FabSwingers.com forum: Moan moan moan

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the way of fab. I wouldn't sweat it, and ignore those who make baseless assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t please everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never have accommodated here while my children lived at home. We felt it extremely inappropriate. That's maybe one reason why other couples wouldn't accommodate.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We don't accommodate because we have young children. They get babysat at home. It would be wildly innapropriate and wrong to have a fab meet at home while the children are there. It's their safe space and we intend to keep it that way

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Safety first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many couples are naturally suspicious of single men. Our first thoughts are always ‘are they married’. If a guy can accommodate it eliminates that doubt. With so many men to choose from on Fab then for every guy who doesn’t accommodate there will be guys who can.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

And on the other hand, I'm always a bit freaked by a guy I don't know inviting me to his place.

I've watched too much Law and Order: Special Victims.

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

Isn't this up to individuals?

Individuals set their own rules and standards.

If you don't meet the criteria, move on or change tack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

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just explain why on profile it goes away then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want people at my house and prefer hotel meets. Maybe because I don't want people have my address. Until of course letting a couple a few times and can then change mind

The chance of us meeting a single guy more than once is very low. So I get it.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've never seen 'cannot accommodate' on a male profile, and assumed "oh he must be married"

I see men, choosing not to have complete strangers know where they live, invite them into their home.

Men, who may have children at home, live with other family or flat/houseshare.

I like to judge people as individuals, not from an option on a profits tickbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do things your own way OP. There are no rules, other than the usual legal stuff and whatever Fab itself advises.

Too many of us are overly concerned about what others think. We all use this site in different ways. Only, a lot of us tend to forget and only see things through our own distorted little prisms of light, to the soundtracks of our own echo chambers.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"We would never have accommodated here while my children lived at home. We felt it extremely inappropriate. That's maybe one reason why other couples wouldn't accommodate. "

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

just explain why on profile it goes away then "

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

I don't see the issue if you don't like what's on someone's profile nobody is making you meet them and visa versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore them judgemental snubs. We never ask single guys about their personal lives and neither we are interested .

Some cpls assume that if a single guy is attached then they don't want to be in trouble for home wrecking .

As it someone is going to knock on your door and question you.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Sadly a double standard same as Bi men v Bi women.

Not accommodating alone doesn't mean someone is a cheat,there are usually other pointers.

You can only try and explain why you can't or don't want to accom,if someone doesn't believe you,theres not much you can do I'm afraid.

I do get why its frustrating though and yes some will be cheats and many of them women too.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would never have accommodated here while my children lived at home. We felt it extremely inappropriate. That's maybe one reason why other couples wouldn't accommodate. "

Other people including single men have these reasons too along with not wanting random strangers to know where they live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had quite a few people refusing to meet simply due to the fact that I can't accomadate, even though we were arranging to meet at theirs. They said it's suspicious.

I live with my parents. Simple as that.

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

I don't judgeanyone who can't accommodate. There's too many nutters around, why take the risk of having a stranger in your home ?

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Ok so if a guy selects doesn’t accommodate on his profile he’s hiding things or cheating on his wife! Not that he just wants to keep fab life separate from real life....

Yet single females and couples are okay not to meet at theirs and is probably for same reason?

Go figure

Several guys I know can't accommodate because of other reasons, divorced and moved in temporarily with family, carer for elderly parents, single parent of younger children, in flat share but want privacy for meet, it isn't always married cheaters.

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