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"People can screenshot pics straight away, doesn't matter if you delete the message. If they want sex chat it's probably a man. Trust your gut. Verifications don't necessarily mean they are really who they say, or that they'll turn up. " Thank you. | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " Being a site supporter you can goto sent messages and delete the images | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " I remember when I first joined and had similar interactions with people. Eventually you start to get a feel for the time wasters and fantasist. Highlight how you would prefer to operate and if they refuse, you've got your answer | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " Speak to them on phone before you waste anytime | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " Off topic but you have a very interesting profile  | |||
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"If you get chatting to someone set up a social meet straightaway in a neutral location. It only needs to be five minutes for a coffee if you don't want to spend much time. I imagine that not many single women would invite complete strangers from the net into their home. If you really think about what you're being told its fairly easy to spot those who aren't genuine" Thank you for this. I feel a bit naive and it was actually AfroDelight that raised the alarm hoping it isn't a man pretending to be a woman | |||
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"I have met people with no photos, no voice contact before. On the spectrum from “Absolutely amazing, can’t believe my luck” to “Dreadful, surreal, scary, why was I so stupid?” I have experienced both extremes and a little bit in the middle. Unfortunately the spontaneous meet that was off the scale regarding “Dreadful, surreal, scary, why was I so stupid?” has put me off and hopefully, stopped me being so stupid in the future. Sadly, being male, that other brain, that we really shouldn’t allow thoughts, sometimes takes over. Pretty confident I’ll exercise more self-control in the future - and strongly advise it!" Thanks so much. Yeah we don't want to end up at a meet with a woman that's is a man! | |||
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone with out live pics and a Skype call and I always meet socially first Lot of fakes and time wasters " Thank you. Literally the biggest worry for us x I really don't get what individuals get out of claiming to be something they really aren't, I literally have no chill so if someone arrived that wasn't what I expected then they will know about it and I can't be held accountable for AfroDelights actions from the deceit | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. Being a site supporter you can goto sent messages and delete the images " Thank you soooooo much for this really appreciate it has made me feel so much more at ease about it x | |||
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"If you get chatting to someone set up a social meet straightaway in a neutral location. It only needs to be five minutes for a coffee if you don't want to spend much time. I imagine that not many single women would invite complete strangers from the net into their home. If you really think about what you're being told its fairly easy to spot those who aren't genuine Thank you for this. I feel a bit naive and it was actually AfroDelight that raised the alarm hoping it isn't a man pretending to be a woman" Naivety isn't a bad thing . When it comes to swinging we go by the old cliche "if it's too good to be true, it usually is". Have you considered a club? | |||
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"But they can have saved them to their device you need to be very careful on line most men on here are not very genuine in my experience and certainly not generous! " Thank you for the heads up. We literally search for women. It's so strange people pretend to be who they aren't when there's at least someone for every one! | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. I remember when I first joined and had similar interactions with people. Eventually you start to get a feel for the time wasters and fantasist. Highlight how you would prefer to operate and if they refuse, you've got your answer" Thank you. Yes gradually starting to understand | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. Speak to them on phone before you waste anytime " Thank you this is our plan x | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. Off topic but you have a very interesting profile "Thank you very much. Took me literally the three weeks to get it appealing lol | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. Being a site supporter you can goto sent messages and delete the images Thank you soooooo much for this really appreciate it has made me feel so much more at ease about it x" It's a moment's work to save your photo before you or the site delete it. The only way to ensure its not is don't send it in the first place. If you do wait until a meet is on the cards then send one that isn't elsewhere e.g. Facebook and isn't naked or compromising in any way. | |||
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"As a single woman who meets couples I can tell you that I expect a phone call with the female half of the couple before I’ll meet, and then I would only meet socially without any expectation on either side for it to go further - partly because I’ve arranged to meet couples before where the lady is suddenly taken ill but the male half has permission to meet me anyway... I’d suggest you’re careful, especially sharing any face pics etc, until you can be as sure as you can that the person you’re speaking with is who she says. I know some couples don’t like to talk and have to prove themselves and I guess for single ladies it may be the same - but I just like to try and be safe." Thank you really appreciate it. Yes we feel very far. As I am the one that does all the typing as you stated, it can make it a lot more comfortable for the single woman. After a few exchanged messages I offer my number for them to hear our voices in a voice note in order to verify we are the people in the photo we send. We have no issues exchanging photos and videos as long as we get the same in return. Everything we do is personalised to the individual woman. We are a couple that will play as a couple only so will always make that clear | |||
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"If you get chatting to someone set up a social meet straightaway in a neutral location. It only needs to be five minutes for a coffee if you don't want to spend much time. I imagine that not many single women would invite complete strangers from the net into their home. If you really think about what you're being told its fairly easy to spot those who aren't genuine Thank you for this. I feel a bit naive and it was actually AfroDelight that raised the alarm hoping it isn't a man pretending to be a woman Naivety isn't a bad thing . When it comes to swinging we go by the old cliche "if it's too good to be true, it usually is". Have you considered a club?"Thank you. I have but AfroDelight doesn't seem too taken by it lol | |||
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"As a single woman who meets couples I can tell you that I expect a phone call with the female half of the couple before I’ll meet, and then I would only meet socially without any expectation on either side for it to go further - partly because I’ve arranged to meet couples before where the lady is suddenly taken ill but the male half has permission to meet me anyway... I’d suggest you’re careful, especially sharing any face pics etc, until you can be as sure as you can that the person you’re speaking with is who she says. I know some couples don’t like to talk and have to prove themselves and I guess for single ladies it may be the same - but I just like to try and be safe." That's exactly how we did it when meeting as a couple. I was always very aware of the need to prove that I'm real. We never had a no show. | |||
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Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around. | |||
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"OP a lot of people, me included, don't give out their phone number or use any kind of chat app like Kik. Many will only chat using the messaging service on fab. I do this as it means everything is stored on the site just in case of any problems. Only 3 people on fab have my phone number, one is my FB who I've known for approaching 3 years and the others are my sister and her husband
Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around." | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " Live pictures on Kik as a minimum. If they won’t do it then it’s a no from me | |||
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"OP a lot of people, me included, don't give out their phone number or use any kind of chat app like Kik. Many will only chat using the messaging service on fab. I do this as it means everything is stored on the site just in case of any problems. Only 3 people on fab have my phone number, one is my FB who I've known for approaching 3 years and the others are my sister and her husband
Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around."This post was actually regarding one particular 'single' woman on Fab who approached us, has sent so called photos of herself and initiated conversation including inviting us all to meet up. She claimed to be a wife with unsatisfying sex life and sleeps in another room to her husband. She was messaging me up until Friday regarding meeting this week and has checked out our profile daily but not said anything since I explained we were worried of being catfished on such a site. I'm now looking to report the profile as we feel it is not genuine but the images sent don't seem to be showing up anywhere online | |||
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"Im real but dont do phonecalls. I got a phobia of speaking on the phone but always happy to verify in other ways. Send people my facebook or watsapp or to my website or go for face to face coffee. At the end of the day i get it that people dont want to be catfished but if a phonecall is a deal breaker then its no biggie. Just personal choice. " Precisely no need for a phone call but a simple voice note on something like WhatsApp would make a huge difference to verification. I don't expect fb as even I feel that's too personal. I don't see the harm in exchanging numbers when if you're not into the person you just block their number to avoid further interactions | |||
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"When we first started (we have a couples profile) all this we were wet behind the ears and I can’t tell you the number of ‘women’ we had on the go at once, even moving on to kik etc, within days we were sexting in group chats, only for them to go cold on us after they got what they wanted, of course they spoke about meeting etc too but was always an excuse. After a little while we both chatted to each other and decided that we would never do sexting again with anyone (other than those we have met) and we set ourselves ground rules and can spot a fake women quite easily now: Very few photos on profile Badly written profile or very short No veris Joined and within a few weeks messaged us Moves on from normal chit chat within a few messages They message first (in our experience women never message first) Refrain from sending Live Photo’s The above doesn’t always mean they aren’t genuine but these are things we look out for moreso now and it took a very long time to get our first meet as it’s not as clear as meeting another couple or another man, irs very specific. We wouldn’t expect anyone to speak to us via the phone if they didn’t want to because I hate talking at the best of times, let alone on the phone, we want recent pictures or live pictures within the first couple of messages and we would never meet for sex straight away because we are meeting a woman on her own and we are a couple we would never expect her to want to jump into bed with us from the word go, we would want her to meet us first and feel safe etc, if we met a woman straight away for sex I don’t think it’s the type of woman we would want to meet (not as though there is anything wrong with it, just not something we feel comfy doing) Hope this helps x" Thank you | |||
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"Hi everybody So we've been on here a month now. Starting to get a lot more interest since our last post which is great. Had two woman approach us via messenger during the week, one has photos and has verified a pic with Fab and the other has no photos no verification, however, sent some photos in a message that are posed photos taken by others. We have sent genuine images of ourselves, both together and seperate. Neither woman has yet to be confirmed by any Fabber on their profile and one of them has been messaging us non stop to then not want to add our number and talk away from Fab. I understand people are different etc, however, the lady who will not add our number has done nothing but talk about meeting up with us, inviting us round to hers, however, without the opportunity of hearing each others voices via a voice note of any kind, we are very wary to whether these are genuine women to meet or to skip over them. Any advice will be welcome as we are completely new to all this and have read about men that pretend to be single women or couples to meet women and men on here. Also, if you delete messages or block people you have sent images to, does this automatically delete the photos too? Just so wary of people keeping images of our faces mainly as we need to uphold discretion. " You need to be prepared to take a chance, not everyone cares about verifications, I don't and I have been on here ten years. Also you don't have any veris so you can't ask for what you don't have. | |||
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"OP a lot of people, me included, don't give out their phone number or use any kind of chat app like Kik. Many will only chat using the messaging service on fab. I do this as it means everything is stored on the site just in case of any problems. Only 3 people on fab have my phone number, one is my FB who I've known for approaching 3 years and the others are my sister and her husband
Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around.
This post was actually regarding one particular 'single' woman on Fab who approached us, has sent so called photos of herself and initiated conversation including inviting us all to meet up. She claimed to be a wife with unsatisfying sex life and sleeps in another room to her husband. She was messaging me up until Friday regarding meeting this week and has checked out our profile daily but not said anything since I explained we were worried of being catfished on such a site. I'm now looking to report the profile as we feel it is not genuine but the images sent don't seem to be showing up anywhere online"What will you report her for? She hasn't done anything wrong. She may have changed her mind or felt your questions were intrusive. | |||
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"Im real but dont do phonecalls. I got a phobia of speaking on the phone but always happy to verify in other ways. Send people my facebook or watsapp or to my website or go for face to face coffee. At the end of the day i get it that people dont want to be catfished but if a phonecall is a deal breaker then its no biggie. Just personal choice. Precisely no need for a phone call but a simple voice note on something like WhatsApp would make a huge difference to verification. I don't expect fb as even I feel that's too personal. I don't see the harm in exchanging numbers when if you're not into the person you just block their number to avoid further interactions" If your phone number is linked to Facebook they can easily find you on there. Many people get a separate sim to use for meets. | |||
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"OP a lot of people, me included, don't give out their phone number or use any kind of chat app like Kik. Many will only chat using the messaging service on fab. I do this as it means everything is stored on the site just in case of any problems. Only 3 people on fab have my phone number, one is my FB who I've known for approaching 3 years and the others are my sister and her husband
Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around.
This post was actually regarding one particular 'single' woman on Fab who approached us, has sent so called photos of herself and initiated conversation including inviting us all to meet up. She claimed to be a wife with unsatisfying sex life and sleeps in another room to her husband. She was messaging me up until Friday regarding meeting this week and has checked out our profile daily but not said anything since I explained we were worried of being catfished on such a site. I'm now looking to report the profile as we feel it is not genuine but the images sent don't seem to be showing up anywhere online"By all means report profiles you feel can be proved to be fake but if her photos don't show anywhere else on line and she's verified in some form or other what evidence do you have? Sometimes its very easy to throw the baby out with the bath water. | |||
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"Might sound stupid but what is meant by ‘live photo’s’ ?" It’s when you get someone to send you a picture of themselves right there and then not a saved one from their phone gallery like a snap on snap chat for example | |||
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"Might sound stupid but what is meant by ‘live photo’s’ ? It’s when you get someone to send you a picture of themselves right there and then not a saved one from their phone gallery like a snap on snap chat for example " Thanks | |||
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"If in doubt after chatting why not say you have concerns and ask to cam in person fully clothed its a reasonable request and if someone is genuinely interested in meeting you then they will. Its all a matter of trust and it goes both ways people forget that. " Yep did this and still refused so I've reported as they have no verification not even via fab and just seem to be adding guys and couples | |||
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"OP a lot of people, me included, don't give out their phone number or use any kind of chat app like Kik. Many will only chat using the messaging service on fab. I do this as it means everything is stored on the site just in case of any problems. Only 3 people on fab have my phone number, one is my FB who I've known for approaching 3 years and the others are my sister and her husband
Imagine you weren't a couple and it was just the lady meeting alone. What would you feel comfortable with? Would you invite strangers into your home? Would you insist on meeting socially in a public place initially? You can guarantee that anything you wouldn't do as a single female a lot of other single ladies wouldn't do too!
If I'm not meeting them in a club I will only ever do a no play social in public for a first meet. I refuse to send any more photos other than those already publicly visible on my profile (I have a face pic on display). I refuse to engage in any sort of sex talk with anyone before meeting them in person. I refuse to add people as friends on here unless we have already met in person. Anyone who comes across as pushy and tries to persuade me to deviate from my usual manner of meeting gets blocked.
After you have been on here for a while you do develop some sort of "bullshit detector" that's almost like a sixth sense which does help you sort out the fake couples that are actually single men, those who are just looking for wank material and all the others who mess folk around.
This post was actually regarding one particular 'single' woman on Fab who approached us, has sent so called photos of herself and initiated conversation including inviting us all to meet up. She claimed to be a wife with unsatisfying sex life and sleeps in another room to her husband. She was messaging me up until Friday regarding meeting this week and has checked out our profile daily but not said anything since I explained we were worried of being catfished on such a site. I'm now looking to report the profile as we feel it is not genuine but the images sent don't seem to be showing up anywhere online
By all means report profiles you feel can be proved to be fake but if her photos don't show anywhere else on line and she's verified in form or other what evidence do you have?
Sometimes its very easy to throw the baby out with the bath water. "No verifications not even bothered with the fab one. Uses every excuse as to why she won't send even a voice note or live photo as it's been suggested. She's also changed her stories. On Thursday she was a mother of one who could meet during weekdays opposed to just evenings and weekends but then suddenly today she has multiple children and is at work... just doesn't sit right so just taking everyones advice and taking this as a learning curb | |||
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"Might sound stupid but what is meant by ‘live photo’s’ ? It’s when you get someone to send you a picture of themselves right there and then not a saved one from their phone gallery like a snap on snap chat for example Thanks "If you do it on Kik it comes up with the little “camera” wording if you use the Kik camera rather than uploading from your phone gallery so you know it’s right now | |||
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