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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So! Profiles ask for sensible and thoughtful messages instead of one liners etc but when you write such they don’t even read them !! I appreciate they get a lot but if they aren’t reading any then what’s the point!!

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep riding it up kerb eventually wheel won't turn

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

Have better photos ? Have better name?

Maybe a start ?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Have better photos ? Have better name?

Maybe a start ? "

Agree name would put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe look on fab guys as you are looking to play with a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with my experience i had i stopped send message to anyone new who i am interested in but i would say change your nickname maybe you have better luck

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There's a number of factors to consider OP...

Firstly, a lot of people look at a profile before they decide whether to read a message, if they don't like the profile and pics then they won't read the message.

Then you have to remember that women get a lot of messages on here, some in the hundreds a day, and so won't always see the message, let alone read it (they drop off the page after so many, and only reappear once a few are deleted).

There's also the facility to mark a message unread, so you'd only know if they had read it or not if they left it as read.

Best thing you can do is delete messages after you send them, that way if you get a reply it's a bonus, plus you don't get tempted to keep looking at your messages to see if they have been read

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People sending messages ultimately want to know if there's mutual compatibility. Recipients look at the sender's profile, to help them to decide this, possibly by reading the message after the profile.Whenever they decide that the sender's not right for them, then both sides know that it's not going to work.Lots of sent but unread messages largely means that your efforts haven't found compatible people.Bad messages won't get read or typically a positive outcome. Good messages, that entail effort etc, will likely get you assessed as potentially a good match: so it's important to persist with the messaging in this way. No effort or messages that aren't suitable, won't increase your potential success.

Being here really means that you've got to be willing to continue making the effort, even if it superficially may seem as if it's not effective.Once you've sent your messages, put them out of your mind and then focus on other people. If your profile is effective, then you can assume that people are checking you out and that you'll hear whenever others spot you as a reasonable match.

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Moan moan moan Whatever. It ain’t perfect but work with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for responding, definitely food for thought !! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Moan moan moan Whatever. It ain’t perfect but work with it. "

Err..... only mentioned it once!

Thanks for taking the time to be so negative, hope you feel much better

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Such negativity and attitude both in OP and now. Maybe that’s a reason for no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So! Profiles ask for sensible and thoughtful messages instead of one liners etc but when you write such they don’t even read them !! I appreciate they get a lot but if they aren’t reading any then what’s the point!!

How do we break this cycle?!!!

Answers on a postcard to BBC Centre, London, PI55 0FF!

Our point of view on this is every cpl is looking for single guys at some point,but due to plenty of options ,your profile needs to stand out.

Couple will approach you if they like your profile, trust me.

You don't approach them, they get too sensitive as they may not be in the mood for a single guy that day.

So wait for their updates and be patient.

Many couples here have clicked only on MF option so that means they are likely to see your profile on their updates .

So approaching them will be no use.

Messages cannot get positive results , your profile, pictures and veris get attention.

People say ,they don't like cock pics but trust me that's the main factor they want to know how big is the package .

So just have nice cock pics, may be 2 and rest body shots are nice.

Change your profile name

Don't add any hobbies , just mention what you can offer to women and cpls

Best luck

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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Women will only judge you on what you look like, what you send in a message or write on your profile will not interest them most women on here already know who they want to receive messages from and if you ain't on the list you ain't getting a reply. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the message heading is most important....

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I find the message heading is most important.... "

So a heading saying suck my 8 inches or hello on this fine morning, would get deleted then.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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People do read them but its not compulsory to reply you may think your message is sensible and thoughtful the recipient may thnig otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do we break this cycle?!!!

Answers on a postcard to BBC Centre, London, PI55 0FF!

Our point of view on this is every cpl is looking for single guys at some point,but due to plenty of options ,your profile needs to stand out.

Couple will approach you if they like your profile, trust me.

You don't approach them, they get too sensitive as they may not be in the mood for a single guy that day.

So wait for their updates and be patient.

Many couples here have clicked only on MF option so that means they are likely to see your profile on their updates .

So approaching them will be no use.

Messages cannot get positive results , your profile, pictures and veris get attention.

People say ,they don't like cock pics but trust me that's the main factor they want to know how big is the package .

So just have nice cock pics, may be 2 and rest body shots are nice.

Change your profile name

Don't add any hobbies , just mention what you can offer to women and cpls

Best luck "

Thank you very much!!

Tried to change my user name but you can’t do it until you are a paid up member !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay up then or create a new profile and change it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most will take a look at your profile before even thinking about reading your message.

If they're not impressed by your profile (and I'm not making comment on it, as I haven't looked at it myself), for whatever reason, then why bother reading your message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the message heading is most important.... "
me to if it says bend over I'm out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most will take a look at your profile before even thinking about reading your message.

If they're not impressed by your profile (and I'm not making comment on it, as I haven't looked at it myself), for whatever reason, then why bother reading your message?"

I do this

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Firstly your idea of a well written message might not match that of other people. Secondly, it's not a guarantee. The message is part of the picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we break this cycle?!!!

Answers on a postcard to BBC Centre, London, PI55 0FF!

In all honesty, just the name would put me off. Could be that they looked at your Profile, weren't keen, so decided not to read the message. It happens unfortunately

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Firstly your idea of a well written message might not match that of other people. Secondly, it's not a guarantee. The message is part of the picture. "

This.

Also, yes I want a personal message. I want to know that I'm respected as a person and that you're interested in *me*, not every woman within 50 miles. No guarantee, of course, for any number of reasons, but a base line of respect is a bare minimum (and often incredibly lacking!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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I have to disagree.

You will be surprised who you connect with, just by being yourself. Women are people after all and can make up their own mind based on how you interact. Blaming everything on aethetics is quite frankly a cop out. A good personality with average looks can over time get you further than a hot bod with a stinking attitude.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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I have to disagree.

Indeed.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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I have to disagree.

Indeed. "

Always play the long game.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"Keep riding it up kerb eventually wheel won't turn"

Wow a sage with proverbial wisdom

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Keep riding it up kerb eventually wheel won't turn

Wow a sage with proverbial wisdom

Confucius say... eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Seriously it’s only £5 for 60 days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Seriously it’s only £5 for 60 days!"

Ok I will PM my PayPal details so you can send me the fiver!! Loves ya!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Seriously it’s only £5 for 60 days!

Ok I will PM my PayPal details so you can send me the fiver!! Loves ya!! "

Err... Fab helps those who help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find most guys don't read profiles. Just look at the pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Fuck me it's only £5, what chance have you of getting a meet if you can't afford a fiver?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Fuck me it's only £5, what chance have you of getting a meet if you can't afford a fiver?"

Most guys try to spend more on me on a social meet. (operative words: try to)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t change my username unless I’m a site supporter ffs!!

Fuck me it's only £5, what chance have you of getting a meet if you can't afford a fiver?"

Has certainly cut down on the possibilities especially if other forum users see this, can imagine there’s a few hitting the block button!

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

How do we break this cycle?!!!

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That's not true for all women or even most. I certainly don't judge on looks. Someone would have to be seriously off-putting for me to discard them on looks alone...for that read no teeth, scraggy beard, obese, dirty clothing etc (and tbf this will usually come out during chat anyway)

So guys, don't worry if you're not too notch looking - do something about the things you can control.....

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