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"Reclaim sex is possibly the best part of swinging.  " | |||
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"Reclaim sex is possibly the best part of swinging. "Totally agree with this, reclaiming each other is the most intense and passionate sex. | |||
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"Reclaim sex is possibly the best part of swinging.
Totally agree with this, reclaiming each other is the most intense and passionate sex."Definatly agree with this | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! " I'd be happy with just sex, never mind reclamation....  | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play....." Explain what? | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? " What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol" When a couple have sex with others , they then have sex with each other afterwards , often at home after the meet . During this sex they will often talk about what happened on the meet with the other people they met . This sex is reclaim sex , reclaiming each other as theirs . And it really is the best sex ever | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol When a couple have sex with others , they then have sex with each other afterwards , often at home after the meet . During this sex they will often talk about what happened on the meet with the other people they met . This sex is reclaim sex , reclaiming each other as theirs . And it really is the best sex ever " | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol When a couple have sex with others , they then have sex with each other afterwards , often at home after the meet . During this sex they will often talk about what happened on the meet with the other people they met . This sex is reclaim sex , reclaiming each other as theirs . And it really is the best sex ever "Thank you | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol When a couple have sex with others , they then have sex with each other afterwards , often at home after the meet . During this sex they will often talk about what happened on the meet with the other people they met . This sex is reclaim sex , reclaiming each other as theirs . And it really is the best sex ever "Absolutely this Had the feeling only last Thursday night  | |||
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"There is nothing better. Quite often, when I'm being fucked by another guy, the thought of Mr spicy fucking me afterwards makes me cum very hard! " | |||
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"Absolutely love to watch the wife being pleasured, then the reclaim sex that follow is unreal" Reclaim is the best ever sex, then it’s make up sex | |||
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"Definitely the best sex we have is after I have been fully satisfied by a gangbang and hubby has me after. Sx" Most definitely for us too | |||
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".. I've never done any of this with a partner. So I have no idea what I'm talking about here. I think I understand, but I hadn't thought about this side to things when pondering on what things might be like with a loved one. I'm not sure I like the name. I get the idea though and why it may feel.. intense. Maybe I'll find out one day." Often , people wonder why a guy would want the love of his life to fuck someone else . I’ve been asked hundreds of times by men who have had fun with my wife why I allow it . And yes I’ll say allow or let because if I didn’t want her to do it , she wouldn’t . The reclaim sex is why . Nothing beats it . She gives her all with someone else , but wants to be with me . They can have a tiny part of her , for a fraction of a moment in time , but she wants me , and only me . And that’s a special feeling , a feeling I never knew I could feel . I hope you do get to feel and understand this some day too . | |||
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".. I've never done any of this with a partner. So I have no idea what I'm talking about here. I think I understand, but I hadn't thought about this side to things when pondering on what things might be like with a loved one. I'm not sure I like the name. I get the idea though and why it may feel.. intense. Maybe I'll find out one day. Often , people wonder why a guy would want the love of his life to fuck someone else . I’ve been asked hundreds of times by men who have had fun with my wife why I allow it . And yes I’ll say allow or let because if I didn’t want her to do it , she wouldn’t . The reclaim sex is why . Nothing beats it . She gives her all with someone else , but wants to be with me . They can have a tiny part of her , for a fraction of a moment in time , but she wants me , and only me . And that’s a special feeling , a feeling I never knew I could feel . I hope you do get to feel and understand this some day too ." I get the intimate side of things, emotional and passionate, I really do, in the heat of the moment, before or afterwards alone together. Between you both as a couple. Just not experienced it. Not even with a FWB if I'm honest, which I know wouldn't even compare anyway. I don't think I could look at it as reclaim sex though  This will sound petty and stupid probably.. (it's just me and I'm passing zero judgement on anyone) but, I don't like the idea of having a claim on someone, or someone having a claim on me. With each other because we want to be, not because we're claimed I don't feel as if I'd have a desire to 'reclaim' her unless we were naturally horny enough to keep going. Leave her be and make her a brew maybe? Give her a chance to catch her breath lol.
Do you ever feel like maybe the thought of losing a connection would occur and that a reconnection may be desired/required? Or that it's physical and emotional reassurance? Pure lust? Love?
I know it's just a word and I can change it to suit me better, if ever I'm in the same fortunate boat as all of you. Maybe I'd call it "Our time" Or something equally boring, yet still have similair feelings involved.
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".. I've never done any of this with a partner. So I have no idea what I'm talking about here. I think I understand, but I hadn't thought about this side to things when pondering on what things might be like with a loved one. I'm not sure I like the name. I get the idea though and why it may feel.. intense. Maybe I'll find out one day. Often , people wonder why a guy would want the love of his life to fuck someone else . I’ve been asked hundreds of times by men who have had fun with my wife why I allow it . And yes I’ll say allow or let because if I didn’t want her to do it , she wouldn’t . The reclaim sex is why . Nothing beats it . She gives her all with someone else , but wants to be with me . They can have a tiny part of her , for a fraction of a moment in time , but she wants me , and only me . And that’s a special feeling , a feeling I never knew I could feel . I hope you do get to feel and understand this some day too . I get the intimate side of things, emotional and passionate, I really do, in the heat of the moment, before or afterwards alone together. Between you both as a couple. Just not experienced it. Not even with a FWB if I'm honest, which I know wouldn't even compare anyway. I don't think I could look at it as reclaim sex though This will sound petty and stupid probably.. (it's just me and I'm passing zero judgement on anyone) but, I don't like the idea of having a claim on someone, or someone having a claim on me. With each other because we want to be, not because we're claimed I don't feel as if I'd have a desire to 'reclaim' her unless we were naturally horny enough to keep going. Leave her be and make her a brew maybe? Give her a chance to catch her breath lol.
Do you ever feel like maybe the thought of losing a connection would occur and that a reconnection may be desired/required? Or that it's physical and emotional reassurance? Pure lust? Love?
I know it's just a word and I can change it to suit me better, if ever I'm in the same fortunate boat as all of you. Maybe I'd call it "Our time" Or something equally boring, yet still have similair feelings involved.
Well jealous "The term 'reclaim sex' may be confusing matters. It can sound a bit sinister I suppose. Have you ever spent an amazing time with a woman where you shared the experience and it was fantastic? A heavenly day by the sea or a concert etc. You feel such a connection from sharing that experience and when you get home you can't wait to fuck each other. You're joining together, your emotions are intertwined. Hot and horny and sharing the memory of that fantastic day/ experience. It's like that. | |||
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".. I've never done any of this with a partner. So I have no idea what I'm talking about here. I think I understand, but I hadn't thought about this side to things when pondering on what things might be like with a loved one. I'm not sure I like the name. I get the idea though and why it may feel.. intense. Maybe I'll find out one day. Often , people wonder why a guy would want the love of his life to fuck someone else . I’ve been asked hundreds of times by men who have had fun with my wife why I allow it . And yes I’ll say allow or let because if I didn’t want her to do it , she wouldn’t . The reclaim sex is why . Nothing beats it . She gives her all with someone else , but wants to be with me . They can have a tiny part of her , for a fraction of a moment in time , but she wants me , and only me . And that’s a special feeling , a feeling I never knew I could feel . I hope you do get to feel and understand this some day too . I get the intimate side of things, emotional and passionate, I really do, in the heat of the moment, before or afterwards alone together. Between you both as a couple. Just not experienced it. Not even with a FWB if I'm honest, which I know wouldn't even compare anyway. I don't think I could look at it as reclaim sex though This will sound petty and stupid probably.. (it's just me and I'm passing zero judgement on anyone) but, I don't like the idea of having a claim on someone, or someone having a claim on me. With each other because we want to be, not because we're claimed I don't feel as if I'd have a desire to 'reclaim' her unless we were naturally horny enough to keep going. Leave her be and make her a brew maybe? Give her a chance to catch her breath lol.
Do you ever feel like maybe the thought of losing a connection would occur and that a reconnection may be desired/required? Or that it's physical and emotional reassurance? Pure lust? Love?
I know it's just a word and I can change it to suit me better, if ever I'm in the same fortunate boat as all of you. Maybe I'd call it "Our time" Or something equally boring, yet still have similair feelings involved.
Well jealous
The term 'reclaim sex' may be confusing matters. It can sound a bit sinister I suppose.
Have you ever spent an amazing time with a woman where you shared the experience and it was fantastic? A heavenly day by the sea or a concert etc. You feel such a connection from sharing that experience and when you get home you can't wait to fuck each other.
You're joining together, your emotions are intertwined. Hot and horny and sharing the memory of that fantastic day/ experience.
It's like that. "I have. Yes it's the term that's confusing me.. hopefully I'll get to "Reclaim  " Someone one day | |||
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"How is it different to normal sex whatever ‘normal’ is? " 1. You've just been having 'Normal sex' With someone else. This is the rekindling of the closeness between a couple. Making it more intimate and more intense, emotional. From what I'm reading between the lines and what I've mused on myself. I'm in no place to talk though, given I've zero experience. | |||
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"How is it different to normal sex whatever ‘normal’ is? 1. You've just been having 'Normal sex' With someone else. This is the rekindling of the closeness between a couple. Making it more intimate and more intense, emotional. From what I'm reading between the lines and what I've mused on myself. I'm in no place to talk though, given I've zero experience. " The rekindling is the key here , and it’s spot on . There are no sinister connotations with the word reclaim in this instance . And it certainly isn’t about ‘ownership’ as such . You know that feeling when perhaps you may have lost something , then you find it . That feeling inside of relief , emotion , etc..... we’ll multiply that by ten and that’s how reclaim sex feels . No jealousy , no dominance , no ownership , just a massive outpouring of emotion , lust , and love . | |||
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"How is it different to normal sex whatever ‘normal’ is? 1. You've just been having 'Normal sex' With someone else. This is the rekindling of the closeness between a couple. Making it more intimate and more intense, emotional. From what I'm reading between the lines and what I've mused on myself. I'm in no place to talk though, given I've zero experience. The rekindling is the key here , and it’s spot on . There are no sinister connotations with the word reclaim in this instance . And it certainly isn’t about ‘ownership’ as such . You know that feeling when perhaps you may have lost something , then you find it . That feeling inside of relief , emotion , etc..... we’ll multiply that by ten and that’s how reclaim sex feels . No jealousy , no dominance , no ownership , just a massive outpouring of emotion , lust , and love . " | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. " There's lots of good explanations in the thread. | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. " Don't focus on the word. I'm not a fan of the word either. Go back through thread to my posts as I had the same thought. Its a huge step to sleep with someone else when you're in love with a partner. Reclaim sex.. It's just reaffirming sex. Reaffirming the love, the connection, the bond, the freedom from jealously your loved one has given you. Turned on by what's happened and mega turned on by one another afterwards. No claim on one another, despite the word. | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. " You may need a better explanation , but all the couples including us who enjoy it are perfectly happy with it . And none of us see it as the wife being an object at all . People perceiving it in this way are taking the wording out of context , but that’s kind of unsurprising in this whole ‘let’s take offence’ society we live in . Gengis has explained it very well , as have I further up . | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. Exchange the word reclaim for reunite. It says it better. We've had a few dates where the mrs has played alone and returned home. Her motivation is the hot wife able to play away but and BIG but she really gets off on coming home for home sex on top which is super intense. Like the other guy was foreplay to reunite sex. We recently had a double date where we both played away and the reclaim / reunite sex was awesome. There's lots of good explanations in the thread. " | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. You may need a better explanation , but all the couples including us who enjoy it are perfectly happy with it . And none of us see it as the wife being an object at all . People perceiving it in this way are taking the wording out of context , but that’s kind of unsurprising in this whole ‘let’s take offence’ society we live in . Gengis has explained it very well , as have I further up ." Hmmmm.. I wouldn't say we live in a 'Take offence society'. I'd say society is beginning to grow a conscience finally. Years of civil liberty campaigning for equality is finally beginning to pay off. I'd much rather live in a kinder society than a close minded one. Having said that, some people use and abuse it. There are some who take offence at the slightest thing. I'm guilty of mis-interpretation and taking offence where none is meant, or given. I'm also guilty of open people's eyes to offences they don't even realise are offences, because nobody bothered telling them before. The issue is with the word, not the action. The word is misleading. Can be used for a vast majority of other things. I thought the same thing as Bhubayasi when I read it. Probably another term that's come from a male dominated porn world. Which may explain the rather nasty connotations we thought, when first given. However, it doesn't change the act the other Swingers are describing themselves. A beautifully, jealousy free, loving, passionate, intimate rekindling of their desire in one another, reaffirming their commitment and lust for each other.. post emotionally risky sharing of sex life with others. | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. Don't focus on the word. I'm not a fan of the word either. Go back through thread to my posts as I had the same thought. Its a huge step to sleep with someone else when you're in love with a partner. Reclaim sex.. It's just reaffirming sex. Reaffirming the love, the connection, the bond, the freedom from jealously your loved one has given you. Turned on by what's happened and mega turned on by one another afterwards. No claim on one another, despite the word. " ‘The freedom from jealousy’. So if jealousy occurs then why do it? Debate is what the forums are for! | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. Don't focus on the word. I'm not a fan of the word either. Go back through thread to my posts as I had the same thought. Its a huge step to sleep with someone else when you're in love with a partner. Reclaim sex.. It's just reaffirming sex. Reaffirming the love, the connection, the bond, the freedom from jealously your loved one has given you. Turned on by what's happened and mega turned on by one another afterwards. No claim on one another, despite the word. ‘The freedom from jealousy’. So if jealousy occurs then why do it? Debate is what the forums are for! " Umm.. It's the intense love that gives them freedom from jealously. Which allows them to Swing. Reclaim sex is just about bonding afterwards. | |||
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"Absolutely love to watch the wife being pleasured, then the reclaim sex that follow is unreal" tried to message you about our cuckold /hotwifes event but unfortunately you blocked couples... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/840002 | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. " Because sex & love are not the same thing. Although you want sex with others this does not mean you love your partner any less. And the ability to love and trust your partner just deepens the love and makes it stronger. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. Because sex & love are not the same thing. Although you want sex with others this does not mean you love your partner any less. And the ability to love and trust your partner just deepens the love and makes it stronger. " Plus, I think if you can take physical jealousy out of a relationship, it makes that relationship stronger. Allowing each other the freedom to experience their fantasies is a wonderful thing - I imagine. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. " It enhances our already great sex life and it doesn't mean we don't love each other, if anything we are more secure and in love with each other and who better to share the journey with. Also after being with someone else the sex we have after is amazing and we just feel closer to each other and it's pure passion that we are with each other again and nobody else can compare to that | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. It enhances our already great sex life and it doesn't mean we don't love each other, if anything we are more secure and in love with each other and who better to share the journey with. Also after being with someone else the sex we have after is amazing and we just feel closer to each other and it's pure passion that we are with each other again and nobody else can compare to that" Totally agree with this | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. It enhances our already great sex life and it doesn't mean we don't love each other, if anything we are more secure and in love with each other and who better to share the journey with. Also after being with someone else the sex we have after is amazing and we just feel closer to each other and it's pure passion that we are with each other again and nobody else can compare to that" Absolutely spot on | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. " To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it "It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra "A little extra spice then? | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then? "Exactly | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. It enhances our already great sex life and it doesn't mean we don't love each other, if anything we are more secure and in love with each other and who better to share the journey with. Also after being with someone else the sex we have after is amazing and we just feel closer to each other and it's pure passion that we are with each other again and nobody else can compare to that Totally agree with this" Well said and so true | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
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Why do you need extra spice? "Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
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Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done "You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
Exactly
Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done
You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine "I'm not sure what you're asking now. Why couples swing? To enhance their sex and love lives. Both swinging and 'reclaim' sex has been explained pretty well on this thread and on many others that I'm sure you've read. If you don't understand it now, maybe you just don't get it? Think in different terms than the couples who do, or the singles who want what they have. Remember, this is a SWINGERS site, everyone else who uses it differently is tolerated, but it's primary function is to connect people who DO get it. I can't help but feel you're being deliberately difficult in your understanding of why couples swing and what reclaim sex is. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
Exactly
Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done
You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine
I'm not sure what you're asking now. Why couples swing? To enhance their sex and love lives. Both swinging and 'reclaim' sex has been explained pretty well on this thread and on many others that I'm sure you've read.
If you don't understand it now, maybe you just don't get it? Think in different terms than the couples who do, or the singles who want what they have.
Remember, this is a SWINGERS site, everyone else who uses it differently is tolerated, but it's primary function is to connect people who DO get it.
I can't help but feel you're being deliberately difficult in your understanding of why couples swing and what reclaim sex is."I’m not being ‘difficult’ as you put it! I’m trying to understand the ‘extra spice’ and it’s that what I’m asking about. I’m allowed to discuss topics in the forum without being accused of being difficult by a single man! | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
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Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done
You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine
I'm not sure what you're asking now. Why couples swing? To enhance their sex and love lives. Both swinging and 'reclaim' sex has been explained pretty well on this thread and on many others that I'm sure you've read.
If you don't understand it now, maybe you just don't get it? Think in different terms than the couples who do, or the singles who want what they have.
Remember, this is a SWINGERS site, everyone else who uses it differently is tolerated, but it's primary function is to connect people who DO get it.
I can't help but feel you're being deliberately difficult in your understanding of why couples swing and what reclaim sex is.
I’m not being ‘difficult’ as you put it! I’m trying to understand the ‘extra spice’ and it’s that what I’m asking about. I’m allowed to discuss topics in the forum without being accused of being difficult by a single man! "You're allowed to say what you like, within the rules. As am I. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
Exactly
Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done
You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine "They said they don't need the extra spice, not that they do. Some people cook and eat at home all the time. Some people also like to eat at restaurants sometimes. Same thing. They don't need to eat out, they just enjoy it sometimes. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it
It's not even that our sex life is boring, that's far from the case it just adds a little extra
A little extra spice then?
Exactly
Why do you need extra spice?
Swinging is a different way of life and it's hard to explain, we don't need the extra spice but we enjoy it and no harm is done
You must know why you ‘need’ the extra spice? Trying to understand here but if it’s hard to explain here then that’s fine
They said they don't need the extra spice, not that they do.
Some people cook and eat at home all the time. Some people also like to eat at restaurants sometimes. Same thing. They don't need to eat out, they just enjoy it sometimes. "Good simple explanation! . | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. To ‘spice up’ their own sex life. If they didn’t do it then their own sex life may get mundane. No offence it’s just my take on it "That certainly was never the case for us , we never once worried that our own sex life would get mundane if we didn’t swing ! I would even go as far as to say that if we thought it would , or might , we would have never started swinging . Proof of that is the fact that we have stopped swinging , we haven’t had a meet since last May , and our sex life has never been better . Mind you every now and again when my wife recalls some of the meets she has had , it’s still just as horny now as it was then | |||
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"I just love this thread. It has helped me understand how amazing this lifestyle can be - thank you " | |||
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"Absolutely love to watch the wife being pleasured, then the reclaim sex that follow is unreal" Agreed! | |||
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"Hmmmmmm why would you wanna fuck someone else, if you are in love with your partner??????? Not judging, just a curious question. Please don't take offence. I am genuinely interested. " If couples didn’t swing this would just be a site of singles having one night stands (sometimes 2/3 nights lol) ???? | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! " I just want someone to have sex with. | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! I just want someone to have sex with. "Really? I find it hard to believe you're struggling to find someone. Maybe the right someone. | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! " it's one of the very few parts of being part of a couple I miss | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! I just want someone to have sex with.
Really? I find it hard to believe you're struggling to find someone. Maybe the right someone. "I'm very fussy | |||
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"A very interesting and informative thread indeed! We have yet to experience the full blown 'reclaim' ourselves as we have only indulged in soft swap but it sounds like something to very much look forward to "We don’t always full swap, sometimes don’t swap at all but still leads to the same horn! | |||
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"I want someone to have reclaim sex with! I just want someone to have sex with.
Really? I find it hard to believe you're struggling to find someone. Maybe the right someone.
I'm very fussy "Wife is same, super fussy | |||
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"Have you always waited for the guy to leave before doing reclaim sex or anyone let the guy watch? " Always after for us | |||
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"Have you always waited for the guy to leave before doing reclaim sex or anyone let the guy watch? Always after for us" I understand that. It's your time to reconnect. I just wondered if any couples enjoyed the guy seeing it.. | |||
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"Have you always waited for the guy to leave before doing reclaim sex or anyone let the guy watch? Always after for usI understand that. It's your time to reconnect. I just wondered if any couples enjoyed the guy seeing it.." Better alone once he has gone | |||
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"Have you always waited for the guy to leave before doing reclaim sex or anyone let the guy watch? Always after for usI understand that. It's your time to reconnect. I just wondered if any couples enjoyed the guy seeing it.. Better alone once he has gone" That makes sense. Plus you can chat about what just went on..can't do that with the guy still present... | |||
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"Have you always waited for the guy to leave before doing reclaim sex or anyone let the guy watch? Always after for usI understand that. It's your time to reconnect. I just wondered if any couples enjoyed the guy seeing it.. Better alone once he has goneThat makes sense. Plus you can chat about what just went on..can't do that with the guy still present..." Yes | |||
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"Got to be the best sex whole point of swinging for us..." Me and my wife of a few months decided not to do anything until after we got married. Our first time we went to a club called shh hoping to meet a female naively for my to play with and me to watch. We got a locked room whilst she suck me hard then suggested I unlocked and half opened the door. After a few minutes a fit youngish black guy walked in with a towel on he watched her suck me for a few minutes and when I looked up he was naked. He had a high cock that was still soft I got my wife's attention to look at his cock she did then turned to me and said "I don't know what you want me to do" without thinking I said I want to see you suck that cock. She moved so fast and had 3/4 quarters of his Cock down her throat and sucked him senseless while I watched and wanked. After five mins she took his cock out of her mouth for a second and told me fuck her doggy while she continued to suck him. After a bit we both pulled out and whilst remaining on all fours I spun her around so her pussy for facing him after I few seconds I could see the moment on her face when she realized I was going to let him fuck her. She called out and said remember condoms. For the next few minutes he broke 3 condoms trying to get them over his big black cock he looked to me for help and by chance there was an x large condom in the room which I chucked him and he caught with one hand and slipped it on then lubed up. As he lined up he Cock searching for her hole she was sucking me and had hold of my legs just above my knees. He then started to enter her slowly but with out stopping my wife is tight anyway she can only take 2 of my fingers so as he went deeper and deeper she stopped sucking my cock was whincing with pain and pleasure crushing my legs with her hands leaving brusies. He got all the way inside up to the hilt then he started to slowly pound her. I could see the struggle in her face so I told her it's ok and to just concentrate on my cock which she did. Once she was sucking me again he was able to pick up speed and gave her a really good pounding from behind. After five minutes I came with an explosive orgasm which my wife swallowed not missing a drop all the while been fuck by his black baseball bat of a cock. I then got her to lay on her back I held her in my arms while he entered her missionary with her legs half.bemt and half in the air. Watching all of his black cock disappear into her white pussy before reappearing was totally amazing. I then kissed her, sucked her tits and played with her clit while he fucked her good making her cum over and over. Once we we're done we headed back to our room at the jury's inn where we stripped naked and I had my first experience with reclaim sex and wow what a powerful life changing experience. Everytime I licked her pussy she came in seconds time and time again. Then I fucked her cuming myself at least 4 times in less than hour before passing out together in a heap. This continued for the next 2 days where we fucked morning, noon and night riding the incredible reclaim sex. I now honestly thing reclaim sex is one of my favorite parts of swinging it's incredible! The best bit was I hadn't even known what reclaim sex was or meant prior to our first MMF x | |||
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"Sorry but would someone explain what that is to me play..... Explain what? What reclaimed means ....sounds like something you pick up at the scrap yard lol When a couple have sex with others , they then have sex with each other afterwards , often at home after the meet . During this sex they will often talk about what happened on the meet with the other people they met . This sex is reclaim sex , reclaiming each other as theirs . And it really is the best sex ever "I concur! Bloody amazing! | |||
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"‘Reclaim’ as in ‘you are mine again now’? Claiming back the wife.... Wife an object perhaps? This is how others see it. I need a better explanation please. " Who said it just referred to the man reclaiming his wife/girlfriend? We think "re-connect sex" sounds a little better, but whatever you call it, it's super hot for both parties involved! | |||
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"Isn’t it just ‘Making do sex’ because sex has got boring and that’s why u meet others in the first place?" Seriously ? If you really think that it’s making do because sex has got boring and that’s why swingers meet others in the first place you couldn’t be more wrong . Well at least in our case , and in the case of most of the couples we met . Me and my wife were together for a year before we entertained the thought of swinging , and swung for a year before getting married . Six years after getting married we decided we had done all we wanted to do when it comes to swinging and stopped last May . And a year later we are still enjoying the best sex ever . | |||
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"This is a big turn on for us and if anything the things we do with others is more like foreplay to us for what we will be doing later on. Gx" Exactly this for us to | |||
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"Last night at the club maybe 4-7/10 at times, this morning at 2:30 am at home in bed 12.5/10 ... there is a pattern emerging ; the magic of reclaim is powerful " It’s everything for us, and what it’s all about. Last Sunday’s session after Mrs’ first solo club visit was probably the best we’ve ever had between us - and we’ve been at it for a while now! | |||
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