FabSwingers.com forum: 3some advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey, so I have my first 3some coming up on Tuesday in a hotel with an older couple who are married and I'm really excited but also nervous, any tips on how to enjoy the experience and get past my nerves x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with there flow, enjoy!

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By *ndercover2016Couple
over a year ago

turriff

Relax and just let them lead you. You will be nervous but its part of the buzz!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think about it too deeply, don't be afraid to speak up if you're uncomfortable and yes, go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch the guy, he will guide you through hand signals and lipping words and encourage you with certain things. Just don't do anything you don't like, you are part of the fun not a tool to be used. Enjoy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you feel a bit nervous tell them, they probably are too.

Be guided by them both not just the man and remember you're as important as they are.

Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great advice.

Good luck OP

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't drink too much or be off your face.

Take their lead but also don't do anything you don't want to do.

Communication is key.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You are part of their fantasy as much as they are part of yours. Because of this, it’ll help if you can talk beforehand, what each other likes and most importantly, what you both don’t like.

During the encounter a lot of looking at each other, most of the time a smile or a nod of the head will indicate what you can do.

If there is good chemistry between you all, the sex should be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really helpful advice has been given to you already. We hope you enjoy yourself as much as they will enjoy you joining them.

C and P

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Maybe consider an ice-breaker activity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smash in some Viagra

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Fake it till you make it. Act like you know what's gonna happen and it is just an inevitability.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Just relax, chat, enjoy and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself & be honest with them (mention your nerves), Trust me.. they will admire your honesty / will work in your favour. Whatever you do.. DONT go in off your head on drink or drugs (that WILL ruin it for all of you)..

Remember you're ALL there for a good adult time and yes, like mentioned; Go with the flow..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with them days before and message them telling them so!

Say you want too but know you will be nervous! He / they may suggest an ‘ice breaker’ that suits!

We also were worried about the ‘start’ of our first threesome so suggest he gave her a nude massage first! Trust me, 10mins into that, no one was nervous and it lead to amazing sex!

Good luck x

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Get completely rat arsed -the nerves will completely dissapear

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By *oldupsnheelsCouple
over a year ago

bideford

"Don't drink too much or be off your face.

Take their lead but also don't do anything you don't want to do.

Communication is key. "

Exactly this, if you know what your do's and don'ts are then it's easier to relax, go with the flow and don't be afraid to laugh! It's meant to be fun

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By *istnbroke69Man
over a year ago

Cheshire / Shropshire

Would definitely love a 3sum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a conversation about theboundaries of all parties, including you, helps before hand and then just go with the flow, too scripted meets usually end up in a bit of a mess. Male

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

We can relate very well to your situation because we are an older couple who like to meet younger guys like yourself for threesomes in a hotel.

Firstly, ask questions before you meet. It's easier over the computer than it is face to face, and it helps to set boundaries.

Setting boundaries is important, because no one should feel they are doing something they don't like, or that they are being forced into something.

Can I just point something out to emphasis what I mean about setting boundaries? Your profile says your straight, but it also says you are looking to meet Male/Male couples and single males. Without being graphic, this could cause an embarrassing moment, or even ruin the night altogether.

I would imagine that you are going to meet for a drink before hand? That's good, because it gives you a chance to relax in each others company and a little alcohol can help with your nerves. However, you are not on a stag do, so don't get d*unk.

It is most likely that the female of the couple will take the lead when it comes to playing, or the guy will invite you to do something like give her a kiss. So don't worry that you have to make all the moves. Just go with the flow.

The male half of the couple might give you subtle hints and tips through body language or verbally. This is nothing to do with your sexual prowess, but he will be trying to move things on a little.

Don't overstay your welcome. If they are making signs that they want you to leave, then politely leave. They may suggest that you all get dressed again and head back down the bar for another drink, in which case do so. Once again don't get d*unk, just have a drink or two then politely leave.

Finally, be honest. Tell them your nervous and I guarantee they will understand. I also guarantee they will be all the more receptive when you have the balls to turn up and fight down your nerves.

Good luck

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Hello OP.

We can relate very well to your situation because we are an older couple who like to meet younger guys like yourself for threesomes in a hotel.

Firstly, ask questions before you meet. It's easier over the computer than it is face to face, and it helps to set boundaries.

Setting boundaries is important, because no one should feel they are doing something they don't like, or that they are being forced into something.

The male half of the couple might give you subtle hints and tips through body language or verbally. This is nothing to do with your sexual prowess, but he will be trying to move things on a little.

Finally, be honest. Tell them your nervous and I guarantee they will understand. I also guarantee they will be all the more receptive when you have the balls to turn up and fight down your nerves.

Good luck

Great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above is great advice.

First time can be nerve wracking but improves and becomes easier 2nd and 3rd if they like you.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Being invited into a couple’s sex games is great fun and as long as you take the advice above you’ll have a great time. Not sure there is anything sexier than a relaxed fun threesome.

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By *A5-1975Man
over a year ago

warrington

"Hey, so I have my first 3some coming up on Tuesday in a hotel with an older couple who are married and I'm really excited but also nervous, any tips on how to enjoy the experience and get past my nerves x"

So, how did the meet go ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, Mr here, firstly I gotta say I take my hat off to all you single guys. I don't think I could turn up to meet a couple that knows each other likes / dislikes and perform like there isn't any nerves what so ever.

To the op: if most couples are like us then we do get a little nervous too so it's not just you. Don't take it too seriously it's just sex and a bit of fun. We never expect the first meet with a new guy to be absolutely mind blowing , if it is then it's a bonus, but that comes with a little time and understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how did this threesome go???

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