FabSwingers.com forum: playing at home

By *llycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

doncaster

Is it wrong to play with others downstairs while your kids are upstairs in bed

Has anyone every done it, when struggling for -babysitters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never do that, sorry but I think it's just wrong!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Is it wrong to play with others downstairs while your kids are upstairs in bed

Has anyone every done it, when struggling for -babysitters

I have done it but stopped because it was uncomfortable. There is always a chance they'll hear and wonder whats going on. Nothing to stop them coming downstairs. It just means you can't totally relax and have fun.

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

we have done it,,but only with people we really trust and they no to keep the noise down,lol

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

There will be many arguments for and against this.

You need to ask yourselves a couple of questions.

1. Are the kids so young that they may wake up and require contstant attention, ie babies?

2. Are they old enough to wake up and come downstairs by themselves, ie 4/5 upwards?

If you answe yes to either of these then obviously you can't do it.

If however they go to bed and remain asleep all night, then it should be no problem. The main thing is, only you know whether the children may disturb you.

Then of course and this is aimed at children who may come down stairs, the impact of seeing 4 (or more) adults cavorting naked will have on them.

As already mentioned, you know your kids, so only you can answer the question. Most couples if you explain upfront will be happy to go along with whatever you think is best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never play when the kids are here. I arrange meets for when they are at school if I have a rare day off.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Is it wrong to play with others downstairs while your kids are upstairs in bed

Has anyone every done it, when struggling for -babysitters

depends imo on the age of the kids...anything out of a cot i would not be able to relax.

never played whilst ours were that little ,i was too knackered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve had a few meets at home vuz our kids r under 5 n never so far got up n the gud thing is i now ter safe asleep upstairs n not payin money to babysiters n still wortid i wudnt b able to relax n enjoy. For me at the mo is the best idea n if ur kids sleep well n dnt cme down i think is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children i was invited once to play when the guys child was home in bed. I felt very uncomfortable even discussing the fact that his child was there so, declined. I would not be comfortable doing it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive never needed or wanted sex that much to invite someone who wasnt my partner over to have sex whilst my child was in the house. But thats just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have kids at home (lucky us).

We have declined meets who have said "the kids will stay in their own room if they waken up" as we can not think of anything worse than some half sleepy child walking in on us having fun.

Can't imagine anyone could need sex so bad they are willing to meet strangers with their kids in the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have anyone over even thou my kids are 19 and 22 . Cause you can't hear a pin drop

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We haven't got any kids yet ! but we haven't played at home yet, we cant really work out why as we have a spare room done out for it and all ! I guess its a case of finding the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Played with a couple a few times that had kids at home. One time the little lad wandered into the room...needless to say my hard-on went down quicker then the Titanic...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never do that, sorry but I think it's just wrong!"

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By *llycpl OP Couple
over a year ago

doncaster

kids r behind stair gates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it wrong to play with others downstairs while your kids are upstairs in bed

Has anyone every done it, when struggling for -babysitters

I always do.. My bedroom is downstairs.. I have never really had an issue..

I see it as no different to having a b/f in..

I have a lock on my door and dont play till 10pm..

My kids in all my years of swinging still dont have a clue.. HOWEVER I tend not to have couples, or women over unless no kids in the house.. reason being SHOULD I ever get a knock at the door.. then they have no reason to doubt its my Master.. Had a knock at the door once in god knows how many years..

but it was before play had started..

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is worth actually mentioning though that due to being hyperactive.. my children are actually medicated or they actually do not sleep at all....

So I could throw a party and they wouldnt wake.. ( have thrown a normal party in the past lol )

However, I still have a lock on my door and meet late to minimise the risks...

They are your children, you know best.. but dont let it make you feel that your being a bad parent.. I certainly dont feel bad..

I would just make sure you limit the chances of them walking in.. maybe a lock on whatever room your using..

Cali

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By *om1noMan
over a year ago

South Worcestershire

I once had a meeting with a lady at her house, her hubby was working nights, I arrived and was informed that her kidds were upstairs asleep,the fun started and we were both naked and playing in the lounge, for some reason I looked up towards the lounge glass door and stood watching us was her 13 yr old daughter, oh my god what can you do other than get dressed and go, I felt so ashamed. Iv'e never done it since with kidds about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never play at home with my kids in bed some do tho I have been to people's home twice now when their kids have been in and left on bother occasions as I didn't like the idea

They are your kids tho so how you play is upto you but it's not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done once...someone safe...mmf...the layout of our house allows plenty of notice of night time wanderers and ours sleep through earthquakes...it was fine x prefer club or hotel though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never needed or wanted sex that much to invite someone who wasnt my partner over to have sex whilst my child was in the house. But thats just my opinion"

That pretty much sums it up for me too, I would rather go without till I could get a sitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never play with children in the house, I agree that swinging is not that important to me that I would risk children seeing or hearing sexual activity between groups of adults.

No doubt someone will say that children very often see or hear their own parents having sex, but if I'm going to partake in an adult sexual activity with others, I expect it to be an entirely adult event.

Imagine if children woke up and heard or did come down to explore, is swinging really worth the distress of a child, who knows how that could affect them.

I think its wrong when people discuss swinging with their children too, 15/16 year olds aware of why another couple are visiting.

In my opinion its very wrong and parents prioritise what's more important to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* parents should prioritise what's more important to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done with our long term swinging friends, who my children already know socially. Locked the door and waited until they were surely fast but still I couldn't relax and let go properly, so I wouldn't recommend it for a fun night. Would never ever do it with a new meet, not till you know and trust someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is a very important part of my life but also already said that I don't have couples or women in ... So no groups of people... If I do that its elsewhere or in the day...

Most of my meets with kids in house are quick in and outs and I never really see anything wrong with it..

I play several times a week... And find it something I'm comfortable and happy to do... If I thought my kids were at risk of being upset then I wouldn't.

My oldest two do know I swing... But they are 18 and 20 and one a swinger himself...

It will never be okay for everyone... But no one knows your kids better than you know your own kids...

I couldn't wait for a sitter each time as for one I play to often and always on cam, so need to be at home...

Do I think that I'm a bad parent for having regular fun at home... Not in the slightest as It's just who I am...

My kids are the most important thing in the world to me... But.... I still have my adult time... And It's a big part of who I am... They don't wake up when master and I have fun and I'm a damnsite louder then lol.

To op ... Do what is right for you... But do allow people coming over to know in advance...

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres no way we'd play with anyone with kids in the house. A it's not worth the risk of them seeing something they shouldn't and B we wouldn't be able to relax. Each to their own but it's not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't play in a home where there are kids around at all, incredibly uncomfortable no matter what age

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By *reenworld55Man
over a year ago

dorchester

I once met a couple with a mate of mine and their children were upstairs in bed. It was a bit weird becaue we got the impression that they were over 10 years old, at least!

As the woman decided she only fancied my mate and not me so I was only allowed to watch while the three of them played, it didn't put me off, so to speak, but was rather strange as I'm sure the kids were awake.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I don't have children i was invited once to play when the guys child was home in bed. I felt very uncomfortable even discussing the fact that his child was there so, declined. I would not be comfortable doing it."

Just about sums it up for me too

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

That's why we never accommodate.

I would never even entertain the idea of playing here with my children around or elsewhere where there are children (of any age) and have turned down meets where this has been put forward as the scenario.

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By *om1noMan
over a year ago

South Worcestershire

Certainly a very eclectic responce to this post, but for me the majority vote wins.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I would'nt even want to play at home without the children here

I much prefer going out to play,my home is where I chill out,where im a mum,its not conducive to being a sex goddess,I just don't feel it here

But to answer the OP I would'nt feel comfortable enough to relax and enjoy the fun if there were children around

Its hard enough to try and squeeze a quiet shag in with hubby sometimes at the moment let alone an mmf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its wrong sorry

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

it freaked me out when i was married and my son banged on the bedroom wall and told us to keep the noise down.so no i couldnt and wouldnt

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

"kids r behind stair gates

That sounds safe but I still wouldn't be able to relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is something both Jayne and I would pass on.....

Mark on behalf of Mark and Jayne

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