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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford

Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

Seriously!!

What's wrong with these guys...

Hard enough to get a reply to messages let alone a meet

Stunning pics op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

Your profile is quite off putting and demanding...as if you have a list that you want to complete... pressure on the guy that you are only here to satisfy yourself, not others

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Hi,

Your profile text seems very long, demanding, and to be honest, I didn't read it all.

Your pics are not that great, and show some other bloke hanging out of you.

A negative status update can be off-putting..

Hope that helps x

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I know what you mean...I feel that its worth reporting to admin as a time waster cos the chances are they have and will do it to others..

I dont know if any action is taken but i feel a bit better after i have reported them.

Blocking them goes without saying..

All the very best, you desere better..

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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford

Thankyou I do try to reply to messages and if someone not my type I will say majority of the time but can’t reply to all they talk the talk and are well up for meeting but then they disappear if I’m not for them I’d prefer them to say no thanx your not my type ect I wouldn’t be offended

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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford

Advice on profile taken will act on this now x

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Chat to them a couple of times on the phone prior to meeting I find it helps in ing out the not so serious about meeting people.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say your hubby may well be downstairs while you are meeting but you won't even know he is there. Then on your bucket list you say you want him to catch you in the act. Men might be worried he is going to burst in.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Your profile is long but quite interesting if I was closer I would definitely turn up.

Lots of clowns out there sadly and I would go for a meet quickly rather than endless emails as that’s just wank fodder for fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet for a no pressure coffee or drink first in a public place, if a guy turns up to a social meet, they will turn up to the meet, if you hit it off. Unfortunately some guys like the chase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

Your profile text seems very long, demanding, and to be honest, I didn't read it all.

Your pics are not that great, and show some other bloke hanging out of you.

A negative status update can be off-putting..

Hope that helps x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile text is better than a lot of ladies on the site. Good luck x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Generally it's not great to engage in much XXX discussion - if any at all - as there are lot of guys who get off on just that and may have no intention of ever meeting.

There are others who aren't single but pretend, so their availability isn't as they state it is.

With meets set-up for groups of guys - not what you're doing - people assume a good proportion of them won't show: there is a lack of reliability.

It can pay to only engage with guys who have verifications, who aren't brand new users, who discuss meeting for a social first or who would meet at a swinging venue.

Over time you get a sense of who is most likely to be reliable. Engaging on the phone, or live cam, can filter out those who are trying it on too. Always have a good communication plan agreed with them, so that you'll know when they fail to follow through that your eventual meet is less likely.

Also, consider what it is about the current guys that have done this, that they share in common. Style of contact, their interests, time of meetings etc - what factors are similar? It could help you to recognise similar guys in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if you've updated your profile but it seems fine to me, short and to the point, pics are good too

There must be some losers round your way with too much time on their hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

Don't worry op all is cool their loss your gain !! Lookin that good it wont be long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Profile text is better than a lot of ladies on the site. Good luck x"

It has been amended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this problem to, we are reluctant to meet men and they have to stand out and wen they do and I try and arrange something they don’t bother replying. It’s like ffs why do even bother

Mrscxxx

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

Nothing wrong with you, you just need to find a better quality of man amongst all the boy's on here, Now do you want to play my yo-yo?

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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford


"Profile text is better than a lot of ladies on the site. Good luck x

It has been amended "

Yes will add a bit more to it later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they just changed their minds? It is their prerogative to do that surely...I chat to guys and think they are quite interesting and possibly worth a meet, and then just something they say totally puts me off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is (fab) for you.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

There are a few paranoid guys on fab so you may just have had a few of these lately that's unless its something in the messages you send but that's between you and them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

I feel your pain, happening more and more to me.

Last week I was blown out because of a better offer.

Last night was cancelled on,because he had to pick up his mother (on fab with new veris today)

Arranged to meet a guy, turned up at the meeting place, waited for 15 minutes and left. He's not been online since.

This is ontop of being ghosted and ignored after chatting.

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

I think some just like to fantasize

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your profile. For men who enjoy being vigourous during sex you are perfect. Maybe there is not that type of guy in your locality. Carry on as you are there is more fun to be had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is absolutely nothing wrong with your profile. For men who enjoy being vigourous during sex you are perfect. Maybe there is not that type of guy in your locality. Carry on as you are there is more fun to be had."
My opinions are to do with the Foxy minx profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your veris there is text about social meets and your husband, 2 things to put guys off, maybe explain you are a single women meeting on your own, however if you are involving your husband start a couples profile, nothing is more off putting than a single lady profile for a couple used as bait

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By *he CaptainMan
over a year ago

Cadihead

Ive found its women that do not show. They chat talk dirty for days they agree a meet but never show. Six up to now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive found its women that do not show. They chat talk dirty for days they agree a meet but never show. Six up to now. "

That'll be a bloke pretending to be a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive found its women that do not show. They chat talk dirty for days they agree a meet but never show. Six up to now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been let down a couple of times, i just think its there loss, they try to message again but i don't do second chances haha x

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Strange isn’t it. There been a few threads like this and it’s men, women and couples all saying the same thing.

For whatever reason there seems to be a lot of this going on and i myself have had my fair share, and you wonder if there are any ‘real’ people here.

Still, I’ll stay positive and keep trying as should you op

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

You’re not on your own. We’ve had six months of it and now given up on men and only meeting ladies and couple now! Although it’s such hard work getting any mets if I’m honest. We’ve also said we might give up chatting to people on Fab and just go to clubs in future!

Keep looking though I know there are some genuine gems out there, you’ve just got to find them x

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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford


"Looking at your veris there is text about social meets and your husband, 2 things to put guys off, maybe explain you are a single women meeting on your own, however if you are involving your husband start a couples profile, nothing is more off putting than a single lady profile for a couple used as bait "

We have a couples profile I’ve put that on my profile I’m not single just like to have single meets sometimes

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

It just astounds me there are so many time wasters there are on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x

I feel your pain, happening more and more to me.

Last week I was blown out because of a better offer.

Last night was cancelled on,because he had to pick up his mother (on fab with new veris today)

Arranged to meet a guy, turned up at the meeting place, waited for 15 minutes and left. He's not been online since.

This is ontop of being ghosted and ignored after chatting.

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I don't think some people have the correct mindset on here...a meet is not a meet until it actually happens...so do not expect too much and then you will pleasantly surprised...too many people get too upset simply because they have been chatting to someone...chatting is chatting ...simply that

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x

I feel your pain, happening more and more to me.

Last week I was blown out because of a better offer.

Last night was cancelled on,because he had to pick up his mother (on fab with new veris today)

Arranged to meet a guy, turned up at the meeting place, waited for 15 minutes and left. He's not been online since.

This is ontop of being ghosted and ignored after chatting.

I don't think some people have the correct mindset on here...a meet is not a meet until it actually happens...so do not expect too much and then you will pleasantly surprised...too many people get too upset simply because they have been chatting to someone...chatting is chatting ...simply that "

Valid point too many assume things incorrectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasters and fakes.

This topic hasn’t ever been discussed before has it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just cold feet. Get it all the time. Doubt your profile makes a difference by the time you've arranged a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's just cold feet. Get it all the time. Doubt your profile makes a difference by the time you've arranged a meet"

Sometimes there is a genuine reason. A lady and I were trying to organise a meet last week which was for a variety of reasons was becoming difficult due to time constraints on both sides, so the meet was on a tight time frame as it was and both parties knew it could go pear shaped and it did but there was plenty of notice when unfortunately it became apparent it couldn't go ahead but some still get arsey which does wrankle me a little.

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

Yeah I've had this n I still ain't seen them online or had a reply since either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I've had this n I still ain't seen them online or had a reply since either"

very frustrating aint it ? I just don't get why get stropp on

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

It's ambition exceeding ability , happens a lot with the men on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's ambition exceeding ability , happens a lot with the men on here "

what a load of crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi could anyone help me maybe it’s my profile not sure what it is , but getting let down by pretty much every single male ive chatted to for a meet ,they are up for meeting and then either the day before or couple of hours before we arrange a time to meet the single male goes offline and doesn’t say anything just goes silent no excuses no apology ect tia x"

They used you to have cyber sex and a wank and didnt intend to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say your hubby may well be downstairs while you are meeting but you won't even know he is there. Then on your bucket list you say you want him to catch you in the act. Men might be worried he is going to burst in. "

Wow if that was the case then yeah thats gonna filter out 99% of people actually looking fkr a meet leaving you with just fantasits as they know they dont have to worry

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By *0xy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

telford

I put on there that hubby maybe at home depending on his shift but most often would be just a single meet with me.

I have a fantasy that he would come home from work and catch me and wanted that to be known if I had not mentioned that there was a possibility he may be home at that time then that may have been a problem. If he was at home he is happy to stay well away and has done in the past. So if I’ve been to honest then I hold my hands up.

But that was all on the profile before any meet is arranged I understand that ppl get cold feet things happen but all that I ask is for honesty in return. But I have taken some advice onboard so I thank all posters who have voiced their opinions good or bad

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