FabSwingers.com forum: Is it the beard or is it me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on and off here for a few years now but I can't seem to get a meet I've chatted to few people but that it I'm not asking for anything in the first message I just say hello and my name and I'm looking to meet new people that it can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong thanks

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

It's just a numbers game. Single fellas considerably outnumber women and couples on the site.

You have to stand out from the rest in some way that appeals to whoever you are looking for. Some women dont like beards. Some do. You shouldn't have to change yourself or your profile but if you're serious you can try coming at it differently.

Try and get your name down for a social event or visit a club. Networking is key and relying on messaging over the internet isn't working for you. Really put yourself out there and let those lusty ladies (of which there are no shortage of in Durham/Teeside) you're on the prowl.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Maybe try some photos that aren't blurry or jokey

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By *ernow bikerMan
over a year ago

Launceston

I have to agree with wet wife. I've been on and off Fab for a number of years but only recently gone to clubs. On the site you are one in a thousand with only your profile to represent you. As long as you go to a club with the attitude that you might hook up, but might not, you can at least advertise the whole package! You aren't just the beard, lol. A lady might like your accent, or tatts or your arse in those jeans. Clubs also prove you've made the effort to get out and meet real people instead of expecting a shag to arrive on the doorstep. This ain't Amazon!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I have to agree with wet wife. I've been on and off Fab for a number of years but only recently gone to clubs. On the site you are one in a thousand with only your profile to represent you. As long as you go to a club with the attitude that you might hook up, but might not, you can at least advertise the whole package! You aren't just the beard, lol. A lady might like your accent, or tatts or your arse in those jeans. Clubs also prove you've made the effort to get out and meet real people instead of expecting a shag to arrive on the doorstep. This ain't Amazon! "

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

You've not updated your profile in 4 years! Says your 34, when the age is 38. Tells me your lazy on here and possibly in a meet/relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks I've never released about that

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

Get rid of them funny pics

Maybe try to dress up n take some nice pics n put a professional on ur bio lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I've updated my profile and I've got rid of a few crap pictures

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe it's patricia?

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"Well I've updated my profile and I've got rid of a few crap pictures "

Being ginge can be a handicap but some women are into that sort of thing.

Nicely trimmed beard perhaps?

If you adopt the notion that fab isnt for actually meeting people and just have a few fun chats, you'll never be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bloody hell you got good eyes site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bloody hell you got good eyes

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Bloody hell you got good eyes "

Haha all the better to spot pat with.. Honestly though forget fab use it to amuse not to meet. Go to clubs, go to socials and revel in the life.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"Bloody hell you got good eyes "

Vests to BS EN471 class 2? just don't do it for most. Class3 will get you noticed more, but for all the wrong reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely the beard

Shaggy beards don't do it for most women on here.

Get it tightly trimmed or shave it off.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Definitely the beard

Shaggy beards don't do it for most women on here.

Get it tightly trimmed or shave it off."

Not sure I entirely agree. There are some women who love big beards. It’s a bit of a niche market maybe, but when they love them, they tend to really love them

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, it's not the beard, some people love them.

Less people will be interested because of the ginger, some people love that though.

Less people will be interested because you're a bit short but it won't bother some.

Less people will be less interested because you describe yourself as ample, but some won't care.

See what I'm getting at? There's all sorts of people on here, you have to make your profile as appealing as possible and atm it's not very.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but someone had to say it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No not harsh at all I need all the Input I can get and I'm not ginger I'm African sunset lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No not harsh at all I need all the Input I can get and I'm not ginger I'm African sunset lol"

Haha, not heard that one before, it's usually strawberry blond!!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"No not harsh at all I need all the Input I can get and I'm not ginger I'm African sunset lol"

Your profile has no punctuation and repeats itself in four lines of text.

“Hi I am a chunky 38 yr old separate male looking for open minded women and couples for meets and some fun and to make some new friends I'm out going and open minded fun outgoing guy who like a laugh“

So try

Hi. I am chunky, recently separated bearded biker?? who’s looking to meet open minded women and couples.

I’d like to make new friends with a view to maybe playing. I'm an outgoing and open minded guy who likes a laugh. Can accommodate comfortably at mine.

Add in things you like to do: ride bikes, race ferrets that sort of thing.

African Sunset

Let us know how you get on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks bud I'm going to copy and paste that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not harsh at all I need all the Input I can get and I'm not ginger I'm African sunset lol

Your profile has no punctuation and repeats itself in four lines of text.

So try

Hi. I am chunky, recently separated bearded biker?? who’s looking to meet open minded women and couples.

I’d like to make new friends with a view to maybe playing. I'm an outgoing and open minded guy who likes a laugh. Can accommodate comfortably at mine.

Add in things you like to do: ride bikes, race ferrets that sort of thing.

African Sunset

Let us know how you get on.

Dude, you'll need to delete your original text too. Have a quick gander at your page, you've copy & pasted too much there.

Delete the text "so try"....and everything above it

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks mate I bet it look like I was a thick git but is it OK now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've updated my profile and I've got rid of a few crap pictures

Being ginge can be a handicap but some women are into that sort of thing.

Nicely trimmed beard perhaps?

If you adopt the notion that fab isnt for actually meeting people and just have a few fun chats, you'll never be disappointed.

Hey I’m ginge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely the beard

Shaggy beards don't do it for most women on here.

Get it tightly trimmed or shave it off."

Rubbish!

Lots of women on here love a guy with a beard. Just look at all the beard threads to see that!

Styled or big bushy captain Jack sparrow beards do it for alot of people, including myself.

OP, keep the beard! Just take better pics. Within most of your pics, you look like a shocked deer in headlights

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"Well I've updated my profile and I've got rid of a few crap pictures

Being ginge can be a handicap but some women are into that sort of thing.

Nicely trimmed beard perhaps?

If you adopt the notion that fab isnt for actually meeting people and just have a few fun chats, you'll never be disappointed.

Hey I’m ginge

And I’ve got a beard, a double of Ragnar with a thing for ginges and redheads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've updated my profile and I've got rid of a few crap pictures

Being ginge can be a handicap but some women are into that sort of thing.

Nicely trimmed beard perhaps?

If you adopt the notion that fab isnt for actually meeting people and just have a few fun chats, you'll never be disappointed.

Hey I’m ginge

And I’ve got a beard, a double of Ragnar with a thing for ginges and redheads

You've always had it going on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the input and I'm shit at taking photos and I like doing my pout lol

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Your a man and its almost impossible to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks and I've try to take a picture without the shock deer expression lol

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Please dont copy and paste what someone is giving you guidance on. Dont try and snare with someone elses words.

Say what you think and feel, not what you think someone wants to hear. Make contact by being yourself.

If they want african, not african sunset, nothing will change that.

And dont worry, even the tall, fit, good looking and funny rarely meet anyone.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"Your a man and its almost impossible to get a meet. "

Yup, should be a recognised handicap. Be thankful for the odd chat

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Still repetitive !

"I'm a bearded biker"

"I'm a bit of a biker".

Then you also tell us you go to bike rallies.

I would delete "I'm a bit of a biker"

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You have some great clubs close by go to one ..

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