FabSwingers.com forum: Advice needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

I have had a bi fuck bud on and off for about 5 years, we tend to split up every 10 months or so as something happens.

So about 3 months ago we said we would be exclusive as bf /gf as this time we were doing stuff together and i was ok him meeting my lad (didnt but id got to that place) but said i would keep oral friend i see every couple of months and if he did spa day he could have blow job

Anyway had great time Friday night , said I was free Sat but knew he was working so it was always maybe.

Cancelled on me Saturday night as tired, I sent pic of what he was missing - just boobs in slip etc and then he went on fab guys looking for a blow job and was online for next few days still looking.

Got to Tuesday and hadn't replied since the sat to cancel, or looked at message that was wondering when next free. As wanted to chat face to face, so I blew up messaging how dare you cancel on me for cock.

Sorry it's long one, so should I have been more lenient as bi or as seems still in fuck bud place and didn't bother about me I should move on and class that as final chapter.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

I'd move on, he obviously has no respect for you and that is inexcusable in my books, you deserve better.

I hope your luck takes a turn for the better. Have fun and stay safe.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know his side of this obviously so all I can say is that you need to talk to each other

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I would give him the chance to talk to you and if he doesn't do that or you don't feel happy with the discussion then I would move on personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes would talk about it but always ignores messages for few months as doesn't do fights or cross words.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes would talk about it but always ignores messages for few months as doesn't do fights or cross words. "

A few months! I think his view of your relationship is different to his

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I wouldn't personally feel that he is worth your time or emotion, but only you can decide that for yourself

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Have the talk for closure. Ending it on your terms would place control back into your own hands aiding said closure. Best of luck op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they dont have the guts to tell you they aren't interested anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd move on, he obviously has no respect for you and that is inexcusable in my books, you deserve better.

I hope your luck takes a turn for the better. Have fun and stay safe."
if he's ignored all your messages block and move on.you dont need mind games?.sounds as if he wants his cake and eat it too.give yourself some respect you deserve someone who says they will turn up when they say they will not go online and look for something better

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Op read back what you just wrote if you was reading it and that was someone else's post you tell them to have some self worth and move on surly ignored for months I'm shocked you'd let it happen

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It dosn't sound ideal but there are always two sides to a story I am sure his will equally frustrated.

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley

Move on its all on his terms it seems ,find someone who respects you ,life's to short for time wasters like that

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If he is a "fuck bud" as you state then can he not play with others? I do wonder what his opinion on this is and if you are reading more into your relationship than he does.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"If he is a "fuck bud" as you state then can he not play with others? I do wonder what his opinion on this is and if you are reading more into your relationship than he does. "
Of course he can. But he should at least let OP know what her position is rather than keep her in the dark and only see her as an option when he sees fit and ignoring her the rest of the time. No strings attached doesn't imply no respect attached, at least not in my book anyway.

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