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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wasnt sure what to call it so I went with the title lol, anyway, me and the wife have been into the whole hotwife thing for some time now and shes met a couple of guys alone where shes sent me pics whilst on the meet which is a massive turn on and then when she comes home to me she tells me all about the meet in bed :p

Now we are still doing this but for a while shes told me that she would like me to do it, obviously where I meet a woman and send her pics etc, and never really thought about doing it until a few months ago but find it pretty much impossible to find any women from a couple let alone single women who are wanting to do it, but find it strange as there are so many people on fabs like us who are into the same thing, am I the only one who finds it so hard as a guy from a couple? Lol, or should I just live with the fact that the pictures of me on pir profile just dont do it for the ladies on here? :/ Haha.

Thanks in advance

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

You guys have a great profile so that isn't the issue. And good pics.

As a single woman here we are already inundated with single guys, and we get a lot of 'only the male of the couple meeting at the mo' messages. You need to stand out of that crowd unfortunately.

Have you tried chatting to singles and couples at clubs and socials, and lining up potential playmates that way rather than relying on Fab? The face to face approach might work better. Especially if your partner introduces you to other women, as it lets them know that you're genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You guys have a great profile so that isn't the issue. And good pics.

As a single woman here we are already inundated with single guys, and we get a lot of 'only the male of the couple meeting at the mo' messages. You need to stand out of that crowd unfortunately.

Have you tried chatting to singles and couples at clubs and socials, and lining up potential playmates that way rather than relying on Fab? The face to face approach might work better. Especially if your partner introduces you to other women, as it lets them know that you're genuine."

Thank you for your reply and thanks for the compliments also

The problem is we dont do the club side of it all, our free time for any meets is very limited as it is (hence why were on here as a couple but it has worked better when the wife has met alone then I can be at home etc), we have always known it would probably be easier to meet people face to face at clubs etc it's just never been for us so we tend to chat a bit and see if we click with the people then when we do have meets we know 99% that it's not going to be time wasted for us or the other person.

But our problem is that we will find someone who we both like and we all seem to click, and when we do get to the "planning a meet" stage it all seems to go quiet or the old "I cant meet for the next 52 weeks" for all different reasons, just gets a bit predictable after its happened with 10 women in a row lol.

Like I say the wife has no issues with finding guys to meet her for the whole hotwife thing, it's just ne Haha. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a couple we have this issue too. I have no interest in meeting other men but love the Mr to play with other females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy the cuckqueen scenario but like yourselves it's near impossible to arrange.

Only managed a few times and most of those have resulted from initial club visits where we've gotten friendly with a couple and then he's joined them away from the club for threesomes while I stay home, or even more rare, he's managed to arrange a solo date.

Pity, as I love the thought of him enjoying himself with other ladies who also enjoy him getting the details after gives me such a buzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We enjoy the cuckqueen scenario but like yourselves it's near impossible to arrange.

Only managed a few times and most of those have resulted from initial club visits where we've gotten friendly with a couple and then he's joined them away from the club for threesomes while I stay home, or even more rare, he's managed to arrange a solo date.

Pity, as I love the thought of him enjoying himself with other ladies who also enjoy him getting the details after gives me such a buzz "

Yeah, the wife has really pushed it over the past 12 months and who am I to stop her Haha, but yes its impossible, obviously I'm up against hundreds of single guys so that's a challenge, and I think a lot of the women we chat to think it's me (hubby) doing it behind the wife's back or it's all for me, when if you read our verifications they are actually all pretty much for the wife lol. It's a bloody hard struggle!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as a couple we have this issue too. I have no interest in meeting other men but love the Mr to play with other females. "

We were interested in both but where the wife has no problems finding guys for the challenge, I on the other hand find it impossible to find women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to borrow a husband but only if the wife gives permission.

Mutual attraction is key though.

Oh and in that situation, I would never consent to videos or pics taken with me in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to borrow a husband but only if the wife gives permission.

Mutual attraction is key though.

Oh and in that situation, I would never consent to videos or pics taken with me in them."

That wouldn't be an issue, just a pity you live 150+ miles away

Ah well, there must be other ladies who enjoy meeting husbands and sending them back to the wives with a story to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasnt sure what to call it so I went with the title lol, anyway, me and the wife have been into the whole hotwife thing for some time now and shes met a couple of guys alone where shes sent me pics whilst on the meet which is a massive turn on and then when she comes home to me she tells me all about the meet in bed :p

Now we are still doing this but for a while shes told me that she would like me to do it, obviously where I meet a woman and send her pics etc, and never really thought about doing it until a few months ago but find it pretty much impossible to find any women from a couple let alone single women who are wanting to do it, but find it strange as there are so many people on fabs like us who are into the same thing, am I the only one who finds it so hard as a guy from a couple? Lol, or should I just live with the fact that the pictures of me on pir profile just dont do it for the ladies on here? :/ Haha.

Thanks in advance "

Nope, you’re not alone. So many people on here won’t touch married men....exactly what site did they think they were joining?!

Many seem to assume that if you’re a married man but playing alone you’re just a cheating liar, which is flat-out bigoted in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t meet married/ attached men, because a big part of this for me.... is the attention I receive from the man. I want texts, phone calls, a build up of excitement and adoration.

I want his time and to feel that he really wants me. He’s being driven wild with desire !!

This doesn’t happen with happily married men. Quite rightly, they have another woman that occupies their thoughts.... so that’s no good to me.

I think quite a lot of women feel this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same issue. I’m a in a committed relationship where we like the cuckqueen scenario. It is very difficult to find women as a guy as most women either think you are lying or are worried about partner meltdowns (it does happen). The best way around this is to go to clubs, that way you meet people who can tell that you are genuine and also that mrs approves. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this scenario I'm very happy to meet the husband!! But only after a social with the couple

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By *aughty_but_n1ceWoman
over a year ago

North London


"Wasnt sure what to call it so I went with the title lol, anyway, me and the wife have been into the whole hotwife thing for some time now and shes met a couple of guys alone where shes sent me pics whilst on the meet which is a massive turn on and then when she comes home to me she tells me all about the meet in bed :p

Now we are still doing this but for a while shes told me that she would like me to do it, obviously where I meet a woman and send her pics etc, and never really thought about doing it until a few months ago but find it pretty much impossible to find any women from a couple let alone single women who are wanting to do it, but find it strange as there are so many people on fabs like us who are into the same thing, am I the only one who finds it so hard as a guy from a couple? Lol, or should I just live with the fact that the pictures of me on pir profile just dont do it for the ladies on here? :/ Haha.

Thanks in advance

Nope, you’re not alone. So many people on here won’t touch married men....exactly what site did they think they were joining?!

Many seem to assume that if you’re a married man but playing alone you’re just a cheating liar, which is flat-out bigoted in my opinion."

The thing is that there are so many guys (and ladies) on this site who ARE cheating on their other halves, hence why a lot of women are sceptical. I would never meet a cheater so it’s the first thing that rules people out for me.

The ratio of men/ women is not equal so if there are doubts or worries then it’s easier to meet someone single. At the end of the day, you simply saying she knows and won’t confirm it doesn’t mean that’s true. I’m not saying in your case it’s not true, but lying is easy.

Throwing the word bigot around in the opening paragraph of your profile could be part of the problem? I certainly didn’t read past that as I found it offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is that there are so many guys (and ladies) on this site who ARE cheating on their other halves, hence why a lot of women are sceptical. I would never meet a cheater so it’s the first thing that rules people out for me.

The ratio of men/ women is not equal so if there are doubts or worries then it’s easier to meet someone single. At the end of the day, you simply saying she knows and won’t confirm it doesn’t mean that’s true. I’m not saying in your case it’s not true, but lying is easy.

Throwing the word bigot around in the opening paragraph of your profile could be part of the problem? I certainly didn’t read past that as I found it offensive."

That was a very recent addition, but I accept that it could seem abrasive so will change it (thank you); I’ve just had it come up in casual conversation a couple of times now that the immediate assumption will often be that I’m dishonest, which is just as offensive in my opinion and I was venting.

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By *ormladMan
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

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By *lwayshorny79Woman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Wasnt sure what to call it so I went with the title lol, anyway, me and the wife have been into the whole hotwife thing for some time now and shes met a couple of guys alone where shes sent me pics whilst on the meet which is a massive turn on and then when she comes home to me she tells me all about the meet in bed :p

Now we are still doing this but for a while shes told me that she would like me to do it, obviously where I meet a woman and send her pics etc, and never really thought about doing it until a few months ago but find it pretty much impossible to find any women from a couple let alone single women who are wanting to do it, but find it strange as there are so many people on fabs like us who are into the same thing, am I the only one who finds it so hard as a guy from a couple? Lol, or should I just live with the fact that the pictures of me on pir profile just dont do it for the ladies on here? :/ Haha.

Thanks in advance "

I'd love to find the same for my hubby too, although I think he has now given up on finding anyone now.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

The way we do it seems to be a better option than people have said here.

I love love LOVE watching beast with another woman but also like to have the opportunity to join.

We also love to have beast pleasure a woman on top of me so she and I can kiss and caress while I feel her body and breath reacting to the pleasure.

It's an amazing experience and makes the woman the centre of attention for both of us instead of it just being a meet with a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve managed this on a few occasions now either at a club where I wait somewhere else and get the details after, or as a result of meeting another couple in a club and hes then met the lady of the couple solo after.

Maybe look at stag and vixen couples who would probably be more open to the scenario as he would be getting the same out of it as your wife would.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I don’t meet married/ attached men, because a big part of this for me.... is the attention I receive from the man. I want texts, phone calls, a build up of excitement and adoration.

I want his time and to feel that he really wants me. He’s being driven wild with desire !!

This doesn’t happen with happily married men. Quite rightly, they have another woman that occupies their thoughts.... so that’s no good to me.

I think quite a lot of women feel this way. "

They are out there, I suppose it's a case of finding the right couple that you connect with, I've played with a few and the attention is the same as a single male, but we have very clear respectful boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something we like too it's just another take on hotwife stagnvixen but other way around lots of fun. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would with the wife’s consent. X

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By *ravellerukMan
over a year ago

highbridge/Burnham


"Wasnt sure what to call it so I went with the title lol, anyway, me and the wife have been into the whole hotwife thing for some time now and shes met a couple of guys alone where shes sent me pics whilst on the meet which is a massive turn on and then when she comes home to me she tells me all about the meet in bed :p

Now we are still doing this but for a while shes told me that she would like me to do it, obviously where I meet a woman and send her pics etc, and never really thought about doing it until a few months ago but find it pretty much impossible to find any women from a couple let alone single women who are wanting to do it, but find it strange as there are so many people on fabs like us who are into the same thing, am I the only one who finds it so hard as a guy from a couple? Lol, or should I just live with the fact that the pictures of me on pir profile just dont do it for the ladies on here? :/ Haha.

Thanks in advance "

We’re (me) having the same problem. Whether from our couples profile or this one, we just get no traction.

Too easy to get lost in the “fake swingers” I guess.

Tempted to revisit some previous couples we’ve met to see if that works. But then what message does that send. Mr wants another visit, but Mrs doesn’t???

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By *oltandJodyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We would like this scenario, it's difficult to meet anyone as a couple because of the our children, we want to meet couples but only done so at Charms so far, I could meet alone after a social or Jody would talk with the women beforehand to confirm blessing, she would love knowing what we got up to when I returned. But don't know how to got about doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband is a hot husband. I agree some ladies do find it strange with this set up and also lots also question why I have no desire to meet men, I love him going out and telling me about it, getting all dressed up, smelling nice, ahh love it!

Danish x

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By *rIntMan
over a year ago

London

We are out here and it is hard, especially since there’s so many men.

I am part of this couple dynamic too and I found that you get more success if your wife leads in the club setting or if you venture out on your own. That may include creating a new single guy profile but one she can also access.

You’re going to have to find a way to go to a social or a club on your own or with your partner, that way it’s easier to speak to and possibly find someone with the same interests.

Good luck

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