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By *ickinglover69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Langley

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just this minute!

Langley

I am concerned I am getting a lot of views but no meets. I try to tweek my profile when i can. I try go to events but it is not easy for me to get the time. A lot of the time I am over the age they are looking for. I would love to meet some couples and ladies for being fwb fuck buddies but being patient i keep trying that things will happen.

Please some positive advice.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi OP

Have you thought about clubs or organised socials?

Good way to get to know people.miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some links on my profile to some great forum posts with advice for single guys.

Also, your age will work against you, especially that on your pics you look more than 60. Sorry, OP! I guess if you truly are 60, you did not win on the gene lottery...

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Perhaps you need to consider if your profile really stands out amongst the many others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its unlikely you will get a meet off here. This site is over loaded with single men . It's a big problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All men struggle to get meets, full stop. Maybe your age is a positive as couples and ladies in the same age bracket will more likely want you. Bet the ratio of men to women is better in your age group than any other.

Good luck OP

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are a number of things you can do to improve your experience of the site OP, none of them are a guarantee of a meet of course, but they may increase your chances:

- Profile - write something detailed that is more than a couple of cobbled together lines, something that is interesting and reflects your personality and makes the reader want to find out more - it needs to stand out to get noticed. You need to include not only what you are looking for, but also what you think you can offer.

- Pics - get some decent pics that are enticing and show you in a good light, not a series of selfies that you think "will do" - put some thought and creativity into them, learn to use the timer feature on your phone camera and the editing software that comes with it. If you're stuck for ideas look around at other well verified single guy profiles for inspiration.

- Attitude - keep it positive and make sure you get it right.

- Expectations - set them to low and then turn them down another notch.

- Approach - if you find the way you are using the site isn't working, look at different ways you can approach it that might change that - for example if messaging people blind isn't working, consider group socials or getting involved in the forums which are great ways to get to know people and get yourself known.

- Messages - always be respectful and tailor them to the recipient - never expect a reply.

You've not asked for profile advice so I shan't give any but that is often where people get things wrong so take a look at yours and ask yourself if it's enticing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP

Have you thought about clubs or organised socials?

Good way to get to know people.miss

"
listen to this couple because it the only way you every get a meet or make friends is going to clubs and socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx"

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read "

Think it very much depends whether you're a single lady, a single man or a couple as to how important a profile is to be honest.

Single lady - not so important, as you'll get attention if you write two words and have no pics regardless - although the quality of that attention may be questionable.

Couple - there's a level of importance to try and attract other couples or single ladies but it's not paramount if looking for single men.

Single man - very important to help you stand out from the crowd and appeal to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read "

Rejoin with a single guy profile to discover the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read "

I'm assuming your theory is based on the fact you have nothing on your profile and you're drowning in meets or because you don't bother reading profiles yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read "

My opinion is quite the reverse.

I always read a profile.

On the basis that some do and some don’t, it can’t do any harm to try making your profile as interesting as possible.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some links on my profile to some great forum posts with advice for single guys.

Also, your age will work against you, especially that on your pics you look more than 60. Sorry, OP! I guess if you truly are 60, you did not win on the gene lottery... "

omg you copied mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read

Think it very much depends whether you're a single lady, a single man or a couple as to how important a profile is to be honest.

Single lady - not so important, as you'll get attention if you write two words and have no pics regardless - although the quality of that attention may be questionable.

Couple - there's a level of importance to try and attract other couples or single ladies but it's not paramount if looking for single men.

Single man - very important to help you stand out from the crowd and appeal to others "

I'd say a couple and single woman's profile is key to whether I send them a message or not, unless they're in the Forum.

So many dull and blank ones that I've nothing to go on. If profiles like that get nothing but shit messages, it's probably because they've a shit profile.

You'll still get shit message x with a good profile. You just might get a few interesting ones thrown in the mix, because you bothered to make an effort and give people some threads to latch onto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"omg you copied mine "

It's very good advice, would be a shame if it got lost in the Fab archives...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"omg you copied mine

It's very good advice, would be a shame if it got lost in the Fab archives... "

I'm flattered Just a list of stuff I wished I'd read and paid attention to before the Big Bang moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP

Have you thought about clubs or organised socials?

Good way to get to know people.miss

listen to this couple because it the only way you every get a meet or make friends is going to clubs and socials only and not here loll"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op do you have a lickers licence or a liquors licence

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read

Think it very much depends whether you're a single lady, a single man or a couple as to how important a profile is to be honest.

Single lady - not so important, as you'll get attention if you write two words and have no pics regardless - although the quality of that attention may be questionable.

Couple - there's a level of importance to try and attract other couples or single ladies but it's not paramount if looking for single men.

Single man - very important to help you stand out from the crowd and appeal to others

I'd say a couple and single woman's profile is key to whether I send them a message or not, unless they're in the Forum.

So many dull and blank ones that I've nothing to go on. If profiles like that get nothing but shit messages, it's probably because they've a shit profile.

You'll still get shit message x with a good profile. You just might get a few interesting ones thrown in the mix, because you bothered to make an effort and give people some threads to latch onto.

"

Oh I wasn't talking from the perspective of potential messagers but from the perspective of profile owners.

Agree with you that *any* profile that lacks effort wouldn't get interest from me - but there are a lot of people that aren't like us, so from the profile owners perspective what I suggested usually holds true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A fellow Langley guy, hi!

Personally I'd say what may help is your profile could do with a little beefing up. I appreciate it's direct and to the point but it couldn't hurt to put a little more on there xx

What you write on your profile makes no difference whatsoever in our opinion . They are often not read

I'm assuming your theory is based on the fact you have nothing on your profile and you're drowning in meets or because you don't bother reading profiles yourself?"

Nothing on our profile now well spotted. Got fed up of being messed around . Whether we are drowning in meets or not is really none of your concern and yes we always read profiles even the rubbish ones. Hope that's all clear for you now ?

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