FabSwingers.com forum: Telling the wife your a x dresser

By *orkshire bi OP Man
over a year ago

elland

Has anyone done this and how did it work out? I told my wife 2 weeks ago and she has taken to it. I did think she would or I wouldn't have told her. She has even been helping me buy clothes.

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By *ubsteffTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Lucky man !

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

told my last three girlfriends I was, one I met on fab so not an issue, one on another site (she loved it) and current doesnt mind but doesnt do anything for her.

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By *achelNottmTV/TS
over a year ago

notts/derbys

I wish I could find a gf who likes it xxx

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

That's cool. Sounds like you a strong relationship.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

* have a strong relationship

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By *imale38Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

My wife knows I like wearing stockings and thong while having my arse played with BUT won’t entertain it when me and her have sex.

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By *orkshire bi OP Man
over a year ago

elland

Been really good so far. It's great when u can go clothes shopping together

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By *irty doggXXXMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Is love to find a gf who likes it.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

When I got in bed the night before we were married I received a text to look under my pillow.... there were two pairs of panties in nice boxes..... I haven’t worn male underwear since. That was four years ago.

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By *hezzie BikersCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"When I got in bed the night before we were married I received a text to look under my pillow.... there were two pairs of panties in nice boxes..... I haven’t worn male underwear since. That was four years ago. "

Wow that’s sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone done this and how did it work out? I told my wife 2 weeks ago and she has taken to it. I did think she would or I wouldn't have told her. She has even been helping me buy clothes.

So happy for you, love hearing positive stories. Your wife sounds lovely! Xxx

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

you would have to have a very strong relationship to help a partner do certain things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found it tough to be honest. I am very open and honest about everything sexually as I possibly can be. I don't want to go down the cheating path as that is very corrosive to a relationship.

Always feel a bit underwhelmed as I sort of feel as if I am putting on her. Should I just do it on my own or persevere. I sort of think I need to be who I am and if it's not liked then perhaps we are not as compatible as I once thought.

I agree your wife is a bit of a rare diamond. Look after her, she sounds like a good egg.

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire

Good to read all these positive comments.

But it ruined my marriage. The lies the deceit, it never stopped and still doesn’t, even though we’re not together anymore, he still can’t keep his hands off my stuff and he knows I despise it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone done this and how did it work out? I told my wife 2 weeks ago and she has taken to it. I did think she would or I wouldn't have told her. She has even been helping me buy clothes.

Mine did and supported me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes wear my wires panties and when she found out she didn’t speak to me for two weeks.

She doesn’t mind me wanking into her worn panties but me wearing them is a massive problem for her.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I couldn’t tell wife she wouldn’t get it at all

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By *orkshire bi OP Man
over a year ago

elland

"Has anyone done this and how did it work out? I told my wife 2 weeks ago and she has taken to it. I did think she would or I wouldn't have told her. She has even been helping me buy clothes.

So happy for you, love hearing positive stories. Your wife sounds

lovely! Xxx"

She certainly is looking good so far

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By *orkshire bi OP Man
over a year ago

elland

"you would have to have a very strong relationship to help a partner do certain things. "

If I didn't think she would have gone with it I wouldn't have to her.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Ended bad for me we split up as she could never get over it

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By *dnortheastTV/TS
over a year ago

darlington

Told mine 10 years ago. She loves it and have met other dressers together.

I will admit though I did and still do like it being my thing . My dirty secret . I liked the thrill.

But I'm glad I spoke to her and it's all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ended bad for me we split up as she could never get over it "

See its mad a person freaks out so much over some clothes and expression. I mean fuck do people jack in their partners if they came home with a sleeve and piercings .

Sad to hear that you with you, still be someone out there that won't be so bent out of shape over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a joint profile on here with my TV partner and even on a Fab we have been shunned by some people. It’s such a misunderstood thing.

For us personally it has been a wonderful and positive experience and I wouldn’t change what we have for the world but I can understand how partners could find it hard to deal with.

Good luck to anyone who is struggling with this dilemma X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found it tough to be honest. I am very open and honest about everything sexually as I possibly can be. I don't want to go down the cheating path as that is very corrosive to a relationship.

I agree your wife is a bit of a rare diamond. Look after her, she sounds like a good egg."

We had a bit of a chat about it at the weekend and I'm reassured she is OK with it as long as I am open about it and don't take it further without her,

I've told her I like to Cam and she is fine with that.

which is fair enough don't you all think. Trusting each other is what a good relationship is all about really isn't it ?

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

My wife knows I cross dress but is very much in the 'what she doesn't know can't hurt her' camp

She's never seen me dressed up, recently she asked to see my clothes for the first time,needless to say I got her opinion on what's good and what isn't!

I've loaned her makeup on occasion, she's given me a few items of clothing that she didn't think suited her and we've been clothes shopping together but she's yet to take the final step of meeting Clare in person

It's been beneficial for our sex life though, she loves feeling my shaved body and legs,but she still struggles with it at times.Im sure one day she will ask to see, I was hoping she might have accepted it enough for us to go out in either Manchester or Birmingham gay village by now,but not at that point yet

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By *orkshire bi OP Man
over a year ago

elland

Thanks for all the positive messages everyone.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

"I have a joint profile on here with my TV partner and even on a Fab we have been shunned by some people. It’s such a misunderstood thing.

For us personally it has been a wonderful and positive experience and I wouldn’t change what we have for the world but I can understand how partners could find it hard to deal with.

Good luck to anyone who is struggling with this dilemma X"

I have a joint profile with my partner. We love what we do, but like every one we've had a wobble or two.

To be honest we do struggle to find couples with similar interests, but I think that's the same for everyone.

In my previous relationship I was open about what i am from the beginning, but she struggled to accept it & it became something she actively disliked, loathed even.

It wasn't her fault, with the Sale of time I can see she had no choice in how she felt & that it simply wasn't something she wanted in her life.

Being with someone who likes that side of you is incredible, especially as it helps to validate you to yourself-if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a joint profile on here with my TV partner and even on a Fab we have been shunned by some people. It’s such a misunderstood thing.

For us personally it has been a wonderful and positive experience and I wouldn’t change what we have for the world but I can understand how partners could find it hard to deal with.

Good luck to anyone who is struggling with this dilemma X

I have a joint profile with my partner. We love what we do, but like every one we've had a wobble or two.

To be honest we do struggle to find couples with similar interests, but I think that's the same for everyone.

In my previous relationship I was open about what i am from the beginning, but she struggled to accept it & it became something she actively disliked, loathed even.

It wasn't her fault, with the Sale of time I can see she had no choice in how she felt & that it simply wasn't something she wanted in her life.

Being with someone who likes that side of you is incredible, especially as it helps to validate you to yourself-if that makes sense?"

Yes, it makes perfect sense. There are very few couples like us on Fab therefore far less chance of finding compatible people to meet. Abby sometimes feels she is narrowing my chances on here because she is trans. In reality I wouldn’t want to be on here without her. She’s my rock. Without her there is no Vivabs. My enjoyment is watching her enjoyment when we meet.

I honestly don’t know how trans people cope without the support of their partner. It’s a heavy burden to carry. I also totally understand things from the partners point of view as well. A difficult situation x

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

When I met my then wife I told her after about a month She was very open minded before hand which made the conversation easier and when I told her she did gasp but then it was straight upstairs and she dressed me. Ever since then I’ve not met anyone as such who accepted it really bar one but that didn’t bode well unfortunately. But I do think if two people are open and honest with each other we should except each other’s kinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We discussed this on day one. Just struggle to find the time to indulge. Would consider this with others.

M & J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably better to tell them, than they find out, my wife doesn't like it, but she went completely off sex after the menopause, let's me get on with it, so long as it's kept out of site

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By *ent_man420Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

My girlfriend loves me dressing up sexy/slutty and she has now said she wants to go to a club with me dressed. I'd never really dressed until i met her. Started off with me wearing one of her nighties when we where playing one night and just progressed from there, she even buys me stuff to wear now.

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By *irty doggXXXMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Lucky guy!

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By *ananas2013Man
over a year ago

wolves

Mine wouldn't understand specially if she found out they were her clothes lol

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Congratulations that must be wonderful for you op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a cd but when my wife is away at her mums at occasional weekend I do go into her knickers drawer and ,although she’s not a big girl and I’m quite a big guy , her knickers do fit me , so I took some photos and posted them to her , she was quite surprised but found it amusing xx

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By *ananas2013Man
over a year ago

wolves

Should have said nickers and tights mm

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By *clipse65Man
over a year ago

Oldham

"I have a joint profile on here with my TV partner and even on a Fab we have been shunned by some people. It’s such a misunderstood thing.

For us personally it has been a wonderful and positive experience and I wouldn’t change what we have for the world but I can understand how partners could find it hard to deal with.

Good luck to anyone who is struggling with this dilemma X

I have a joint profile with my partner. We love what we do, but like every one we've had a wobble or two.

To be honest we do struggle to find couples with similar interests, but I think that's the same for everyone.

In my previous relationship I was open about what i am from the beginning, but she struggled to accept it & it became something she actively disliked, loathed even.

It wasn't her fault, with the Sale of time I can see she had no choice in how she felt & that it simply wasn't something she wanted in her life.

Being with someone who likes that side of you is incredible, especially as it helps to validate you to yourself-if that makes sense?"

I almost got there, was her who suggested it, something she said she'd wanted to do for years, wanted to peg me too. Well i got to wear the undies for a few weeks, then she bought a stapless dildo and pegged me. I loved the lot, then just as quick as she simply went right off it, won't entertain it at all. No idea what the hell went wrong.

It got me so excited, now it's just a dirty secret for me.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Great thread, some heart warming posts

and some sad ones too but all very informative

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