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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So myself and female sub are meeting tonight. We play regularly but are struggling for new ideas. I have wrist and ankle restraints along with spreader bars. Anyone got any sensible ideas for new positions or methods of restraint? Help us out here ??

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By *wickermanMan
over a year ago

Staines

Cling film or physio wrap both available from Poundland

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Learn rope bondage and the possibilities are endless.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I am assuming you have asked your sub what are her fantasies.

Assuming you have and you are still stumped I hope the following helps.

It depends on whether her main dynamic is submission or whether bondage or sex.

If submission is the lead then a few Gorean slave positions is a start. Then there is a world of stuff psychologically you can do, blindfolds, and apply different sensations e.g. dripped ice water, low temperature burning wax etc, fantasy role play, orgasm denial, forced orgasm.

Bondage use different restraints, cold steel creates a different mental state from leather cuffs.

Rope needs to be properly learned but I would recommend Chantra Rose Bondage for Sex. It is available on Amazon, do read the chapter on safety before jumping to the fun bits.

As for sex, you should know that bit but you can apply the scenarios mentioned above in a sexual context.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I must get some decent rope and try it

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Chains are cool

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Chains are cool "

Mmmm they are. Especially placed in the right positions.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"Chains are cool

Mmmm they are. Especially placed in the right positions. "

Quite a few right places that can bring on a nice reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put earbuds in her ears and start a playlist of music she finds enjoyable (or not enjoyable depending how naughty you’re feeling) Hood, blindfold and gag her. Get her on all fours. Lock a collar around her throat and leash her.

Direct her with a crop where you want her. Tie her up and use different things to highten her sensations. Touch her nipples, pussy and skin with an ice cube and she will think you are torturing her with a hot iron. Drip wax from different heights onto her skin then when it has dried lightly flog it off (put a dust sheet down as the wax get everywhere). Caress her skin with a feather duster and she will go wild. All the time she has loss of sensations, she can’t hear or see what is about to happen to her. She can’t speak, only drool and moan through her gag. She will be like putty in your hands.

“Scarlett where’s the candles?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am assuming you have asked your sub what are her fantasies.

Assuming you have and you are still stumped I hope the following helps.

It depends on whether her main dynamic is submission or whether bondage or sex.

If submission is the lead then a few Gorean slave positions is a start. Then there is a world of stuff psychologically you can do, blindfolds, and apply different sensations e.g. dripped ice water, low temperature burning wax etc, fantasy role play, orgasm denial, forced orgasm.

Bondage use different restraints, cold steel creates a different mental state from leather cuffs.

Rope needs to be properly learned but I would recommend Chantra Rose Bondage for Sex. It is available on Amazon, do read the chapter on safety before jumping to the fun bits.

As for sex, you should know that bit but you can apply the scenarios mentioned above in a sexual context.

Good Luck

"

Excellent advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learn rope bondage and the possibilities are endless."
were looking to experiment with clingfilm

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Pallet wrap is fun. Have emergency shears handy

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Trouble is everyone is different... You need to push HER buttons, and that comes with knowledge and communication.

Have fun learning;)

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset


"Learn rope bondage and the possibilities are endless."

please move to the west country

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset


"Chains are cool

Mmmm they are. Especially placed in the right positions.

Quite a few right places that can bring on a nice reaction "

love using chains

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have already tried pallet wrap. Was a great session

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I am assuming you have asked your sub what are her fantasies.

Assuming you have and you are still stumped I hope the following helps.

It depends on whether her main dynamic is submission or whether bondage or sex.

If submission is the lead then a few Gorean slave positions is a start. Then there is a world of stuff psychologically you can do, blindfolds, and apply different sensations e.g. dripped ice water, low temperature burning wax etc, fantasy role play, orgasm denial, forced orgasm.

Bondage use different restraints, cold steel creates a different mental state from leather cuffs.

Rope needs to be properly learned but I would recommend Chantra Rose Bondage for Sex. It is available on Amazon, do read the chapter on safety before jumping to the fun bits.

As for sex, you should know that bit but you can apply the scenarios mentioned above in a sexual context.

Good Luck

Excellent advice x"

Indeed! Especially for the swinging scene Chantras book is perfect. I treasure my copy (almost as much as the time I let her be the only woman to ever tie me)

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"I am assuming you have asked your sub what are her fantasies.

Assuming you have and you are still stumped I hope the following helps.

It depends on whether her main dynamic is submission or whether bondage or sex.

If submission is the lead then a few Gorean slave positions is a start. Then there is a world of stuff psychologically you can do, blindfolds, and apply different sensations e.g. dripped ice water, low temperature burning wax etc, fantasy role play, orgasm denial, forced orgasm.

Bondage use different restraints, cold steel creates a different mental state from leather cuffs.

Rope needs to be properly learned but I would recommend Chantra Rose Bondage for Sex. It is available on Amazon, do read the chapter on safety before jumping to the fun bits.

As for sex, you should know that bit but you can apply the scenarios mentioned above in a sexual context.

Good Luck

Excellent advice x

Indeed! Especially for the swinging scene Chantras book is perfect. I treasure my copy (almost as much as the time I let her be the only woman to ever tie me)"

Thank you for sharing.

Being tied by Chantra must have been awesome. I would have loved to have had watched that.

Five years ago I was floundering in practising rope having bought the awful Knotty Boys book. I could not get my head around their message. I mean, what has a Celtic knot have to do with domination!

I needed inspiration. I had seen Chantra's book but after the Knotty Boys fiasco I was hesitant.

What clinched my decision to buy the book was that I mentioned the book to a far more experienced dom who used to go to Kestrels. Him and his partner used to do beautiful BDSM scenes. He said Chantra had in the past lived in the UK. He had seen her work and confirmed she knew her stuff.

I bought the book and it pointed me in the right direction.

I am now a huge fan of Chantra's work, both in rope and domination.

I think I am one of the few guys that has no interest in 'girl on girl' porn, or scenes at clubs.

However following Chantra's work introduced me to domination of women by women porn, where the domme has genuine skills, talent and aptitude. That is hot, hotter than when the domination is done by a man in the films. Possibly when men are involved in the films it is all about the penis and fucking rather than the psychology, the submission and domination.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London


"Put earbuds in her ears and start a playlist of music she finds enjoyable (or not enjoyable depending how naughty you’re feeling) Hood, blindfold and gag her. Get her on all fours. Lock a collar around her throat and leash her.

Direct her with a crop where you want her. Tie her up and use different things to highten her sensations. Touch her nipples, pussy and skin with an ice cube and she will think you are torturing her with a hot iron. Drip wax from different heights onto her skin then when it has dried lightly flog it off (put a dust sheet down as the wax get everywhere). Caress her skin with a feather duster and she will go wild. All the time she has loss of sensations, she can’t hear or see what is about to happen to her. She can’t speak, only drool and moan through her gag. She will be like putty in your hands.

“Scarlett where’s the candles?”

"

I know I would be!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How's your woodworking skills? A very simple "bondage horse" can be easily made and opens up lots of new options/positions that tied to the bed for instance, just can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put earbuds in her ears and start a playlist of music she finds enjoyable (or not enjoyable depending how naughty you’re feeling) Hood, blindfold and gag her. Get her on all fours. Lock a collar around her throat and leash her.

Direct her with a crop where you want her. Tie her up and use different things to highten her sensations. Touch her nipples, pussy and skin with an ice cube and she will think you are torturing her with a hot iron. Drip wax from different heights onto her skin then when it has dried lightly flog it off (put a dust sheet down as the wax get everywhere). Caress her skin with a feather duster and she will go wild. All the time she has loss of sensations, she can’t hear or see what is about to happen to her. She can’t speak, only drool and moan through her gag. She will be like putty in your hands.

“Scarlett where’s the candles?”

I know I would be!! "

More candles on order!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wood working skills are excellent. I may experiment. I’ve made some portable stocks before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am assuming you have asked your sub what are her fantasies.

Assuming you have and you are still stumped I hope the following helps.

It depends on whether her main dynamic is submission or whether bondage or sex.

If submission is the lead then a few Gorean slave positions is a start. Then there is a world of stuff psychologically you can do, blindfolds, and apply different sensations e.g. dripped ice water, low temperature burning wax etc, fantasy role play, orgasm denial, forced orgasm.

Bondage use different restraints, cold steel creates a different mental state from leather cuffs.

Rope needs to be properly learned but I would recommend Chantra Rose Bondage for Sex. It is available on Amazon, do read the chapter on safety before jumping to the fun bits.

As for sex, you should know that bit but you can apply the scenarios mentioned above in a sexual context.

Good Luck

"

As advice goes, you can’t go wrong with what he said.

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