FabSwingers.com forum: Single Males at Clubs?

By *ornyAndy25 OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Is it worth doing?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

If you're outgoing and confident it is yeah. If not pray for some nymphomaniacs.

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By *yronutMan
over a year ago

St Austell

You won’t know till you try. Be happy and respectful and you never know what might happen.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope

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By *ornyAndy25 OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope "

Intending to go and be friendly and a gentleman and if anything happens then it's a bonus

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"Is it worth doing? "

Might take a bit of time to work your way through ‘em. Have that third Shredded Wheat first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope

Intending to go and be friendly and a gentleman and if anything happens then it's a bonus "

Best attitude to have- I’ve been heading to clubs as a single since 2013 and just being social can get you far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope

Intending to go and be friendly and a gentleman and if anything happens then it's a bonus "

That's the best way to look at it .. I'm sure you will do ok .. You're a young good looking lad .. Always be polite and respectful and look at the Club rules and etiquette before you go ... Have fun and enjoy the experience... Most of my meets these days are in the club's.. You'll be fine

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you pick the right clubs and swinging is something that you like, I think clubs are good for single men. You guys pay more than others, so be selective on the club, their nights, costs and facilities.

If you are less certain and do well on fab, it's feasible to just enjoy yourself in other ways, potentially at lower cost.

I like clubs and also regular partners and a regular partner offers different experiences than just having very casual action. Everyone likes different things, so we can all follow our tastes etc

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By *ifuwMan
over a year ago

Hull

"If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope

Intending to go and be friendly and a gentleman and if anything happens then it's a bonus "

That's my attitude and I always do well. I even got invited to a group fun. That started because I politely kept a door closed so a lovely lady could go to the toilet. I always dress to impress too Which I feels helps me

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By *ornyAndy25 OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks for that, great advice!

Might see if anyone wants to go with me the first time

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I’m a huge fan of clubs and these days most of my meets are in clubs. I primarily neet single guys and would echo what others have said above - be social, pleasant and watch body language signals and you’ll do just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s nothing more off putting or creepy than a single bloke flittering from group to group, with hand outstretched, forcefully introducing himself and trying to intrude on conversations between friends. “Hi, I’m Brian”. “Good for you, Brian, now jog on”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dress to impress, be social but not too much 'in your face'. Don't just stare at people but do initiate conversation, even just 'hi', or smile. Please do not join the ranks of 'wanking dead', it is so off-putting.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"There’s nothing more off putting or creepy than a single bloke flittering from group to group, with hand outstretched, forcefully introducing himself and trying to intrude on conversations between friends. “Hi, I’m Brian”. “Good for you, Brian, now jog on”"

I'll try to say this in the hope that it doesn't cause offence as that's not my intention. But you sound like you'd be better suited to attending couples only events.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll try to say this in the hope that it doesn't cause offence as that's not my intention. But you sound like you'd be better suited to attending couples only events."

That's what I thought as my experience over the years of going to clubs hasn't been anything like suggested and I prefer club nights with single guys as I don't always fancy yet another threesome to fulfil fantasy for couples if being with another woman.

I'm part of a couple and we don't play together so in my view single guys are welcome. Never come across Brian mind

Eski

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

There's a big difference between joining a group at an appropriate point versus interrupting conversation totally out of the blue. One is polite and confident, the other is rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a huge fan of clubs and these days most of my meets are in clubs. I primarily neet single guys and would echo what others have said above - be social, pleasant and watch body language signals and you’ll do just fine. "

Great advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dress to impress, be social but not too much 'in your face'. Don't just stare at people but do initiate conversation, even just 'hi', or smile. Please do not join the ranks of 'wanking dead', it is so off-putting. "

Another good post on this topic!

Go for it Andy. You will be fine. Let us know how your experience was if you don't mind. That would help any lurkers/newbies reading

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If you can chat and make an impression then yes. If you go thinking it's an easy way to get sex then nope

Intending to go and be friendly and a gentleman and if anything happens then it's a bonus

This approach works for us. Go for eye contact, not staring. Make sure you smile, don’t monopolise, dress smartly and your chances go through the roof!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Go to a few socials first. If you are pleasant and sociable (you don't have to be an Adonis) you will soon find out what clubs people are going to and then you will already know some people when you get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll try to say this in the hope that it doesn't cause offence as that's not my intention. But you sound like you'd be better suited to attending couples only events."

No offence taken. We do try to attend couples only nights, but some clubs don’t have them and let a limited number of single blokes in. It’s not a problem if they don’t try to invade other people’s conversations, etc. I think an earlier poster mentioned making eye contact before anything else, to gauge reaction. Just like anyone with social skills would do in any other scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it worth doing? "

Absolutely yes, most clubs would be worse without.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Is it worth doing? "

Depends what you’re looking for while you’re there, and who is there at the same time as you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick the right kind of event, closest to what you're looking for. And hopefully it'll work out for you.

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over a year ago

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

There a bit pricey for single guys if you want to pay for it and nowts guaranteeing ,you just never know, all depends who's in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it harder than it should be as a single bi woman but have more of an enjoyable social night on the evenings single guys are allowed in !!

Like many have said dress to impress be social and respectful and you’ll have a great time ( go with no expectations )

Please please please do not be one of the single guys that follow couples and women around in play areas in hope to get an invite or something for the wank bank that is just creepy x

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Is it worth doing? "

It all depends on who is in on the night and which club but then I would say yes so why not give it a go.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Go to a few socials first. If you are pleasant and sociable (you don't have to be an Adonis) you will soon find out what clubs people are going to and then you will already know some people when you get there.

This is a very good piece of advice for a single guy, and something I wish I'd been told before venturing in to the club scene. Arriving 'cold' as a single guy in one of these places, not knowing a single face inside, is a tough gig not for the fainthearted! Better to know someone who is going, so you won't be rattling around like a lost soul, get bored and leave early

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife

"Is it worth doing? "

Ask a friend F preferred and bounce off each other of you spend many hours standing somewhere looking at evermove that’s made because of confidence and then there’s the I will have another drink could end up becoming another confused d*unk ?? person!!! Lol

I couldn’t do at a single bloke mate and prices quoted with everything else .... take your time ask who’s goong and chat away and you are then in your own small group bitchen bout others lol couldn’t resist that hehe ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been a few times and it’s sort of ok but I’ve been insulted by people as well. as single guys seem to be fair game for people to have a go at. Be prepared to take a few knock backs but try and be cheerful and you should be ok.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"There a bit pricey for single guys if you want to pay for it and nowts guaranteeing ,you just never know, all depends who's in lol

Pricey in comparison to what?

Generally cheaper than a ticket to a premiership football match and lasts longer than 90 minutes. Scoring, like the football, is not guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There a bit pricey for single guys if you want to pay for it and nowts guaranteeing ,you just never know, all depends who's in lol

Pricey in comparison to what?

Generally cheaper than a ticket to a premiership football match and lasts longer than 90 minutes. Scoring, like the football, is not guaranteed.

difference being man or woman you pay the same price at a football match.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Come to one of my Sat night parties coming up in Feb and I am a sure you'll do well a good looking single guy like yourself!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Come to one of my Sat night parties coming up in Feb and I am a sure you'll do well a good looking single guy like yourself!

Oh and our parties at SX are very fairly priced!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"There a bit pricey for single guys if you want to pay for it and nowts guaranteeing ,you just never know, all depends who's in lol

Pricey in comparison to what?

Generally cheaper than a ticket to a premiership football match and lasts longer than 90 minutes. Scoring, like the football, is not guaranteed.

difference being man or woman you pay the same price at a football match."

True. On that note...when there's 22 women running around a football pitch the entry fees are less, yet men are less likely to go. They'd probably gladly go to a club with the same number though......

But as we all know if entry fees were the same there'd be a premiership sized crowd of single men all chasing those 22 women.

It's a funny old game....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go, it’s a bit nerve wracking the first few times. But if you go to the right clubs it will be fine. Prob find yourself being approached by couples / females.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"There a bit pricey for single guys if you want to pay for it and nowts guaranteeing ,you just never know, all depends who's in lol

Pricey in comparison to what?

Generally cheaper than a ticket to a premiership football match and lasts longer than 90 minutes. Scoring, like the football, is not guaranteed.

difference being man or woman you pay the same price at a football match.

But as we all know if entry fees were the same there'd be a premiership sized crowd of single men all chasing those 22 women.

It's a funny old game....

It matters not, the gender of the people playing football, the fact is, the entry fee into the stadium is the same for all.

If entry fees in to swingers clubs were the same for males and females, the likely outcome would be a similar amount of single guys, but less single women, because let’s face it; clubs aren’t going to reduce the fees for guys are they? No, so the reality is, more people would ‘couple up’ before going in

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Hi Andy.

Great Post. Advise we would give is that if you are talking to a Couple then engage with both the Male and Fem.

You would get nowhere with us if you were to be drooling over the fem whilst trying to “Chat her Up” and ignoring the Male. It does happen.

We enjoy playing with guys in Clubs but they do need to engage with us instead of being a mute, wanking zombie.

Good luck and enjoy xxxxxxx

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By *outhEastPaulMan
over a year ago

Thames Ditton surrey

Some good advice here and nice to see a thread being helpful and staying to the point - I would only add making eye contact with people works well amazing how much can be communicated at a distance and if it’s a couple try and make it with both of them - Also Don’t follow the herd I imagine for a Lady or Couple there is nothing worse than constantly being followed by a group of guys every time they move. I’ve definitely had more success staying away from the following groups and using good eye contact and being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be like the dickheads we met standing at the end of the bed waving their cock trying to suck toes.

Weirdos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t be like the dickheads we met standing at the end of the bed waving their cock trying to suck toes.

Weirdos"

Ewwwwww lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some nice guys in clubs so if you are one then another won't harm and people do play with them. Oh and nobody has ever tried to suck my toes thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do most of our meeting/ playing at clubs now. We are always on the hunt for single guys. If they are bi then even better! There's usually a group of us that go together and we would always welcome anyone into our group to chat. I bet it's quite daunting going on your own. I'm sure u will do just fine xxmiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it worth doing? "

Hell yeah. Just step out of your comfort zone if you’re not very confident and go and chat to people. Be brave and just introduce yourself because the other folk are there to meet people too, just might not be that outgoing either. If you’re not what they’re looking for, it’ll come up in conversation, but it’ll also set you ahead of the other single guys as people will have seen you be chatty and outgoing.

Good luck to any single guys reading this as you’ll need it, but will also be head and shoulders above the rest if you just try and mingle

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

A clubs A club

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By *essons in LustCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Is it worth doing?

Depends what you’re looking for while you’re there, and who is there at the same time as you

We prefer nights with single guys but the above is true .

It’s not so much the club you attend but more who’s there on the night as it varies massively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's worth it if you go simply to meet new people, chat to them, have a laugh, make new friends and have expectations of anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've thought about this for quite a while. After reading this thread I'm going to see about going to one

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By *launt Thy CurvesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Pandora Club, Leeds, 15th Mar 2025

We host parties in a club where the guys pay £30 to get in on a Sat night. They bring their own booze so say they spend a tenner on beer they bring in.

A Sat night out for £40? See if you can do that in a nightclub and also have the opportunity to meet like-minded people, listen to good music, play pool and have a hot tub and sauna!!

You may even get laid or fulfil your fantasies!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Absolutely, even if the people you know aren't potential playmates it all helps with networking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of good advice on here. I find going to clubs much easier than trying to arrange private meets. Every night is a different experience, I'm always meeting new people. Being polite and sociable helps a lot, but remember nothing is guaranteed.

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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

How did this pan out? Wonders )))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Milf Monday At Townhouse - would be ideal ! Check it on events - you’ll get a warm welcome and there are a lot of couples and ladies - ideal

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Is it worth doing? "

I think if you're fortunate to have a decent club on your doorstep (which the OP is), then becoming a regular, getting your face known by visiting at the times a single guy is allowed in, then yes, in the long run, it is worth the effort and expense to be a single guy in the club scene.

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