have them to. We had to lay some rules after a bump in the road and hopefully that will make things better now. The arrangement should work for both of you. If you want exclusivity then you need to be on the same page from the start. If either of you changes your mind then be honest and it can be really fun and convinient and lead to lots of fun experiences

Hope you find what you are looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ideally It’s all about meeting someone local enough that you see each other enough to be even classed as FWB or FB. It’s luck of the draw, a local women after the same thing as you is essential.

Not necessarily. Our fwb's live 2.5 hours away and we make it work easily enough.

As long as both make the effort it can be done over distance. "

Well that’s good if your prepared to venture out that far but 2.5 hours is quite sometime to travel. I’d imagine most people would like to me someone local or localish to their home or hometown

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We'd travel if we made a connection and we all really liked eachother,maybe not every week or month coz we don't want to meet that often we're happy enough we each other but we'd travel a hour or so

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)

I've never had much trouble finding fwb's...guess I'm just lucky

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've never had much trouble finding fwb's...guess I'm just lucky "

Guess so well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had much trouble finding fwb's...guess I'm just lucky

Guess so well done "

I think I'd you're after a single female fwb it's always going to be difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a fantastic fwb that I met on here that we meet up every week or too drink have fun go for Sunday lunch and have wild sex. Both free to do whatever they want no hassle so I even ask him advice about other fab meets at times.

I’ve sussed that if I start feeling like am getting attached tho go on a shagging spree ha ha

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've never had much trouble finding fwb's...guess I'm just lucky

Guess so well done

I think I'd you're after a single female fwb it's always going to be difficult. "

Yes it's very difficult it's took us 2 years to meet 1 female lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had much trouble finding fwb's...guess I'm just lucky

Guess so well done

I think I'd you're after a single female fwb it's always going to be difficult.

Yes it's very difficult it's took us 2 years to meet 1 female lol "

It's almost like single bi women are rare around here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve got a fantastic fwb that I met on here that we meet up every week or too drink have fun go for Sunday lunch and have wild sex. Both free to do whatever they want no hassle so I even ask him advice about other fab meets at times.

I’ve sussed that if I start feeling like am getting attached tho go on a shagging spree ha ha "

Yeah I have done that before

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I’ve got a fantastic fwb that I met on here that we meet up every week or too drink have fun go for Sunday lunch and have wild sex. Both free to do whatever they want no hassle so I even ask him advice about other fab meets at times.

I’ve sussed that if I start feeling like am getting attached tho go on a shagging spree ha ha

Yeah I have done that before "

Lol wanna try us

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Tonight cam we all make quest in leeds tonight to discuss further!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve got a fantastic fwb that I met on here that we meet up every week or too drink have fun go for Sunday lunch and have wild sex. Both free to do whatever they want no hassle so I even ask him advice about other fab meets at times.

I’ve sussed that if I start feeling like am getting attached tho go on a shagging spree ha ha

Yeah I have done that before

Lol wanna try us "

You two are already on my hotlist, you just need to come to Wales remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ideally It’s all about meeting someone local enough that you see each other enough to be even classed as FWB or FB. It’s luck of the draw, a local women after the same thing as you is essential.

Not necessarily. Our fwb's live 2.5 hours away and we make it work easily enough.

As long as both make the effort it can be done over distance.

Well that’s good if your prepared to venture out that far but 2.5 hours is quite sometime to travel. I’d imagine most people would like to me someone local or localish to their home or hometown "

My last 2 were a taxi ride away or one would cycle to mine. It was much easier to hang out when we were local. We could do things spontaneously more often.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I’ve got a fantastic fwb that I met on here that we meet up every week or too drink have fun go for Sunday lunch and have wild sex. Both free to do whatever they want no hassle so I even ask him advice about other fab meets at times.

I’ve sussed that if I start feeling like am getting attached tho go on a shagging spree ha ha

Yeah I have done that before

Lol wanna try us

You two are already on my hotlist, you just need to come to Wales remember "

Lol are we?? Didn't think we was on anyone's holist.. well in that case we best make some arrangements and get ourselves to Wales xx

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By *arry_UkMan
over a year ago

sunderland

Been looking on here for a few years but never seems to find one

It’s hard work

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

It is easier for women to find one

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Can anyone male quest Leeds tonight to disciss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard enough finding friends, let alone one's with benefits.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

What's the woman's definition of FWB?

What's the man's definition of FWB?

There seems to be a discrepancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my views on FWB is like a friend, you meet up on occasions, have a laugh, plenty of banter and that added fun in the bedroom.. or wherever the genitals end up out.. looking for one myself

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Quest tonight

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Been trying to find a regular FWB for ages locally but for some reason it's proving quite difficult.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

It feels nigh on impossible! One day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be BWF too! Benefits with friends

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"It would be nice to have a fwb but I've come to the conclusion if your actively looking it will make it harder to find, just enjoy yourself making friends and such and the elusive fwb will turn up at some point when you least expect it"

I do agree with this - for all I'm putting it out there that I'm open to it, it's not really something you should look for actively I guess - it develops naturally over time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the woman's definition of FWB?

What's the man's definition of FWB?

There seems to be a discrepancy "

Someone I would spend time with socially as a friend, say seeing a film with, and also having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been trying to find a regular FWB for ages locally but for some reason it's proving quite difficult."

That 'locally' is a big part of it.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Fwb Leeds arearequired

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fwb Leeds arearequired"

You'll have to put in a bit more effort than spamminf FWB threads with semi-literate one-liners.

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By *opite_xWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’m on fab for NSA and I’m on other sites for relationship stuff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is easier for women to find one"

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found that it’s impossible to have a friend with benefits. For me at least.

It always gets too complicated and lines get blurred. I envy those that can prevent that from happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is easier for women to find one

How? "

Is that like, it's easier for single bi ladies to find other single bi ladies to play with?

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West


"It is easier for women to find one

How? "
A woman can go on here, say who wants sex, and would find atleast one suitable person in their inbox. Women say jump, men ask how high, well some do

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"It is easier for women to find one

How? A woman can go on here, say who wants sex, and would find atleast one suitable person in their inbox. Women say jump, men ask how high, well some do "

It's sweet that you think that. Shame it's not correct

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It is easier for women to find one

How? A woman can go on here, say who wants sex, and would find atleast one suitable person in their inbox. Women say jump, men ask how high, well some do "

That’s so untrue!!!

Step out of cloud cuckoo land!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I'm looking for a friend with benefits

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"It is easier for women to find one

How? A woman can go on here, say who wants sex, and would find atleast one suitable person in their inbox. Women say jump, men ask how high, well some do

That’s so untrue!!!

Fancy a dtink

Step out of cloud cuckoo land!

"

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Fancy a drinl

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Fancy a drinl"

No thank you.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Any more to add to this before the thread got hijacked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t say what I call a traditional FWB on here but I have found people that have become friends with benefits, logistics permitting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to find one. Rather than quickish little chat, fuck and leave types.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I think this is a typical case of SOME men thinking women have it all their own way on fab and can find anything they want at the click of their fingers.

Yes there are many more men on fab than women (and couples) and yes if a woman just wanted a shag I am sure she could find one, but many women on here and many men are fussy they know what they want and don't just want a quick fuck.

so I suppose it is hard to find what you want, as a man, a couple or a woman.

as for the thread being hijacked …. its fab try find one that hasn't been !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say a good fwb is hard to find, especially a long term one. And an exclusive one even harder on here (for obvious reasons). Experiance tells me how well you can expect to be treated and how long it last depends to what extent the nature of your freindship is base on freindship over sex. When the main motivation for making freinds is for a mutral sexual arrangement people tend to keep their options open and(often secretly) not adverse to moving on to newer pastures. They also tend to be actively seeking new mates while with you as a fwb. This is often why people like a no strings arrangement (of course nothing wrong with that if honest). But you can quickly find your fwb losing interest and/or time for you. You soon find out the benifits aspect being way more important than the freinds aspect to them. I would always say in general don't expect to much in terms of loyalty and freindship in a fwb situation, it tends to be a fickle arrangement. Loyalty and an on going commitment to prioritise you is very hard to find outside of the confines of a committed form of relationship. Arguably more so with such an endly open market of other potential mates offered on here (and other sites). You'll never really know what the other person intent towards you and them is thorough their words, only really through their long term action."
This rings so true in my experience. I was on this site a few years ago and came back on last year. In my experience it would be difficult to find a fwb on here. I met my fwb on another site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is easier for women to find one

How? A woman can go on here, say who wants sex, and would find atleast one suitable person in their inbox. Women say jump, men ask how high, well some do "

So not true .

Ah you are confusing sex and fwb .

Like a women on here looking for an instant shag then yes she going to be undated with offers of an instant shag but I thought this thread was about how difficult it was to find a FWB not an instant shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

It's like trying to plait fog whilst herding cats "

Haha... This!

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Musing again.

How does one find a FWB on Fab?

How hard has it been to find one?

If you have one are you exclusive to each other? How did you make that happen?

Bhubaysi

"

If ever find out, don;t keep it a secret and let me know please

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've never really found it that difficult but then again, I've never actively searched for one. I tend to fuck people who I can see as friends and then sometimes more happens.

No, I'm not exclusive but I do try and show respect and openness to a degree with them.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

I really don't think you can actively go looking for a FWB.

You meet someone and find that you click and it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't think you can actively go looking for a FWB.

You meet someone and find that you click and it happens.

"

This ^^^

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I really don't think you can actively go looking for a FWB.

You meet someone and find that you click and it happens.

"

I disagree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't think you can actively go looking for a FWB.

You meet someone and find that you click and it happens.

"

It would be great if it did.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"I would say a good fwb is hard to find, especially a long term one. And an exclusive one even harder on here (for obvious reasons). Experiance tells me how well you can expect to be treated and how long it last depends to what extent the nature of your freindship is base on freindship over sex. When the main motivation for making freinds is for a mutral sexual arrangement people tend to keep their options open and(often secretly) not adverse to moving on to newer pastures. They also tend to be actively seeking new mates while with you as a fwb. This is often why people like a no strings arrangement (of course nothing wrong with that if honest). But you can quickly find your fwb losing interest and/or time for you. You soon find out the benifits aspect being way more important than the freinds aspect to them. I would always say in general don't expect to much in terms of loyalty and freindship in a fwb situation, it tends to be a fickle arrangement. Loyalty and an on going commitment to prioritise you is very hard to find outside of the confines of a committed form of relationship. Arguably more so with such an endly open market of other potential mates offered on here (and other sites). You'll never really know what the other person intent towards you and them is thorough their words, only really through their long term action."

That’s well explained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't think you can actively go looking for a FWB.

You meet someone and find that you click and it happens.

It would be great if it did. "

I've never looked for fwbs they have just happened for the last 25 years! Like any actual friend, you don't look for them they just seem to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread it amazes me how many people are looking for the same thing. Loads! Yet we can't find it? I think eyes and minds need to be opened. Potential fwbs could be right there in front of you without you even knowing.

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm currently looking for a fwb/ club buddy. You'd think the fact that I visit clubs would make it easier.

It's not.. I still live in hope, but I wont hold my breath.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"Reading this thread it amazes me how many people are looking for the same thing. Loads! Yet we can't find it? I think eyes and minds need to be opened. Potential fwbs could be right there in front of you without you even knowing. "

Possibly but you also have the many men that use this as a carrot to meet women and they have no intention of seriously wanting a fwb partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading this thread it amazes me how many people are looking for the same thing. Loads! Yet we can't find it? I think eyes and minds need to be opened. Potential fwbs could be right there in front of you without you even knowing.

Possibly but you also have the many men that use this as a carrot to meet women and they have no intention of seriously wanting a fwb partner "

So true!

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm currently looking for a fwb/ club buddy. You'd think the fact that I visit clubs would make it easier.

It's not.. I still live in hope, but I wont hold my breath."

Exactly! Ive had suggestions from the back of this thread from men that I will find a fwb at a club and I actually thought of the conversation you and I had at Quest about fwb’s and they can’t be found at a club.

Why is it so difficult to find a fwb?

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By *ngelfireWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have / have had lovely FWBs but also a couple whose feelings developed into something more, but mine didn’t. Good FWBs where you’re all on the same page is the best though.

Found them on here and on another site and dating apps. I’d love to have a relationship but I don’t really have time so FWB arrangement fits better with my situation.

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