FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As title, we’re struggling to meet couples and can only put it down to the fact we don’t allow kissing and that S isn’t bi. We do ok with socials, just appears most couples won’t play with straight couples.

Can anyone give us any other reasons why we are struggling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the Sunday only meets are a limiting factor too.

You're looking for a straight, non-kissing couple, who will fancy the other party, who can meet on a Sunday. Say it out loud like that and there's possibly the reason why you feel your struggling.

Keep plugging away though, you go for what you seek, no compromise. You look great, so when that right couple comes along, and the stars align...

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Perhaps the Sunday only meets are a limiting factor too.

You're looking for a straight, non-kissing couple, who will fancy the other party, who can meet on a Sunday. Say it out loud like that and there's possibly the reason why you feel your struggling.

Keep plugging away though, you go for what you seek, no compromise. You look great, so when that right couple comes along, and the stars align...

This is what we would have written too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps the Sunday only meets are a limiting factor too.

You're looking for a straight, non-kissing couple, who will fancy the other party, who can meet on a Sunday. Say it out loud like that and there's possibly the reason why you feel your struggling.

Keep plugging away though, you go for what you seek, no compromise. You look great, so when that right couple comes along, and the stars align...

Yea good way of putting it. We’ll edit it abit, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because your soft swap only, most people prefer full swap,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps the Sunday only meets are a limiting factor too.

You're looking for a straight, non-kissing couple, who will fancy the other party, who can meet on a Sunday. Say it out loud like that and there's possibly the reason why you feel your struggling.

Keep plugging away though, you go for what you seek, no compromise. You look great, so when that right couple comes along, and the stars align...

I have to say these are some very fair observations.

The more restrictions that you put in place, the smaller your target audience. Of course, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. We all have our preferences, and we all have lives outside of fab.

For example, now that my son lives with me, I can no longer meet whenever I choose, day or night and have had to limit my availability to weekday daytimes whilst he's at school, and with that, I understand that this massively limits my choices and indeed my appeal to others who can not meet at times that I am available.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably because your soft swap only, most people prefer full swap,

Soft swap is all we’ve done so far apart from MMF meets but we have put that we are looking for our first full swap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the same boat, we blame norfolk, not a massive scene here

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Probably because your soft swap only, most people prefer full swap,

Soft swap is all we’ve done so far apart from MMF meets but we have put that we are looking for our first full swap.

Lots of couples are happy with soft swap, so I doubt that's the problem.

It can just be really hard for 4 people to agree on mutual attraction.

Have you considered clubs?

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for me, kissing is one of the nicest erotic parts of fourplay,massive turn on

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I met a couple where the lady would not kiss . I still enjoyed myself . but soft play would not entice people I'm afraid .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably because your soft swap only, most people prefer full swap,

Soft swap is all we’ve done so far apart from MMF meets but we have put that we are looking for our first full swap.

Perhaps start a "soft swap and hopefully lead to full swap" thread op's in your local(ish) area ?

Just a thought to make fab more enjoyable for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I met a couple where the lady would not kiss . I still enjoyed myself . but soft play would not entice people I'm afraid . "

We’ve no problem finding soft swap couples. It’s full swap we’re struggling with lol. We’re putting it down to S not being bi as with most couples the female wants to play with the female of the other couple.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Are you struggling to find people you both like ? Or are you messaging first and people aren’t replying ? Or are you waiting for messages and no one is messaging? Or do things go well until you mention you only want straight soft play ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you struggling to find people you both like ? Or are you messaging first and people aren’t replying ? Or are you waiting for messages and no one is messaging? Or do things go well until you mention you only want straight soft play ? "

A mix of everything really. We message those we like the look of and rarely get a reply. We get messages from couples but, a lot of the time they state they like the 2 females to play on their own to get things going. This is despite the fact we have it written in our profile that S isn’t bi sexual or curious.

We’ve decided to always do socials first now due to being messed around twice by 2 couples where we booked a hotel room and they cancelled at the last minute. So not sure wether that’s an issue or not aswell.

We understand the kissing may be an issue but would have thought couples would be happy kissing their own partners but having sex and touching the other couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me. "

I completely agree with this. Kissing is what turns me on and gets me wet to receive a nice juicy man! Sex is a very personal thing and I personally would struggle with the limitations and would end up being very fake

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

Yea this is why we don’t play with single guys anymore as we agree it’s difficult for them to get turned on without kissing. We’re hoping for couples who will be happy kissing their own partners whilst playing with the other.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lol"

Not just the guys that struggle to get turned on. Don’t know if you noticed but I am a female commenting that I can’t get turned on without the kissing!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We haven’t met single females so couldn’t say them aswell lol. But yea it’s important everyone gets turned on

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lol"

I'm a single guy and for me kissing should also only be between you and your partner. It's like making love to the soul but maybe I'm in a small minority

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lol

I'm a single guy and for me kissing should also only be between you and your partner. It's like making love to the soul but maybe I'm in a small minority "

Nice to see a single guy share the same view.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lol"
I reckon I'd have zero issues getting turned on by you even without the kissing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"O couldn't imagine meeting someone and not kissing. It is such a natural part of me.

It’s a struggle but as they say, ‘All good things come to those who wait’. Well, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that lolI reckon I'd have zero issues getting turned on by you even without the kissing

Thanks

All the single men we’ve met have been fine with no kissing and seemed to have no problem getting turned on by me giving them, and them giving me oral.

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By *antasticMrFucksMan
over a year ago

Taunton

I know and have met a few couples with no kissing and soft swap with my female friend I guess if that's what you want then hold out xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know and have met a few couples with no kissing and soft swap with my female friend I guess if that's what you want then hold out xx"

How did they work out for you? Did either you or your female friend find it an issue?

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"Probably because your soft swap only, most people prefer full swap,

We’ve not found this but the no kissing bit limits things with a soft swap. We like a sensual soft swap, kissing and touching is such a huge turn on!!!

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By *antasticMrFucksMan
over a year ago

Taunton

"I know and have met a few couples with no kissing and soft swap with my female friend I guess if that's what you want then hold out xx

How did they work out for you? Did either you or your female friend find it an issue?"

It was strange but we enjoyed each other very passionately and the soft swap was almost a foreplay ftp see each other haveing fun if you can see what I mean xx

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

rules, rules and more rules. bunch of control freaks

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Your female half is quite young which drives your age limit down. The preponderance of folks on this site are a bit older. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"rules, rules and more rules. bunch of control freaks"

Really?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"rules, rules and more rules. bunch of control freaks"

Why? They are free to have their own preferences and say in how they play.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

for us, no kissing = no meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met couples that say no kissing, but do find it hard because kissing just comes naturally but I understand it’s what you feel comfortable with. Also when I read your verifications it’s only with the guy you played the other times it looks like just social meets

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

We have a similar problem, again due to looking for that 4 way attraction and also straight play.

One other thing that may be an issue is the age difference between you. With the male half being late 30s and female being early 20s, what couple age range is it you're after? Older couples may be put off with the young female, due to having children in the same age range, while younger couples may not be looking for an older male. Just another possibility?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have a similar problem, again due to looking for that 4 way attraction and also straight play.

I prefer older guys but within reason so highest is 40 for me. Yea can see the age gap being an issue. Looks like everything is against us lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for me, kissing is one of the nicest erotic parts of fourplay,massive turn on"

I couldn't agree more with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 months in and 10 veris suggests things aren't too bad OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos of Mr OP aren't as good as Mrs OP. Put more effort into this area.

I imagine any female in another couple will have a large say in who they play with, so aim your profile at her. Especially true if she will not get to play with Mrs OP.

I'm no expert. Wish you all the best though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Photos of Mr OP aren't as good as Mrs OP. Put more effort into this area.

I imagine any female in another couple will have a large say in who they play with, so aim your profile at her. Especially true if she will not get to play with Mrs OP.

I'm no expert. Wish you all the best though

Never thought of that actually. He ain’t happy with how he looks and is quite shy but yea, good point thanks. We’ll try taking some pics of him.

"3 months in and 10 veris suggests things aren't too bad OP?"

It’s not too bad no. Just struggling with full swaps. We enjoyed socials and soft swap which is where we get most interest.

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