FabSwingers.com forum: How do I get a meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone please tell me what I should be writing in my messages.

I think my profile is ok? Please tell me otherwise.

When I write a message I notice it just gets read and deleted without a reply (usually).

I have tried short messages, longer messages, dirty messages etc but still the same result.

Help meeeeee.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here 6 months and already had 2 meets; that's not actually bad going at all!

As to your profile its fine other than the fact you have a lot of single lines and I would amalgamate the two lines about you being bi but happy to go with being straight as personally I can't quite decide whether you are 100% bi or just bi in sexual situations.

Also your last paragraph about timewaster's will put people off, no-one has to reply to a message and I suggest you do a search through the forums at past comments, that also goes for profile help.

And very few like dirty messages hence they get deleted either read or without reading

How about trying socials or clubs as they are a good way of meeting people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have been here 6 months and already had 2 meets; that's not actually bad going at all!

Also your last paragraph about timewaster's will put people off, no-one has to reply to a message and I suggest you do a search through the forums at past comments, that also goes for profile help.

And very few like dirty messages hence they get deleted either read or without reading

How about trying socials or clubs as they are a good way of meeting people

Wish that I had two meets in six months lol

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"Someone please tell me what I should be writing in my messages.

I think my profile is ok? Please tell me otherwise.

When I write a message I notice it just gets read and deleted without a reply (usually).

I have tried short messages, longer messages, dirty messages etc but still the same result.

Help meeeeee........."

Have you tried going on Take Me Out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice from kinkykytten. Dirty messages as a first message are a definite no no in my book! Your profile could do with some more pics as it's hard to tell what you look like from the pic you have on there. Also make sure you read the profile of the people you message to make sure you fit what they're looking for. Some people won't meet bi guys and prefer people who can accomodate. Some may other a regular thing but many like the variety. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice so far. I have changed my profile as advised.

I will add some more pics soon as I know thats not the best one to have used. I have cock pics but i stopped having them on public profile, should I put them back on?

Take me out? I would rather eat my own socks. Bad tv programme, but thans anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like to see cock pics and others don't so it's up to you whether you want to put them in public or not. Many people like to see a variety of body and face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CLUBS !

I have got my thread answering skills finely honed to just one word now.

CLUBS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as text goes, I've used my imagination and described a few scenarios that I find exciting...fun to think about and write if I'm honest...

As for photos, personally I've includes different body shots on my public gallery as I like to think they can lead the reader's imagination as to what fun we can have without clothes? Although my pride and joy remains covered as I think its best to leave something to the imagination...I have those pics, along with face in my private gallery as some ladies do like to see the goods first, so to speak?

Hasn't done me any harm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been here nearly 4yrs now. We've had loads of meets, plenty of shags, etc, but none in the last 12months.

Our normal approach isn't working for us at the moment, so we're having a rethink and a review of our strategy.

Perhaps we need to be a bit more proactive, become hunters instead of trappers may be?

We'll sort it though.

Most single guys are hunters, the good ones are successful, but far too many think they should bag more than they are getting.

That's life mate

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

The simplest way to solve this is just to lower your expectations! Two meets is pretty good going. I believe it's a very rare single guy who's meeting people every week - unless, as noted above, you join the club scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot too depends upon how much spare time you actually have to be fair.

Like a typical thirty-something male I work all hours God sends, probably averaging about 70! When I get less hours meets every week aren't a problem to arrange, yet often its a case of actually being available...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think I can have a guess at "why" but it is very much on of those "elephant in the room" topics at always get people kinda pent up......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone please tell me what I should be writing in my messages.

I think my profile is ok? Please tell me otherwise.

When I write a message I notice it just gets read and deleted without a reply (usually).

I have tried short messages, longer messages, dirty messages etc but still the same result.

Help meeeeee........."

I believe that generally in life, and on this site, like attracts like. There is little point in answering what messages work for us, it's about finding what works for you.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't think its realistic to expect meets every day of the week, for us we have to click with someone and then we need to work out when its going to happen when you consider there are 3 people involved with jobs and other commitments its harder than you might think.

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