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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

woman messaged us a couple today we asked what shes looking for exactly and she responded im not sure im new to this... You can only see her pics if you're a friend wich we are and her profile looked legit so how can we tell if she a fake or not and that goes for everybody. Any suggestions would help alot thanks.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Ask for a phone chat or a cam chat. Google search her pictures.

Basic rule, if she sounds too good to be true, it's probably Derek from the local pub.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You learn to trust your gut. Do the things she's saying add up? Does this sound like a woman? Things like that. If you're not sure, arrange a cam chat or a social first (in a public place with plenty of people, not one of your usual haunts).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How can we google search her pics we only know her first name

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How can we google search her pics we only know her first name"

Reverse image search. The specifics depend on your browser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Download one of her pics and do a Google reverse image search. It will tell you how many other website's those pictures are on.

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"woman messaged us a couple today we asked what shes looking for exactly and she responded im not sure im new to this... You can only see her pics if you're a friend wich we are and her profile looked legit so how can we tell if she a fake or not and that goes for everybody. Any suggestions would help alot thanks."

Maybe she thought you were fake and avoided its a distinct possibility i have to say.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"How can we google search her pics we only know her first name"

If on a smart phone just press on the pick and hold down for a few seconds it will bring a menu up and its in there (well that's how I do it)

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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Go with your instincts, dont get me wrong unicorns exist but most will be found in clubs and safe environments so 99.99999999999% of the time its usually dave from across the way trying to add to his picture collection.

We go along with it for a while (benefit of doubt and all) then very quickly sus, the way messages are worded can be a dead giveaway aswell

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Verifications, verifications and verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications, verifications and verifications "

There are many fake verifications on here so thats a pointless thong to trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"woman messaged us a couple today we asked what shes looking for exactly and she responded im not sure im new to this... You can only see her pics if you're a friend wich we are and her profile looked legit so how can we tell if she a fake or not and that goes for everybody. Any suggestions would help alot thanks."

1/Chat on cam ideally so everyone can see each other.

2/If you can't cam chat on the phone.

That will only confirm its a women (or a beegee) women can still be fake its not just a mans domain being fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course expecting women to prove that they are genuine on cam or phone will potentially puss off the genuine ones who probably don't want and arguably don't need to jump through hoops

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Verifications, verifications and verifications

There are many fake verifications on here so thats a pointless thong to trust."

If people are verified by numerous people, who in turn are well verified then it's not pointless. Especially if you know some of those people personally.

Phone calls/cam/specific pictures is jumping thro hoops. Not something we do. Our profile speaks for itself. If people think we are fake cos we won't phone them then tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course expecting women to prove that they are genuine on cam or phone will potentially puss off the genuine ones who probably don't want and arguably don't need to jump through hoops "

I don't see that as jumping through a hoop. It's a sensible thing to do to make sure you aren't being catfished. Not everyone will cam though out of fear for their privacy, but a phone call isn't difficult.

How else can you establish you're talking to a woman and not a man

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Verifications, verifications and verifications

There are many fake verifications on here so thats a pointless thong to trust.

If people are verified by numerous people, who in turn are well verified then it's not pointless. Especially if you know some of those people personally.

Phone calls/cam/specific pictures is jumping thro hoops. Not something we do. Our profile speaks for itself. If people think we are fake cos we won't phone them then tough."

Yup, this. I definitely am not fake, verification trail proves it and to be honest when someone asks to do a video call, I'm not exactly looking my best lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakes get away with it because most dare not ask them “Your profile looks like a fake profile, can we do something to prove your legit?” Because people are afraid that they will offend the other person and loose the chance of meeting, so just ask,if they get the hump they are either fake or just hard work then block, easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course expecting women to prove that they are genuine on cam or phone will potentially puss off the genuine ones who probably don't want and arguably don't need to jump through hoops

I don't see that as jumping through a hoop. It's a sensible thing to do to make sure you aren't being catfished. Not everyone will cam though out of fear for their privacy, but a phone call isn't difficult.

How else can you establish you're talking to a woman and not a man "

Trust and gut instinct

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Fakes get away with it because most dare not ask them “Your profile looks like a fake profile, can we do something to prove your legit?” Because people are afraid that they will offend the other person and loose the chance of meeting, so just ask,if they get the hump they are either fake or just hard work then block, easy"

Seriously jeez? Please block us. That approach just smacks of entitlement.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Got to love toying with the fakes though, good fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fakes get away with it because most dare not ask them “Your profile looks like a fake profile, can we do something to prove your legit?” Because people are afraid that they will offend the other person and loose the chance of meeting, so just ask,if they get the hump they are either fake or just hard work then block, easy

Seriously jeez? Please block us. That approach just smacks of entitlement. "

Weird, no sense of entitlement at all! Just asking an unverified person to prove they are genuine, easy

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By *andys manMan
over a year ago

colchester

This why people ask if you have kik, it has a cam facility to to eliminate fake people, if they dont want to show there face on cam then forget it, anyone who is genuinely Looking to meet someone they have clicked with on here would be willing to prove who they are

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Gut feel is one of the best ways.

Have they just joined the site but have porn quality pics and are desperate to meet?

Do they get meet verified within hours of joining but the veri text is vague and never mentions their fab name?

Are they listed as female but type like a guy?

Do they want to get straight to sex chat and pic swap?

Do their public pics all look like the same person? (skin tone, any visible tattoos, body shape)

Do their pics appear on Google search or tineye?

It's not hard and fast by any means. We've been contacted by profiles who initially set off our fake alarm but who turned out to be genuine. Similarly we've been chatting with people who then turned out to have used downloaded porn pics as their own. Just use your head and assume the worst until you can confirm things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask for a vid call 30 second. Nothing rude at all.

People not want to do this fine no problem I won’t meet. It’s not like it’s really end of world to miss out on a meet as just onto next person/s . Can’t really be upset over a failed meeting with people you never met lol

Everyone has a phone / pc / tablet / laptop these days. If people have veris great you actually meet but I still like a quick vid chat to gauge visual chemistry in chat. Pics are one thing moving images are better reflection imo .

Each to their own in how they arrange / validate meets no way is wrong , just simply if people not compatible with way I do it then it’s not going to happen .

Happy fabbing all and just keep doing what works for you

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"This why people ask if you have kik, it has a cam facility to to eliminate fake people, if they dont want to show there face on cam then forget it, anyone who is genuinely Looking to meet someone they have clicked with on here would be willing to prove who they are

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Not everyone is willing to cam. We don't. Doesnt mean we are fake. We meet for real in clubs. If people can't work out we are genuine then that's their issue.

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By *jEuphoriaCouple
over a year ago

north kent


"Fakes get away with it because most dare not ask them “Your profile looks like a fake profile, can we do something to prove your legit?” Because people are afraid that they will offend the other person and loose the chance of meeting, so just ask,if they get the hump they are either fake or just hard work then block, easy

Seriously jeez? Please block us. That approach just smacks of entitlement.

Weird, no sense of entitlement at all! Just asking an unverified person to prove they are genuine, easy"

I agree with you, best way is to ask outright. Jeez...

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By *jEuphoriaCouple
over a year ago

north kent


"woman messaged us a couple today we asked what shes looking for exactly and she responded im not sure im new to this... You can only see her pics if you're a friend wich we are and her profile looked legit so how can we tell if she a fake or not and that goes for everybody. Any suggestions would help alot thanks."

Many single men pose as a couple. Tips to look out for:-

How long they have joined.

How many veri’s.

Could the pictures be faked or stolen.

What they are in to. If they tick everything! probably a man, most couples would be more fussy.

And the other thing on how to spot them is....

I can’t say, because if the idiots are reading this, they will learn to get round it.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"This why people ask if you have kik, it has a cam facility to to eliminate fake people, if they dont want to show there face on cam then forget it, anyone who is genuinely Looking to meet someone they have clicked with on here would be willing to prove who they are

Not everyone is willing to cam. We don't. Doesnt mean we are fake. We meet for real in clubs. If people can't work out we are genuine then that's their issue. "

Yes but you have multiple Veris which prove your real and meet in clubs.

If someone has no Veris you have nothing to go on.

We don’t cam but we always always have a chat on the phone. If the other person/s not willing to do this then we won’t meet.

Everyone is entitled to operate in a way that suits them.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"This why people ask if you have kik, it has a cam facility to to eliminate fake people, if they dont want to show there face on cam then forget it, anyone who is genuinely Looking to meet someone they have clicked with on here would be willing to prove who they are

Not everyone is willing to cam. We don't. Doesnt mean we are fake. We meet for real in clubs. If people can't work out we are genuine then that's their issue.

Yes but you have multiple Veris which prove your real and meet in clubs.

If someone has no Veris you have nothing to go on.

We don’t cam but we always always have a chat on the phone. If the other person/s not willing to do this then we won’t meet.

Everyone is entitled to operate in a way that suits them. "

We don't meet unverified people. Enough real folk in clubs to play with.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

For us it’s usually quite obvious a bit further down the line if the female half of a couple is always at work/ill/on holiday/busy so can never be part of the chat.

Or we call their bluff and start arranging a social and suddenly they disappear

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"This why people ask if you have kik, it has a cam facility to to eliminate fake people, if they dont want to show there face on cam then forget it, anyone who is genuinely Looking to meet someone they have clicked with on here would be willing to prove who they are

Not everyone is willing to cam. We don't. Doesnt mean we are fake. We meet for real in clubs. If people can't work out we are genuine then that's their issue.

Yes but you have multiple Veris which prove your real and meet in clubs.

If someone has no Veris you have nothing to go on.

We don’t cam but we always always have a chat on the phone. If the other person/s not willing to do this then we won’t meet.

Everyone is entitled to operate in a way that suits them.

We don't meet unverified people. Enough real folk in clubs to play with."

Totally works for you.

But the OP who seem quite new were asking for advice on meeting outside clubs.

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