FabSwingers.com forum: Why’s it so hard to get a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are we doing something wrong

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By *allguywelshMan
over a year ago

barry

I find the same, even when they chat to you first, keep getting dropped mid convo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find the same, even when they chat to you first, keep getting dropped mid convo."

Yes we have had that it’s very frustrating bloody timewasters

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By *s1212Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Agree. Seems to be getting more difficult to arrange a meet on here.

So many time wasters!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I find the same, even when they chat to you first, keep getting dropped mid convo.

Yes we have had that it’s very frustrating bloody timewasters

That is not a timewaster. That is someone deciding, for whatever reason, you are not for them. That is their choice. Maybe look at what you are saying to turn them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try a organised social event or a club. You would meet plenty then and possibly find what your looking for

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By *ussyLoverMan
over a year ago

Crosshills (near Keighley)

I'm having the same problem...your'e not into single guys?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Set a profile picture. Fill out your bio. Message selectively and personally.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Since you haven't asked specifically for for profile advice we can't give it. But starting there would be an idea. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find the same, even when they chat to you first, keep getting dropped mid convo.

Yes we have had that it’s very frustrating bloody timewasters

That is not a timewaster. That is someone deciding, for whatever reason, you are not for them. That is their choice. Maybe look at what you are saying to turn them off."

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

There is next to nothing on your profile.

Describe what you are like as people, what you like and what you are looking for.

And as above, socials are a great way to get to know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we doing something wrong "

What are you doing?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Are we doing something wrong

What are you doing?"

Or not as the case may be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we doing something wrong "

We struggle big time too. We haven’t managed to meet new people in a few years. Not for the want of trying on here.

To meet it seems you have to either meet single guys, be young and very attractive, attend clubs/socials or be prepared to have no particular preference.

If you’re a bit older, not a stunner, a bit picky and don’t go to clubs then it’s tough. In our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we doing something wrong "

You are getting meets, what are you expecting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are we doing something wrong

You are getting meets, what are you expecting?"

Yer loads of men want to meet we want a couple really for same room swapping

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are we doing something wrong "

Keep it classy

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By *nowingsmileMan
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I wish I had that problem

I'm only too happy to arrange to meet (and to then actually meet, of course)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Maybe try a organised social event or a club. You would meet plenty then and possibly find what your looking for "

Or the outcome could be the same

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Are people time wasters or do people just get sucked into the whole sweet shop mentality of these type of sites . Remember competition on here is quite fierce . I really don’t take any of it personally and take the view you never miss what you’ve never had , regardless of what communication you may feel you’ve wasted !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree. Seems to be getting more difficult to arrange a meet on here.

So many time wasters!"

Who would waste your time! They must be mad

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

"Set a profile picture. Fill out your bio. Message selectively and personally. "

I just had a quick look, you don't really have any sort of bio that tells us about yourself, you have to sell yourself on here.

And no profile picture, if i was scanning on the search option I'd bypass anyone without a picture as it doesn't really look like an active profile.

Little things help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, I found it easier with my ex girlfriend although still tough. As a single male it's hard to get a reply let alone a meet up. If anyone is serious and wants to chat and poss meet up PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a stunning lady with a gorgeous body, I find it unbelievable that people won’t meet you. My problem is I’m very shy on here and cannot hold a long conversation until I am comfortable. I get tongue tied and am afraid of making a fool of myself. I’m ok on meets as my verifications indicate but I cannot seem to get meets atm

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By *s1212Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

The problem is that when it actually comes to the crunch and people physically have to move to meet someone,it doesn't happen!

It did two or three years ago but it appears this site is full of proper wankers now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wankers and timewasters because they don't want to meet you to fuck you. They are such bad people. Especially when you are so respectful and have no expectations. Shocking!

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

At a social recently, we all agreed that those who do meet have actual conversations with people first, messaging back and forth.

Not sure if this applies to you?

But I've found that the guys who take an interest, are interesting (and funny) and take it at my pace are the ones who say they have no problems meeting.

Those who I'd never consider meeting are the ones who generally start whining within a few messages (if not immediately) that no one meets. Nah, just doesn't get me going.

In looking at your pics, I notice those of him are cock shots with only one distance shot of him.

Depends on who you want to meet (I forgot to check) but loads of the woman and few of the man are always a turn off for us.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Maybe it what part of the country your in , in southe east not that hard to arrange meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree. People as for my number. I give it to them and I don’t hear from them again. Very strange

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Agree. People as for my number. I give it to them and I don’t hear from them again. Very strange "

Nooooooo,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try getting to a club, party or social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about timing and potluck. Had nothing For weeks then I seem to be flavour of the month ( not for all ) just the business we are in I guess.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It's all about timing and potluck. Had nothing For weeks then I seem to be flavour of the month ( not for all ) just the business we are in I guess."

Lol @ business..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being someone who started this journey more than 20 years ago and has been very successful over the years, not as much as some, but more than many, I think many people's concept of swinging has changed. The internet has made it more accessible than ever, less effort has to be put in, (When I first started you had to write a letter!). It's far too easy for someone to write a message, have a wank, mission completed. Swinging has also become more social with clubs and organised socials. I can't comment on either because I've never been to either, all my meets have been via direct contact. I also believe age comes into it, anyone over 50 is thought of as old! The experience they have is forgotten.

As for time wasters? I've never encountered one. I do my due diligence. I honestly believe those that have their 'time wasted' are either to eager to believe what they are being told and don't do enough checks. If you call timewasting someone who stops sending an instant message, imagine what it was like wondering if you would even get a reply to a letter you sent, that could take weeks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all about timing and potluck. Had nothing For weeks then I seem to be flavour of the month ( not for all ) just the business we are in I guess.

Lol @ business..

Hehe could of worded that better x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You smoke so for me that is an instant no.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Are we doing something wrong "

Go to club f...

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It's all about timing and potluck. Had nothing For weeks then I seem to be flavour of the month ( not for all ) just the business we are in I guess.

Lol @ business..

Hehe could of worded that better x"

O yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have made this point many times - apologies if you've heard it before. We met on Fab about 7 years ago - and then set up a couples profile. Thereafter, we met about once a month with lovely, attractive couples and the odd male here and there. Without doubt, it is much, much more difficult to get a decent meet nowadays.

Most of the lovely couples we met have long gone from the site. In their place there is a distinct percentage of fake profiles (including verified couples who are men - it's so easy to do) and also a huge increase in people who just use it as a chat site and have no intention to ever meet.

We are grateful to Fab - but perhaps swinging's had its day - a bit like dogging - crazy for a few years and then just fizzled out.

If you can't stand "socials" and clubs (like us) you are struggling to be honest.

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By *xpanding our horizonsCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

We were active on here about 3 years ago and never had a problem getting meets.

We came off for 18 months then came back. Now we can't sort a meet at all.

Not even getting time wasters. No messages. Nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were active on here about 3 years ago and never had a problem getting meets.

We came off for 18 months then came back. Now we can't sort a meet at all.

Not even getting time wasters. No messages. Nothing!

This is sad to hear but encouraging for us. We thought we were the only couple who struggled for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being someone who started this journey more than 20 years ago and has been very successful over the years, not as much as some, but more than many, I think many people's concept of swinging has changed. The internet has made it more accessible than ever, less effort has to be put in, (When I first started you had to write a letter!). It's far too easy for someone to write a message, have a wank, mission completed. Swinging has also become more social with clubs and organised socials. I can't comment on either because I've never been to either, all my meets have been via direct contact. I also believe age comes into it, anyone over 50 is thought of as old! The experience they have is forgotten.

Got this beat pal

My great great grandad "ted the swing" had to use carrier pigeon

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By *fbobbyMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I find it's hard to even get a decent convo going ....like we all adults and like fun but if we can't even have a ten min convo how are we gonna converse during the meet lol

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

If your a couple looking for other couples then you should have photos of both of you not just one or two cock pics of him. Both parties want to see what's on offer so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is next to nothing on your profile.

Describe what you are like as people, what you like and what you are looking for.

And as above, socials are a great way to get to know people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blank profiles do nothing for anyone, blind dates can be fun, although they mostly lead to disappointment! Pics and info are what your profile is for. Happy swinging

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"We were active on here about 3 years ago and never had a problem getting meets.

We came off for 18 months then came back. Now we can't sort a meet at all.

Not even getting time wasters. No messages. Nothing!

Your pictures look great I would have thought you wouldn’t have a problem meeting.

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By *xpanding our horizonsCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

"We were active on here about 3 years ago and never had a problem getting meets.

We came off for 18 months then came back. Now we can't sort a meet at all.

Not even getting time wasters. No messages. Nothing!

Your pictures look great I would have thought you wouldn’t have a problem meeting. "

Thank you, but alas no.

However if there are any interested couples either near Portsmouth, Cardiff or Suffolk, get in touch X

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Are we doing something wrong "

With such a well written profile , and such great pics , I really don’t understand why you’re not inundated with offers .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re struggling aswell tbh. We get a lot of fake profiles contacting us which is demoralising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are we doing something wrong

With such a well written profile , and such great pics , I really don’t understand why you’re not inundated with offers ."

Another couple or single female that thinks the bare minimum will do. Effort in = results.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"We were active on here about 3 years ago and never had a problem getting meets.

We came off for 18 months then came back. Now we can't sort a meet at all.

Not even getting time wasters. No messages. Nothing!

Your pictures look great I would have thought you wouldn’t have a problem meeting.

Thank you, but alas no.

However if there are any interested couples either near Portsmouth, Cardiff or Suffolk, get in touch X "

I would love to but sadly only a single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people just sit around waiting for messages?

If everyone does that it's no wonder no-one gets mail.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Are we doing something wrong

With such a well written profile , and such great pics , I really don’t understand why you’re not inundated with offers .

Another couple or single female that thinks the bare minimum will do. Effort in = results."

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