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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any fellow fabbers care to give a proven reliable man a little advice, or pointer.

Firstly, I’m not posting to turn my back of swinging or Fab, but I’m at a stage where I’d also like to find a lady or a couple to be exclusive to. I’m not insisting that they are also exclusive to me, but it would be nice, but looking to stop searching and searching, as males outnumber every other sex on here anyway, so my question, or dilemma, is should I stay here and keep searching, or has anyone else had any success in other avenues away from fab that they feel may benefit what I’m interested in?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Is say the fact your married and on as a single will put most off as it begs the question, does she know you're on here.

But unless you apart someone's interest there's not a lot you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any fellow fabbers care to give a proven reliable man a little advice, or pointer.

Firstly, I’m not posting to turn my back of swinging or Fab, but I’m at a stage where I’d also like to find a lady or a couple to be exclusive to. I’m not insisting that they are also exclusive to me, but it would be nice, but looking to stop searching and searching, as males outnumber every other sex on here anyway, so my question, or dilemma, is should I stay here and keep searching, or has anyone else had any success in other avenues away from fab that they feel may benefit what I’m interested in?

"
a relationship in other words, you're just as likely to find one here as anywhere else but it's more about who you choose ,some women say they're up for a relationship but enjoy this lifestyle too much to change it as of course do some men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm honest and single and I can't see why I get no response from singles.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

I found 2 guys years ago who I see regularly. I have dabbled with others but these 2 give me all I desire so why continue to look. Both have come off FAB and are exclusive to me.

I am a married half whose husband isnt interested and they are likewise so perfect scenario for us all. We have lines that are never crossed, but also have a unique intimacy. Best of both worlds in my eyes.

Im sure others wont agree.

So if you can find some special people on here go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

"

Surely you would need monogamy initially in order to create a basis for an emotional commitment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

Surely you would need monogamy initially in order to create a basis for an emotional commitment?"

Not necessarily as the emotional commitment can grow gradually just as in an everyday relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

Surely you would need monogamy initially in order to create a basis for an emotional commitment?"

why do you? our relationship works perfectly and has done for years without sexual monogamy at any point. We met through swinging and committed to emotional monogamy almost straight away once it became clear we were more than just fuck buddies

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Any fellow fabbers care to give a proven reliable man a little advice, or pointer.

Firstly, I’m not posting to turn my back of swinging or Fab, but I’m at a stage where I’d also like to find a lady or a couple to be exclusive to. I’m not insisting that they are also exclusive to me, but it would be nice, but looking to stop searching and searching, as males outnumber every other sex on here anyway, so my question, or dilemma, is should I stay here and keep searching, or has anyone else had any success in other avenues away from fab that they feel may benefit what I’m interested in?

"

How can you offer exclusivity when you're married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

Surely you would need monogamy initially in order to create a basis for an emotional commitment?

why do you? our relationship works perfectly and has done for years without sexual monogamy at any point. We met through swinging and committed to emotional monogamy almost straight away once it became clear we were more than just fuck buddies"

Flik and Paul, Janey and fellow Monkey - I stand corrected.

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I'm honest and single and I can't see why I get no response from singles. "

The black silhouette for your profile picture will be a factor, it makes it look like you've not given it any thought or effort so isn't a great first impression, no matter how good the message and the rest of your profile is.

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By *nicecoupleXCouple
over a year ago

Hitch

Your demands put me off

"A lady open to anal and DP would also be ahead of the crowd"

So those that don't are just filling in for a while?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldn’t call them demands, but preferences, and as the post suggests, and the profile, I’m seeking someone able to offer all I seek, to become exclusive to!

I’m not looking to be exclusive with someone that wouldn’t fully satisfy!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

Surely you would need monogamy initially in order to create a basis for an emotional commitment?"

Why? I’m very comfortable being entirely emotionally committed to one person with sexual freedom.

You are offering exclusivity but are married. That, for me, is more of a conundrum.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t call them demands, but preferences, and as the post suggests, and the profile, I’m seeking someone able to offer all I seek, to become exclusive to!

I’m not looking to be exclusive with someone that wouldn’t fully satisfy!"

How can you offee exclusive then if married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your demands put me off

"A lady open to anal and DP would also be ahead of the crowd"

So those that don't are just filling in for a while?"

Good points

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I, or we are getting what exclusivity on a site like this represents?

Fab exclusivity to me, would be that I would only play with that person only, but that person would have to tick what I am seeking.

I’m not classing exclusive, as being available 24/7 for them.

Yes I still want to swing, and play, but ideally, I want to play with just one, hence, I ask, should I look elsewhere?

Can it be swinging?

This is a sexual request and arrangement, nothing more,

For the record, I do appreciate and understand why you ask!!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I think you can find what you’re looking for. I don’t think it will be easy.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can find what you’re looking for. I don’t think it will be easy.

V x"

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Maybe I, or we are getting what exclusivity on a site like this represents?

Fab exclusivity to me, would be that I would only play with that person only, but that person would have to tick what I am seeking.

I’m not classing exclusive, as being available 24/7 for them.

Yes I still want to swing, and play, but ideally, I want to play with just one, hence, I ask, should I look elsewhere?

Can it be swinging?

This is a sexual request and arrangement, nothing more,

For the record, I do appreciate and understand why you ask!!"

I think what you are looking for is someone to have a long term, exclusive affair with. It's not swinging but there will be people on here who are probably in the same situation as you and are also looking for an affair. There are other sites out there though that cater for your needs.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"You could find what you are looking for here. There are people looking for many different things. I’m looking for similar except I’d like my relationship to be non monogamous sexually but emotionally committed. This is not a cultural norm so harder to stumble upon.

For me it’s key to be happy in the here and now and then if something or someone stumbles into your life and there is a natural progression then this is just perfect.

V x

"

That's exactly what I would have said if I was as eloquent

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all so far!!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I'm sure there are many on here that would like an exclusive arrangement, but you'll probably have to be very patient in order to find all that you're seeking.

Some will get very upset over mention of the 'e' word, others, including us, can only see the advantages and benefits of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP

I found 2 guys years ago who I see regularly. I have dabbled with others but these 2 give me all I desire so why continue to look. Both have come off FAB and are exclusive to me.

I am a married half whose husband isnt interested and they are likewise so perfect scenario for us all. We have lines that are never crossed, but also have a unique intimacy. Best of both worlds in my eyes.

Im sure others wont agree.

So if you can find some special people on here go for it. "

You're arrangement sounds perfect.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I wouldn’t call them demands, but preferences, and as the post suggests, and the profile, I’m seeking someone able to offer all I seek, to become exclusive to!

I’m not looking to be exclusive with someone that wouldn’t fully satisfy!"

But having a wife means you wouldn't be exclusive to that person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Explain exclusive?

I don’t have a sexual relationship with my wife, if we did, I wouldn’t be here, so sexually, the lady would be exclusive.

To take out, date, then no, I couldn’t offer this exclusivity, but if you’re seeking this arrangement, you’re on the wrong site?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Explain exclusive?

I don’t have a sexual relationship with my wife, if we did, I wouldn’t be here, so sexually, the lady would be exclusive.

To take out, date, then no, I couldn’t offer this exclusivity, but if you’re seeking this arrangement, you’re on the wrong site?"

But coming on a swinging site to seek sexual exclusivity kinda defeats the point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rewind, and read my opening post!!

Fab has, and until I find the elusive one, I’m sure it will to bring some great experiences, and friends.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Rewind, and read my opening post!!

Fab has, and until I find the elusive one, I’m sure it will to bring some great experiences, and friends. "

I've read it, I just find the whole situation abit odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rewind, and read my opening post!!

Fab has, and until I find the elusive one, I’m sure it will to bring some great experiences, and friends.

I've read it, I just find the whole situation abit odd. "

His fetish i guess lol

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham


"Explain exclusive?

I don’t have a sexual relationship with my wife, if we did, I wouldn’t be here, so sexually, the lady would be exclusive.

To take out, date, then no, I couldn’t offer this exclusivity, but if you’re seeking this arrangement, you’re on the wrong site?"

I don’t get the perk of this exclusivity..why is it a selling point to anyone that you don’t fuck others but aren’t available to even hang out..I understand what you’re looking for but not why you’re pushing the exclusive offer.

What type of person would find that a benefit, unless you find someone who enjoys some sort of “your dick is only mine” fantasy...I dunno..

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Explain exclusive?

I don’t have a sexual relationship with my wife, if we did, I wouldn’t be here, so sexually, the lady would be exclusive.

To take out, date, then no, I couldn’t offer this exclusivity, but if you’re seeking this arrangement, you’re on the wrong site?

I don’t get the perk of this exclusivity..why is it a selling point to anyone that you don’t fuck others but aren’t available to even hang out..I understand what you’re looking for but not why you’re pushing the exclusive offer.

What type of person would find that a benefit, unless you find someone who enjoys some sort of “your dick is only mine” fantasy...I dunno..

"

Exactly, he's got a list of things he wants in a woman but isn't really offering a fat lot in return.

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