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"Honestly don’t mention swinging on any vanilla date.... the minute you do , the guys mind will think of threesome’s with you and other women...... Just meet guys and fall in love with one... get married, have kids if you want them.... then when sex starts to slow down bring up swinging as a new adventure for both of you... By then you will have a strong marriage and you can mentally separate sex from love... Don’t worry about all the friends you made swinging or the swinging scene... niether will vanish .... and you can come back to swinging at anytime , it will always be here with new people and the lifers...." . Sound advice | |||
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"Checked out your profile and to be honest i don’t understand why you need to post something relating to you looking for a partner or relationship when your profile seems to suggest that you are maybe very picky and enjoy the attention as not only are beautiful but hold fantastic looking party’s as a single woman ?? yet you put on a run of the mill dating site about your swinging again attention so basically your life is being surrounded by attention for you and that has become a little boring yet if you did find someone and to put up with a life style you are used too it could be hard to find x" Have not put anything about swinging on vanilla dating sites. I've stated on them I'm not looking for hook ups. I know I have had fun as a single woman on here but that's not what I want anymore. I want to enjoy it with a partner | |||
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"Honestly don’t mention swinging on any vanilla date.... the minute you do , the guys mind will think of threesome’s with you and other women...... Just meet guys and fall in love with one... get married, have kids if you want them.... then when sex starts to slow down bring up swinging as a new adventure for both of you... By then you will have a strong marriage and you can mentally separate sex from love... Don’t worry about all the friends you made swinging or the swinging scene... niether will vanish .... and you can come back to swinging at anytime , it will always be here with new people and the lifers...." Thank You, will give this a thought x | |||
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"Checked out your profile and to be honest i don’t understand why you need to post something relating to you looking for a partner or relationship when your profile seems to suggest that you are maybe very picky and enjoy the attention as not only are beautiful but hold fantastic looking party’s as a single woman ?? yet you put on a run of the mill dating site about your swinging again attention so basically your life is being surrounded by attention for you and that has become a little boring yet if you did find someone and to put up with a life style you are used too it could be hard to find x Have not put anything about swinging on vanilla dating sites. I've stated on them I'm not looking for hook ups. I know I have had fun as a single woman on here but that's not what I want anymore. I want to enjoy it with a partner" Sorry I picked that up wrong but I know a single woman from here and she has been on dating site to get away from this but st times when she needs she will post on fab ‘ Try and keep things separate as to be in a relationship with yourself could take an experienced guy with your interests in mind but may not want anything more than FB x | |||
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"So I've just recently updated my profile to reflect what I'm looking for this year and how I want to use this site. I'm on vanilla dating sites too but get the impression that me saying I'm into the swinging lifestyle could make men's views of me very tainted, that I'm somehow disrespecting myself. Also, any mention of swinging leads to men feeling like I'm up for it all the time (I usually am but you get my point ) or that they can't take me seriously. I updated my profile to filter any unwanted messages from people who just want random fucks or hook up but do you think that will have the opposite effect? I'm not asking you to judge my profile and preferences but rather the decision I made to say what it is I'm ultimately looking for on here, which is to date a fellow swinger. I also know that a lot of single men on here aren't "swingers", I'd ideally love what most couples on here have. Do you think perhaps sticking to vanilla dating sites is best and mention swinging at a later point or be honest from the start? " It depends how busy you are on here... If you haven't had a meet for a while, why mention it whilst on another site. People don't need to divulge everything at the start. Take your time on both sides and see which feels best for you (or which one you are more successful with) | |||
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"Honestly don’t mention swinging on any vanilla date.... the minute you do , the guys mind will think of threesome’s with you and other women...... Just meet guys and fall in love with one... get married, have kids if you want them.... then when sex starts to slow down bring up swinging as a new adventure for both of you... By then you will have a strong marriage and you can mentally separate sex from love... Don’t worry about all the friends you made swinging or the swinging scene... niether will vanish .... and you can come back to swinging at anytime , it will always be here with new people and the lifers...." Erm not really. My ex ran off with a swinger.. im left with a messy divorce and kids to raise on my own | |||
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"Hello OP, I completely get where you are... I have already been married and had my kids etc... I found the swinging lifestyle after the breakdown of my marriage.. Like you I have stated on my profile what I am looking for ie. Ideally a swinging relationship... I have been in a swinging relationship before and it was amazing... We played as a couple with other couples... We didn't play seperately as it was about sharing our experiences together... I have tried vanilla dating sites too and gave up very quickly... Just as many single guys on them looking for a quickie as there are on here.. I did have one guy from a vanilla site that I went on a date with, he seemed to genuinely like me for me.... I have since told him about my swinging experience as I wanted to be upfront before any emotional investment... Although he still occasionally chats to me... His interest has definitely wanted.... So to me it seems I am more likely to find someone here... I say stick with it and if the right person is meant to come along they will and it will all work out.. Good luck and I hope we both find what we are looking for xxx " I was once where you and the OP are. Both of you are welcome to message. OP I know we had some “ words” recently about vaginas but past is past and like I said you’re more than welcome to message. I was looking on fab for roughly 2 yrs. So all the things you’ve mentioned rings very relevant to my situation before I met Richard x | |||
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"So I've just recently updated my profile to reflect what I'm looking for this year and how I want to use this site. I'm on vanilla dating sites too but get the impression that me saying I'm into the swinging lifestyle could make men's views of me very tainted, that I'm somehow disrespecting myself. Also, any mention of swinging leads to men feeling like I'm up for it all the time (I usually am but you get my point ) or that they can't take me seriously. I updated my profile to filter any unwanted messages from people who just want random fucks or hook up but do you think that will have the opposite effect? I'm not asking you to judge my profile and preferences but rather the decision I made to say what it is I'm ultimately looking for on here, which is to date a fellow swinger. I also know that a lot of single men on here aren't "swingers", I'd ideally love what most couples on here have. Do you think perhaps sticking to vanilla dating sites is best and mention swinging at a later point or be honest from the start? " Shame you don’t want a younger guy wow hot x | |||
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"Honestly don’t mention swinging on any vanilla date.... the minute you do , the guys mind will think of threesome’s with you and other women...... Just meet guys and fall in love with one... get married, have kids if you want them.... then when sex starts to slow down bring up swinging as a new adventure for both of you... By then you will have a strong marriage and you can mentally separate sex from love... Don’t worry about all the friends you made swinging or the swinging scene... niether will vanish .... and you can come back to swinging at anytime , it will always be here with new people and the lifers.... Erm not really. My ex ran off with a swinger.. im left with a messy divorce and kids to raise on my own " I’m very sorry this has happened..... Some relationships are not meant for swinging | |||
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"So I've just recently updated my profile to reflect what I'm looking for this year and how I want to use this site. I'm on vanilla dating sites too but get the impression that me saying I'm into the swinging lifestyle could make men's views of me very tainted, that I'm somehow disrespecting myself. Also, any mention of swinging leads to men feeling like I'm up for it all the time (I usually am but you get my point ) or that they can't take me seriously. I updated my profile to filter any unwanted messages from people who just want random fucks or hook up but do you think that will have the opposite effect? I'm not asking you to judge my profile and preferences but rather the decision I made to say what it is I'm ultimately looking for on here, which is to date a fellow swinger. I also know that a lot of single men on here aren't "swingers", I'd ideally love what most couples on here have. Do you think perhaps sticking to vanilla dating sites is best and mention swinging at a later point or be honest from the start? " Could it be you are looking in the wrong places? Find out who you are and what you want, hedonists don't do well on vanilla sites, so stay clear if you identify as one. And if you think you are not one or unsure, don't go searching in sites like fabs. In my humble years in life, I have found knowing what you want goes a long way in filtering out undesirables. Give it time, you will meet someone who will tick most of your boxes. | |||
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