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By *lly24 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester.

Hi all, having been on the site for a good while, beginning to question if I should give it up as a result of the lack of meets.

In the club's I will get to play spontaneously, however nothing pre arranged.

I always read profiles and send polite messages with a face pic but not much luck. Beginning to think that the preference for Asian is just not there, time for some reality I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is one of the better ones I've seen, I know there is this stigma? Preference? Against Asian guys out there, keep your chin up though! There are those of us out there who don't see you being Asian as an issue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm i wouldn't give up, but if you're investing a lot of time in it, maybe just lessen it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many men don't get meets or replies. Could be the asian thing but mostly the man thing. Sorry.

If clubs work why not stick to those? I think eye contact and personality work well.

Many men find clubs difficult so you're already at an advantage if you do ok there. (That's a compliment)

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Your profile is better than average and good photos.

You have had some meets so doing something right. Just keep it up

Do not think there is any stigma as the comment above suggests. People are allowed preferences.

Most like us do not give a damn what a person looks like and look for people compatable personality wise with ourselves.(hard for us as we are weird)

Do not let Fab rule your life. Just use it as a bit of occasional fun to get away from the boredom of working life.

If things happen they happen. If they do not move on to the next and forget about it.

Sex is not everything here. We have met some good friends and now pop round each others occsionally for coffee with no play. This site is great if use it well and recommend sticking around unless it starts effecting you and getting you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I checked your profile, you have 4 solid verifications .......

Are you looking for a long term relationship?

If not , I’ll give you some advice and please read this with an American accent...

“ Keep doing what you’re doing, if it ain’t broke.

Don’t try to fix it “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I checked your profile, you have 4 solid verifications .......

Are you looking for a long term relationship?

If not , I’ll give you some advice and please read this with an American accent...

“ Keep doing what you’re doing, if it ain’t broke.

Don’t try to fix it “"

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By *lly24 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester.

Thanks for the replies all. Really appreciate the time taken to look at my profile.

I agree that the preference isn't there for the most part, but also agree about the stigma given what I've read on some profiles so quite frustrating either way.

Just going to keep doing the same I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 meets in as Many months! Poor you lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

As others have said, why not just keep going to clubs as you obviously have success there. You might also get some meets or party invitations from people there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, having been on the site for a good while, beginning to question if I should give it up as a result of the lack of meets.

In the club's I will get to play spontaneously, however nothing pre arranged.

I always read profiles and send polite messages with a face pic but not much luck. Beginning to think that the preference for Asian is just not there, time for some reality I guess?"

Sadly you will be judged against your group.

And as im sure youre aware many men in the asian community have a very unsavoury view of white women.

Your meets do show though that youre not one of those people so youre in a good place but yeah its gonna be hard to let your personality shine through when people dismiss you at first based on past results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, having been on the site for a good while, beginning to question if I should give it up as a result of the lack of meets.

In the club's I will get to play spontaneously, however nothing pre arranged.

I always read profiles and send polite messages with a face pic but not much luck. Beginning to think that the preference for Asian is just not there, time for some reality I guess?"

Im still waiting for the skinny white dude to come back into fashion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, having been on the site for a good while, beginning to question if I should give it up as a result of the lack of meets.

In the club's I will get to play spontaneously, however nothing pre arranged.

I always read profiles and send polite messages with a face pic but not much luck. Beginning to think that the preference for Asian is just not there, time for some reality I guess?

Im still waiting for the skinny white dude to come back into fashion.

Emo chicks?

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Being a single man on here is going to be tough whatever race or age you are as there is so much competition.

I do see quite a lot of 'no Asian males please' on profiles especially with couples.

I have spoken with some couples about this and what was said was of a similar note, that it was nothing to do with race but that Asian guys they'd met before were all pushy.

Sadly, those few bad experiences have put them off. Yes, their tarnishing with same brush but I do think that once a reputation starts it's a tough one to break.

That's life, there's always a few who spoil it for others.

Your profile seems fine and I would just continue as you are. You have to have a thick skin and lots of patience as a single male on here.

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By *nicecoupleXCouple
over a year ago

Hitch

You have had more activity then most single guys on this site.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Could be the stigma but also you're up against a lot more men on here than in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand this is completely irrelevant but would anyone be willing to have a look at my profile and tell me how I could improve it?

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"Many men don't get meets or replies. Could be the asian thing but mostly the man thing. Sorry.

If clubs work why not stick to those? I think eye contact and personality work well.

Many men find clubs difficult so you're already at an advantage if you do ok there. (That's a compliment)

Definitely this ^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand this is completely irrelevant but would anyone be willing to have a look at my profile and tell me how I could improve it?"

Make a new topic and ask the question. You'll get more answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, having been on the site for a good while, beginning to question if I should give it up as a result of the lack of meets.

In the club's I will get to play spontaneously, however nothing pre arranged.

I always read profiles and send polite messages with a face pic but not much luck. Beginning to think that the preference for Asian is just not there, time for some reality I guess?"
I'd meet you if we were within my maximum travel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand this is completely irrelevant but would anyone be willing to have a look at my profile and tell me how I could improve it?

Make a new topic and ask the question. You'll get more answers.

Thank you

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