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By *alifaxsi OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi All,

So wanting to go to a club but nervous as a single guy i'd just end up sat at a bar all night watching folk go by.

Why post here - well i'd like to find someone to go with if that's possible (nr Manchester / Leeds)

But also after some great advice, I know you're a helpful lot so how does a nervous guy go about starting off in the club scene....

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Some clubs have a new member day, that would be a good start. As it wouldn't take long for you to chat to another equally nervous new guy or if lucky a lady

The problem with buddying up with someone you don't know is they could still end up leaving you alone, if they meet someone, or you leave them for the same reason.

Club owners are aware to keep their businesses running, new people are needed, so you'll often find they'll show you around and in some cases introduce you to the regulars.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Don’t do it, it is full of sexual deviants and zombies who waddle around in towels wanking.

Or you could be a good one, who has a stunning time.

It’s not what others bring to the party, it’s what you bring.

Well in our world.

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By *alifaxsi OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club."

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......

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By *alifaxsi OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax


"Some clubs have a new member day, that would be a good start. As it wouldn't take long for you to chat to another equally nervous new guy or if lucky a lady

The problem with buddying up with someone you don't know is they could still end up leaving you alone, if they meet someone, or you leave them for the same reason.

Club owners are aware to keep their businesses running, new people are needed, so you'll often find they'll show you around and in some cases introduce you to the regulars. "

Thanks

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

To be honest, as a single woman, I'd almost never contemplate going to a club with someone I don't know.

What you're better off doing is looking for people going on the same night so that you have friendly faces to catch up with. I have often gone to new clubs alone and done exactly that. This way you have flexibility and at leat you have someone to say hi to at the start and catch up with during the night.

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By *alifaxsi OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax


"To be honest, as a single woman, I'd almost never contemplate going to a club with someone I don't know.

What you're better off doing is looking for people going on the same night so that you have friendly faces to catch up with. I have often gone to new clubs alone and done exactly that. This way you have flexibility and at leat you have someone to say hi to at the start and catch up with during the night. "

Thanks Crimson x

I'm struggling to meet anyone on here so looking at the club route instead, would be happy to meet folk for a social with no intention to play, as you say - a friendly face..

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hi All,

So wanting to go to a club but nervous as a single guy i'd just end up sat at a bar all night watching folk go by.

Why post here - well i'd like to find someone to go with if that's possible (nr Manchester / Leeds)

But also after some great advice, I know you're a helpful lot so how does a nervous guy go about starting off in the club scene...."

Like someone else mentioned, go to a club on a newbie night or one of the hosted party nights.

Everyone is nervous at first but you’ll find it much easier meeting people at clubs.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"To be honest, as a single woman, I'd almost never contemplate going to a club with someone I don't know.

What you're better off doing is looking for people going on the same night so that you have friendly faces to catch up with. I have often gone to new clubs alone and done exactly that. This way you have flexibility and at leat you have someone to say hi to at the start and catch up with during the night.

Thanks Crimson x

I'm struggling to meet anyone on here so looking at the club route instead, would be happy to meet folk for a social with no intention to play, as you say - a friendly face..

"

You'll find alot of women won't take a stranger with them, if your behavior is bad it reflects on them. Also, a fair few men want to 'use' women to get in for the reduced price.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've found that if a bloke hasn't got the oomph to go in on his own, he's unlikely to be my type. So although I'm often asked to babysit, I won't. I'll be at the club, if you are too, then great we can chat

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I've found that if a bloke hasn't got the oomph to go in on his own, he's unlikely to be my type. So although I'm often asked to babysit, I won't. I'll be at the club, if you are too, then great we can chat"

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By *alifaxsi OP   Man
over a year ago

Halifax


"I've found that if a bloke hasn't got the oomph to go in on his own, he's unlikely to be my type. So although I'm often asked to babysit, I won't. I'll be at the club, if you are too, then great we can chat"

Hahah point taken

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi All,

So wanting to go to a club but nervous as a single guy i'd just end up sat at a bar all night watching folk go by.

Why post here - well i'd like to find someone to go with if that's possible (nr Manchester / Leeds)

But also after some great advice, I know you're a helpful lot so how does a nervous guy go about starting off in the club scene...."

Most people in here will tell you to “put your big boy pants on, and just go to a club”, and to be fair, they’re right, just do it. The worst that can happen is you hate it, and you never go again. But at least you satisfied your curiosity.

Look for somewhere that doesn’t sting you for a membership fee on your first visit, and above all; choose an event where single guys are actually wanted.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone knows how to find any in the states?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just bite the bullet and go when there's an event on. You won't regret it .. We all have to take that first step at some point. We are very lucky living so close to Leeds and Manchester.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......"

Only if you make the effort to talk to them so really isn't any different.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......"

And that's the same in a swingers club. Hover by the bar, have a friendly chat. Enjoy a dance, ask the DJ for your favourite tunes.

You need to read up on club's that would suit you. A nightclub style club means you don't need to strip off. You go dressed smart and forget it's a swingers club until you go into the play areas.

I find this type of club is great for newcomers. Also all clubs will give you a tour and answer any questions when you arrive.

I often act as Tour Guide at Atlantis in Stoke. You're welcome to visit and I keep an eye on any newbie I have shown round, introducing then to regulars and checking how they are doing . So no one is a Billy no mates for long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......

And that's the same in a swingers club. Hover by the bar, have a friendly chat. Enjoy a dance, ask the DJ for your favourite tunes.

You need to read up on club's that would suit you. A nightclub style club means you don't need to strip off. You go dressed smart and forget it's a swingers club until you go into the play areas.

I find this type of club is great for newcomers. Also all clubs will give you a tour and answer any questions when you arrive.

I often act as Tour Guide at Atlantis in Stoke. You're welcome to visit and I keep an eye on any newbie I have shown round, introducing then to regulars and checking how they are doing . So no one is a Billy no mates for long. "

Lizzy in coming to Stoke haha..

You just made that sound like joing a gym

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......

And that's the same in a swingers club. Hover by the bar, have a friendly chat. Enjoy a dance, ask the DJ for your favourite tunes.

You need to read up on club's that would suit you. A nightclub style club means you don't need to strip off. You go dressed smart and forget it's a swingers club until you go into the play areas.

I find this type of club is great for newcomers. Also all clubs will give you a tour and answer any questions when you arrive.

I often act as Tour Guide at Atlantis in Stoke. You're welcome to visit and I keep an eye on any newbie I have shown round, introducing then to regulars and checking how they are doing . So no one is a Billy no mates for long.

Lizzy in coming to Stoke haha..

You just made that sound like joing a gym "

" newcomers" was a deliberate

pun. Not sure if that's what you are talking about ? Glad I amused you whatever

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......

And that's the same in a swingers club. Hover by the bar, have a friendly chat. Enjoy a dance, ask the DJ for your favourite tunes.

You need to read up on club's that would suit you. A nightclub style club means you don't need to strip off. You go dressed smart and forget it's a swingers club until you go into the play areas.

I find this type of club is great for newcomers. Also all clubs will give you a tour and answer any questions when you arrive.

I often act as Tour Guide at Atlantis in Stoke. You're welcome to visit and I keep an eye on any newbie I have shown round, introducing then to regulars and checking how they are doing . So no one is a Billy no mates for long. "

This is a great offer from Lizzy OP, and certainly one to consider for your first time club visit As a single guy in a club, YOU will be expected to 'make all the moves' as it were; opening conversations, engaging with others, etc., and as you are likely to be one of many single guys in there, if you don't make the effort, you WILL be overlooked. Just don't 'peacock'

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......

Only if you make the effort to talk to them so really isn't any different."

Nowhere is the saying "Shy lads get nowt" more true, than in a swingers' club

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you went to a 'normal' club on your own for the first time, wouldn't you expect to stand around watching people the first visit. No different going to a swingers club.

Not quite, you could almost certainly guarantee having a drink and more than likely a dance with someone......"

Same in a swingers club, drink or dance, they are clubs first and foremost to socialise in with sexual play if you would like too.

Don't go with any expectations, make the first move to talk and you will be fine.

Enjoy. Male

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