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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Same old sob story etc but been on this site for almost a year and have had nothing to show for it, been on cam but no veris, had people stand me up on meets it's just not going my way.

I love this site and how kinky and interesting it is but I don't think the site loves me back, should I just stop?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

No,change your profile to a long rant against women and couples for rejecting you.

Then post a thread like this every 6 weeks, but never reply to to anyone on it.

That's the standard behaviour...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Try a club? If you can behave yourself you'll get a veri, even if you ask staff. Pick an interracial and/or gym fit theme night and you might benefit from being in the niche.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No,change your profile to a long rant against women and couples for rejecting you.

Then post a thread like this every 6 weeks, but never reply to to anyone on it.

That's the standard behaviour... "

Oh stand back, a comedian is in the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try a club? If you can behave yourself you'll get a veri, even if you ask staff. Pick an interracial and/or gym fit theme night and you might benefit from being in the niche. "

I'll give it a try, thanks

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Hang on, you've been here a year and it hasn't occurred to you to try a club...and I'm the comedian????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on, you've been here a year and it hasn't occurred to you to try a club...and I'm the comedian????

"

Oh no its crossed the noggin thanks, not as easy as some funny people out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No,change your profile to a long rant against women and couples for rejecting you.

Then post a thread like this every 6 weeks, but never reply to to anyone on it.

That's the standard behaviour...

Oh stand back, a comedian is in the forum

"

Humour can be very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go to group socials. much cheaper than clubs.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Oh no its crossed the noggin thanks, not as easy as some funny people out there"

I was just observing what others have done in the same situation, there was no implied criticsm.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

As Homer Simpson said: “You tried your best and failed miserably. The lesson is, never try.”

He also said: “Trying is the first step towards failure”

Hope that helps

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

too young for most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is (FAB) for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fanny ain't gonna cum by hermes op

Get out n about

Socials clubs even try Donald and Jacqueline see if they can hook you up

Have the fun n banter on here sure it'll cum good for you pal

If that sounds like too much hard work try going up town with your pals and pull in the traditional way

It's not bloody dial a clunge on here you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is (FAB) for you."
that is true there more failure than success on here so best is to go to a social it may bring you luck.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The only right answer is your own. We should explore and experiment within our own boundaries and learn as we go, without regret, so that we know we've lived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only right answer is your own. We should explore and experiment within our own boundaries and learn as we go, without regret, so that we know we've lived. "
that true but most here are afraid to explore that what i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same old sob story etc but been on this site for almost a year and have had nothing to show for it, been on cam but no veris, had people stand me up on meets it's just not going my way.

I love this site and how kinky and interesting it is but I don't think the site loves me back, should I just stop?"

Yeah...

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"No,change your profile to a long rant against women and couples for rejecting you.

Then post a thread like this every 6 weeks, but never reply to to anyone on it.

That's the standard behaviour... "

Omg deja vu.

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By *redjMan
over a year ago

gloucestershire

I would try AA !! My name is ???? And I’m an alcoholic, i have not had a drink for 2weeks and I’m now able to get erections again worked for me hehehe

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Have you taken any advice you've been offered before on your previous 4 threads? Since you haven't asked specifically for profile advice it can't be given. There are plenty of existing threads offering that already, maybe look them up and also advice on mine. I'm sure if you go into a cam room someone will help you out with a veri. If I'm in there and someone asks I'm happy to do so. Probably better to get yourself to an organised social or a club though. Remember, effort in = rewards out OP. Good luck.

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Your statuses will not help you.

Horny as fuck is a big turn off

Soon as see that most will skip by and not even bother reading your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As Homer Simpson said: “You tried your best and failed miserably. The lesson is, never try.”

He also said: “Trying is the first step towards failure”

Hope that helps"

Wise words indeed.

Was it not the great master Yoda who once said. 'Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try'

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

You’re a single man on a swingers site. The odds are against you from the start.

It seems to be the single guys who have the most verifications have good photos, a well written profile, contribute to the forums, and seem to make an effort to get out to clubs and socials. Just an observation.

Posts like this are more likely to put people off, this isn’t instashag and you aren’t entitled to anything. Maybe delete your profile and start again? Or try Tinder or Pof?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on and off fab for 5 years. Delete profile and start again is good advice, with new photos. People are more likely to look at the new profile and make judgements about not getting meets in a year. Have a look at other guys profiles who gave lots of veris and see what you can copy.

Also to be successful, you need to out the hours in. Be on the site everyday commenting on forums and emailing women, with good messages and facepics. I have had success emailing newbies when they join up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I new how to find out abput group socials in Edinburgh if there are any, any tips are well come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im moxed to, and clubs and social event are a better option definitely be polite but keep it fun like they said abit of banter often you will meet experienced swinger let them lead the conversation till you knlw each other abit better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wish I new how to find out abput group socials in Edinburgh if there are any, any tips are well come"

Scotland forum.. always posts about the socials

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By *clipse65Man
over a year ago

Oldham

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By *clipse65Man
over a year ago

Oldham

I've acrually had a few meets, problem it's been 'straight' guys who rather obviously don't want to verify. Shit happens mate

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

I would just basicallly give up lol

Only kidding xx

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By *oxer123Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

You have to be patient , it took me a while to get the trust of someone for that first meet but now I do ok and have some good fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been to any clubs or socials op ?

Say hello and get to know likeminded people ?

Or are you like the rest of the kiddies on here who think it's fab easymuff

Your dry year I'm thinking the latter tbh

Hot vajayjay is not gonna be left on the doorstep with the milk young man

Stop whinging on the forums and get yourself out there

Harsh yes but all true I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the advice given and you'll just have to accept that it might take time but be realistic and patient. I've been on Swingers sites 15 years now and had various different types of profiles, been to socials etc etc but the bottom line is that if you're not someone's type there's nothing you can do about it. Take it from me, I've never been anyone's type yet from who I've met or who's seen me but atleast they've thought I'm a nice guy and as I've been told loads of times from some very lovely people on the scene, I will eventually meet someone who's interested so chin up mate, listen to the experiences people on here and it may just take time. 1 year us nothing believe me! Lol

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