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By *uck role-play OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

We are at different angles on what we want,I am new to this site and lifestyle my partner is the one who controls it but we are trying to enjoy some new experiences,

I feel I would love to chat with another couple to put me at ease,just as friends for now or a female who can relax me and help me to understand everything.

Sorry if I am naive and sound simple .

I would like to speak whilst I am alone if that is ok .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want out of it and what does he want out of it.

Sounds like you want more of that chat and he doesn’t.

I could be wrong though!

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By *uck role-play OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Its the other way round, im asking her to ask questions,but this is helping she is asking me more and questioning stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want to know exactly

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By *uck role-play OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Its the other way round, im asking her to ask questions,but this is helping she is asking me more and questioning stuff.

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By *uck role-play OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

See he has jumped in

Can I reply privately and hope send my phone number if that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the other way round, im asking her to ask questions,but this is helping she is asking me more and questioning stuff.

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You keep repeating yourself.

What questions does she have OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See he has jumped in

Can I reply privately and hope send my phone number if that's ok"

I don’t mind a pm but I don’t exchange numbers. Happy to help as anyone else would be on the forums but if you want proper help then ask on here.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Honestly, you saying your partner 'controls' this is concerning. So is the jumping in on a forum thread and you feeling like you need to talk to someone without him being part of it and not being able to do that on here even if it is a joint account and he can see it.

It sounds like you maybe need to talk about this between you and think about it all. Maybe set up single profile to message people to talk about it all? Happy for you to message me/us if you do.

V x

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By *uck role-play OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

We are really opening up more and chatting now,maybe I just want to speak with another female without the fear of a meet for now,

I was worried because it's new to me.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The fear of a meet" sounds a bit ominous.

Don't ever do anything if you don't feel comfortable.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Would doubt anyone here can help you if you don't have an idea yourselves. That would be the first discussion before even contemplating this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say talk to each other and lay down some ground rules.

What you both want to get out of it

What you feel comfortable with

What your not prepared to do

Start off with basic rules and boundaries and add as you progress into the lifestyle

Its got to be mutual as its not just about 1 person. You both need to be happy with what you engage in

Start off with a newbie night and just go to watch if your not comfortable with playing straight away

Clubs are a little safer as it eliminates the catfish element of inviting a stranger to your home although you could meet at a pub or restaurant prior to get a feel for someone.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are at different angles on what we want,I am new to this site and lifestyle my partner is the one who controls it but we are trying to enjoy some new experiences,

I feel I would love to chat with another couple to put me at ease,just as friends for now or a female who can relax me and help me to understand everything.

Sorry if I am naive and sound simple .

I would like to speak whilst I am alone if that is ok ."

But why can’t your partner do this for you?

You need to chat to each other.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Something a bit creepy going on with the power dynamic in this relationship if you ask me -words like control never leave a good taste in my mouth.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Read it properly folks, it's her who is in control and he would like to speak to a woman to relax him. Far be it from me to judge and assume he wants a wank.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read it properly folks, it's her who is in control and he would like to speak to a woman to relax him. Far be it from me to judge and assume he wants a wank.lol"

Got it now

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It would help if the OP put which of the couple are writing the message.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"It would help if the OP put which of the couple are writing the message. "

Second post down from original Sally. Xxx

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"It would help if the OP put which of the couple are writing the message. "

The post and replies are actually written by same person (yep im an expert at that stuff)

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