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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

they all do my fab list is full of cock pics dont need to see all that first thing of a morning wouldent mind dont even meet single males but they still try lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the question many a woman on here has pondered .. along with couple too

When we figure it out one of us will come back to you. But I wouldnt stay up expecting the answer today.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think there are two reasons.

Some guys genuinely think that's what we want to see.

Some guys want us to look at their cock, it gives them a thrill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drives us nuts, but so does close up boob shots tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even have a cock pic public, friends or private.

It confuses me as well, maybe there cock is the best thing about them, which doesn't say much.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I agree with you OP and it's not something I would ever send with a first message personally - however playing devils advocate for a second on the avatar thing, by the same chalk is it ok for women to have a pussy or boobs pic as their avatar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are two reasons.

Some guys genuinely think that's what we want to see.

Some guys want us to look at their cock, it gives them a thrill"

I have never sent one or have one in my photos, so not an expert. I would agree with above tho. Maybe it works, why else would they keep sending them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you OP and it's not something I would ever send with a first message personally - however playing devils advocate for a second on the avatar thing, by the same chalk is it ok for women to have a pussy or boobs pic as their avatar?"

From a purely psychological perception, the phallic symbol such as a penis is throughout history used to show power force and dominance were as female symbolism is more associated with life care and fertility. We a coded to see dick as offensive or even threatening. Plus I never met a pretty one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy myself, I'd like to apologise to all you F,TV,TS etc. on behalf of the huge number of complete idiot blokes on here that seem to think it's ok to do these things. It's not OK to send a cock pic at any time - unless you ask for it. I'd also like to apologise for the heavy use of the CTrl C and V keys on their keyboards - apparently scatterblasting every inbox with the same 'wanna fuck' message is a legitimate strategy. Sadly it means you get 250 messages a day and I put no blame on you but the people like me, who take time to write messages after reading profiles etc, end up being tarred with the same brush and our messages also deleted....

Anyway - sorry - I've not posted on a forum before and I probably should have done this I chapters....alp that aside - I'M SORRY ON BEHALF OF ALL THOSE GUYS WHO SADLY WERE NOT BORN WITH THE ATTRIBUTES OF DECENCY, TACT OR CREATIVITY....such a shame that some of them were given massive Willies though!

The End

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Would it be more endearing if said cock had a cute little outfit on?

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I think you can only answer this question honestly if you know how amazing it is to have a cock x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would it be more endearing if said cock had a cute little outfit on?"

At least there would be some originality there lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you can only answer this question honestly if you know how amazing it is to have a cock x "

Fair point lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with you OP and it's not something I would ever send with a first message personally - however playing devils advocate for a second on the avatar thing, by the same chalk is it ok for women to have a pussy or boobs pic as their avatar?"

VERY good point. Not so much a grievance for me with the avatars more that the same guys sending the dick pics are 90% of the time the ones with a different angle on their cock for an avatar. Just why not shake it up a little and let me see your ankle or something? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a guy myself, I'd like to apologise to all you F,TV,TS etc. on behalf of the huge number of complete idiot blokes on here that seem to think it's ok to do these things. It's not OK to send a cock pic at any time - unless you ask for it. I'd also like to apologise for the heavy use of the CTrl C and V keys on their keyboards - apparently scatterblasting every inbox with the same 'wanna fuck' message is a legitimate strategy. Sadly it means you get 250 messages a day and I put no blame on you but the people like me, who take time to write messages after reading profiles etc, end up being tarred with the same brush and our messages also deleted....

Anyway - sorry - I've not posted on a forum before and I probably should have done this I chapters....alp that aside - I'M SORRY ON BEHALF OF ALL THOSE GUYS WHO SADLY WERE NOT BORN WITH THE ATTRIBUTES OF DECENCY, TACT OR CREATIVITY....such a shame that some of them were given massive Willies though!

The End "

Awww bit cute! No one has any need to apologise for their own gender hunny.

I was just wondering if I was missing an understanding in something here? Every woman I've spoken to seems as baffled and annoyed as me at this behavior so I was just wondering why does it still get done? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they think it’s the same as selling a car?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with you OP and it's not something I would ever send with a first message personally - however playing devils advocate for a second on the avatar thing, by the same chalk is it ok for women to have a pussy or boobs pic as their avatar?

From a purely psychological perception, the phallic symbol such as a penis is throughout history used to show power force and dominance were as female symbolism is more associated with life care and fertility. We a coded to see dick as offensive or even threatening. Plus I never met a pretty one."

Sapiosexual over here. Got 3 lines into your response and got turned on. I'll attempt to reread later x

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

Most men want a naked pic of a woman or another man instantly so their brains say that women must think this way too.

The people that do this are most likely in long term relationships, younger or sexually naive.

In the gay world sending and receiving dick pics is the norm. And people hook up based on dicks rather than a face. Which may seem weird to most people but they get off on the anonymity .

Also some men get a thrill from knowing a woman has seen their dick. They don’t even care if you return a message. It’s just the knowing that helps them to have a wank

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most men want a naked pic of a woman or another man instantly so their brains say that women must think this way too.

The people that do this are most likely in long term relationships, younger or sexually naive.

In the gay world sending and receiving dick pics is the norm. And people hook up based on dicks rather than a face. Which may seem weird to most people but they get off on the anonymity .

Also some men get a thrill from knowing a woman has seen their dick. They don’t even care if you return a message. It’s just the knowing that helps them to have a wank "

Omfg! NAILED IT!!

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are two reasons.

Some guys genuinely think that's what we want to see.

Some guys want us to look at their cock, it gives them a thrill"

And some think this is their best asset

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?"

They probably think that their cock is better looking than their face so send out dick pics rather than face pics.

Mr2

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I don't do anything like that tbh and I wouldn't want an opening message from a woman/couple like that either.

We are all fully aware of what body parts looks like and yes I've got to admit it is nice seeing said body parts too but come on an opening message is an introduction of yourself so if you can't string a sentence together it's going to be a very dull meet really isn't it.

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By *aylorsFlameCouple
over a year ago

North West

I guess that in general they are pig ugly, bug who am I to insult a pig !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess that in general they are pig ugly, bug who am I to insult a pig !"

That's a wee bitty harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do anything like that tbh and I wouldn't want an opening message from a woman/couple like that either.

We are all fully aware of what body parts looks like and yes I've got to admit it is nice seeing said body parts too but come on an opening message is an introduction of yourself so if you can't string a sentence together it's going to be a very dull meet really isn't it."

X

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I just block profiles with a dick pic as avatar ... or if their opening message contains a dick pic . There is someone I met who constantly puts out new pics of his dick everyday ... I asked him about this and he said it helps him become noticed in a site awash with dicks ???? Not sure on the logic on this ... perhaps people cave in after seeing the 500th pic of his dick

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

should I be sending guys a picture of my strapon on then?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Watching big mouth on Netflix and this subject was touched. It's basically when they get so excited a little hormone monster just screams "send her a dick pic she'll love that, especially when it's got no context"

They're compelled

They somehow think we will see their dick and decide yes, that is the penis I wish to have.

Were not primal like they are. We've evolved.

The only men who like dick pics are the men sending them and the gay men recieving them.

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Watching big mouth on Netflix and this subject was touched. It's basically when they get so excited a little hormone monster just screams "send her a dick pic she'll love that, especially when it's got no context"

They're compelled

They somehow think we will see their dick and decide yes, that is the penis I wish to have.

Were not primal like they are. We've evolved.

The only men who like dick pics are the men sending them and the gay men recieving them. "

Literally lol so hard at the 'this is the penis I wish to have'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are two reasons.

Some guys genuinely think that's what we want to see.

Some guys want us to look at their cock, it gives them a thrill

I have never sent one or have one in my photos, so not an expert. I would agree with above tho. Maybe it works, why else would they keep sending them? "

True. The forum is a tiny part of the site. What's to say the other 95% (I pulled that number out of thin air) of women who use the site without ever entering the forums don't bloody love them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think there are two reasons.

Some guys genuinely think that's what we want to see.

Some guys want us to look at their cock, it gives them a thrill

I have never sent one or have one in my photos, so not an expert. I would agree with above tho. Maybe it works, why else would they keep sending them?

True. The forum is a tiny part of the site. What's to say the other 95% (I pulled that number out of thin air) of women who use the site without ever entering the forums don't bloody love them? "

Because there wouldn't be so many men with dick avatars complaining about not getting messages back lol

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

To some of the men on Fab, this is a place to log onto when you're horny and looking for sex that minute. It's just about the sex to these guys, they're just interested in body parts and assume the rest of us are too.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Okay... they don’t do it for me (Mrs) but I guess as it’s a site that is primarily here for sexual hook ups... men’s Cock’s (in most fellas minds) are the center of any sexual connections. Plus they get a thrill out of it. Whilst it’s not particularly attractive it doesn’t bother me tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"should I be sending guys a picture of my strapon on then?"

Yes. Do it and report back here. Purely scientific

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

I've never sent a cock pic nor is my profile pic a cock(debatable) but i have cock pics in my photos. Is that acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it myself, but I can only imagine the thought process is "I would drop my trousers immediately if I got a fanny in my inbox immediately, so it must work the other way around"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That reminds me, need to make mine private again. I only had them out for the cock thread!

I never have it as an avatar or attached to a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never sent a cock pic nor is my profile pic a cock(debatable) but i have cock pics in my photos. Is that acceptable?"

Lol, I'm sorry if I came across judgey. That wasn't my intention. Cock pics in someone's gallery of pictures is expected. I was just purely talking about the guys who send them as some sort of introduction

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By *isterBrumMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Unsolicited dick pics are the new flasher in the trench coat. There's also those who think it makes them look confident and bold and therefore attractive.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?"

For the same reason that sadly lots of people in sites like this are obsessed about cock size x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?

For the same reason that sadly lots of people in sites like this are obsessed about cock size x"

Huh?

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?

For the same reason that sadly lots of people in sites like this are obsessed about cock size x

Huh?"

Lots of profiles seem to put an off-putting emphasis on “we want nothing less than 8” or “ we only do vvwe”, etc etc so, probably lots of men think that taking a photo of their cock looking big will attract people...just my interpretation though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?"

Oh yes a perfect thread. Thank you. Cock pics drive me crazy. Talk first. If i ask to see it which i wont then fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wankers.

You’re welcome

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum

I never reply to dick pic messages usually i dont even read the message it just gets deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there was me thinking why I don't get any meets... because i don't have enough dick pics

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are hilariously basic.

Even articulate and educated men are still just thinking like a chimpanzee.

And not just about sex. Food too. And Drink. Take sambuca for example....some guys just love it so much that they want to be named after it. Like Lagerlover, or Guinnessguzzler.....or Sambucaslag.

Crazy, right?

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men want a naked pic of a woman or another man instantly so their brains say that women must think this way too.

The people that do this are most likely in long term relationships, younger or sexually naive.

In the gay world sending and receiving dick pics is the norm. And people hook up based on dicks rather than a face. Which may seem weird to most people but they get off on the anonymity .

Also some men get a thrill from knowing a woman has seen their dick. They don’t even care if you return a message. It’s just the knowing that helps them to have a wank

Omfg! NAILED IT!!

Thank you xxx"

Yup. This pretty much says it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never sent one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?"

Some of us just don't go there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you know how I feel. For past 7 years on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those men are thinking from their own perspective, they make a profile based on what they want/need to see from a womans, then wonder why only men find them appealing. I assume that if all I can see is dick, then they are a dick... Same applies to arseholes, boobs and cunts

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By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport


"Ok, I'm honestly curious. Why do single men believe it is endearing to a woman to open their first ever introductory message from a guy and there's a picture of their cock? Why is there a profile picture that's just a cock? What's with all the cocks? I understand what this site is for but ffs why would you take it upon yourself to assume somebody is wanting to see your cock straight away?"

Its an indication of intent. Showing there cock shows you what they intend to use use offer you. They aren't particularly interested in who your or anything about you.

You can tell this if you take your own pics off by th amount that would meet you after just a one line message and not seeing your picture.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Please look at my profile. It’s full of c.., picks. Lol.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Those men are thinking from their own perspective, they make a profile based on what they want/need to see from a womans, then wonder why only men find them appealing. I assume that if all I can see is dick, then they are a dick... Same applies to arseholes, boobs and cunts "

This. Nail on the head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are hilariously basic.

Even articulate and educated men are still just thinking like a chimpanzee.

And not just about sex. Food too. And Drink. Take sambuca for example....some guys just love it so much that they want to be named after it. Like Lagerlover, or Guinnessguzzler.....or Sambucaslag.

Crazy, right?

Lol "

What are you trying to say?

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