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By *isa2018 OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We've only been around for a while on fab, although we are very active with club visits, messages and wanting to meet socially and for fun with people that we click with.

There does seem to be some suspicious accounts though that just don't feel right. As the Male half I'm probably the soft one; I give the benefit of the doubt to people and try to respond to anyone that does what we ask and sends a decent message and photo. S has less patience. LOL.

So, how do you spot the obvious fakes if, like me, you're an eternal optimist?

A recent one today is a couple that have a profile over a year old, with one verification 10 months ago by cam, a one line profile text and a single public face photo that is a bit dark and looks like a lifted Facebook photo. We receive a message asking if we use kik and to see more of us as we don't have a public face photo, but we have lots of public photos that should give a good idea of whether someone is interested.

Indeed we get a lot of interest in S from single guys and couples, either the male half, or even ladies despite stating she isn't bi.

We are quite happy to swap face photos once we believe we are speaking to someone genuine but occasionally you just get that feeling that all is not as it seems.

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By *oungcoup69Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

We've been accused of being fake but we are always happy to prove ourselves to people! We keep encountering pic collecters with no pics themselves demanding more of us? Nature of the beast I suppose! I am with you on being a bit of a soft touch Aswell and tend to let the fakes get far further than the Mrs does haha!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've been told I'm fake as well, only when saying no thanks. Wasn't aware that fakes could send replies as we aren't real, so how does that work lol??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Do the verifications look legit, are they from profiles that look legit? If a woman or couple, without an explanation, no meets in the last six months would make me suspicious.

Quality of photos, either too poor or too good.

Does their story add up?

Do the messages ring true as to who they claim is talking? (sometimes I read female profiles and think "women don't talk like that")

If things go wrong, does it seem plausible? (I fell foul of this when I was new, though...)

If their verification is limited, are they willing to verify themselves for you? Are they willing to meet you in a club?

Trying to go to Kik quickly can be a sign of someone wanting to sign you up for a paid service, but isn't always.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The general rule of thumb is, if it smells fishy it usually is, trust your gut instinct and if it doesn't feel right, don't be afraid to ignore/block and move on.

There are a few indicators though - although they need to be used with a little common sense and logic, as they don't always mean what they appear to:

- Do the pics reverse image to porn sites, or even other sites using Google Reverse Image, TinEye or PrePostSeo?

- Is the person persistently asking for pics?

- Have they tried to move to "sex chat" within the first few messages?

- If it's a couple's profile is it only ever the male half of the couple who's in contact and the female half is always "busy"?

- Does the profile read well and appeal? (which would be a criteria regardless of whether trying to spot a fake)

- Is the profile recently verified, and by a few unconnected others, and does the verification trail look legitimate (fakers have been known to create multiple profiles all verifying each other).

There's probably a few others but they're the key ones and always remember if in doubt, you're probably right to be, and there are plenty of other profiles that are genuine.

Good luck and have fun

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By *ornysxguyMan
over a year ago

Maldon, Essex

As other have said, you need to scan through profile looking for things that aren’t quite right. Photos from 4 years ago and no recent meets? Profile that only show the male? Or state male can play alone, yet no Verdi’s from couples meets. The list is endless when it comes to spotting fakes.

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By *s.FrostWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones..."

Sometimes Kik is used by adult workers as a way of getting around rules, and they ask for money there.

But it's also something a lot of genuine people use.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"The general rule of thumb is, if it smells fishy it usually is, trust your gut instinct and if it doesn't feel right, don't be afraid to ignore/block and move on.

There are a few indicators though - although they need to be used with a little common sense and logic, as they don't always mean what they appear to:

- Do the pics reverse image to porn sites, or even other sites using Google Reverse Image, TinEye or PrePostSeo?

- Is the person persistently asking for pics?

- Have they tried to move to "sex chat" within the first few messages?

- If it's a couple's profile is it only ever the male half of the couple who's in contact and the female half is always "busy"?

- Does the profile read well and appeal? (which would be a criteria regardless of whether trying to spot a fake)

- Is the profile recently verified, and by a few unconnected others, and does the verification trail look legitimate (fakers have been known to create multiple profiles all verifying each other).

There's probably a few others but they're the key ones and always remember if in doubt, you're probably right to be, and there are plenty of other profiles that are genuine.

Good luck and have fun "

Excellent post, well done.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones...

Sometimes Kik is used by adult workers as a way of getting around rules, and they ask for money there.

But it's also something a lot of genuine people use. "

I use kik groups regularly, but have no interest in adding random couples and single guys to mine because they want sex chat and pic swaps for wank fodder.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones...

Sometimes Kik is used by adult workers as a way of getting around rules, and they ask for money there.

But it's also something a lot of genuine people use.

I use kik groups regularly, but have no interest in adding random couples and single guys to mine because they want sex chat and pic swaps for wank fodder. "

Oh indeed. I use it to talk to friends. But people seem to want to get on Kik immediately. No way. I once had my username get out and my phone barely stopped vibrating. I felt under siege.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not fake just can't get a meet

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones...

Sometimes Kik is used by adult workers as a way of getting around rules, and they ask for money there.

But it's also something a lot of genuine people use. "

I actually downloaded kik just because someone (who was genuine) wanted to continue to talk to me on there. But I actually find it hard to keep a conversation flowing on there just because my attention is already spread so thin across various forums, SMS, Facebook, Instagram, here, and not to mention about another three messaging services ie WhatsApp, Telegram and Snapchat... I'm at my limit already - I end up wasting too much time flicking between them or one goes quiet for a while so I don't check it but then I go back a week later and find out someone's been trying to engage me or I've been kicked from a group for inactivity... I miss the good old days when there were only two IM services on the whole Web... ICQ and AOL and that was your lot!

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

And that's before I've checked my emails or done any actual work :o

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm struggling with this too. I'm new, so my verifications are pretty much non-existent.

I find though, that when I ask guys to chat to me on KIK, or even over the phone, they suddenly go quiet.. I can't figure out what the issue with Kik is..

I have clear, recent photos of me on my profile, but, when I ask guys for theirs, they makes excuses, or use rubbish old or unclear ones...

Sometimes Kik is used by adult workers as a way of getting around rules, and they ask for money there.

But it's also something a lot of genuine people use.

I actually downloaded kik just because someone (who was genuine) wanted to continue to talk to me on there. But I actually find it hard to keep a conversation flowing on there just because my attention is already spread so thin across various forums, SMS, Facebook, Instagram, here, and not to mention about another three messaging services ie WhatsApp, Telegram and Snapchat... I'm at my limit already - I end up wasting too much time flicking between them or one goes quiet for a while so I don't check it but then I go back a week later and find out someone's been trying to engage me or I've been kicked from a group for inactivity... I miss the good old days when there were only two IM services on the whole Web... ICQ and AOL and that was your lot! "

Have to agree, way too many to keep up with now.

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By *isa2018 OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We do use kik as it has a definite use in allowing both me and S to chat in a group. She has no interest in contact with anyone alone and leaves me to do the fab stuff and just goes through new messages with me to indicate her interest or lack of. It's when someone asks if we do kik when we've hardly conversed and they have no, or very few, profile photos. The usual justification is they can send photos on kik, to which I think so why cant you upload on fab?

Most are ok, it's just occasionally we get the odd ones that just seem like obvious fakes or collectors. Sometimes that feeling could be wrong but it wouldn't be there if their profile looked more 'normal' with some text and a decent selection of photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s the verdict on a couples profile with no veris, no pics but want to stay in touch ..

Wanting an email to send pics !!

Surely this doesn’t ring true ?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"What’s the verdict on a couples profile with no veris, no pics but want to stay in touch ..

Wanting an email to send pics !!

Surely this doesn’t ring true ? "

If they have got as far as loading the pics onto a computer or other device to be able to send via email, why cant they just upload them to Fab?

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By *laytime 100Couple
over a year ago

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The real problem with so many fakes is that we tend to air on the side of caution, that's why we prefer clubs. This doesn't mean that we have never met anyone off fab, just that they really have to catch our eyes if it's going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The real problem with so many fakes is that we tend to air on the side of caution, that's why we prefer clubs. This doesn't mean that we have never met anyone off fab, just that they really have to catch our eyes if it's going to happen. "

Fair comment ...

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Usually fakes start talking about sex very quickly, mention meeting they are vague about that , verification check them the more they have from women couples the less likely they are fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've only been around for a while on fab, although we are very active with club visits, messages and wanting to meet socially and for fun with people that we click with.

There does seem to be some suspicious accounts though that just don't feel right. As the Male half I'm probably the soft one; I give the benefit of the doubt to people and try to respond to anyone that does what we ask and sends a decent message and photo. S has less patience. LOL.

So, how do you spot the obvious fakes if, like me, you're an eternal optimist?

A recent one today is a couple that have a profile over a year old, with one verification 10 months ago by cam, a one line profile text and a single public face photo that is a bit dark and looks like a lifted Facebook photo. We receive a message asking if we use kik and to see more of us as we don't have a public face photo, but we have lots of public photos that should give a good idea of whether someone is interested.

Indeed we get a lot of interest in S from single guys and couples, either the male half, or even ladies despite stating she isn't bi.

We are quite happy to swap face photos once we believe we are speaking to someone genuine but occasionally you just get that feeling that all is not as it seems."
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