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"Hi everyone so trying to spice things up at home with the Mrs looking to set her some sexy challenges to do at home she's not quite into swinging yet so not looking for challenges involving others just things she could do alone any suggestions???" You have a male profile so I understand that she’s not a swinger or you would of have a couple profile, so why set challenges?, ok here’s a challenge get her to swing and get yourself a couples profile | |||
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"Hi everyone so trying to spice things up at home with the Mrs looking to set her some sexy challenges to do at home she's not quite into swinging yet so not looking for challenges involving others just things she could do alone any suggestions???" eat a chilli pepper a small hotel one without crying | |||
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"Hi everyone so trying to spice things up at home with the Mrs looking to set her some sexy challenges to do at home she's not quite into swinging yet so not looking for challenges involving others just things she could do alone any suggestions???eat a chilli pepper a small hotel one without crying " small hot one | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time " Ah | |||
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"Hi everyone so trying to spice things up at home with the Mrs looking to set her some sexy challenges to do at home she's not quite into swinging yet so not looking for challenges involving others just things she could do alone any suggestions??? You have a male profile so I understand that she’s not a swinger or you would of have a couple profile, so why set challenges?, ok here’s a challenge get her to swing and get yourself a couples profile " Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time " Does she know you're on here | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time Does she know you're on here " no she doesn't I set this account up at a very low point in our relationship when I was considering getting out but have since decided to fight for it hence why I'm trying to spice things back up | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time Does she know you're on here no she doesn't I set this account up at a very low point in our relationship when I was considering getting out but have since decided to fight for it hence why I'm trying to spice things back up " you had a meet I notice how did that go ? | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time Does she know you're on here no she doesn't I set this account up at a very low point in our relationship when I was considering getting out but have since decided to fight for it hence why I'm trying to spice things back up you had a meet I notice how did that go ?" was a re-veri by a lady I met before I got with my current partner | |||
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"Eat a jam donut without licking her lips. I won a competition doing that once. It’s not easy ya know! "  | |||
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"presumably you want things that turn her on rather than you. Do you know what they are? She could send you sexy photos or texts whilst you are at work or ask her to buy a huge strap on to fuck you with when you get home. whether she buys lube is her choice" liking the ideas I'm certainly looking for her to be turned on by it more than me she's extremely bi curious any ideas on that ?! | |||
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"Trying to get her to open up more and be more kinky so when swinging does get brought back up she might actually be up for it this time Does she know you're on here no she doesn't I set this account up at a very low point in our relationship when I was considering getting out but have since decided to fight for it hence why I'm trying to spice things back up " And you think swinging will fix your relationship? Especially when you’re on here behind your back? | |||
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"Also; you can’t ‘get’ someone to be more kinky. If she doesn’t want to try something and/or doesn’t like the sound of it, leave it at that. You said you have asked about swinging before and she wasn’t keen, I’d leave it on that and focus on my relationship Good luck "thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies | |||
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"The man is asking for advice on spicing things up and not for marital advice Lets stick to what he asking for please" thanks for that | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies " Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life" yes have discussed fantasies she's very quiet about hers feel like she's holding back she's very into women but just can't get her to turn fantasy to reality so any advice is welcome | |||
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"Also; you can’t ‘get’ someone to be more kinky. If she doesn’t want to try something and/or doesn’t like the sound of it, leave it at that. You said you have asked about swinging before and she wasn’t keen, I’d leave it on that and focus on my relationship Good luck "Haha. You got told off  | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life yes have discussed fantasies she's very quiet about hers feel like she's holding back she's very into women but just can't get her to turn fantasy to reality so any advice is welcome" Sometimes a fantasy stays just that and won't be played out, you would both have to accept that. Try both of you writing your fantasies down ( non swinging ones too )then put yes , no or maybe in a column next to them as to whether you want to try them for real, then swop lists and see if any match. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her "have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it | |||
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"Eat three crackers in a minute?" I think that's too easy | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it "Then you have to accept she has said no | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life yes have discussed fantasies she's very quiet about hers feel like she's holding back she's very into women but just can't get her to turn fantasy to reality so any advice is welcome Sometimes a fantasy stays just that and won't be played out, you would both have to accept that. Try both of you writing your fantasies down ( non swinging ones too )then put yes , no or maybe in a column next to them as to whether you want to try them for real, then swop lists and see if any match. " really like this idea am going to try this tonight The only fantasy I'm clear about is hee wanting to play with another woman for me I'm more interested in her playing with other guys with me | |||
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"Eat three crackers in a minute? I think that's too easy" Start small and go on from there. If she works really hard she could be up to five in no time. | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life yes have discussed fantasies she's very quiet about hers feel like she's holding back she's very into women but just can't get her to turn fantasy to reality so any advice is welcome Sometimes a fantasy stays just that and won't be played out, you would both have to accept that. Try both of you writing your fantasies down ( non swinging ones too )then put yes , no or maybe in a column next to them as to whether you want to try them for real, then swop lists and see if any match. really like this idea am going to try this tonight The only fantasy I'm clear about is hee wanting to play with another woman for me I'm more interested in her playing with other guys with me " Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it "Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though  | |||
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"Does she know you’re on here? Perhaps Create a couples profile ?" trouble is mate she just thinks I want to get into swinging so I can fuck as many girls as possible that isn't the case at all if I'm honest I'm more looking to bringing other more well endowed gentlemen to the bedroom but trying to get that through to her is proving hard | |||
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" thanks for the advice but I can't stop the way I feel about my fantasies Have you discussed your fantasies ( non swinging ones )with her? Does she like any of them ? Has she told you any of hers? Without knowing what you are both in to it is hard to say what will spice up your sex life yes have discussed fantasies she's very quiet about hers feel like she's holding back she's very into women but just can't get her to turn fantasy to reality so any advice is welcome Sometimes a fantasy stays just that and won't be played out, you would both have to accept that. Try both of you writing your fantasies down ( non swinging ones too )then put yes , no or maybe in a column next to them as to whether you want to try them for real, then swop lists and see if any match. really like this idea am going to try this tonight The only fantasy I'm clear about is hee wanting to play with another woman for me I'm more interested in her playing with other guys with me Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her." I can only try | |||
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"Does she know you’re on here? Perhaps Create a couples profile ? trouble is mate she just thinks I want to get into swinging so I can fuck as many girls as possible that isn't the case at all if I'm honest I'm more looking to bringing other more well endowed gentlemen to the bedroom but trying to get that through to her is proving hard " You could try the couple profile, but set strict boundaries, you both agree to and assure her you will stick to them. | |||
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" Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her. I can only try " Pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing Is there something that you wouldn't try sexually? If so if she tried to get you to change your mind , would you? | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though "well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys | |||
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" Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her. I can only try Pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing Is there something that you wouldn't try sexually? If so if she tried to get you to change your mind , would you?" for me no there isn't anything I wouldn't try at least once just wish she had the same thought process as me you only live once | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys "She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want."please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys "some wives don't want to share I know that thought isn't what you want to hear but it is the conventional married way | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys some wives don't want to share I know that thought isn't what you want to hear but it is the conventional married way "I do understand I may never change her mind but I'm not giving up just yet | |||
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" Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her. I can only try Pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing Is there something that you wouldn't try sexually? If so if she tried to get you to change your mind , would you? for me no there isn't anything I wouldn't try at least once just wish she had the same thought process as me you only live once " I am the biggest perve going and have tried most things but there is still something I wouldn't try. Just living the once doesn't mean you have to try something you don't want to. Again....pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing | |||
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" I do understand I may never change her mind but I'm not giving up just yet " Good luck with that, I hope she doesn't do it because of your pressure | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there"All you can do is talk to her. Tell her what you would like to do and ask her if there is anything she is interested in doing. Be prepared for her to say she's not interested in any kinky stuff. If she does say that, you have to decide what is more important to you. Your relationship or your links. | |||
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" Sounds like you want different things. From a woman's point of view, I doubt you will change her. I can only try Pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing Is there something that you wouldn't try sexually? If so if she tried to get you to change your mind , would you? for me no there isn't anything I wouldn't try at least once just wish she had the same thought process as me you only live once I am the biggest perve going and have tried most things but there is still something I wouldn't try. Just living the once doesn't mean you have to try something you don't want to. Again....pressuring her won't work, she will either say a big fat no or do it to please you...which isn't a good thing " apart from anything child or animal related I'm struggling to think of anything I wouldn't try at least once | |||
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"Kinks even " my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full" but that feeling it seems is yours alone if you pressure her you may lose her | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full" We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. " definitely easier said than done | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done " You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? " honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject" Do you want my advice? | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? " yes really do | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there"Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do " You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject" So I'm sorry I can see why she is insecure. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there
Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that "I don't blame her for being insecure my partner is very insecure about her body her boobs especially and the girl she found out I'd cheated with had a huge pair that she see pics of .I'm doing everything I can to not make her feel so insecure | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there
Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that I don't blame her for being insecure my partner is very insecure about her body her boobs especially and the girl she found out I'd cheated with had a huge pair that she see pics of .I'm doing everything I can to not make her feel so insecure "Apart from leaving fabs and concentrating on her rather than your fantasies... | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. " the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there
Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that I don't blame her for being insecure my partner is very insecure about her body her boobs especially and the girl she found out I'd cheated with had a huge pair that she see pics of .I'm doing everything I can to not make her feel so insecure "The fact that you cheated on her on Fab, as you said, would, I'm sure make her insecure, regardless of insecurities about her body. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there
Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that I don't blame her for being insecure my partner is very insecure about her body her boobs especially and the girl she found out I'd cheated with had a huge pair that she see pics of .I'm doing everything I can to not make her feel so insecure
The fact that you cheated on her on Fab, as you said, would, I'm sure make her insecure, regardless of insecurities about her body."I don't think I'd get her back on here was thinking suggesting another site away from the memories of my fuck ups Can anyone suggest any other good sites ??! | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back " Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. | |||
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"What about watching some porn and see if anything appeals to her have done many times all she likes is lesbian porn so her playing with another women is obviously her biggest fantasy just can't get her to actually do it Same here, both Lesbian porn, prefer real thing though well at least your Mrs is up for the club scene again my mrs's reply to let's go to a sex club was you just want to look at other pussys
She sounds insecure about you being with other women, you have to find a way to convince her, that is not what you want. please tell me how as I really don't care about sleeping with other women would be happy with mmf fun or girl on girl fun with other couples and start from there
Because you said further up, that she thinks you want to get into swinging so that you can fuck other girls. That sounds insecure to me, or she doesn't believe you won't do that I don't blame her for being insecure my partner is very insecure about her body her boobs especially and the girl she found out I'd cheated with had a huge pair that she see pics of .I'm doing everything I can to not make her feel so insecure
The fact that you cheated on her on Fab, as you said, would, I'm sure make her insecure, regardless of insecurities about her body. I don't think I'd get her back on here was thinking suggesting another site away from the memories of my fuck ups
Can anyone suggest any other good sites ??!"It won't alter the fact that you cheated, however long ago. If it were me, there would be no way I would bring anyone else into our relationship. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. " how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before " Because she doesn't sound willing now. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before " Because you cheated on her subsequently and as a result she is no longer feeling it. Look, don't try to do bollocks like "challenges" and so on. Talk to the woman. Explain your feelings and ask about hers. It's the only way. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before Because she doesn't sound willing now." I can't blame her after what I did That's why I'm bending over backwards trying to please her at the minute | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before Because she doesn't sound willing now. I can't blame her after what I did That's why I'm bending over backwards trying to please her at the minute" Seriously, I would come off this site and concentrate on what you have together, without outside influences, you are sounding a little selfish. | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before Because you cheated on her subsequently and as a result she is no longer feeling it. Look, don't try to do bollocks like "challenges" and so on. Talk to the woman. Explain your feelings and ask about hers. It's the only way. " thanks for the advice think it's finally time I say her down and really open up to her | |||
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"Kinks even my relationship and family are more important than any fantasy but can you really live a life with a feeling something is missing and not live life to the full We often have to make difficult choices. If you wife and family are more important to you than anything and your wife is not on board with your fantasies, then the sensible thing is to try to forget them. I know that's not easy. definitely easier said than done You know your partner better than anyone on here. Do you think there is any serious possibility she will be on board with your kinks? honestly yes we were getting somewhere even had a threesome with another guy then I did the most stupid thing ever when my Mrs was going through a time of inactivity on Fab and I selfishly got impatient of not having any fun and I cheated via Fab so that's the main reason why swinging is a sore subject Do you want my advice? yes really do You've obviously hurt her a lot and before you can even think about kinky stuff you have to regain her trust and make her feel you're interested in her as a person and not just for sex. So if I were you, I'd delete your account on here, give it a year and see wgere you are then. the cheating was 2 years ago so hoping she may actually be ready now that's why this post was about finding challenges for her to complete while we're apart to try and bring her kinkyness back Frankly, it sounds like you are trying to manipulate her. how can I be if she has already willingly had a meet before Because you cheated on her subsequently and as a result she is no longer feeling it. Look, don't try to do bollocks like "challenges" and so on. Talk to the woman. Explain your feelings and ask about hers. It's the only way. thanks for the advice think it's finally time I say her down and really open up to her " I think you're right and good luck | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case " There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done "she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol"Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help.  | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. "were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her"Yes unfortunately there are a lot of drugs with those side effects. | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her
Yes unfortunately there are a lot of drugs with those side effects."I know I'm know currently taking a heart medicine that has side affect of lowering labido prescribed by my go for sex addiction to try And get more on my partners level | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her
Yes unfortunately there are a lot of drugs with those side effects. I know I'm know currently taking a heart medicine that has side affect of lowering labido prescribed by my go for sex addiction to try And get more on my partners level "Well I hope that goes some way to helping you | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her
Yes unfortunately there are a lot of drugs with those side effects. I know I'm know currently taking a heart medicine that has side affect of lowering labido prescribed by my go for sex addiction to try And get more on my partners level
Well I hope that goes some way to helping you "yeah thanks for all advice given | |||
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"Try talking to her and see how she feels about spicing things up she maybe happy as things are. am gonna try talk to her tonight the problem is she has a very low sex drive which really doesn't help my case There is normally a reason for that, it could be medical or it could be something you have or have not done she is on all sorts of medication for all sorts of things that can't help I've even started taking pills to reduce my sex drive to try and match her a little better and I'll have you know I've done everything I'm ment to shes certainly not shy to an orgasm or 2 lol
Wasn't making any assumptions, just using my experience of a similar thing to try and help. were pretty sure it's her antidepressants affecting her labido she already changed onto a different type once before as was affecting her ability to orgasm it was during the not being able to make her cum phase that I felt I was not doing it for her and was unfaithful instead of doing the right thing and talking her
Yes unfortunately there are a lot of drugs with those side effects. I know I'm know currently taking a heart medicine that has side affect of lowering labido prescribed by my go for sex addiction to try And get more on my partners level
Well I hope that goes some way to helping you yeah thanks for all advice given"You're welcome | |||
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