FabSwingers.com forum: So hard to find a women willing???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause they don’t want to, I’m assuming

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not anywhere in the whole country either? Crikey.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

what steps are you taking to meet people or to engage them in conversation?

It can be very difficult for younger guys on fab however it usually takes a while for men of any age to get established.

What were your expectations of the site when you joined?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought that perhaps you're not coming across very well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to "

What were you hoping for when you joined fab?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to "

You've been on less than 2 months. That isn't very long. Unfortunately, many people on here will consider you too young, as the largest majority are likely to have children your age.

Keep positive and make sure your profile is positive too.

Nita

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It took me more than 8 weeks to get my first meet on here! Was about 4 months after I'd joined I think, and it was a spur of the moment meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've tried many ways trust me, everytime I come on there is no one online around Dorset area

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to "

Probably blokes messaging you..

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

Willing?? Hahaha.. well fuck that.. hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Willing?? Hahaha.. well fuck that.. hahaha"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "

I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish

Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "

click on reply and quote and we will know who you're answering

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first

I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish

Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too

snap lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I guess so and yeah I know thankyou I was jus speaking in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first

I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish

Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too

snap lol"

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "

Lots of women won't "face cam".

You come off a bit like you'll have sex with anyone who's "willing" which will put a lot of people off.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."

Why would anyone wanna cam imo? Plenty porn to watch if that's your thing. Rather have real sex than flick my bean over a screen

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "

Is it only a face cam that would convince you they are real? If not why not see if they would at least have a phone call first I know some people arent confident to go on a camera from experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "

The penny has dropped...

Most likely all the ladies you have been chatting to are men..

Most of the ladies on Fab have a inbox larger than the english channel and are less likely to respond unless you are really really interesting to them.

And well sorry your another average sort of male who is really young.

Makes it nigh impossible to get any sort of meet directly.

I would suggest heading to local socials and clubs to be apart of the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op go to a social or two get your face known and take it from there

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Willing?? Hahaha.. well fuck that.. hahaha

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Just found it funny the way he put it.. like no one willing to help him out haha

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "
No way would I go on cam first or even give my number to someone x

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see what this is now i do not mean any disrespect here dude but this is the typical young newbie thats thought this place would be a sure thing went rushing into messaging every lass that took his fancy annnnd none have replied dont worry about it mate its how it works chill out participate in the forums get yourself known and make connections attend meets socially try clubs work on ya profile don't upload tons of toilet dick pics and in time with effort you will be rewarded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!"

I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.

He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta say im very skeptical of you straight away from just the first line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.

He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "

Of course he’s welcome on fabs but unlike you he doesn’t have a vagina so will find it hard, hence his post.

Like the other poster said, age wise will be a hinderence and I agree with her POV.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.

He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "

I suspect you never posted a nobody wants me whinge.

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By *eddy and legsCouple
over a year ago

the wetlands

probably best stick yo chatroulette or go out and find a real girlfriend and practice a bit first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Willing? Is that how low you're aiming?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of the people here are all hot air talkers they talk the talk and do not follow throw with it in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're very young, come across mildly homophobic (block caps, really?), and have that ridiculous disclaimer in your profile. Plus grammar.

It's probably the age tho in all honesty. Don't sweat it, this place will still be here in a few years time.

I probably sound like a total bitch

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Are you being honest about your age OP?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I'm in Dorset and the majority show up online in your area, but not you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."

Camera fun isn't everyone's idea of fun (it isn't mine I'd rather actually meet people) and for me you'd be too young to meet as I have kids older than you sorry!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."

It’s probably your age in the first instance, making you less attractive to the majority of people in here, but also your profile could do with a makeover; spelling mistakes and bad grammar never appeal, and if someone is interested in you, they will message you, you don’t need to say “message me”. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "

Exactly

Nobody ever told me it, yet it’s alright to tell all the young single men it apparently

There’s loads of successful young men on fab. You just need to go about it in a different way maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give the lad a break.

He’s young and inexperienced. We were all there at some time.

Like others have said. Go to a club, be polite, don’t expect anything and you’ll be fine.

As for the catfish oh god yes. There are male and female catfish out there. Stay away from cams and maybe try Studland when the weather gets warmer.

You have a great naturist beach on your doorstep.

Good luck mate. Be positive. You have a whole life of fun ahead. There’s no big rush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Don't just rely on fab, try talking to girls away from fab, plenty of them around you in your normal life and especially at your age.

Go out for a drink and see what happens.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

Sweet mother of God

You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.

You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Confidence is the key mate, in the real world anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sweet mother of God

You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.

You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."

Yes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The facts are simple, a safe guess is that there is at least 20 single males to every single female. Also you said you live in dorset which isnt a highly populated area compared to london or manchester. Then your age cuts the pool of people down even more.

We have been here as a couple for 3 years and had 3 meets. And the couple dynamic is alot differant but still its hard to get what you want here unless you are a single female

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Sweet mother of God

You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.

You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."

This exactly

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.

He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "

Absolutely agree, I joined when I was 18! I didn't want to have one night stands as they are boring af. Wanted to have something more with people who were established and at different points in their life. Young people are welcome on this site.

OP it's a shame you're a little too far away aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In these days of social media do you blame them?!!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer."

Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.

^my favourite young guy, ever so successful!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Sweet mother of God

You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.

You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."

Completely this

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.

^my favourite young guy, ever so successful!"

Thank you your majesty how have you been

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.

He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab.

OP it's a shame you're a little too far away aha "

Op get on your mini moto and head to Cheltenham it sounds like this young lady is willing

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Not anywhere in the whole country either? Crikey. "

Crikey indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.

We’ll have to beg to differ, as I don’t think it came across patronising.

As I said way up there ^^ everyone is welcome on Fabs however if you are starting a thread asking why you can get meets, and you are a man age CAN be a factor on both sides of the scale.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.

I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.

There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.

We’ll have to beg to differ, as I don’t think it came across patronising.

As I said way up there ^^ everyone is welcome on Fabs however if you are starting a thread asking why you can get meets, and you are a man age CAN be a factor on both sides of the scale."

Indeed.

Bloke asks why he can't get meet. It's highly likely that his age is a factor. Should we not tell him that because it sounds "patronising"?

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Age can sometimes be unfairly equates to inexperience for sure but I’m all for giving younger a chance in the same way I don’t always assume older are more experienced or less of an ass hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op it's how you sell yourself that gets you meets so concentrate on the whole package ie pics ,profile blurb ,and when you message someone show you actually read their profile not just flicked through the pics

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.

I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "

Totally agree with that, they have as much right to have there messages deleted unread as the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cause they don’t want to, I’m assuming "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you thought that perhaps you're not coming across very well? "

He hasnt come accross well in this

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The facts are simple, a safe guess is that there is at least 20 single males to every single female. Also you said you live in dorset which isnt a highly populated area compared to london or manchester. Then your age cuts the pool of people down even more.

We have been here as a couple for 3 years and had 3 meets. And the couple dynamic is alot differant but still its hard to get what you want here unless you are a single female"

Really? I'm a single female and it certainly isn't easy lol.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some areas have lower population levels than others, which can make it tougher. If you define the area you will meet in, it may simplify it for others.

Success is tough for all single men here, so focus on improving your odds, as far as you can.

People engage in conversation until they are clearer on whether they are meeting you. Some will have limited time and also have family, jobs and other priorities - plus alternative options for sex and love. If you were here I'd meet you but don't get south west too often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to tinder fella, you'll probably have more luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."

it’s like gold dust trying to find a lady that will return a message never mind have a good chat or even getting anywhere near a chance of even a social meet

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