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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there, having a few problems on here whereby it's either my profile and face photo are so rancid it drives people away (which it's doing) or I'm taking the wrong approach. I've said on my profile that me and my partner are going through a bit of an experimental phase of our relationship and that I'm looking to hook up with ladies for a bit of uncomplicated fun, and I've politely sent a few messages with a face pic and the responses have been a 3 word rejection or no reply at all. I've been up front about our situation and I don't know if it's that which is driving people away. Any advice would be greatly received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been on Fab a week. Some blokes apparently wait months for a meet. Chill!

For me, the profile tells me little about you. I'd also be put off by your circumstances - does your partner know? Are they happy for you to play elsewhere? If so why can't you accommodate? This is just my opinion and others may have different views.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's advice on my profile for newbies feel free to use it and good luck. Yours is essentially a blank one which will not be helping you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most women don't just fall at the feet of a new guy and his profile.

and a week isn't a long time..

As you will discover.

good luck

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Hi there, having a few problems on here whereby it's either my profile and face photo are so rancid it drives people away (which it's doing) or I'm taking the wrong approach. I've said on my profile that me and my partner are going through a bit of an experimental phase of our relationship and that I'm looking to hook up with ladies for a bit of uncomplicated fun, and I've politely sent a few messages with a face pic and the responses have been a 3 word rejection or no reply at all. I've been up front about our situation and I don't know if it's that which is driving people away. Any advice would be greatly received."

A week?

One?

Singular?

Like, 7 days?

Wait till you've been here a year without a meet.

M'Lady up above ^ gives great advice on her profile. If I were you I'd have a good read of it and take it on board.

Then readjust your expecations. A lot!!!!!

A sillouette profile with no pics at all, plus your "situation" will be red flags to a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid your profile reads very cold and the lack of photos is off putting. Most women will want to see what you look like

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

No photos and the lack of personality in your profile text wouldn’t warm me to finding out any more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all, your comments have been really useful. I have to be a bit careful about photos on the profile as someone recognised me when I first put a profile photo on there. I think I need to loosen up the description a bit, make it a bit more fun. My partner does know, she has the user ID and password so she can see what I’ve been writing and replying to. And yes I’ve not been on very long so I have to accept this is a marathon not a sprint!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If your wife is happy for you to be on here, why did it bother you that you were recognised?

I would never reply to a message without a profile pic.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for being honest Sam, I've re-written the description to make it sound a bit more human. See what you think and any feedback (good or bad) is welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If your wife is happy for you to be on here, why did it bother you that you were recognised?

I would never reply to a message without a profile pic."

I'm a bit of an internet personality (albeit in a small way), long story but I want to keep my personal life well out of the way of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations "

Noted. Will get a few pics on here that aren't too revealing about my identity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm afraid your profile reads very cold and the lack of photos is off putting. Most women will want to see what you look like "

Noted. Have re-written the bio and will add some pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations "

Have put in the bio that she is happy to verify that our situation is genuine, I appreciate it's pretty rare that a woman gives her bloke (and vice versa) a free pass to play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's advice on my profile for newbies feel free to use it and good luck. Yours is essentially a blank one which will not be helping you. "

Thank you so much I'll take a look

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations

Have put in the bio that she is happy to verify that our situation is genuine, I appreciate it's pretty rare that a woman gives her bloke (and vice versa) a free pass to play."

If we FaceTimed you now would she be there too ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to you all for your input, I'm making changes to the profile and also my expectations, just keen to meet and have fun. Will get some pics on there this week.

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Nice profile but you need a profile pic and also some public pics for people to make their own judgment on whether they’d be attracted to you

Welcome to a male dominated site that takes time and a lot of effort to find what you’re looking for.

Prepare for A LOT of rude or delete unread messages. It’s just sadly how it is. But, if you take the time for each and every message you send to have read their profile and started a conversation, eventually a great gal will reply.

There are SO many threads on this and also lots of tips on the FAQs.

I’m afraid it genuinely isn’t as easy as signing up and a week letter arranging a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations

Have put in the bio that she is happy to verify that our situation is genuine, I appreciate it's pretty rare that a woman gives her bloke (and vice versa) a free pass to play.

If we FaceTimed you now would she be there too ? "

Not right now, we don't live together (long story) and she is working today. But Facetime or Whatsapp video call would be how we'd verify that I was legit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice profile but you need a profile pic and also some public pics for people to make their own judgment on whether they’d be attracted to you

Welcome to a male dominated site that takes time and a lot of effort to find what you’re looking for.

Prepare for A LOT of rude or delete unread messages. It’s just sadly how it is. But, if you take the time for each and every message you send to have read their profile and started a conversation, eventually a great gal will reply.

There are SO many threads on this and also lots of tips on the FAQs.

I’m afraid it genuinely isn’t as easy as signing up and a week letter arranging a meet "

Noted. I guess this sort of thing is a marathon not a sprint!

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations

Have put in the bio that she is happy to verify that our situation is genuine, I appreciate it's pretty rare that a woman gives her bloke (and vice versa) a free pass to play.

If we FaceTimed you now would she be there too ?

Not right now, we don't live together (long story) and she is working today. But Facetime or Whatsapp video call would be how we'd verify that I was legit."

9/10 guys that say their partner knows also use this excuse plus many others like she’s asleep or with the kids or at work or in the bath or making dinner and so on and so on , you may be genuine but expect it to be very difficult going in with this angle on your profile .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of pics will be an inhibitor - there are plenty you can take without revealing your identity - just need to get creative.

Is your partner on here too, or willing to somehow verify your claims that she is aware? Currently people only have your word that she's ok with it and will rightly be cynical as a result.

As others have said, a week is no time at all on here - if you're expecting to be knee deep in that time then you need to adjust your expectations

Have put in the bio that she is happy to verify that our situation is genuine, I appreciate it's pretty rare that a woman gives her bloke (and vice versa) a free pass to play.

If we FaceTimed you now would she be there too ?

Not right now, we don't live together (long story) and she is working today. But Facetime or Whatsapp video call would be how we'd verify that I was legit.

9/10 guys that say their partner knows also use this excuse plus many others like she’s asleep or with the kids or at work or in the bath or making dinner and so on and so on , you may be genuine but expect it to be very difficult going in with this angle on your profile . "

Yes I imagine there's plenty of devious behaviour going on, I'd say we'd get to the verification side of things quite quickly if someone or a couple showed interest. There is a genuine reason why we aren't living together and I'd elaborate on that should the need arise, but I get your point. Nice profile btw

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