FabSwingers.com forum: Experienced to Educate

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I'm total newbie. I'm looking for some well experienced people which would be that kind to spend some time with me and explain everything how it really works, where do I start, what behaviour is good and what's not. I really want to be part of swinging community but I want to do it right way. I want to make sure I will not upset/disrespect anyone. Anyone willing to meet up and break it down for me?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi I'm total newbie. I'm looking for some well experienced people which would be that kind to spend some time with me and explain everything how it really works, where do I start, what behaviour is good and what's not. I really want to be part of swinging community but I want to do it right way. I want to make sure I will not upset/disrespect anyone. Anyone willing to meet up and break it down for me?

Maybe try a club, lots of swingers attend them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm planning to do so but little shy-ish to go by myself.

(That first time so bloody stressful)

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We were all new once but can relate to the first time nerves of going to a club. Was expecting a seedy place with sticky floors but could not have been further from the truth.

You will find them very relaxed, nice places and all friendly. Well all we been too. Just have to take that step and go.

Socials always a good option as well. You will find lots posted in the forums.

Curious you profile says you have found someone and do not want to meet. Just want to learn about new things?

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I’m not sure if your situation has changed since you began this thread two hours ago, but your profile says you’ve found someone who is “worth all of your time” and you aren’t looking.

If you ARE looking, you need to sort that because it's confusing.

Also, as a phrase, it suggests that people in open relationships aren’t worth all of each other’s time which isn’t how I see my relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you behave respectfully towards everyone you won't upset anybody.

I don't think it's possible to teach someone how to swing because everyone they meet will be different. However general guidelines are, don't be pushy with women, don't touch without permission, if meeting couples don't ignore the guy or assume that he can't satisfy his partner, don't assume that because you fit the criteria on a profile they will automatically meet you, don't assume that women who have multiple sexual partners are not as worthwhile as women who don't and maintain your own dignity and self worth. Young, single men often take a while to get meets so be patient. Most of all relax and enjoy the experience.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

And would you prefer a bloke to show you how, or a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go to a club. Save your money and wait for a local group social. That or ask any questions you have on the Forum.

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By *rent Bridge SwingersCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are Newbie Workshops at Purple Mamba outside of usual club hours for the curious and shy, for couples and singles. They cover many aspects of the lifestyle from clubs, communication and consent. All the upcoming dates are on the website.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not really something that can be taught. Go (if you want), be respectful, watch others, ask for club or group rules. It's something you pick up over time.

We were all new once. You're allowed to be new.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

[Quote] your profile says you’ve found someone who is “worth all of your time” and you aren’t looking.

What a silly sausage.... my bad... indeed it is confusing as f.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if your situation has changed since you began this thread two hours ago, but your profile says you’ve found someone who is “worth all of your time” and you aren’t looking.

If you ARE looking, you need to sort that because it's confusing.

Also, as a phrase, it suggests that people in open relationships aren’t worth all of each other’s time which isn’t how I see my relationship. "

Fixed it. Thank you so much for pointing it out. Much appreciated xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And would you prefer a bloke to show you how, or a woman? "

I don't really know. From both sides I guess. I'm not just chasing ,,shag,,

I do believe SWINGING COMMUNITY have very own believes and way looking at things.

Before anything I want to understand it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but your profile text made me cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And would you prefer a bloke to show you how, or a woman? "

This a trick question lol

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"And would you prefer a bloke to show you how, or a woman?

I don't really know. From both sides I guess. I'm not just chasing ,,shag,,

I do believe SWINGING COMMUNITY have very own believes and way looking at things.

Before anything I want to understand it all

To explain - men have cock, women have fanny. Put cock in fanny. (Keith Chegwin). Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And would you prefer a bloke to show you how, or a woman?

I don't really know. From both sides I guess. I'm not just chasing ,,shag,,

I do believe SWINGING COMMUNITY have very own believes and way looking at things.

Before anything I want to understand it all

To explain - men have cock, women have fanny. Put cock in fanny. (Keith Chegwin). Hope this helps. "
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Use condoms. Be respectful and smell nice

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