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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can someone maybe give me some tips as I have had no meets yet

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

You don't need luck, you need to be what people want sexually.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Your profile is hidden, that won't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m struggling myself to find a girl to meet , and I’m certainly trying lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Good, positive profile that sells you, both what you're looking for and what you have to offer.

A variety of pictures that are flattering and enticing

Positive interaction on the forum or in statuses

Personal, targeted, respectful messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile picture and a hidden profile will put most off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat, however I note most of my messages are either left unread forever, deleted immediately, or in one case, the woman blocked me for some reason (I was in her age range, and didnt send a dick pic)

Based on the statuses I see women put up, i've come to the conclusion that women get so many messages that unless you're an absolute god of a man, there's a solid chance you're going to be ignored due to being one of 100 messages she's gotta sift through.

Just a matter of being patient I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I think your spot on here dude

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You need a profile OP. People will look at one before messaging back.. There's plenty of existing threads with good advice on them and advice on mins should you wish to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can do it

505 words no more no less

Appealing pics as women are really pervy

And speak the lingo of the super shagger

And you my son will be ready

And most important of all

Try not

Do or do not

There is no try

Go get em

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Can someone maybe give me some tips as I have had no meets yet"

Your profile is just tragically bad delete everything and start again have a look at some profiles where the guys have had number of mates and take some tips from them do not copy and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone maybe give me some tips as I have had no meets yet"

You wont get anywhere without public pics, they dont have to be of your face. With that, and the fact you cant accommodate, screams your attached, which again will make it hard. If thats not the case, then put pics up and actually write some interesting words on your bio. Is dull and boring at the moment.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're interested then message me" - with no pictures and profile like yours I don't think that's gonna happen soon. Sorry.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, I'm afraid it's one of thousands generic, boring profiles that I wouldn't take a second look at.

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"I'm in the same boat, however I note most of my messages are either left unread forever, deleted immediately, or in one case, the woman blocked me for some reason (I was in her age range, and didnt send a dick pic)

Based on the statuses I see women put up, i've come to the conclusion that women get so many messages that unless you're an absolute god of a man, there's a solid chance you're going to be ignored due to being one of 100 messages she's gotta sift through.

Just a matter of being patient I guess "
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Sorry but I dont agree with this.

I'm far from of a God of a man but I've done alright. Met my now girlfriend on here and met some lovely ladies and couples.

Set your expectations realistically. There are hundreds of guys to every woman/couples. Be polite in your messages(which you say you are which is good) include something in your message that shows you have read the profile. Say why you think you would be a good match for them.

Be patient. Socials are a good way to meet new people and chat face to face. Be friendly and chatty and respectful.

That just my two penneths worth. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the same boat, however I note most of my messages are either left unread forever, deleted immediately, or in one case, the woman blocked me for some reason (I was in her age range, and didnt send a dick pic)

Based on the statuses I see women put up, i've come to the conclusion that women get so many messages that unless you're an absolute god of a man, there's a solid chance you're going to be ignored due to being one of 100 messages she's gotta sift through.

Just a matter of being patient I guess .

Sorry but I dont agree with this.

I'm far from of a God of a man but I've done alright. Met my now girlfriend on here and met some lovely ladies and couples.

Set your expectations realistically. There are hundreds of guys to every woman/couples. Be polite in your messages(which you say you are which is good) include something in your message that shows you have read the profile. Say why you think you would be a good match for them.

Be patient. Socials are a good way to meet new people and chat face to face. Be friendly and chatty and respectful.

That just my two penneths worth. Good luck. "

I already acknowledged that the ratio of men and women are skewed, and that you need to be patient. Perhaps you misread what I wrote.

If messages are left unread, it doesnt matter what you're actually writing since you can only see half of the first sentence before clicking into it. It's the same as someone having a shit profile, if nobody is viewing the profile it doesnt matter what it says.

You say you disagree, when my assessment is that you can be ignored (and reasonably so, im not mad people arent interested) because someone simply has too many messages to go through, but then also acknowledge that the ratio of men/women is incredibly high, and therefore you just need to be patient.

We both came to the same conclusion but you disagree? I am confused as to how that works

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thanks everyone for the tips, I have updated my profile, would someone be able to check it out and see if that's any good for me? Took on board a lot of what was said in here so I hope it is

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Well thanks everyone for the tips, I have updated my profile, would someone be able to check it out and see if that's any good for me? Took on board a lot of what was said in here so I hope it is"

I think you really have made the effort, and it is a very good starter. Maybe pad it out with a few more words on what you're looking for, or the type of person you're looking to meet?

Good luck!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Weren’t you in East 17?

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Weren’t you in East 17?

"

The teenage look is out and you only been here 4 weeks mail order bride take longer to arrive.

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By *rkrisssMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Haha, ya get me! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll have just as much luck as my mrs does on here, next to none lol. All she finds is women that are a waste of time, either stand her up or only after photos/videos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"I'm in the same boat, however I note most of my messages are either left unread forever, deleted immediately, or in one case, the woman blocked me for some reason (I was in her age range, and didnt send a dick pic)

Based on the statuses I see women put up, i've come to the conclusion that women get so many messages that unless you're an absolute god of a man, there's a solid chance you're going to be ignored due to being one of 100 messages she's gotta sift through.

Just a matter of being patient I guess .

Sorry but I dont agree with this.

I'm far from of a God of a man but I've done alright. Met my now girlfriend on here and met some lovely ladies and couples.

Set your expectations realistically. There are hundreds of guys to every woman/couples. Be polite in your messages(which you say you are which is good) include something in your message that shows you have read the profile. Say why you think you would be a good match for them.

Be patient. Socials are a good way to meet new people and chat face to face. Be friendly and chatty and respectful.

That just my two penneths worth. Good luck.

I already acknowledged that the ratio of men and women are skewed, and that you need to be patient. Perhaps you misread what I wrote.

If messages are left unread, it doesnt matter what you're actually writing since you can only see half of the first sentence before clicking into it. It's the same as someone having a shit profile, if nobody is viewing the profile it doesnt matter what it says.

You say you disagree, when my assessment is that you can be ignored (and reasonably so, im not mad people arent interested) because someone simply has too many messages to go through, but then also acknowledge that the ratio of men/women is incredibly high, and therefore you just need to be patient.

We both came to the same conclusion but you disagree? I am confused as to how that works

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Was just trying to be helpful. In regards to messages not being read, it generally means they have looked at your profile and decided to not bother reading your message based on that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well the help has definetly worked guys as people are actually replying now, thanks for the help guys and girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol "

You can filter them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol

You can filter them out."

That's true should have really have known that being here before in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol "

Same here, or it was till I discovered I can block men and tv/ts

I still gst the occasional idiot that adds me on kik but I just block them on there too. Not sure why men have a habit of not being able to take the hint but it seems to be a pretty wide spread problem by all accounts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol

Same here, or it was till I discovered I can block men and tv/ts

I still gst the occasional idiot that adds me on kik but I just block them on there too. Not sure why men have a habit of not being able to take the hint but it seems to be a pretty wide spread problem by all accounts "

Gets annoying aha all sorted now lol had a few guys offer me money aha don't think I could do it for that either ahaha

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol

Same here, or it was till I discovered I can block men and tv/ts

I still gst the occasional idiot that adds me on kik but I just block them on there too. Not sure why men have a habit of not being able to take the hint but it seems to be a pretty wide spread problem by all accounts

Gets annoying aha all sorted now lol had a few guys offer me money aha don't think I could do it for that either ahaha "

You need to report as they are breaking site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All I ever seem to get it lads wanting to suck me off ?? not what I came to this site for lol

Same here, or it was till I discovered I can block men and tv/ts

I still gst the occasional idiot that adds me on kik but I just block them on there too. Not sure why men have a habit of not being able to take the hint but it seems to be a pretty wide spread problem by all accounts

Gets annoying aha all sorted now lol had a few guys offer me money aha don't think I could do it for that either ahaha

You need to report as they are breaking site rules. "

True though I have seen some woman say they will only shag single men for money aswell aha. Came here for fun times not an investment ahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No profile picture and a hidden profile will put most off."

Hi,

How do you know if a profile is hidden??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit the nail on the head there. I think it's better for couples, if you look at the membership and average online profiles against the population figures you are more likely to pull on a night out. It's a site that's fun for a few months, then it's time to move on........taxi!

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