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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Has anyone got pregnant off a fab meet did it work out ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure some of the married couples have....

Single people not so much

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"I’m sure some of the married couples have....

Single people not so much "

Oh right was just wondering

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've heard of it happening. The accidental ones I've heard of haven't ended well (but this is friend of a friend of a friend stuff, I know almost nothing).

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By *wingwhenyourwinningABCMan
over a year ago

paisley

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By *wingwhenyourwinningABCMan
over a year ago

paisley

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Never heard of it happening to anyone. Why are you asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be surprised if anyone came and admitted to it. I imagine there's been an accidental pregnancy or two in fab history. Maybe even one or two planned ones. Given the fact that some fabbers have a tendency to judge harshly for even the smallest of things, would they want to air it to the Wolfpack?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Never heard of it happening to anyone. Why are you asking? "

Just wondering if it worked out well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me

With a long term meet, someone I foolishly trusted, who lied to me about having had a vasectomy (and also a wife)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like my worst nightmare. Imagine if it happened with a couple you’d met (as a single man) and they went through with it thinking it was theirs.

Good job I’m always very careful even though that’s not a 100% given.

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Happened to me

With a long term meet, someone I foolishly trusted, who lied to me about having had a vasectomy (and also a wife)"

Oh shocking should always be truthful always tell folk I’m married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew of a couple who split because she got pregnant with a single guy she met off here. Their couples profile has been deleted as she left him for the other guy..as far as i know they are happy tho

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I knew of a couple who split because she got pregnant with a single guy she met off here. Their couples profile has been deleted as she left him for the other guy..as far as i know they are happy tho"

What even the guy she left is happy ?

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By *intteaMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Married here as well. You have to tell people if you are otherwise it you give the wrong impression- even if it is a sex site

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

There was a girl who used to post on the forums who got pregnant and had a kid by a guy she met on here. He didn't want anything to do with her when he found out as far as I remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew of a couple who split because she got pregnant with a single guy she met off here. Their couples profile has been deleted as she left him for the other guy..as far as i know they are happy tho

What even the guy she left is happy ? "

He's moved on now. Made a new life for himself.

I actually meant her and the new guy tho. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see it possibly happening if you have a regular meet. As a one off meeting then they’re either incredibly unlikely or a tad naive not to have used any protection.

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn

I've had messages off men asking if i want impregnating! Personally, i think thats vile!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I know of a couple....

Female friend of mine has a little girl about 5 now - she is younger than her eldest grandchild! It didn't work out between them as parents.

Another I know was a couple who he got his fb pregnant. Last I heard he moved in with the fb.....

Can be messy

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"I know of a couple....

Female friend of mine has a little girl about 5 now - she is younger than her eldest grandchild! It didn't work out between them as parents.

Another I know was a couple who he got his fb pregnant. Last I heard he moved in with the fb.....

Can be messy "

Shit happens i guess .. sometimes it works out sometimes it dont x keep safe folks! X

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thought

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thought"
how would you explain that one to hubby?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby? "

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby?

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old "

having a child would not let you live more quite to oposit ... very strange indeed !!!

If you want a baby why cant you have one with your hubby ?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby?

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old having a child would not let you live more quite to oposit ... very strange indeed !!!

If you want a baby why cant you have one with your hubby ?"

Not interested in my husband anymore we don’t have sex he sleeps down stairs

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"Has anyone got pregnant off a fab meet did it work out ok"

If they did !! They’ve probably appeared in Jeremy Kyle

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd suggest that this might not be a good idea...

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Planning on going for it just need to find the right man

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"Planning on going for it just need to find the right man"
Your planning on getting pregnant ?

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn

If you plan on 'going for it' please dont lure someone and trick them into it by saying your on the pill... its bang out of order! Surely this cant be real?...

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby?

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old having a child would not let you live more quite to oposit ... very strange indeed !!!

If you want a baby why cant you have one with your hubby ?

Not interested in my husband anymore we don’t have sex he sleeps down stairs "

With that attitude , and the fact that you want to get pregnant from someone other than your husband , I should imagine he’s just as happy as you that he sleeps downstairs and that you want nothing to do with him .

While you’re putting yourself first , it may be good to consider what kind of a life you’ll be offering the child . Since the father will not be a part of its life, and I doubt your husband will be either , how do you figure you will be able to offer the child a decent upbringing ?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

No I’ve askec a few guys they’ve said no . Wouldn’t lure someone into it

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If you plan on 'going for it' please dont lure someone and trick them into it by saying your on the pill... its bang out of order! Surely this cant be real?... "

One would hope not , but who knows ?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby?

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old having a child would not let you live more quite to oposit ... very strange indeed !!!

If you want a baby why cant you have one with your hubby ?

Not interested in my husband anymore we don’t have sex he sleeps down stairs

With that attitude , and the fact that you want to get pregnant from someone other than your husband , I should imagine he’s just as happy as you that he sleeps downstairs and that you want nothing to do with him .

While you’re putting yourself first , it may be good to consider what kind of a life you’ll be offering the child . Since the father will not be a part of its life, and I doubt your husband will be either , how do you figure you will be able to offer the child a decent upbringing ? "

Can offer a baby a great life want to have one before the menopause kicks in as I still get periods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually know a girl what was a sub to a guy on here and she got pregnant and didn’t even know she was pregnant but from what I know she had the baby and the guy left his wife to be with her.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"No I’ve askec a few guys they’ve said no . Wouldn’t lure someone into it "
So your planning on getting pregnant at forty five with someone of fab ?

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By *inny999Woman
over a year ago

blackburn


"If you plan on 'going for it' please dont lure someone and trick them into it by saying your on the pill... its bang out of order! Surely this cant be real?...

One would hope not , but who knows ? "

Well im just amazed... im praying its not as its simply absurd!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thoughthow would you explain that one to hubby?

Got to put myself first now I’m getting older want to live more before I get too old having a child would not let you live more quite to oposit ... very strange indeed !!!

If you want a baby why cant you have one with your hubby ?

Not interested in my husband anymore we don’t have sex he sleeps down stairs

With that attitude , and the fact that you want to get pregnant from someone other than your husband , I should imagine he’s just as happy as you that he sleeps downstairs and that you want nothing to do with him .

While you’re putting yourself first , it may be good to consider what kind of a life you’ll be offering the child . Since the father will not be a part of its life, and I doubt your husband will be either , how do you figure you will be able to offer the child a decent upbringing ?

Can offer a baby a great life want to have one before the menopause kicks in as I still get periods"

In the same house that you share with your estranged husband ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I’ve askec a few guys they’ve said no . Wouldn’t lure someone into it "

OP use a sperm bank

Surely this is a piss take??

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration. "

This. What about what the child will want?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"No I’ve askec a few guys they’ve said no . Wouldn’t lure someone into it

OP use a sperm bank

Surely this is a piss take??"

No not a piss take

This man I asked said no but knows a guy who would so waiting on hearing back

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration. "

Husband doesn’t come into it because he’s getting binned once I get pregnant not a marriage anymore just under the same roof we don’t get on don’t speak for days on end

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There are several guys here who claim they want to. No I'm not naming names even if I did remember. They're somewhere on my block list.

But, if this is real, this is hideous on every level.

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Just just asking a question really as someyhing I’m planning but wasn’t sure if it worked out for other people

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By *ristolcouple21Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

I can’t imagine this would end well for any party...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thought"

Having raised a child solo, no input at all from her father I think you're being very selfish.

Would you allow this man access to his child?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Was just planning on it but don’t want a man who will be in my life that’s all just a thought

Having raised a child solo, no input at all from her father I think you're being very selfish.

Would you allow this man access to his child? "

The man I asked who is recommending me to a friend in fab I said I don’t mind doesn’t bother me don’t want CSA or that just want a baby to love and look after give a great life before I get the menopause

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration.

Husband doesn’t come into it because he’s getting binned once I get pregnant not a marriage anymore just under the same roof we don’t get on don’t speak for days on end "

You do not have the emotional maturity to raise a child alone, the way you think you can just 'bin' people when you've got what you want out of them is an absolute disgrace.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Please also research if you do decide to go with this, in pregnancies in ladies over 35, there are more likely to be certain complications including multiple births, cesarean sections and premature babies. It's worth you having a good luck into all aspects of it to decide if it really is something that you want to aim for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would do it anything to help out

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration.

Husband doesn’t come into it because he’s getting binned once I get pregnant not a marriage anymore just under the same roof we don’t get on don’t speak for days on end "

Does he know what you are planning/have in mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but you need your brain tested

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"Please also research if you do decide to go with this, in pregnancies in ladies over 35, there are more likely to be certain complications including multiple births, cesarean sections and premature babies. It's worth you having a good luck into all aspects of it to decide if it really is something that you want to aim for.

"

Thanks I will keep that in mind

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

What a judgemental lot we can be.

OP. I’d say think carefully about what you want and why. I am an old mum with a young child and no partner. It’s not easy but it’s great and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My daughter’s father is part of her life without that my life would be very different.

Be honest and be healthy. These are the most important things. If you find a man that also keen to be a father (or just donate his sperm and do no fathering) then you may get what you want.

Sperm bank is an option of course.

V x

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I think it's a difficult conversation, I would feel that he would be entitled to some contact with a child if he had fathered it and wanted contact.

What if the child wanted to know who the father was and have contact with him?

Would your husband be happy for you to bring up someone else's child in your home, would it provide a good environment for the child?

I think these are all worthy points of consideration.

Husband doesn’t come into it because he’s getting binned once I get pregnant not a marriage anymore just under the same roof we don’t get on don’t speak for days on end

You do not have the emotional maturity to raise a child alone, the way you think you can just 'bin' people when you've got what you want out of them is an absolute disgrace. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wish there were a minimum decency standard for people becoming parents, I really do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh lord please don't let this happen there's enough poor children wandering this earth confused and what not I thought a child was supposed to be brought into a loving caring bond between mother and father... Well as much as possible not sorted out through the forums on fabswingers.. I have absolutely no doubt there will be a willing sperm donor stepping forward

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over a year ago


"I would do it anything to help out "

I rest my case

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

As an extra suggestion, just for you to consider, if you feel there is definitely no hope in your relationship with your husband, what about potentially setting up a home on your own, and maybe fostering a child?

It could be better to create a stable environment that you could bring in a child who really needs a home. It might give you more stability to be apart from your husband if you do feel that relationship is not positive for either of you, plus there would be no health complications or contact complications or pregnancy worries.

Just an idea that's all

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Oh lord please don't let this happen there's enough poor children wandering this earth confused and what not I thought a child was supposed to be brought into a loving caring bond between mother and father... Well as much as possible not sorted out through the forums on fabswingers.. I have absolutely no doubt there will be a willing sperm donor stepping forward "
8 posts up ^^^^ lol

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Not going to sperm bank it’s not like just getting a tub of sperm u get inseminated artificially and less sucessful than having sex and being cummed in the natural way so sperm bank isn’t what I’m after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh lord please don't let this happen there's enough poor children wandering this earth confused and what not I thought a child was supposed to be brought into a loving caring bond between mother and father... Well as much as possible not sorted out through the forums on fabswingers.. I have absolutely no doubt there will be a willing sperm donor stepping forward 8 posts up ^^^^ lol"

Unbelievable lol

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"As an extra suggestion, just for you to consider, if you feel there is definitely no hope in your relationship with your husband, what about potentially setting up a home on your own, and maybe fostering a child?

It could be better to create a stable environment that you could bring in a child who really needs a home. It might give you more stability to be apart from your husband if you do feel that relationship is not positive for either of you, plus there would be no health complications or contact complications or pregnancy worries.

Just an idea that's all"

My son who is a adult isn’t biologically related tho I love him very much I would like a baby before it’s too late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is almost like I have seen this thread before, with a similar scenario.

It may have been a few years back but something sounds familiar.

To the OP, this is ill advised. If you cannot give a child a stable home life, you would be very selfish to bring a new life into this world just to sate your needs.

To do it with a stranger from fab is not going to fix your life.

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By *terling2017Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"No I’ve askec a few guys they’ve said no . Wouldn’t lure someone into it

OP use a sperm bank

Surely this is a piss take??

No not a piss take

This man I asked said no but knows a guy who would so waiting on hearing back "

Seriously lady take a huge step back from this situation!

You and hubby are estranged we see that. DO NOT RUN HEADLONG INTO THIS.

You 're in pain I can feel it.

Sort your life out with your husband whether you stay together or not. Then take time to think and think again. If after all this you still want a baby then hopefully you will be in a more stable frame of mind and even have met someone away from here.

Trust me I know what I'm talking about. Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would do it anything to help out "

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Not going to sperm bank it’s not like just getting a tub of sperm u get inseminated artificially and less sucessful than having sex and being cummed in the natural way so sperm bank isn’t what I’m after "

OP.......All seems very much centered on YOUR wishes and desires.... Do not forget you are responsible for that child until they are at least and often way beyond.

I have brought up a daughter on my own after her mum died. Now 36 but still in many ways feel responsible for her...

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"I would do it anything to help out

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?"

Not needing money from any man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP get a puppy

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What would the child want? I'm embarrassed enough to know the details of my conception, which is all very boring and conventional (my parents wanted kids, were trying for kids, romantic weekend away blah blah). "When mum found out she was pregnant with me, after sex with random people, she divorced her husband who she didn't care about" is a whole other level.

And what if this man is a (silent) carrier of a genetic disorder? If he's not in your life, you could compound your and your child's pain trying to discover it.

Why deliberately set up a child with a start like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would do it anything to help out

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?

Not needing money from any man "

And on that basis, I'm out of this thread.

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"I would do it anything to help out

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?

Not needing money from any man

And on that basis, I'm out of this thread.

"

Can but my own pram nappies etc and love which is free

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"What would the child want? I'm embarrassed enough to know the details of my conception, which is all very boring and conventional (my parents wanted kids, were trying for kids, romantic weekend away blah blah). "When mum found out she was pregnant with me, after sex with random people, she divorced her husband who she didn't care about" is a whole other level.

And what if this man is a (silent) carrier of a genetic disorder? If he's not in your life, you could compound your and your child's pain trying to discover it.

Why deliberately set up a child with a start like this? "

I find myself agreeing 100% with you on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op don’t ask here. I would stop replying to this thread. You’re not going to get what you’re asking for here. No offence to anyone. It is a shocking post after all but seriously. Not here.

Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know lots of single mums who do a fantastic job of raising their children. But I think at 45 going alone is rather selfish on that child especially if anything happened to you. Would you not be open to fostering or adopting?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Just asking how others have got on

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Just asking how others have got on "

You’re assuming there are others out there who have done what you want to do .

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I went it alone at 45.

Vx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also in a ideal sitution a child needs a mother and a father. Yes people do a great job without with fantastic uncles, grandfathers around but it’s such an important role which shouldn’t be over looked:

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I would do it anything to help out

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?

Not needing money from any man

And on that basis, I'm out of this thread.

Can but my own pram nappies etc and love which is free "

According to the first site I pulled up on Google, it costs about £76k to raise a child to 18. And many parents don't stop at 18.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I know lots of single mums who do a fantastic job of raising their children. But I think at 45 going alone is rather selfish on that child especially if anything happened to you. Would you not be open to fostering or adopting?

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Yes, I'm not having a go at all single mums or older mums or single older mums. It's this specific situation.

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Money to bring up a baby to adulthood isn’t a problem doesn’t come into it

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I went it alone at 45.

Vx "

I don’t remember you posting that your husband slept downstairs , and you were gonna bin him when you got pregnant from a random meet from fab ?

I must have missed that one !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went it alone at 45.

Vx "

V I have worked with ladies who have had babies in their late 40’s it’s just something that really needs deep thinking about. Things in place, support around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh lord please don't let this happen there's enough poor children wandering this earth confused and what not I thought a child was supposed to be brought into a loving caring bond between mother and father... Well as much as possible not sorted out through the forums on fabswingers.. I have absolutely no doubt there will be a willing sperm donor stepping forward 8 posts up ^^^^ lol

Unbelievable lol

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would do it anything to help out

like financial support for 18 years anything or just empty your balls anything?

Not needing money from any man

And on that basis, I'm out of this thread.

Having 4 no wonder I have no money

Can but my own pram nappies etc and love which is free

According to the first site I pulled up on Google, it costs about £76k to raise a child to 18. And many parents don't stop at 18."

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I went it alone at 45.

Vx

I don’t remember you posting that your husband slept downstairs , and you were gonna bin him when you got pregnant from a random meet from fab ?

I must have missed that one ! "

No that didn’t happen. But I won’t judge someone who is in that situation. There’s always more than one right answer.

Although I did bin him.

V x

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I would give a lot for a list of guys who have agreed to meet the OP.

A person's freedom ends where another person's freedom starts.

Other than that, just

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Will let you know how I get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread made me really sad.

A child brought into the world - what about when they ask how you and their father met, or why he stuck around, etc? Lies or the truth would be painful surely?

And if money doesn’t come into raising a child, in your opinion, how on earth do you think parents cope generally? Or why do you continue to live with your husband who you seem to despise? Divorce and move on, I don’t understand.

It seems a very selfish move on paper, and I’m not judging, but please consider it from all angles - this does not sound like it would be and environment to meet all the basic needs of a child that would develop and thrive.

Talk to friends and family who you know you can trust about it - their reactions, advice and perspectives can hopefully help you find a better solution.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Go to a sperm bank rather than mess around on here would be my advice. Or look at adoption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a couple of examples where a girl has joined fab to get pregnant deliberately, not being fussed who the dad is and just viewing it as a numbers game and a means to an end. In both cases they deleted their profiles soon after they got pregnant, so no way of knowing how it turned out

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By *ndyandMandyCouple
over a year ago

swansea

OP

The majority of the advice here is NOT to go for it.

I’d go with the majority on this one

Please don’t cause yourself or anyone else unnecessary pain

Xxxx

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible."

If a man had posted a breeding thread, people would have been a lot more direct.

It is clear the OP isn't in a good place so that has taken the edge off a lot of people. It is complex.

If anything, the OP should expand her profile to include this motivation for her preferring bareback.

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By *urryfannyfuntimeWoman
over a year ago

East Devon

Cool story bro.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady I was chatting to on here last year claimed she got pregnant at a BBC gangbang, kept the little one but it destroyed her entire family.

I can't recall if she was verified or not at the time, it could have been another fantasist faking it on here.

Although, I can't remeber thinking her profile was fake, maybe more what she was telling me!

Think long and hard about this one and put yourself in your future childs mind for a moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful!

Suspect that you are unable to go down the IVF route, so think this is the next best thing? Wrong! You’re naive if you believe that a baby will make your life full of roses and sunshine.

You can’t offer a baby a stable home as you are coming across as someone who lacks the maturity to think of what this means long term.

You are 45, it’s a sad fact that you face numerous risks re a pregnancy to you and the baby. What if your baby is disabled because of your age, or has genetic issues because of the stranger you wish to make a sperm donar? What then? Can you honestly cope as a single mum raising a disabled baby, at an older age? I ask this as I have a disabled daughter (an adult) and a 7 year old, so know what it’s like to have a baby at a young and an older age. Both have their issues.

What about your husband? Is he going to be happy being thrown over because you have a baby- who, by the way, you’re talking of like a new toy or a kitten. What if he gets bitter? What if when the baby is older they find out that they were conceived because their mother committed adultary with a stranger she fucked off a swinging site? What about the impact on them?

You are in an unhappy relationship, find a way to find happiness, that doesn’t involve bringing a baby into an unstable situation. End your marriage, learn to love you. My ex was extremely bitter leaving the family home, and the children are his, so how on Earth is your husband going to react being forced to leave because of a baby that’s not his?

What about the sperm donar, what if down the line he wants to see the baby, or the baby wants to know about their dad and wants to see them?

Financially, you stay you’re stable, that’s possibly because you haven’t got another person to fend for.

What if you don’t get pregnant? You’re less likely to, because of your age, what about the effect on your mental and emotional well-being, when you’ve fucked numerous men, risked your sexual health, and don’t get the result you want? Why should a stranger provide his sexual health history just because you want a baby?

You need to be pragmatic about this.

You’re reacting to an emotional need, and not in a sensible way.

I do hope that you can find a way to be happy, without doing such a thoughtless, and quite frankly, selfish act.

And yes, sadly you will be judged, as what you’re proposing is preposterous. Sorry if that hurts you, but you put this out there, and as such will get honest opinions x

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By *terling2017Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible.

If a man had posted a breeding thread, people would have been a lot more direct.

It is clear the OP isn't in a good place so that has taken the edge off a lot of people. It is complex.

If anything, the OP should expand her profile to include this motivation for her preferring bareback.

Only a man, after reading this sorry situation, would recommend adding 'bareback' to her profile!

"

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

There was a very good point made a couple of posts up. Regardless of opinion on the OPs question..... There is a chance that you could fuck limitless men and not get pregnant. This is likely to do you some emotional damage if you’re only fucking then to get pregnant (ignoring the physical risks). It takes time to recover from relationship breakdowns. Some time to heal may be a good thing.

V x

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

And at 45 you May never get pregnant due to age etc ..... so you’ve put yourself through all those endless meets ..... for nothing but emotional damage and believe me that’s real. I had my last baby at 36 yrs and unfortunately hubby left due to that baby having cerebral palsy and not being able to cope ...... 20yrs later everything is hunky dory but I brought 3 of them up on my own and it’s bloody hard work .... and they do cost money , it’s more than nappies and prams , my eldest 2 are in their 30s now but still needs mums help financially on occasions ...... children may need love but in reality they need a whole lotta of money ..... oh and I’ve worked non stop to bring them all up too ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help "

I’m sorry but I feel this to be such a sad and selfish idea. The opinions, have, on the whole, been negative about your proposal, so it’s obvious you didn’t actually want advice or opinions, just to get the attention that this post would provoke your thanks are either sarcastic or because you’re oblivious to the general consensus of people’s responses.

Obviously my opinion is irrelevant, and actually what you do is nothing to do with me, but you invited opinions, and the opinion of your husband, sperm donar and God forbid a baby, born from this, will.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help "

We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the saddest thread I have ever read. Think of the potential child please .... what on earth would he or she make of this type of set up when they are old enough to ask questions

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"This is the saddest thread I have ever read. Think of the potential child please .... what on earth would he or she make of this type of set up when they are old enough to ask questions "

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck "

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating "

Please rethink this, it's a terrible idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating

Please rethink this, it's a terrible idea."

I’m sorry, but I think the op is enjoying the attention, and is treating this like a game a baby deserves better. It is a terrible idea, you’re absolutely right xx

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating

Please rethink this, it's a terrible idea.

I’m sorry, but I think the op is enjoying the attention, and is treating this like a game a baby deserves better. It is a terrible idea, you’re absolutely right xx"

If that's the case, she definitely shouldn't be thinking of having a baby

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating "

you made ur mind up that quickly ...this has to be a winde up post no one in their right mind would even dream of it !!!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

At least she is being honest. A lot of women go out with the intention and don't tell the gents x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m arranging to meet soon for this thanks for your opinions that man who was recommending a friend is going to do it himself

Thanks for your help We shall await your next post confirming your expecting lol ... good luck

Meeting him in 2 weeks when I’m ovulating

Please rethink this, it's a terrible idea.

I’m sorry, but I think the op is enjoying the attention, and is treating this like a game a baby deserves better. It is a terrible idea, you’re absolutely right xx"

I think you are so right!

Absolutely shocked. Who’s to say she can get pregnant anyway. Not that easy my love

Bringing a child into a world the way you want to is totally unjust! Fab never fails to amaze me some days!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"At least she is being honest. A lot of women go out with the intention and don't tell the gents x "

That’s true , but given the fact that this forum is open to anyone on the internet to read , shouldn’t we be in some way offering sensible advice , and not condoning such behaviour ?

Swinging already gets a bad enough rep without this kind of thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am more shocked that a guy would agree to this.

I would be very surprised if he turns up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible.

If a man had posted a breeding thread, people would have been a lot more direct.

It is clear the OP isn't in a good place so that has taken the edge off a lot of people. It is complex.

If anything, the OP should expand her profile to include this motivation for her preferring bareback.

Only a man, after reading this sorry situation, would recommend adding 'bareback' to her profile!

"

Only someone who hadn't read her profile would say that only a man would say add bareback.

If you read what I wrote, I suggested explaining WHY she preferred bareback.

If you read her profile she explains that she wants bareback with people with a clear sti test. She wrote that.

Don't let that get in the way of making assumptions though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but there's alot of pussy footing around on this thread, this is a TERRIBLE idea.

It isn't easy to raise a child alone, especially as an older parent, you need to seriously think about why you're doing this, I suspect that you have a nurturing personality and those needs aren't being filled. However, bringing a child into a broken home is not the answer, especially having a child he someone whose history you don't know.

It's completely selfish and irresponsible.

If a man had posted a breeding thread, people would have been a lot more direct.

It is clear the OP isn't in a good place so that has taken the edge off a lot of people. It is complex.

If anything, the OP should expand her profile to include this motivation for her preferring bareback.

Only a man, after reading this sorry situation, would recommend adding 'bareback' to her profile!

Only someone who hadn't read her profile would say that only a man would say add bareback.

If you read what I wrote, I suggested explaining WHY she preferred bareback.

If you read her profile she explains that she wants bareback with people with a clear sti test. She wrote that.

Don't let that get in the way of making assumptions though."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It's a struggle at times getting pregnant with your husband - let alone a meet!!!

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

I get a fair amount of messages from couples and single ladies claiming that they want to be "black bred. I normally play along for a while out of morbid curiosity, but you can tell that it is generally a big fantasy that they don't really intend to go through with.

I feel like this post and the previous one by the OP about a BBC bareback gangbang falls into the same category.

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

Just reading all the posts from the OP. In my opinion which counts for nothing anyway, UNBELIEVABLE !

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

It’s my life I’ve wanted this for a while am glad my chosen man is up for it not his friend just wanted to see if it turned out good or bad for other people ( like I don’t want the man to take my kid off me etc ) or man turn crazy that kind of thing

Just wanted to see if it worked out bad for anyone else not opinions on my life I have a great life and have a lot to offer my baby when I have one ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just reading all the posts from the OP. In my opinion which counts for nothing anyway, UNBELIEVABLE !"

You think she’s pulling our legs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s my life I’ve wanted this for a while am glad my chosen man is up for it not his friend just wanted to see if it turned out good or bad for other people ( like I don’t want the man to take my kid off me etc ) or man turn crazy that kind of thing

Just wanted to see if it worked out bad for anyone else not opinions on my life I have a great life and have a lot to offer my baby when I have one ok "

It is your life but you are introducing another life into

This world, so please stop and think of that. Not just yourself to think of but a baby and no Dad to help. Are your family going to support you?

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk

Planning for when I’m ovulating for this man who has agreed , should I get pregnant by someone else in between which I doubt because I’ve been calculating when I’m ovulating that would be great too don’t care who fathers my baby really but don’t want obsessive kind of guys that’s what I mean I’m not winding u up got better things to do with my time just had a lot of free time today I’m house bound because I got a procedure that went a bit wrong

Karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s my life I’ve wanted this for a while am glad my chosen man is up for it not his friend just wanted to see if it turned out good or bad for other people ( like I don’t want the man to take my kid off me etc ) or man turn crazy that kind of thing

Just wanted to see if it worked out bad for anyone else not opinions on my life I have a great life and have a lot to offer my baby when I have one ok "

You have a husband you despise, you’re obviously unhappy and think a baby will solve that. How can you say you have a great life? You are obviously not going to take on board anything anyone has said. You’re in a sad situation, and it’s awful that you have this desperation for a baby

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By *reedMyHairyFanny OP   Woman
over a year ago

uk


"It’s my life I’ve wanted this for a while am glad my chosen man is up for it not his friend just wanted to see if it turned out good or bad for other people ( like I don’t want the man to take my kid off me etc ) or man turn crazy that kind of thing

Just wanted to see if it worked out bad for anyone else not opinions on my life I have a great life and have a lot to offer my baby when I have one ok

It is your life but you are introducing another life into

This world, so please stop and think of that. Not just yourself to think of but a baby and no Dad to help. Are your family going to support you? "

I have a big family who are great support and lots of friends I have thought it out

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Welcome to the strange world of Fab ....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Don't discuss the OP's profile please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Planning for when I’m ovulating for this man who has agreed , should I get pregnant by someone else in between which I doubt because I’ve been calculating when I’m ovulating that would be great too don’t care who fathers my baby really but don’t want obsessive kind of guys that’s what I mean I’m not winding u up got better things to do with my time just had a lot of free time today I’m house bound because I got a procedure that went a bit wrong

Karen "

If you are doing bareback then you’ll get pregnant by anyone I guess. Not sure counting the days of ovulating works. I wouldn’t chance it.

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