FabSwingers.com forum: Losing my mojo

By *rootloop OP Woman
over a year ago

East Midlands

Over the last 6 months or so I've slowly been losing my mojo, I don't know what's different as such, but once upon a time I could go to club and chatty away to anyone who catches my eye ultimately done amazing nights with lots of play, but now I'm just stumped I don't know what to say or how to approach it's been a while I don't know how to get it back or even what 'it' is has anyone else experienced the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all go through peaks and lows in this lifestyle, and life in general.

I wouldn't worry.

In my experience, one good club event or exceptional meet used to have me bouncing back. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last 6 months or so I've slowly been losing my mojo, I don't know what's different as such, but once upon a time I could go to club and chatty away to anyone who catches my eye ultimately done amazing nights with lots of play, but now I'm just stumped I don't know what to say or how to approach it's been a while I don't know how to get it back or even what 'it' is has anyone else experienced the same?"

I'm sure it will come back, I lost mine a bit when the depression kicked in a few years ago I would say in back to my best but I do have my bad days once ever so often which sort of leaves me feeling pretty much empty.

Just go out stop worrying about it and I'm sure it will come back to you. X

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By *rkrisssMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Do a solo night next time you go out, take a step back and notice the attention you get. Realize how hot you look and how people find you sexy! You are amazing and you look amazing! You haven't lost your MOJO, you've just misplaced it!

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Maybe hormonal or birth control hormones..stress etc. maybe a check up with gp or naturopath could be beneficial x good luck x

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've also experienced this phenomenon, unlike Austin Powers no time travel is required to get it back.

The formula for mojo retrieval is different for everyone but essentially what you need to do is give yourself a break physically and emotionally and do things that make you happy.

Tell trusted friends if you want that you're seeking your mojo and ask them where they last saw you with it.

If you're also feeling down about your mojo loss you should probably address that too by getting and oxytocin boost.

Oxytocin is an elusive little shit so you're going to have to hug a lot of people (or puppies) if you want to boost it.

Spring clean your abode, if you're not up to it hire someone. If you're too skint,call in pals to have a cleanup mojo hunting party.

Spending time with people you love helps, especially if laughter is involved.

Avoid booze as it can obscure mojos.

If you want to spend an entire day in your bed watching Disney movies then do it!

It will come back soon OP X

Til then be good to yourself.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It happens to many you become to naked bodies its like the norm the best thnig is just to take a break for a bit and refresh yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Stop looking for it, take a break and consider if the reason its eluding you is that you don't really want that way of life any more

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Never mind losing it .I've totally lost mine ..watching a 3sum or orgy in a club I get no tingly feelings. Even porn. Really can't figure it out as I've always had a high sex drive and still newly married so it's so frustrating and I don't mean sexually

Gets me down a lot that I don't get the feeling anymore. Hopefully it will come back soon. K

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By *exinthesunWoman
over a year ago

far far away

It's probably keeping mine company somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of them days.

Nothing's wrong with you ,it's just may be you need to take it slow and regain your art of social awareness .

We did back to back 6 social meets in a month and literally felt drained in chatting .

We would know what should we talk in the next meet. So took it slow and now decided to do only one meet a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling exactly the same, have come to the realisation that it's because faceless sex just isn't what is feeding my soul. Taking a break having vanilla fun with platonic mates and just keeping in touch with friends here. Hoping that returns when it's ready.

Love and hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling exactly the same, have come to the realisation that it's because faceless sex just isn't what is feeding my soul. Taking a break having vanilla fun with platonic mates and just keeping in touch with friends here. Hoping that returns when it's ready.

Love and hugs x"

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

A lot of my female friends are up and down with their sexuality. Men are different. Women seem to go through phases when they can take it or leave it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"A lot of my female friends are up and down with their sexuality. Men are different. Women seem to go through phases when they can take it or leave it. "

I don't think men are that different at all - sex drive, or lack of, can impact both genders equally - sometimes it's down to things like the stresses of life, circumstances, relationship pressures, or even simply tiredness - I know I have been through periods where I can take or leave it - there's no magic formula to finding it either - mind tends to pop up when I least expect it.

My advice to you OP would be to take some time out, relax and try not to worry too much about it (which tends to exacerbate the problem) when it's ready it'll reappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of my female friends are up and down with their sexuality. Men are different. Women seem to go through phases when they can take it or leave it.

My advice to you OP would be to take some time out, relax and try not to worry too much about it (which tends to exacerbate the problem) when it's ready it'll reappear

This!

We all have ups and downs. OP, It's normal at this time of the year. Please do not worry. All will be fine soon!

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