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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Curious what the veterans have to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been on here for over a year lol not so new lmao

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

On Fab: your profile is how you sell yourself. Be interesting, engaging, positive. Messages, be polite and personal, hold to your boundaries, be respectful and have self-respect, base messages on profile text.

Clubs: ask the rules, gauge the vibe. Talk to people, all people, don't go in (acting like you have) / with expectations. Err on the side of not touching without asking, don't be creepy, small talk before sex talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choose your swingers wisely as a lot are first class A-hole swingers, fake and nasty.

Good luck, it appears the clubs are the way to meet people but some places just sound so seedy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If going to a club please don't follow women/couples around. It's creepy af. Be respectful at all times. Know your limits with alcohol if it impairs your behaviour. By all means approach people and chat but if you get the feeling they don't want to spend time with you then chances are they don't want to spend time with you. Move along but be polite. Never ever ask someone why they don't want to spend time with you, this will not end well for anyone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh god yes. Alcohol is often bad news mixed with swinging. Preserve your judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious what the veterans have to say"
never forget your zimmer

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Curious what the veterans have to say"

Respect yourself and other people and you won't go far wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious what the veterans have to say"

Don't expect miracles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious what the veterans have to say"

Don’t do it

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Be prepared for a lot of disappointment on sites like this, there are many frauds, time-wasters and photo collectors about. Just keep at it and don't give up.

In clubs, remember "no" means "NO!"

Good luck!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There's advice on my profile should you wish to use it OP. Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious what the veterans have to say"

Go gay early

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By *reamytitwankCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Don't get d*unk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Curious what the veterans have to say"

After over a year on here I'd suggest a different approach mate

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Be safe sane and respectful. You’ll come across newbies and veterans and everyone inbetween but understand that not everyone is or will be swinging the same way. You’ll have a wide variety of people so just make sure you know who you are and don’t pretend to be anything else.

Parties - don’t follow females or couples round like a stalking lap dog, it’s creepy and rude. Also don’t assume that everyone is “up for it” because they’re really not. Make friends with like minded people and find your own way around rather than forcing your way in, if that makes sense.

Online - don’t be pushy, and before you send that first message, read it back to yourself and think “what if I got that message, would I reply or would I think I’m a complete moron”.

Swinging communities can be really warm and welcoming but you’ll get the door slammed in your face just as quick if you don’t respect people.

You’re a year + in so I’m sure you’ve had some experience but I remember when I first started exploring so I’d recommend you read up on some of the threads here, the plethora of material online or just chat to people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Choose your swingers wisely as a lot are first class A-hole swingers, fake and nasty."

Agree totally!!!!

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