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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Was invited to go to a party (which I have never done on fab) and the woman was telling me about her stable of submissives. Consenting subs available for use at party or to take home and keep overnight? Has anyone come across "male property" before? Opinions with actual experience would be good as my Spidey senses are tingling.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

It happens though it does sound a bit suspicious did she perhaps contact you and offer you one of these he-subs?

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

She invited me to come to one of her parties and yes I was offered a sub to use. Consenting obviously. It's just a new experience (I tend to avoid parties and clubs as they're not my thing usually)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had that message too. There is money involved in it too. The men pay her for the introduction.

Been offered it from 2 different profiles but if I remember rightly the first one was removed by fab

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If they're not working girls she doesn't care much for 'her' stable of submissive's does she.

Loaning out submissive's to people she clearly doesn't know that well as she offered you one that has never been to one her parties doesn't sound safe at all to me.

Maybe it's just my hero complex kicking in but something definitely doesn't smell right to me atall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have at least one guy that wants me to find him suitable men and women to use him. He's quite receptive to 'taking direction' too...but still rough around tje edges if that makes sense

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If they're not working girls she doesn't care much for 'her' stable of submissive's does she.

Loaning out submissive's to people she clearly doesn't know that well as she offered you one that has never been to one her parties doesn't sound safe at all to me.

Maybe it's just my hero complex kicking in but something definitely doesn't smell right to me atall."

Yup I know but she seems to be clear on consent by them (all male btw) and insisting on safe sex at all times and ensuring boundaries are respected. It's not that I have trouble finding subs (I use a foam club to keep the horde at bay ) I suppose I was hoping to find someone on here who's been to one and has a report (good or bad) to make on it.

If not I'll go see with my head on and eyes wide and see what it is in reality.

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have at least one guy that wants me to find him suitable men and women to use him. He's quite receptive to 'taking direction' too...but still rough around tje edges if that makes sense"

Yup I've a sub friend who wants fairly extreme scenarios but all under my direction he's eager but untrained and frankly his requests could lead him into v bad situations so I've been meeting and playing but also trying to instill some sense of self preservation into him. Not all who call themselves Dominant will take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a similar message when questioning more about it. We found out that they like it filmed and this is then streamed online.

Also I have a big issue around consent as you don't get to talk to the subs and build trust and thinks like boundaries etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh this does not sound safe to me

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a similar message when questioning more about it. We found out that they like it filmed and this is then streamed online.

Also I have a big issue around consent as you don't get to talk to the subs and build trust and thinks like boundaries etc. "

Might be a diff one, this is based in Glasgow and I'm supposed to chat with at least one of the subs on another chat platform to ensure for my own that he's willing and consenting.

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a similar message when questioning more about it. We found out that they like it filmed and this is then streamed online.

Also I have a big issue around consent as you don't get to talk to the subs and build trust and thinks like boundaries etc. "

I definitely wouldn't want to be filmed and online...

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

From the other point of view. Many years ago in another life I was a pro sub to a Mistress, who lent me to people of her choosing for use or to practice on. But she knew I was 1000% safe to do so, so it's not unheard of but... You have to do this with people you explicitly know and are safe with, not just someone who offers it to you willy nilly, who may indeed have other motives or standards ! I would say politely decline the offer, be safe not sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a similar message when questioning more about it. We found out that they like it filmed and this is then streamed online.

Also I have a big issue around consent as you don't get to talk to the subs and build trust and thinks like boundaries etc.

Might be a diff one, this is based in Glasgow and I'm supposed to chat with at least one of the subs on another chat platform to ensure for my own that he's willing and consenting. "

Only you know if u want to get involved with it. For me it was far too bizarre a concept...especially the cash aspect. If I want a sub I'll find one.

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thank you fellow fabbers, yup was looking for perspective and in a lovely measured way you've all given it. Gratefully received btw.

I'm still uncertain what I'll do at the moment but if I do meet or attend or I decide not to I'll follow up from this thread to keep folk posted.

Be good to one another and have fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a similar message when questioning more about it. We found out that they like it filmed and this is then streamed online.

Also I have a big issue around consent as you don't get to talk to the subs and build trust and thinks like boundaries etc.

Might be a diff one, this is based in Glasgow and I'm supposed to chat with at least one of the subs on another chat platform to ensure for my own that he's willing and consenting. "

Def sounds the same the message we got was from one of the so called subs and his mistress in Glasgow.

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By *ickygirl41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Understood X

Will keep that well in mind.

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