FabSwingers.com forum: Getting Blocked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Feeling ignored isn't great.

I really would advise that you separate fab from the rest of life though.

I hope things improve

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

In fabland if someone doesnt respond to a first message then sending a second is fabicide.

She may have read it and marked it unread so you didnt know. She might have been going to reply at a time convenient to her. She might also have checked out your profile and decided you werent right for her. Theres a zillion reasons.

Just take as a lesson learned...no reply means they are just not interested in you. Harsh but true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling ignored isn't great.

I really would advise that you separate fab from the rest of life though.

I hope things improve"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In fabland if someone doesnt respond to a first message then sending a second is fabicide.

Just take as a lesson learned...no reply means they are just not interested in you. Harsh but true. "

I didn't even realise you could mark messages as unread!

I think what's getting to me is being completely blanked. It's somehow worse than being outright rejected.

I perhaps need to take a break from this site / dating until I push through all the job application rejections and find a career. Trying to do both is doubling the amount of rejections I receive on a weekly basis - resulting in extreme burnout

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People view the profile of the sender before the mail, to check interest. This could mean a priceless piece of writing is lost to the world, if it's not opened but people have preferences. Someone else may have got in there first or seemed a better fit.

Move on and forgot

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If it's getting to you as much as it sounds it is OP then taking a step away from Fab for a while is probably not a bad idea.

People block for all sorts of reasons, one of the most common being to stop you messaging again if they're not interested - likewise people don't respond to messages for a variety of reasons, one of the main ones being to prevent getting messages back asking why they're not interested, or worse still with a torrent of abuse.

It's best not to take it to heart and just accept that no reply means not interested. A lot of guys also delete sent messages from their mailbox to stop the angst of watching a message they've sent to see if it's been read/deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Resending a message doesn't help, I get left on read, have my message deleted or get immediately blocked all the time. If it's been more than a couple days and they've been online, just assume they aint interested and move on.

There's so many attractive women on here who no doubt get tons of messages a day, it probably gets tirind responding "Hey, not interested" to everyone

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"In fabland if someone doesnt respond to a first message then sending a second is fabicide.

Just take as a lesson learned...no reply means they are just not interested in you. Harsh but true.

I didn't even realise you could mark messages as unread!

I think what's getting to me is being completely blanked. It's somehow worse than being outright rejected.

You deserve the best, including best health. Ensure your wellbeing isn't impacted, and you're in good form.

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

It sounds like it’s not being a good time for you. Don’t take here personally. This person doesn’t know you she’s just filtering really. I hope things improve!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the concern and advice.

Who would have thought I'd recieve so much support on a sex site

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I’m afraid i am 1 of those who block. I mainly do it if i’ve had a message and then had a second/third message coz i’ve not replied quick enough. It’s really annoying. As a single lady i get a lot of messages a day and sometimes takes me a while to reply as i have commitments away from fab too. Some men need to have a little patience.

Good luck tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe recognised you?. Or just rude. Got called mingers on our joint profile the other week. Fair enough, we are not every ones type. But still. Have some manners. So I wouldn't worry. Move on. (But secretly it does hurt)

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"In fabland if someone doesnt respond to a first message then sending a second is fabicide.

Just take as a lesson learned...no reply means they are just not interested in you. Harsh but true.

I didn't even realise you could mark messages as unread!

I think what's getting to me is being completely blanked. It's somehow worse than being outright rejected.

OP fab tends to magnify whatever is going on in your real life so if things aren't going well for you fab makes everything seem much worse. I would suggest taking a break for a while so you can get everything else settled and you are in a good place. That way you will be able to deal with the inevitable rejections on here much better. If you're feeling like life is a bit shit right now every rejection will feel like a kick in the nuts and nobody wants to be kicked while they're down.

I've taken a few breaks from fab in my time here, mostly because I had a few health issues and fab was a distraction I didn't need. I just hid my profile for a while but still came on the site to look at the forums.

Take care of real life first and put fab on the back burner for a while, it will still be here when you are ready to dip a toe in again.

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By *imply devineWoman
over a year ago

West Cumbria

It's so rude I try to answer my messages and if I can't I put a statement on my profile,manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fabland if someone doesnt respond to a first message then sending a second is fabicide.

Just take as a lesson learned...no reply means they are just not interested in you. Harsh but true.

I didn't even realise you could mark messages as unread!

I think what's getting to me is being completely blanked. It's somehow worse than being outright rejected.

maybe take a break while you sort the other stuff out it is good advice to keep things seperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

Did you read the profile First?

Because a lot of people don't.

Some people state if you don't fit their type and you message they will block you.

For instance if someone sends me a dick pic I block them.

Or someone from my local area too.

Could be a multitude of reasons just don't take it personally.

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People block for all sorts of reasons. They could look at profile and think that you aren't for them and to reduce their pool of people might block you.

Definitely don't take it to heart as if you do then fab won't be the place for you.

Remember that women get loads of mail and sometimes they bulk delete too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so rude I try to answer my messages and if I can't I put a statement on my profile,manners cost nothing."

It really isn't rude at all. it's just a way of saying I'm sorry but I'm not interested.

I've never understood how somebody not replying to an unsolicited message is rude.

OP it sounds like your kind of lumping in the stuff in your personal life and feeling rejected with applications ect.. in with Fab and they really are two separate things. Maybe taking a break would be a good idea for a little while if that's what you feel would be good for you. or possibly try a different approach with your messages maybe that would help.

Anyway good luck with it and I promise you it isn't anything personal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. Think I just lack perspective.

Doesn't help that this girl seemed so perfect!

But I really just need to stop getting hung up on these things.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks everyone. Think I just lack perspective.

Doesn't help that this girl seemed so perfect!

But I really just need to stop getting hung up on these things."

Seemed being the operative word here. You've invested too much in this in interaction and that's not wise.

We've been let down much further down the line than this. It's wise to keep things light and expect nothing or you'll find this a negative experience.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Blocked you for being self obsessed..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Blocked you for being self obsessed..

Congratulations

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone. Think I just lack perspective.

Doesn't help that this girl seemed so perfect!

But I really just need to stop getting hung up on these things.

Seemed being the operative word here. You've invested too much in this in interaction and that's not wise.

We've been let down much further down the line than this. It's wise to keep things light and expect nothing or you'll find this a negative experience."

Yes. I know. I think sometimes my mind just isn't in the right place - and it effects how react emotionally to small things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember that some people on here especially the popular single females and couples literally receive hundreds of messages a day .

The ones i know find it so hard to keep up to all the messages and sometimes do appreciate a second message.. Although I would leave it a while before sending the second message. I've had a few meets from a second message as they didn't see the first one .. So my advice is please be patient and don't bombard them. Good things come to he who waits

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks everyone. Think I just lack perspective.

Doesn't help that this girl seemed so perfect!

But I really just need to stop getting hung up on these things.

Seemed being the operative word here. You've invested too much in this in interaction and that's not wise.

We've been let down much further down the line than this. It's wise to keep things light and expect nothing or you'll find this a negative experience.

Yes. I know. I think sometimes my mind just isn't in the right place - and it effects how react emotionally to small things "

I think we all feel sometimes that one more straw will break the camel's back. For single men on fab blocking and rejection are par for the course. If you can, adopt a neutral attitude, choose who you message in a way that optimises your chances of a reply and just treat it as a bit of fun. If you take this seriously it'll do you no good.

Ok, that's my mum style lecture over for today

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By *heycallmehanWoman
over a year ago

nr wakefield

"I’m afraid i am 1 of those who block. I mainly do it if i’ve had a message and then had a second/third message coz i’ve not replied quick enough. It’s really annoying. As a single lady i get a lot of messages a day and sometimes takes me a while to reply as i have commitments away from fab too. Some men need to have a little patience.

Good luck tho "

Oh absolutely this...

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Lots of factors to consider, just don't take it too personally.

I think your profile and pictures are great

shows personality and it's well written. Where you are maybe doesn't help - slimmer pickings for women but lots of guys from rigs etc

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Maybe she opened it then pressed unread as you wasn't her physical type. I've been guilty of doing this myself, in the past.

It could also be that she read your profile and it wasn't what she was looking for, so didn't need to open the message

If you are feeling a bit fragile about things, in regards to real life problems, perhaps this place is not the best for you at the moment. It's a harsh place for some males. I hope you don't let it bother you too much and remember, it's not personal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone. Think I just lack perspective.

Doesn't help that this girl seemed so perfect!

But I really just need to stop getting hung up on these things.

Seemed being the operative word here. You've invested too much in this in interaction and that's not wise.

We've been let down much further down the line than this. It's wise to keep things light and expect nothing or you'll find this a negative experience.

Yes. I know. I think sometimes my mind just isn't in the right place - and it effects how react emotionally to small things

Ok, that's my mum style lecture over for today

Thank you. You'd make a good mum lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to remember that some people on here especially the popular single females and couples literally receive hundreds of messages a day .

Thanks - I agree with you. Think I'm just susceptible to fits of emotion atm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of factors to consider, just don't take it too personally.

I think your profile and pictures are great

shows personality and it's well written. Where you are maybe doesn't help - slimmer pickings for women but lots of guys from rigs etc

V x"

Good to know

and yeah there's not a lot up here in Aberdeen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get blanked but as they say plenty more fish in the sea chin up move on xxx

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

We block loads of guys , usually because they can’t read profiles

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Yes, she opened the message probably saw the picture then mark it unread and never delete it and you sent her a new one then she deem you were a impatient man and blocked you, you gave her the reason to block you.

Move on get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Move on get over it."

Women really need to start deleting messages if they're not interested. At least then we would both know where we stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately sums this site up just gets worse dip in and out of this site fun can be found if your lucky on here or elsewhere.

Key don`t take it personally its nature of this site and the internet generally,social media etc no manners trolls etc people can say and behave appalling because there hiding behind screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Move on get over it.

Women really need to start deleting messages if they're not interested. At least then we would both know where we stand. "

You could also delete the message as soon as you send it, so you don't know what someone does. If you get a reply then, you know that they are interested. At least then, you know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Move on get over it.

Women really need to start deleting messages if they're not interested. At least then we would both know where we stand.

You could also delete the message as soon as you send it, so you don't know what someone does. If you get a reply then, you know that they are interested. At least then, you know where you stand. "

Yeah - good idea. Although I think what I really need is to stop overanalyzing everything and learn to relax my mind a bit

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's so rude I try to answer my messages and if I can't I put a statement on my profile,manners cost nothing."

Exactly this! Women who block without replying are downright rude. A ‘no thanks but good luck’ just took me 10 seconds to type! Send the message then block and the guys know where they stand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bro try not to take it to heart. As a single male it happens to us all. No matter how “perfect” you think she may be for you she isn’t as she didn’t reject you in the way you would like. Someone out there will catch your eye.

Keep going with the job search. Now is the crucial time to be positive about yourself. As an ex recruitment consultant the fact the recruitment agency ignored you shows they’re not that good. There’s plenty out there, join more than one. Look at online job boards if you haven’t covered these areas already.

Stay strong and stay positive. Don’t let this get you down.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

rant away but dont let blocks bother you... its part of fab

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I send a message to someone and they say thanks but no thanks. I block them. Not because I’m taking my ball home. It’s my way of reminding myself they are not interested and not to message them again further down there he line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got properly blocked for the first time earlier today

For some reason she was pissed that, despite neither of us ever mentioning meeting, she seemed to get super offended that I had said two other women further away had shown interest.

A week later she asks if i'd met them, I said no since they live too far for a 'quick' meet, then she replied saying that i'd blown her off for two other women, got real condescending then blocked me. Can't say i'd ever expect that from a 50 year old woman but had she not blocked me it would have put me right off anyway, i've had enough of that borderline abusive behaviour from actual abusive ex girlfriends, no thank you lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's even more fun when you have a good conversation going back and fourth and everything is cool and then suddenly blocked lol

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By *ike2186Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

Yeah happened to me a few times. Thinking everything is going well. Messaging back and forth for a few days then suddenly blocked. Very frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah happened to me

Read her profile completely, replied how she requested then I’m blocked wouldn’t mind but the lady never even opened it lol

Keep trying pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

It comes across as "Im going to hassle you till you reply" people block to stop further harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may seem counter intuitive but see it as a compliment.

If you have managed to provoke a reaction that led to a block, it is better than suffering the indignity of just being ignored completely.

You now know where you stand and can move on rather than waiting again to see if a reply comes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's even more fun when you have a good conversation going back and fourth and everything is cool and then suddenly blocked lol"

Yeah that's rough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op count your lucky stars you have women to send messages to on Fab....

Try being a male in the USA or Australia.....

It’s a sausage party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you do woman love the block button on here weather read their profile or not or even sent a personalised polite message.

Something you have to accept as won't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

Yes - I'm being a bitch, and this wouldn't usually bother me, but it's been a bad month with various people ignoring me with no explanation (e.g. my recruitment agency, friends) - so I need to rant a little"
the likelihood is you weren't her type based on the write up and pics she could see ,so the face pic was irrelevant and it's a common way to be discounted unfortunately, you gotta make the most of what they can see ,great pics great write up ,better luck next time

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I hate this sort of thread its so negative I mean why it wins you no friends and people just think Oooer best avoid!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate this sort of thread its so negative I mean why it wins you no friends and people just think Oooer best avoid! "

I've actually made lots of friends through this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op count your lucky stars you have women to send messages to on Fab....

Try being a male in the USA or Australia.....

It’s a sausage party "

Didn't even realise the US had this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate this sort of thread its so negative I mean why it wins you no friends and people just think Oooer best avoid!

I've actually made lots of friends through this thread

Clearly you won't be one of them now that you've blocked me. You've done us both a favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude happens to alot of us single guys take the bullet swallow it down and simply forget and move on if she isnt giving you the time of day then why give it to here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the messages people - however I should note that I got over this within a day or two of being blocked.

Didn't realise this thread would go on for so long!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

It comes across as "Im going to hassle you till you reply" people block to stop further harassment."

Sending a second message a week or two later is considered harassment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages people - however I should note that I got over this within a day or two of being blocked.

Didn't realise this thread would go on for so long!"
it stays here forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sent a message to a girl a week ago.

She didn't open it. Assumed it had got lost in the dozens of messages she must have been receiving considering it hadn't been opened.

Sent her another message today. Got blocked

I get it. But surely it would make at least some sense to open the message and see my face pic before blocking me?

It comes across as "Im going to hassle you till you reply" people block to stop further harassment.

Sending a second message a week or two later is considered harassment?

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tbh dude ladies and couples check out a profile before opening a message then if they like you're write up or not then decide on whether to reply or not some even have a rule about blocking the only person who knows why is her i wouldn't fret over it mate its probably not the first time ya,been blocked for the same actions and wont be the last trust me im probably the most unluckiest guy on fab with only 2 meets under my belt in over 8 months ( was on here as a different profile) im seriously loosing on the numbers game but it aint about that for me all you can do is be pleasant and find someone else who will give you the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the messages people - however I should note that I got over this within a day or two of being blocked.

Didn't realise this thread would go on for so long!it stays here forever "

It wasn't even an interesting thread. Expected a couple of replies at best!

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