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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

Keeping an eye on this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were the same. Just be honest with the couple you want to meet. We made it clear that it was possible that the gf might change her mind as soon as the female of the couple touched me. She gets very jealous and protective but luckily it went ok.

I still get a little on edge when we invite a single guy to join us but you just gotta keep telling yourself it’s just sex, nothing more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We were the same. Just be honest with the couple you want to meet. We made it clear that it was possible that the gf might change her mind as soon as the female of the couple touched me. She gets very jealous and protective but luckily it went ok.

I still get a little on edge when we invite a single guy to join us but you just gotta keep telling yourself it’s just sex, nothing more "

Thank you, that has helped me. Especially just remembering it's only sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication and reassuring each other is key. You just need a patient couple that’s all

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By *r n mrs swingCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Communication and reassuring each other is key. You just need a patient couple that’s all "

Thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x"

Yeah, it's not really a pleasant feeling (at the moment) whenever I think about a woman with Stevo!

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By *aucy sausageMan
over a year ago

Gentleshaw


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

Bit confused as your veris include 6 couples, or were they just socials??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out as a “watch only” couple and loved just to watch and be around others that were naked and also getting off by watching us. But recently soft swapped and one particular time was incredible and something we would defo do again but only with the right couple. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following to hear everyone’s opinion / experiences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Communication and reassuring each other is key. You just need a patient couple that’s all

Thank you very much "

You’re welcome.

We’re basically in the same position and prefer to watch couples having sex whilst we have sex. It’s just finding them haha

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx

Bit confused as your veris include 6 couples, or were they just socials??"

The 6 couple veris are cam veris!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We started out as a “watch only” couple and loved just to watch and be around others that were naked and also getting off by watching us. But recently soft swapped and one particular time was incredible and something we would defo do again but only with the right couple. X"

That's a good idea, to just start off watching first and ease into it eventually! Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Communication and reassuring each other is key. You just need a patient couple that’s all

Thank you very much

You’re welcome.

We’re basically in the same position and prefer to watch couples having sex whilst we have sex. It’s just finding them haha

Best of luck "

Yeah I would like to have sex with Stevo whilst watching another couple in the same room have sex too!! That's be a good way to gently ease into eventually swapping with each other! Thanks love x

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By *urious Notts coupleCouple
over a year ago

Long eaton

We have met a fair few couples and been there first time. We tend to start by just having a general meet with no expectations and then just seeing what happens, no pressure.

We have had one occasion where we started playing but then the Mrs of the other couple wasn't happy with things so we all stopped and just ended up with our own partners. It really wasn't an issue. We have dropped you a message anyway, we'd be happy to have a chat and see where things lead. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have met a fair few couples and been there first time. We tend to start by just having a general meet with no expectations and then just seeing what happens, no pressure.

We have had one occasion where we started playing but then the Mrs of the other couple wasn't happy with things so we all stopped and just ended up with our own partners. It really wasn't an issue. We have dropped you a message anyway, we'd be happy to have a chat and see where things lead. X"

Ah ok I see, glad that wasn't an issue! And no pressure is great I'd much rather see a couple who are very understanding and if things don't go as planned, that's fine for them! I'll message you back now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us, before we first started swapping with other couples, we talked a lot about what we both wanted, and how we felt.

It was a step into an unknown world for us both, and so we had a few rules about if one of us had any qualms before or during the meet we'd both stop.

But we soon discovered we love so much seeing each other having great fun with other people. Plus as was mentioned earlier, its sex, just sex, and it cant affect the love we have for each other.

Talk to the other couple and make sure they know its your first time seeing him with another girl. I'm sure they'll be sympathetic and help turn your worries into an event you'll remember positively for a long time.

Go at whatever speed you need to progress, and enjoy yourself, you have some amazing experiences to come!

M&J xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For us, before we first started swapping with other couples, we talked a lot about what we both wanted, and how we felt.

It was a step into an unknown world for us both, and so we had a few rules about if one of us had any qualms before or during the meet we'd both stop.

But we soon discovered we love so much seeing each other having great fun with other people. Plus as was mentioned earlier, its sex, just sex, and it cant affect the love we have for each other.

Talk to the other couple and make sure they know its your first time seeing him with another girl. I'm sure they'll be sympathetic and help turn your worries into an event you'll remember positively for a long time.

Go at whatever speed you need to progress, and enjoy yourself, you have some amazing experiences to come!

M&J xx"

Thank you for your very kind message M&J.

You definitely have made me feel more at ease than before!

Best wishes xx

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x"

This is the total opposite of us. I get massively turned on by Mr playing with other women. Tho we are secure in what we have and are able to distinguish it's just sex.

For those who don't like sharing what brought you to a swingers site? Not saying you should not be here but genuinely wondering why try swinging if you are not secure and suffer from jealousy.

Mrs R

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By *appy69coupleCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

this sounds backwards but meet at a club rather than someone's house or a hotel.

It's much easier to slip away to the bar if you're not comfortable than it is to fully pack up and go home.

Also talk to each other and set some strong ground rules and a safe word. We use coffee. Either one of us at any time can say "I fancy a coffee" or "can we have a coffee first" then it's game over no questions asked.

lovely pics btw x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x

This is the total opposite of us. I get massively turned on by Mr playing with other women. Tho we are secure in what we have and are able to distinguish it's just sex.

For those who don't like sharing what brought you to a swingers site? Not saying you should not be here but genuinely wondering why try swinging if you are not secure and suffer from jealousy.

Mrs R"

Well, for us, we joined because Stevo likes to watch men play with me.

I'd be fine playing mff, because I'd get the interaction from the female too, yet when it's mmff, I just feel as if Stevo would be all over the woman and not all over me at all. But I do want to try swapping.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"this sounds backwards but meet at a club rather than someone's house or a hotel.

It's much easier to slip away to the bar if you're not comfortable than it is to fully pack up and go home.

Also talk to each other and set some strong ground rules and a safe word. We use coffee. Either one of us at any time can say "I fancy a coffee" or "can we have a coffee first" then it's game over no questions asked.

lovely pics btw x "

That's actually really good advice to meet at a club! The coffee thing is great too, thanks for the brilliant ideas. Helps a lot.

And thank you! I love your pics, female is very hot indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, for us, we joined because Stevo likes to watch men play with me.

I'd be fine playing mff, because I'd get the interaction from the female too, yet when it's mmff, I just feel as if Stevo would be all over the woman and not all over me at all. But I do want to try swapping."

We never see our meets as just swapping. There's two guys, two girls (and we nearly always play with couples where the girl is bi), and it just turns into a mass of bodies. The best meets we have had are where its a very fluid situation, and we're constantly changing the way things are happening.

Of course, the first thing is to talk to your partner if you are worried about how he'll treat the meet.

You could always just try a couples night at a club, and take small steps from there. Talk to other couples over a drink or in a hot tub, and try just a bit of soft swap at first.

M&J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Communication and reassuring each other is key. You just need a patient couple that’s all

Thank you very much

You’re welcome.

We’re basically in the same position and prefer to watch couples having sex whilst we have sex. It’s just finding them haha

Best of luck "

Our first meet was with a lovely Scottish couple for same room, same partners, very much enjoyed by all and very erotic. X

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By *appy69coupleCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"this sounds backwards but meet at a club rather than someone's house or a hotel.

It's much easier to slip away to the bar if you're not comfortable than it is to fully pack up and go home.

Also talk to each other and set some strong ground rules and a safe word. We use coffee. Either one of us at any time can say "I fancy a coffee" or "can we have a coffee first" then it's game over no questions asked.

lovely pics btw x

That's actually really good advice to meet at a club! The coffee thing is great too, thanks for the brilliant ideas. Helps a lot.

And thank you! I love your pics, female is very hot indeed "

straight back at you! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we are new to this and in the same situation we have been married 22 years the thought of it really turns us on but it’s a big leap to the next stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most couples worry when they first swap.

Maybe meet a soft swap couple, so it's not a complete swap and see how you feel.

Try it in a club setting so you can have an excuse to leave the situation, like needing a drink if it's to intense. Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're not of the mindset that its just sex, not love and you feel a sense of ownership of your partner don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're not of the mindset that its just sex, not love and you feel a sense of ownership of your partner don't do it."

This

Ive never associated sex + love.. its just a fuck! Love watching a guy fucking Mrs Badcherry and I know she loves watching me with another guys wife. No jelousy, no hang ups and after its over neither of us feel like we’ve even been with anyone else.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we don’t know about the op but we are definately learning from this discussion.

Most importantly to stop seeing it as swapping, it’s sharing.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x

This is the total opposite of us. I get massively turned on by Mr playing with other women. Tho we are secure in what we have and are able to distinguish it's just sex.

For those who don't like sharing what brought you to a swingers site? Not saying you should not be here but genuinely wondering why try swinging if you are not secure and suffer from jealousy.

Mrs R

Well, for us, we joined because Stevo likes to watch men play with me.

I'd be fine playing mff, because I'd get the interaction from the female too, yet when it's mmff, I just feel as if Stevo would be all over the woman and not all over me at all. But I do want to try swapping."

We have done the mmff thing where it was just 2 couples straight swopping and tbh it didnt do much for mr. It was just like straight sex but with another fella. However where everyone is involved (no bi play between the males), that makes a difference. Everyone is having fun and its not just a case of watching your other half banging away. Communication is key between everyone. One of my bug bares is play stops once we leave that play room, carry it on and it feels strange. Not jealous as such more an uneasy feeling I can't put my finger on.

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By *appy69coupleCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"If you're not of the mindset that its just sex, not love and you feel a sense of ownership of your partner don't do it.

This

Ive never associated sex + love.. its just a fuck! Love watching a guy fucking Mrs Badcherry and I know she loves watching me with another guys wife. No jelousy, no hang ups and after its over neither of us feel like we’ve even been with anyone else.

Mr "

completely agree with this!

it's a way for me to provide penny with the chance of a bigger? better? but at least different orgasm than I can. and vice versa.

Variety is the spice of life for a reason.

love one but fuck 'em all I say.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We would answer this differently in the first few months of swinging vs now.

To start with, whilst we talked, we were both scared of hurting each other by letting go and doing what we really wanted. We have learnt that we are both quite relaxed with each other enjoying fun with others.

Most of our concerns were about by being inner selves we might hurt our partner - our communication improved and we realised we just wanted each other to have a good time. We have our limits, we only do this together, no bareback except with own partner, but beyond that...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys.

I've thought about the whole swapping/sharing scenario all day today and I'm more towards the whole situation now.

I think a club scenario would be the first step. I think personally for me, I'll be fine once I get into it, it's probably just gone through my mind a little bit too much!

Sex is just sex right! As long as I know he loves me, it's just a whole lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys.

I've thought about the whole swapping/sharing scenario all day today and I'm more towards the whole situation now.

I think a club scenario would be the first step. I think personally for me, I'll be fine once I get into it, it's probably just gone through my mind a little bit too much!

Sex is just sex right! As long as I know he loves me, it's just a whole lot of fun "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had the problem..maybe swinging is really not for you... you have to fully trust each other and not be jealous..it's about the sex and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have never had the problem..maybe swinging is really not for you... you have to fully trust each other and not be jealous..it's about the sex and nothing else. "

Sorry just read your profile and varies..strange one that..it will be fine I'm sure..bite the bullet and see how it goes..if it does not work for you ..than no need to do it again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have never had the problem..maybe swinging is really not for you... you have to fully trust each other and not be jealous..it's about the sex and nothing else.

Sorry just read your profile and varies..strange one that..it will be fine I'm sure..bite the bullet and see how it goes..if it does not work for you ..than no need to do it again "

Yeah, I mean we're a confident couple and think the world of each other, I'm just a bit of a weird one I think. But that's perfect advice, just bite the bullet, which I shall! And if i dont like it, then I dont like it.

Cheers

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By *nigma73Couple
over a year ago

Exeter

We talked it through quite a bit prior to our first meet.... found we were both turned on by the idea.

Not looked back since.

We always need to feel a click and attraction at a social level. Like the coffee suggestion earlier we have our own ‘code’ too.... and we won’t take one for the team... a ‘no’ from one of us is a ‘no’ from both of us.

First time we weren’t sure how we’ feel afterwards..... discovered we were horny.

We both freely admit we love seeing each other with others. It is just sex. A chance to let go....

Go at a pace you’re both comfortable with and enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We talked it through quite a bit prior to our first meet.... found we were both turned on by the idea.

Not looked back since.

We always need to feel a click and attraction at a social level. Like the coffee suggestion earlier we have our own ‘code’ too.... and we won’t take one for the team... a ‘no’ from one of us is a ‘no’ from both of us.

First time we weren’t sure how we’ feel afterwards..... discovered we were horny.

We both freely admit we love seeing each other with others. It is just sex. A chance to let go....

Go at a pace you’re both comfortable with and enjoy x"

We use a code too but the first time we swapped I (mr) forgot the code

Luckily it all worked out

Codes are great though

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By *ustkrissMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I worried about this but we met a couple at a club and it really turned me on watching him pleasure her. I kinda forgot my worries and just enjoyed the sex. I'm even looking forward to the next party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x

This is the total opposite of us. I get massively turned on by Mr playing with other women. Tho we are secure in what we have and are able to distinguish it's just sex.

For those who don't like sharing what brought you to a swingers site? Not saying you should not be here but genuinely wondering why try swinging if you are not secure and suffer from jealousy.

Mrs R"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you're not of the mindset that its just sex, not love and you feel a sense of ownership of your partner don't do it.

This

Ive never associated sex + love.. its just a fuck! Love watching a guy fucking Mrs Badcherry and I know she loves watching me with another guys wife. No jelousy, no hang ups and after its over neither of us feel like we’ve even been with anyone else.

Mr "

Yeah Mr loves watching me with another guy and I'm more than happy for him to experience things I don't have in my skill set e.g. deep throat.

We go home together at the end of the night, that's the important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are married for past 19 years, been dating for 4 years before that. Had a solid strong relationship. Our first swap, I still remember on our wedding anniversary last year.

I was more nervous than the Mrs. She changed into a sexy lingerie and sat on the other guys lap, I was still in my clothes and nervous. Then the lady sat next to me and started holding my hand.

Needless to say that we both were shocked to find each other in strangers arms lol

Anyway the experience was lovely, they put to us at ease.

No sex happened but we played a lot.

We never felt jealous but it kind of turned us on a lot. We maintained eye to eye contact throughout the play.

When we shared our experience later that night, we both laughed at each others performances.

I think if you keep it simple then there won't be any jealousy.

Just think it as a sharing fun.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

I thought I would have a problem seeing Janine have sex with another man. When it came down to it, I found it amazing, such a turn on. Now love it so much weather its a another guy for a 3sum or a full swap with a couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble maybe you are thinking about the swapping partners, maybe think of it as an all encompassing play with 4 people involved, maybe the 2 girls sharing one cock or 1 girl getting 2 cocks, or one lady getting oral from the other lady while sucking a cock and the oral giver getting oral too, etc etc etc use your imagination, it’s about doing stuff you can’t do as just a MF couple

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By *r n mrs swingCouple
over a year ago

pontefract


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x

This is the total opposite of us. I get massively turned on by Mr playing with other women. Tho we are secure in what we have and are able to distinguish it's just sex.

For those who don't like sharing what brought you to a swingers site? Not saying you should not be here but genuinely wondering why try swinging if you are not secure and suffer from jealousy.

Mrs R

Well, for us, we joined because Stevo likes to watch men play with me.

I'd be fine playing mff, because I'd get the interaction from the female too, yet when it's mmff, I just feel as if Stevo would be all over the woman and not all over me at all. But I do want to try swapping."

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By *r n mrs swingCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

Exactly that he likes to watch i Don't each to there own X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

Full swap for us was from day one mainly because I don't do group play it's not something im into and never will be. So kinda forced it down that road. I suppose learning the art of disconnect is key here, if you can't master or control your feelings a full swap situation will never really work.

Trim

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

My worry is more that the male half will fly into a jealous rage and I'll have to run away down the street in the nip, clutching my shoes and clothes in a bundle...

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

We agreed to stay in arms reach keep eye contact with each other as much as poss and asking if things were ok happy type of thing and did not kiss others iether ...

If one leaves the room all stop unles it’s your partner in the room but breaks good and if boundaries were over stepped meet would stop !!!

Yes sounds a lot but through time things got knocked off heading to the loo or drink but carry on guys if all happy too etc hope it helps x

Mercy xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would answer this differently in the first few months of swinging vs now.

To start with, whilst we talked, we were both scared of hurting each other by letting go and doing what we really wanted. We have learnt that we are both quite relaxed with each other enjoying fun with others.

Most of our concerns were about by being inner selves we might hurt our partner - our communication improved and we realised we just wanted each other to have a good time. We have our limits, we only do this together, no bareback except with own partner, but beyond that... "

That's exactly what happened to us. Worries how one of us would feel if the other did one thing or the other. We had plenty of reassurances for each other but no real answers. So we just jumped into the deep end with the thought that if one of us felt very uneasy about something we'd stop the play. Otherwise talk about it after between ourselves to find out how we felt about things.

The couple we were with could see we were nervous and were very patient with us. We didn't stop the play once other than for a bit off food and dring. We've actually run out of time available to carry on. It was great and we've realised that we're far more relaxed about a lot of things than we initially thought.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My worry is more that the male half will fly into a jealous rage and I'll have to run away down the street in the nip, clutching my shoes and clothes in a bundle... "

We actually know a guy who this happened to! He didn’t even have time to grab his clothes though

The male half of the couple did get him a couple of times with his baseball bat too and he smashed through a door with it! Scary stuff

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

The club suggestion is a great idea. Just go out to a good club where you can stay in the bar area if you choose.

Start slow and work up. You maybe nervous but if your communication is on point and you are comfortable with each other then when the time is right and you've met the right couple you will know.

Just don't dive into he deepend, one step at a time and you'll see that actually sex is a lot of fun when am four of you are on the same page.

You don't have to get a kick from watching your partnerY you just need to be able to seperate fun sex from what you share as a couple if your relationship is strong you will realise that fun sex doesn't even come close to what you share so it is never a threat there's no emotion just fun.

I don't get a kick from watching Mrs P but I love her to have a good time and we can do that together all four having a great time.

Don't over think it.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

The first couple we played with were great fun, as all those that we've played with have been. The value of a non rushed social first certainly helps with subsequent meets in this respect. Having the honesty to be objective about can really see yourselves with the other couples before removing your clothes, we believe helps enormously break down the naked in front of others barrier.

This to us is the biggest barrier, plus in not being able to accommodate, we are out of our familiar environment and in a vulnerable position. Establishing trust is so key into the couples swapping thing, so again a successful social asking and listening to what each wants from swinging sets the way any further liasons go, or don't if thats how it pans out.

We would and do indulge in further good times with those who we have been with, and would gladly do so again, it says so much about them and why we went with them to begin with that makes that easy to say.

Hope you OP can have the ride we've had in terms of being comfortable in your own experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

Yes it was amazing, and waking up the next morning and fuckingcwhile discussing it was even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swing with anotger couple first. See how that goes - it is likely to be very arousibg. Perhaps touches and caresses between couples will take you closer to swappibg. We then met a couple and adter a drink or two and chat, we swapped fully. One swwp was compatible and noisy, the other wasn’t, that time. Live and learn.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Sorry, can’t help with this one as we don’t couple swap.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We would answer this differently in the first few months of swinging vs now.

To start with, whilst we talked, we were both scared of hurting each other by letting go and doing what we really wanted. We have learnt that we are both quite relaxed with each other enjoying fun with others.

Most of our concerns were about by being inner selves we might hurt our partner - our communication improved and we realised we just wanted each other to have a good time. We have our limits, we only do this together, no bareback except with own partner, but beyond that...

That's exactly what happened to us. Worries how one of us would feel if the other did one thing or the other. We had plenty of reassurances for each other but no real answers. So we just jumped into the deep end with the thought that if one of us felt very uneasy about something we'd stop the play. Otherwise talk about it after between ourselves to find out how we felt about things.

The couple we were with could see we were nervous and were very patient with us. We didn't stop the play once other than for a bit off food and dring. We've actually run out of time available to carry on. It was great and we've realised that we're far more relaxed about a lot of things than we initially thought.

Mrs "

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"We would answer this differently in the first few months of swinging vs now.

To start with, whilst we talked, we were both scared of hurting each other by letting go and doing what we really wanted. We have learnt that we are both quite relaxed with each other enjoying fun with others.

Most of our concerns were about by being inner selves we might hurt our partner - our communication improved and we realised we just wanted each other to have a good time. We have our limits, we only do this together, no bareback except with own partner, but beyond that...

That's exactly what happened to us. Worries how one of us would feel if the other did one thing or the other. We had plenty of reassurances for each other but no real answers. So we just jumped into the deep end with the thought that if one of us felt very uneasy about something we'd stop the play. Otherwise talk about it after between ourselves to find out how we felt about things.

The couple we were with could see we were nervous and were very patient with us. We didn't stop the play once other than for a bit off food and dring. We've actually run out of time available to carry on. It was great and we've realised that we're far more relaxed about a lot of things than we initially thought.

Mrs "

This was us exactly. We thought go for it and rethink if not happy after. But it was awesome & the start of lots of fun. But for others they start at soft play & stay at that level. We know some who'd love to move to full but too scared to spoil the comfort level they are at.

It's not a one fit for all eh

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

As long as boundaries are discussed first by all parties then honoured, no still means no, tgen it's fine as has been said it's only sex. Male

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Ours is probably a similar story to most

Private room locked door

Then the same but with a window

Then a quick visit to a couples room , if it was empty

Then it's , oh there's some one in there , so why not

3 sums mmf and ffm with penetration

Couples where am 4 play , but no penetration

it's not that we won't swap

It's just never happened

And we've never had any complaints !

Things are set to change over the next few weeks though

We've got 3 meets that may well go that way

It's all a learning curve and communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had our first meet with a couple last weekend . It was amazing , blew our minds . WOW just WOW

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By *bwmusicgeeksCouple
over a year ago

BW

I don’t feel that there’s anything wrong with that personally, we’ve only had one full swap, in... 2 years? We go to clubs and do the soft swap thing but communication is key. Our relationship (as most couples on here) is incredibly important to us, so it’s normal to be feeling protective of your significant other, and your relationship. We’ve not ruled out another full swap, but it’ll happen when it happens.

It might come off one day, it might not, but don’t put too much pressure on yourselves to meet up. I personally find clubs a lot easier to just observe, and just fit into the situation as opposed to putting all this pressure on yourselves to meet and ‘entertain’ another couple. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to at clubs, and we’ve met some absolutely lovely people there that have really understood our nerves. Clubs are just as known for socialising as for sex

I hope this helps? Or is at least a little reassuring? Good luck

E xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, we've yet to have met any couples and 'swapped' with each other's partners. Although the idea of it turns me on massively, i cannot help but feel massively protective and jealous whenever we have couples taking an interest of a meet with us.

I'm wanting to know what was your first 'swap' experience like? Was it all good, or is it something you have to ease yourselves into?

Were into the same boat maybe we should meet and both experiment boundries :p haha x

Thanks,

Mercy xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a first time couple and had a fantastic time they fully enjoyed the threesome and then the Steve the hubby said he would like a female to join us so I asked a girl I know to join us for the next meet, and it started off great I we all started to strip and have fun and ended up in the bed room where all four of us was having fun and they I was with the wife while hubby was with my female friend and then we swapped and that was when things went wrong because the hubby could not get hard for his wife so Michelle the wife got very up set and it spoiled the meet , she enjoyed having fun but did not like seeing her hubby with another female , I think it’s only when you meet you know the true feeling about seeing your partner with someone else on a first time meet

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Can relate to this thread x

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Whilst we get the challenges single people have in finding meets, it is much, much easier to be clear in your own mind about what you want.

No matter how open you are with your partner, you always wonder if they are ok with things (&vice versa) This is one big difference, which hopefully helps explain to singles why couples are sometimes more reticent

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Whilst we get the challenges single people have in finding meets, it is much, much easier to be clear in your own mind about what you want.

No matter how open you are with your partner, you always wonder if they are ok with things (&vice versa) This is one big difference, which hopefully helps explain to singles why couples are sometimes more reticent "

We agree with this. This for us is why we prefer to have dialogue with other couples beforehand with both people involved and try and gauge if there is a mutual interest all round. If we feel that one "isn't in to it" then we'll respectfully decline any further involvement, or respect the views of others not being into us.

If just one of a group isn't a willing and happy participant it really isn't worth it to try and change minds, the person who has the doubt does so from a position of where their gut feeling says no. That has to be respected and going against that in our view is a start of a slippery slope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely can not bare meeting couples it makes me feel sick seeing another woman touch Mr s x"

I hear you!

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire


"We were the same. Just be honest with the couple you want to meet. We made it clear that it was possible that the gf might change her mind as soon as the female of the couple touched me. She gets very jealous and protective but luckily it went ok.

I still get a little on edge when we invite a single guy to join us but you just gotta keep telling yourself it’s just sex, nothing more

Thank you, that has helped me. Especially just remembering it's only sex!"

You can also consider that introducing others to improve your excitement in only a step up from using sex toys, although with mutual respect the excitement can be so much more dynamic and intense.

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