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By *xperimental003 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi ladies,

I'm looking for advice from single ladies who are playing and living alone. When and how do you decide to invite someone into your home?

I had only two hotels meets so far and am about to meet someone for the second time. He cannot accommodate and can only meet during the day; he is very keen on being invited to my place; he had paid for the hotel the first time; I suggested to pay for a hotel this time; but he'd much prefer my place. Since he's married and playing in secret, he keeps his identity secret too. I don't want to be paranoid; he seems to be a nice guy, but I know nothing about him and cannot really trust him yet.

What would you do? hotel or home? (I'm not rich and the hotel does hurt a bit finacially)

any advice apprecaited.

Thanks

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Trust what you feel is right, tell him that your not comfortable inviting him into your home yet if that’s the case.

Try Airbnb - a little more private and sometimes cheaper than a hotel to.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If he didn't trust me enough to tell me a little about himself, he'd not be coming anywhere near my house.

I don't understand, if you're paying, why he's not happy to return to a hotel? Worried about seeing someone there? Or something else?

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I would never have someone who keeps his identity secret into my home and would be surprised if any single woman would take the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never have someone who keeps his identity secret into my home and would be surprised if any single woman would take the risk. "

This

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I would never have someone who keeps his identity secret into my home and would be surprised if any single woman would take the risk. "

I think thats a very sensible view.

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By *xperimental003 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks for your reply. It's not that he hasn't been telling me anything; but since he's cheating, he's also lying; I have no means of veryfing what he told me.

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By *xperimental003 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I would never have someone who keeps his identity secret into my home and would be surprised if any single woman would take the risk.

This"

Thanks! you are probably right.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

If he is married we would not be meeting him anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to continue seeing him stick to hotels .Never invite a man into your home if it doesn't feel right .You may live to regret it.

Take care

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

Hotel room is better, you can read the Bible there too

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Go with what you are comfortable with OP

If it doesn't feel right ,don't invite him to yours.

He isn't entitled to anything just because you have met and played before .

Miss

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By *oldenskyWoman
over a year ago

london

I would stick with hotel until

You know him a bit better if his a gent he will understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to hotels. If he is married last thing you need is his Mrs. Knocking on your door making a scene.

Also for your personal safety when this comes to an end.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Trust your gut instinct.

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Play it safe, keep with hotel meets. Too early to invite back to your house, until you trust him more.

Also avoids all the drama. Wife showing up, him turning up after a row etc etc

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By *xperimental003 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

all very good advice! thank you lovely fabers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot here do not like hotels they want home vistas especial if your a single male on here which does not apply to women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi ladies,

I'm looking for advice from single ladies who are playing and living alone. When and how do you decide to invite someone into your home?

I had only two hotels meets so far and am about to meet someone for the second time. He cannot accommodate and can only meet during the day; he is very keen on being invited to my place; he had paid for the hotel the first time; I suggested to pay for a hotel this time; but he'd much prefer my place. Since he's married and playing in secret, he keeps his identity secret too. I don't want to be paranoid; he seems to be a nice guy, but I know nothing about him and cannot really trust him yet.

What would you do? hotel or home? (I'm not rich and the hotel does hurt a bit finacially)

any advice apprecaited.

Thanks"
hotel or nothing....keep your home life private. He does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel or sack him off. Just a guy end of day for a shag can easily be replaced

Your body your comfort rules

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Go with your gut instinct.

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By *istress CockneyWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

No man would get over my threshold if unable to reciprocate.

Stick to the hotel meets.No changing the bed etc.Bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No man would get over my threshold if unable to reciprocate.

!"

Fully agree

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Best to go with the hotel meet on reflection.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Go with your gut instinct. "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm sure he would prefer your place OP. There would be no chance of his wife seeing payment for a hotel bill on a bank account or credit card bill!! That and there's no chance of him being spotted in public with you. I'd refuse another meet with him for your own safety, as others have pointed out you don't want an angry wife on your doorstep or for him to start staking you when it all goes tits up.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Ummm stalking, not staking lol. I'm sure you aren't really a vampire.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I'm sure he would prefer your place OP. There would be no chance of his wife seeing payment for a hotel bill on a bank account or credit card bill!! That and there's no chance of him being spotted in public with you. I'd refuse another meet with him for your own safety, as others have pointed out you don't want an angry wife on your doorstep or for him to start staking you when it all goes tits up."

IF it all goes boobs up. i had a 12mth affair with a married woman many years ago, they are still married, very happily too

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Hotel meet is the best way! Inviting someone you don’t know to your home could cause issues later especially with him being married! His wife could follow him, show up, cause you grief. He could cause issues if you ever had a disagreement and god forbid if she threw him out guess where he might make his way to....your home.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Loads of women let strangers into their homes for sex that are married, don’t he like them let him pay for the hotel too if money is tight for you, don’t skint yourself for a cheat

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Hotel meet is the best way! Inviting someone you don’t know to your home could cause issues later especially with him being married! His wife could follow him, show up, cause you grief. He could cause issues if you ever had a disagreement and god forbid if she threw him out guess where he might make his way to....your home. "

hotels are great...

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