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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton

So, I’ve been lucky enough to stumble across a very pretty young lady, who originally I started seeing out of the scene but the more we’ve got to know about each other, the more interesting it has gotten! So it turns out, in her own words, she used to be a right little “slut” but calmed herself down over the past couple years! Now, fortunately she still has it in her but hasn’t played in this scene before! So my question, how would you recommend I slowly break her in? She likes the sound of a club, which I think could be quite daunting for a first time or do I organise a little private meet where I can vet the people coming? Any advice would be appreciated, don’t wanna go scaring her off

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

If she likes the sound of a club, give the lady what she wants.

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"If she likes the sound of a club, give the lady what she wants. "

Aha yeah fair enough! Don’t ya think that it might be quite daunting? Turning up to a club that can have 100+ people, i remember shitting myself first time I attended a club aha

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"If she likes the sound of a club, give the lady what she wants.

Aha yeah fair enough! Don’t ya think that it might be quite daunting? Turning up to a club that can have 100+ people, i remember shitting myself first time I attended a club aha "

Ask her! We don't know the woman.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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No reason why a club should be daunting, lots of people go to clubs to socialize and make connections rather than play.

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"If she likes the sound of a club, give the lady what she wants.

Aha yeah fair enough! Don’t ya think that it might be quite daunting? Turning up to a club that can have 100+ people, i remember shitting myself first time I attended a club aha

Ask her! We don't know the woman. "

Aha I have and she does seem keen to try the clubs out! Just wanted the opinions of experienced ladies

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"No reason why a club should be daunting, lots of people go to clubs to socialize and make connections rather than play. "

Good point, guess they probably are the better place to start her off! Appreciate it

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By *ertnsarahCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

If she's interested in a club take her! It's less daunting because there's no pressure & it's different (easier?) going as a couple compared to walking in as a single. If she doesn't like it you can just leave without feeling like you've let anyone down. Why should you have to "vet people for her"? Surely she's old enough to make her own mind up? (Sarah)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she likes the sound of a club, give the lady what she wants.

Aha yeah fair enough! Don’t ya think that it might be quite daunting? Turning up to a club that can have 100+ people, i remember shitting myself first time I attended a club aha "

Go to a smaller club

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say she used to be " a right little slut" so she may well have been to clubs before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she has expressed that she'd like to go to a club then that would be the best place to start! Don't let it be daunting as she won't have to play, just socialise first time perhaps? Definitely no pressure is best whereas inviting guys around for sex is daunting at first tbh ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Torture Gardens - she will love it x

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"If she's interested in a club take her! It's less daunting because there's no pressure & it's different (easier?) going as a couple compared to walking in as a single. If she doesn't like it you can just leave without feeling like you've let anyone down. Why should you have to "vet people for her"? Surely she's old enough to make her own mind up? (Sarah) "

Ahh don’t get me wrong, I’ve met a fair few sketchy single males and understand how their minds work ahah she has the final call on everything, I just wouldn’t want her meeting the weirdos this site attracts aha but I appreciate everyone’s advice! I think a club is going to be the first step, as like someone stated can at least just be a social thanks everyone

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"Torture Gardens - she will love it x"

That the one in London?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she has expressed that she'd like to go to a club then that would be the best place to start! Don't let it be daunting as she won't have to play, just socialise first time perhaps? Definitely no pressure is best whereas inviting guys around for sex is daunting at first tbh ... "

Very good advice.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

OP are you an Alan Partridge fan by any chance ?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Sounds too me like it's the op bottling it about going to club.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Respect her wishes, take her to a club as she clearly feels more comfortable with that scenario. If you won't take her then I'm sure she could post a meet saying which club and when to arrange to meet people there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Swinging as a couple is about two people agreeing what they want not one person saying what they want and the other going off and asking strangers if that's really ok. Talk to the woman! Agree between you and trust that she knows her own mind.

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"OP are you an Alan Partridge fan by any chance ?"

If I’m totally honest, no aha

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"Sounds too me like it's the op bottling it about going to club."
that obviously shows how bad your assumpstion skills are! Been to a couple of clubs as a couple and one club on my own aha is natural to have nerves, especially when on ya Larry lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Sounds too me like it's the op bottling it about going to club. that obviously shows how bad your assumpstion skills are! Been to a couple of clubs as a couple and one club on my own aha is natural to have nerves, especially when on ya Larry lol"

You went with Larry, so you weren't on your own aha were you?

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"Sounds too me like it's the op bottling it about going to club. that obviously shows how bad your assumpstion skills are! Been to a couple of clubs as a couple and one club on my own aha is natural to have nerves, especially when on ya Larry lol

You went with Larry, so you weren't on your own aha were you? "

Aha well if we’re calling my little guy Larry, guess I wasn’t aha

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