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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

More single men than couples and women on this site... it's a numbers game

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Your profile photo is not appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What would you suggest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start by thinking about what you want out of it and what you’d like to see as recipient- Take a look at some of the single guys on here’s profiles. Mr Nice’s above is A good starting point. Spend some time crafting it and taking some tasteful good shots. Timer is your friend! Be polite. Attend socials and clubs. Also remember, It’s not a dating site - it’s a lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."

We out number them N-1 so you have to do something to stand out.

Public face pics help for getting women to message first i find.

If you're shy sending them with the first message is a good shout

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Keep messages for profiles that you suit what they are looking for , in the long run it will save both your time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be more interesting.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."
The Fab game is almost as hard as Golf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what kind of pics would you suggest I put on my profile ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what kind of pics would you suggest I put on my profile ? "

Face, body, suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no cock pic on your profile so I wouldn’t look further...

See how everyone is different? Just have a good mix of pics including a cock shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no cock pic on your profile so I wouldn’t look further...

See how everyone is different? Just have a good mix of pics including a cock shot

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."

Probably a ratio of 100 single males to every couple/fem and a high percentage of couples will only play with single men they meet in clubs, so that drops your chances even further. Patients and perserverance are key. Or as previously said get out to clubs and build a 'real world' social circle of swingers and allow it to grow and develop.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."

It's not impossible, I reply to loads every day.

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By *racknell SexMan
over a year ago

Bracknell


"Your profile photo is not appealing."

You cannot win on here. Nothing you change will make a difference.

Be yourself.

At least you will like yourself for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly, 'cannot accommodate' will make some suspicious that you are cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you suggest?"

Watching that quiz show pal

A thousand to one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile photo is not appealing.

You cannot win on here. Nothing you change will make a difference.

Be yourself.

At least you will like yourself for it."

Spot on this site is just an ego boost and your message will just get deleted. A huge bonus if your not blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask."
fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't think it's that hard to get replies as there are many of us who will communicate with single guys here.

Almost everyone looks at profiles of the sender, when they get a message, so improve that as much as possible.

Some people are more interesting than others, so work to ensure they want to meet someone like you.

Include photos that help them form a good concept of how you look.

Reduce clutter in your profile so it's not duplicating stuff or saying not very much.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers"

I'll have to be a messer then. I prefer to fuck a man, not a cock. Best tell my veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers so your looking for a good looking man ? You dont care what his cocks like ? Think your on the wrong site

I'll have to be a messer then. I prefer to fuck a man, not a cock. Best tell my veris "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want a good looking man and dont care what his cocks like think your in the wrong site bring on the cock pics I dont want a date I want a nice cock to share !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers so your looking for a good looking man ? You dont care what his cocks like ? Think your on the wrong site

I'll have to be a messer then. I prefer to fuck a man, not a cock. Best tell my veris "
tinder!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."

Go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't send cock pics ever.

Don't expect reply straight away women get mountain of mail.

Don't mail that women again if she wants more you'll hear from here.

Be patient.

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By *asilForty77Man
over a year ago

a hundred and sixty of us living in a small shoebox in the middle of the road


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people"
go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s frustrating but we just have to be patient and keep trying really, everyone of us has a quality and we have to hope that a girl can see it

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By *jtravellerWoman
over a year ago

surrey

As others mentioned, bad pic for a profile, and the numbers game. Tons of single guys on here, you need a pic that will standout from the crowd and a bit of creativity in the message. For instance, you could take a full face ,frontal torso pic, and crop it mid face . Shows your smile, lips, jawline and general physique, but still gives you anonymity . I’ve also seen pics mid face up, showing their eyes ( backfired for one . Meanest eyes my girlfriend and I had seen )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you suggest?"

Perhaps something more appealing

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"What would you suggest?"

Change the first line of your text to; 'I'm new to the swinging scene, but looking to chat with people and see where things lead'

Lose the "Couples message me" line, and the very last line. People will message you if they're interested, so these two lines are superfluous.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers so your looking for a good looking man ? You dont care what his cocks like ? Think your on the wrong site

I'll have to be a messer then. I prefer to fuck a man, not a cock. Best tell my veris tinder!"

Don't tell me hw to use the site or what site to be on thanks. I have no intention of ever having a relationship again but doesn't mean I don't have to see the man's face or get on with him.

Your way isn't the only way. Swinging is about socialising and friendships.

Enjoy the site the way you want to

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By *ensualFunHoveMan
over a year ago

Hove

I'm no stud, but i've had replies to around 30% of the messages I've sent. I haven't sent many messages and out of the ones I have, I'm chatting to around 5 or 6 women and had 3 meets with another tmrw. So I'm not sure what I'm doing right. Maybe location has something to do with it, and sending a message that's normal, friendly and fires a bit of imagination.

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By *reamytitwankCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Well for us Swinging all about meeting other couples. What have you go to swap??

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Well for us Swinging all about meeting other couples. What have you go to swap??"
I don't think of women as currency. So I've got respect to swap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm no stud, but i've had replies to around 30% of the messages I've sent. I haven't sent many messages and out of the ones I have, I'm chatting to around 5 or 6 women and had 3 meets with another tmrw. So I'm not sure what I'm doing right. Maybe location has something to do with it, and sending a message that's normal, friendly and fires a bit of imagination."

Correction

You are a stud.....

Or a big fibber

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some single men on here do well,Jack did before we got together.

It can depend on the profile,the approach you take and the effort you put in tbh.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Well for us Swinging all about meeting other couples. What have you go to swap??"

For you maybe.

To others that's just wife swapping.

Swinging doesn't and never has, excluded singles.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not impossible.

Its pretty easy if you're profile stands out.

Yours doesnt mate.

Change your profile pic and write something less boring.

Get active.

Chin up and keep at it. Try asking for tips off the ladies?

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus"

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun."
Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice and comments folks very much appreciated

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though."

Milf mon @ townhouse £10 for single guys. Hardly extortionate.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples.

It's not impossible, I reply to loads every day. "
was thinking this myself . I reply to most messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though.

Milf mon @ townhouse £10 for single guys. Hardly extortionate."

Another fabber recomended milf monday to me. Do you need to be a member?

A day time event would be perfect for me as i work nights

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Every day same thing in the forum 80% of single men will not get a meet so you need to put in the effort..

Start at club review find one that seen a good fit for you ..

Then go do not drink to much and speak to people friend them on fab and maybe after a few times you may get a play..

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though.

Milf mon @ townhouse £10 for single guys. Hardly extortionate."
Yeah I was referring to some down south. Heard it's like £60 or £70 entrance fees.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though.

Milf mon @ townhouse £10 for single guys. Hardly extortionate.

Another fabber recomended milf monday to me. Do you need to be a member?

A day time event would be perfect for me as i work nights "

No you don't need to be a member but you do need to be on the guest list (think the feb thread has just gone up). It is always a great day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a numbers game on here for single males, so you have to bring your A game and stand out. If you want some friendly advice, your profile does not stand out.

If you bring your A game and still draw a blank, you probably have the wrong A game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still a Fab virgin, it's difficult enough to know what women want in general, let alone on this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples.

We out number them N-1 so you have to do something to stand out.

Public face pics help for getting women to message first i find.

If you're shy sending them with the first message is a good shout"

The having face pics public only really helps when your as good looking as you

fab is a slow process for most single men unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put a little thought and effort into your profile.. Don't use a cock picture as most people on here are fed up of seeing them.. If they want to see it they will ask.fed up of cock pics???? It's a swinging site people forget this if the cock isnt on show what's the point that's what the woman are looking for are they not? Apart from the messers"

I never reply to Cock pics first message. We're all different. But if I want to see that I'll ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get replies everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you suggest?"

A cool picture. I hate responding to a none Avi profile.

Profile otherwise is a very good one if that helps.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

Most of the single guys we get messages from don't read the profile and we don't have time to to and fro to steer them in the right direction.

Since we are advertising exactly what we are after, we expect some kind of specific message introducing oneself and saying what sort of scenario they might like to experience.

Dick pics form 23 different angles (yes there realy was one with 23 different angle dick pics) is really not appealing. If that is the best part of your body then no point sending a face pic. If women want those pics then you can ask and I'm sure they will you if they would welcome them.

People underestimate the appeal of tasteful clothed photos on a site like this, and imagine that it has to be crude and explicit to get attention. Certainly with women I think they are looking for an all over attraction, whereas it's much more body visual for men, legs, bum, breasts. Of course, everyone is different and some ladies might be specifically after big, but I'm sure their profile would state that.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"What would you suggest?"

Leaving x

Why do you extropolate that your poor performance as an individual reflects that of all single guys

You obviously cannot write a profile that attracts a lady to reply , you ask for help but seriously what self respecting woman wants a man who needs step by step direction on how to seduce and interact?

Your problem does NOT rest with you being a single guy , it rests with the fact that what you write in messages and present in your profile is unattractive to ladies on fab

If you without help cannot fathom the solution you should leave else suffer more rejection

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London


"Your profile photo is not appealing."

You should see his face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think guys set themselves up for a fall sometimes. I’ve recently set up a solo profile to meet/chat with other females. It clearly states that I’m not interested in single males. Before I could change my message settings I was literally inundated with mail. I took the time to reply to the first few but soon realised I was wasting my time as the responses I got were either abusive or telling me why I should change my mind and meet them

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Compared with a single sperm our odds are great, keep swimming

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though.

Milf mon @ townhouse £10 for single guys. Hardly extortionate. Yeah I was referring to some down south. Heard it's like £60 or £70 entrance fees."

Yep, with a membership fee of £40 (for a year), added to an entry fee of £30 on the night, that makes a total of £70 (confirmed earlier today) to visit one particular club, South of the North West. They will give you a voucher on the night, for free entry for a month, to any single guy friendly event, so if you could revisit a couple of times, it would be a slightly less bitter pill to swallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others mentioned, bad pic for a profile, and the numbers game. Tons of single guys on here, you need a pic that will standout from the crowd and a bit of creativity in the message. For instance, you could take a full face ,frontal torso pic, and crop it mid face . Shows your smile, lips, jawline and general physique, but still gives you anonymity . I’ve also seen pics mid face up, showing their eyes ( backfired for one . Meanest eyes my girlfriend and I had seen )"

Lol

I know! The eye thing looks creepy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be patient and polite and sonner or later someone will reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no cock pic on your profile so I wouldn’t look further...

See how everyone is different? Just have a good mix of pics including a cock shot

"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If nothing has changed in the last five months it's unlikely to. If your profile reflects you as a person OP, dont change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a club, it’s easier to meet people go with no expectations socialise and if something happens bonus

Exactly.... it annoys me that the men who always moan about not getting meets/replies are the same men who are too much of a pussy to go to a club.

It’s far easier to get chatting to people at a club, and you can have so much unexpected fun. Maybe they can't afford some of the extortionate fees though."

It's not always something someone can do either because of their profession.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, so many men on here are complete dick and they spoil it for the decent ones. It makes you weary when you're constantly wading through drudge.

Our profile couldn't be more clear about who we DON'T want to hear from, yet still they come!

READ THE PROFILES IN FULL, FELLAS!

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

So face pictures are the best thing to do with your profile and no cock pictures??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo no cock pictures

Think about it lads

You wouldn't flash a girl your cock in a pub

If you flashed a girl you'd get nicked

To be honest it's disgusting and degrading to yourself and the female your sending it too.

Delete cock pics !! Why would you need them on your profile ..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"So face pictures are the best thing to do with your profile and no cock pictures??"

Doesn't have to be face - it's up to you whether you show it publically on here or not, but you need to be prepared to at least share it privately via message at some point.

The way to think about pics is are they appealing, and look like some thought has been put into them? Snap one off of your cock over a toilet bowl while going to the loo is not the way to go - but thinking about what might show you in the best light and trying to capture it is a good start.

Cock pics per se aren't a complete no no, and some ladies and couples do like to see them - just they aren't that appealing when they're disembodied and just show the shaft and the head.

Teasing, sensual and arty almost tend to go down better than blatant in your face.

Torso shots, bum shots, and even full body shots that feature your cock but not as the primary focus can all work. Likewise suits, unbuttoned jeans and tight white boxers can all be appealing.

If you're stuck for inspiration don't be frightened to look at other well verified guys pics for ideas.

You need to make sure to have an appealing profile text too though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compared with a single sperm our odds are great, keep swimming"

That is a whole different spin on things I have not come across in these type of threads

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I would suggest go to a club and try tailoring your profile to you and update some of your pictures

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"Who does it seem near on impossible for a single guy to even get a reply of women and couples."

You know what mate it is definitely some nights weekends etc just work on first email with banter it does happen then it again and so on and my thend 6 months you could be looking at a healthy 6-8 a month

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